How to Reach Absolute Abundance (to Easily Get & KEEP Girlfriend-Caliber Girls)

Absolute abundance: where you know you can get another girlfriend-caliber girl in a matter of weeks. What’s it take to reach this level – how do you get here?

In a recent X post, I laid out the 9 levels of abundance, starting from level 0 (total scarcity) to level 8 (absolute abundance).

A reader named French Frame Apostle asked what it takes to hit absolute abundance with girls. I listed out the key facets to reaching this:

A guy who is in absolute abundance (i.e., able to get & keep girlfriend-caliber girls very reliably):

✅ Has a specific type of girl he goes for and knows her front and back.

✅ Has himself totally dialed in as this specific girl’s ideal male archetype.

✅ Knows the best places & times to go to meet his preferred type of girl.

✅ Is approaching & laying enough girls to be running on HIGH social momentum.

✅ Is excellent at approaching, smoothly opening, and reaching the hook point.

✅ Builds enough intrigue yet retains enough mystery that girls want to come out onto dates.

✅ Has enough female options that he can stop himself from slipping into oneitis with amazing girls.

✅ Has a fully mapped out date process that lets him attract & seduce with efficiency.

✅ Has learned not to do the “wow, this one’s so great, I need to throw out my process and do something special with her” thing with the exceptional girls and just treat them exactly the same as every other girl.

✅ Has learned not to get clingy/crazy/emotional after he beds an awesome new girl, and still treat her the same as any other new girl he’d just bedded.

✅ Knows to maintain the power shift after intimacy where the girl is going to push for the relationship and he is going to stay skeptical. Never pushes for the relationship no matter how amazing she is.

When you see all that, the guy without fail will either be at absolute abundance or very close to hitting it.

— Girls Chase 🏃‍♀️💨 (@GirlsChase) October 16, 2024

You’ve got the list there.

In today’s article, I want to go a little more in-depth into what you need to do to hit all these.

Tactics Tuesdays: Pushing Women's Requests & Tests Off Till 'Later'

What do you say when a girl tries to take you away, disrupt you at play, or frame herself as greater? The word of the day, that verbal sashay, the word that we all know as ‘LATER’!

This is a very simple little technique, with a surprising amount of uses, and a startling amount of power.

I learned it from a very beautiful, very charismatic, very sociable girlfriend of mine who tended to get crowds of people clustered around her pestering her with all kinds of questions or requests.

It revolves around a single, magical word:

“Later.”

Someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do?

“Maybe later!”

Someone asks you about something you don’t want to discuss?

“I’ll tell you later!”

Someone tries to get you to go somewhere you don’t want to go?

“I’ll go with you later!”

The power in the word ‘later’ lies in it being a rejection that’s not a rejection. It keeps the other party in a state of limbo, robbed of the ability to either push for more or take offense at the rejection.

And, as a bonus, it clearly frames YOU – to the party you tell “later” to and to all other observers – as the one who is being chased, and very much in demand.

Skilled Seducer of the Month, October 2024: Kaida

Skilled seducer Kaida discusses his progress from awkward high school student to college Casanova with 20+ lays – plus what he still has yet to master.

Can You EVER Trust a Girl Again After Being the 'Side Guy'?

Once you’ve seen the dark side of women – how callously they can stray on men who deeply love them and lie about it – can you ever trust a girl again?

Over on X, there was a good long thread where guys shared their experiences being ‘side guys’:

Do Girls Know You’re Hitting on Them When You Are?

When you chat up a girl, does she realize you’re hitting on her? If not… how obvious must you be for her to “get the picture” that you like her?

Hey guys and welcome.

I have recently finished my series on the indirect approach, discussing the many mechanisms at play, covering displaying interest and disinterest, and how to do it. So, today, I’ll turn to a theoretical question many men ask:

Why go indirect and “hide” your true interest in her when she already knows why you are hitting on her?

I will tackle this question below.

Look for Girls Looking at You from Far Away (It's an Approach Signal)

Women don’t usually make eye contact beyond 6ft/2m. When they do, it’s often a sign they’re ‘on the hunt’, in search of men – and YOU have caught their eye.

I’ve noticed for a long time now that when girls start looking at me from far away, they almost always start playing with their hair and preening themselves once they have my attention.

Much of the time they will move closer to me on their own. As they draw nearer, I will use my eyes that draw technique to make sure they stop near where I am (within easy opening range).

When I approach girls like this, they are generally very receptive.

So, I have long taken this one (girls staring at you from a distance) as “very often an approach invitation.”

As it turns out, there is a specific distance you can look for to make this more watertight!

Modern Men Are Inhibiting Their Own Sexuality: Study

Today’s henpecked men suppress their own sexual attractiveness, studies find. Why men are doing this & how to stop doing it we discuss in this essay.

The other day I came across an eye-opening paper from 2007. Here’s the abstract: