5 Fundamental Pick Up Artist Mindsets (Vital to Success)

What mindsets does a man need to succeed at picking up women? The ones in this article. Without these, success will be permanently out of reach.

15 Devious Signs of Sneaky People That Should Make You Run

The world is full of sneaky people, but do you know how a sneaky person behaves? It’s time you learned the 15 signs of sneaky people.

From my experience, life usually throws you a couple of tough, real-life situations to teach you to know if someone is untrustworthy. And you learn the signs of sneaky people by heart.

When younger, I loved everyone, and I still do *okay, not everyone*. But it wasn’t until a sneaky person played me that I understood the behavior and style of sneaky people. Most of the time, they do an amazing job at hiding their true colors. But when life gives you lemons, you learn how to tell who’s going to use you. That’s the phrase, right?

Knowing the signs of sneaky people can save you a lot of time and energy from being used by them. Whether they’re strangers, friends, or your date, learn what it means when something inside of you is hinting that something is off. Of course, you should follow your gut instinct if you feel this person isn’t good for you. But, you should also be aware of the signs, because they are there. You just need to start looking at them.

[Read: How to follow your gut instinct when you need it most]

15 signs of sneaky people that should make you run

Oh, the signs of sneaky people are there. You just haven’t paid enough attention.

#1 Intense eye contact. Have you ever met someone who never breaks eye contact? It’s creepy! Sneaky people have a habit of staring intensely into other people’s eyes, never breaking eye contact. Anyone who’s giving a little too much eye contact should be a red flag for you. [Read: How to be emotionally independent – stop using others to make you happy]

#2 They open up very quickly.  When you first meet them, they’re like an open book. They’ve already told you their darkest secrets, but it’s only been five minutes into the date. This is a huge warning sign of a sneaky person who’s trying to get you to open up so they can see what they can get from you.

#3 Massive mood swings. When things don’t go their way, sneaky people get upset very quickly. Their mood swings happen with a snap, leaving you unsure of what happened. One moment they’re sweet, the next they’re angry. You just can’t keep track. 

#4 Boundaries? What boundaries? For them, boundaries are for the weak. You’ve made your boundaries clear, yet, they still try to push the limits. You’ve expressed how you feel about it, but they ignore you every single time. [Read: How to quit attracting unhealthy relationships]

#5 There’s no empathy. Healthy people are able to understand other human beings and look at situations through different perspectives. But sneaky people don’t have that empathy. If the person you’re talking to doesn’t have empathy, run. Run far away. [Read: How to tell if someone doesn’t have empathy and what you need to do]

#6 They know a little too much about you. You just met, yet they seem to know much more about you than they should. Why? Aside from being creepy, they needed to make sure they had enough information on you to direct the situation. If they didn’t, they would have walked into the situation blind.

#7 They rule the conversation. You may talk during the conversation, but they make sure they control what you talk about. They can’t let a conversation go uncontrolled. That’s not their style. Sneaky people must be in control of the conversation at all times.

#8 They move fast. You went on one date, and they already want to make the relationship exclusive. It’s a little fast, right? Well, they’re trying to create a sense of false trust in you. The only way to do this is by jumping through the natural progression of things.

#9 They’re disconnected. When you talk to a sneaky person, they don’t really feel like they’re there. Almost as if they’re a little dead in the eyes. This is common in narcissists and sociopaths. They’re not really listening to you; they’re plotting.  [Read: How do narcissist control you so subtly? Why you keep allowing them that power and how to stop]

#10 They turn people against each other. Sneaky people have motives. Do you think they’re friends with you because they like you? They have a reason why they spend time with you. They create drama and conflict between people. It allows them to break up relationships and take control of the situation.

#11 They tell you how you should feel. Sneaky people will make sure they can control the people around them. They do this by telling you how you should feel, instead of letting you come up with your own decisions. Not only is this not respecting your boundaries, but it’s manipulation.

#12 Don’t give them negative feedback. If there’s one thing untrustworthy people can’t handle, it’s criticism. These people usually have more narcissistic qualities, which means they cannot handle it when people criticize them. They see it as an attack on their worth as a person. Which is why whatever they do is never wrong. [Read: How to tell if someone wants to hurt you because they just don’t care]

#13 Everything is black and white. When they interact with people, they think in black and white. I don’t mean race. For them, someone is either a good person or a bad person. There’s no middle ground. So, they’ll either love you or hate you. Whatever happens in between isn’t their problem.

#14 They never apologize. An apology? Are you nuts? The last thing they’re going to do is take responsibility for their actions. Sneaky people aren’t interested in acknowledging what they’ve done wrong. They do wrong and get away with it by blaming other people. [Read: Why you should never make a selfish friend a priority]

#15 No is not an option. Since they don’t respect your boundaries, you can assume they won’t let you say no and get away with it. When you say no, they pressure you to change your mind. And even if you continue to say no, they don’t back down until they get what they want.

[Read: How to say no and stop please others and feel awesome instead]

You’re going to encounter a sneaky person at some point in your life. The important thing is to know the signs of sneaky people and identify them right away. Then, you don’t get played.

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25 I’m Sorry Quotes For Him – Apology Quotes For Him

I’m Sorry Quotes For Him I know that I mess up very often, but I apologize right away too. Please understand that I never meant to hurt you. I am…

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Sex Drive Compatibility, Drive Collapses, & Relationship Sex Issues

You want to date someone long-term. But is she sexually compatible? Most people don't check… yet this is perhaps the #1 most important compatibility of all.

I spoke recently with an experienced seducer who was having some issues with a girlfriend of his. The relationship had begun normally, with the girl having a normal sex drive, but then at one point it changed.

After the change, his woman almost never wanted normal sex with him. This was well-traveled girl who'd experimented sexually with all kinds of men and had a history of stopping having sex with prior boyfriends of hers.

Contents

1. The Truth About Sex Drive

1. Sex Drives Vary
2. Sex Drives Are Stable
3. Sex Drive Collapses

2. Finding a Compatible Mate

1. Dead Bedrooms
2. How to Screen for Drive
3. What If... Incompatibility
4. What If... Already Together

3. Conclusion

The seducer would notice flashes of desire come across his woman in inconvenient and novel situations (like say a crowded dinner with friends in the heart of downtown). She'd suddenly want some spontaneous, inconvenient sex.

He'd instead try to get her somewhere private. But a 20-minute drive to privacy later and her sex drive would be gone, never to wake up again that night, no matter what he did.

This was a guy who's been with many women and never had a problem turning most of his prior girlfriends on before. But with this girl he was in a sexual desert.

There's a problem with incompatible sex drives that most guys do not realize until they find themselves in a sex drive incompatibility scenario.

Often even when they're IN that scenario, they refuse to see it.

They tell themselves they can fix it.

That they must be doing something wrong themselves.

The fact is we tend to assume that others' sexual reactions to us are a result of us.

When in actuality a whole lot of the way someone reacts is in large part directed by that person's underlying sex drive.

And sex drives are a thing you really cannot change.

You can't train them. You can't 'wake them up' long-term (yes, there is sexual awakening. But it tends to be fleeting; the sex drive spike it brings last maybe 5-10 years).

You can only enjoy drives if they're compatible... or gnash your teeth endlessly if they're not.

How to Handle a Head Pusher Gracefully Without Losing Your Own Head

There is nothing more annoying and mood killing than a head pusher. Learn how to handle the situation without completely killing the mood.

Think back for a second to a possible head pusher situation you’ve been in. Have you ever been in a progressively sexy type of situation and suddenly you find your head being pushed not-so-subtly towards your partner’s nether regions?

It’s quite the mood killer, right?

You’re in the moment, everything is going well, you’re really feeling it, you’re going with the flow. Suddenly up is now down, and you’re faced with an eyeful of crotch. Of course, your partner is silently communicating to you that they want you to go down the oral route, but come on, surely there’s a better way to go about it!

For some people, the head pusher routine isn’t a problem for them. If that’s the case, fine, you don’t need to learn how to handle it because you don’t mind it. However, if you’re like me and many others, you’re really not fond of having your head pushed, bluntly or gently, towards someone’s genitals. In that case, how do you address the problem without totally killing the vibe and the mood in the room. How do you get them to understand that it’s a problem for you?

Communication.

[Read: How to be an adult: 15 mature ways to handle situations like a grown up]

Why is the head pusher routine an issue?

It’s an issue if you don’t like it. You don’t have to explain yourself or have a reason why. You just know that you don’t like it and that’s enough. However, think about what it actually means too.

When someone pushes your head down towards their crotch, without words or anything else, they’re basically demanding that you go down on them. They’re not asking, they’re not hinting, they’re not doing anything but saying “okay, it’s time now.”

Not very sexy is it? It’s not very romantic either.

[Read: The sex buzzkill – what will kill the mood in the bedroom fast!]

Such an intimate act really needs some kind of build up, without being demanded. It also needs consent from you that you’re happy to do it. This is the same for one night stands as it is for long term relationships. You shouldn’t feel pressure to give someone a little oral loving unless you choose to do so from your own free will.

While most people who do the old head pusher routine aren’t doing so in a malicious way, it’s important that they realize it could be taken that way.

Some people do this playfully. They give you a nudge in that direction because they’re not really sure of how to ask you to do it in words. They’re embarrassed, so they try and nudge you in that direction to get you to take the hint. However, you must say that if they’re too embarrassed to ask for what they want, they shouldn’t be doing it in the first place!

Personally I say this, if you’re not comfortable with having your head pushed or even nudged towards someone’s genitals, it’s an issue and should stop.

But, how?

[Read: How to talk about sex with your partner without sounding weird]

How to handle a head pusher without ruining the moment

Firstly, you probably don’t want to make a huge deal out of it. You’re pretty sure that they’re not doing this in a malicious way. It’s probably a playful, in the moment thing. Let’s be honest, some people learn these things from watching porn. They assume this is what you do, but it’s not something everyone likes either!

The best way to handle it is just to tell them that you don’t like it when they do that. The next time they do the head pusher routine, gently move their hand from your head. Then, say in a gentle yet quite firm way “please don’t do that, I don’t like it.” If you’re happy to continue down the oral route, do it with your own free will, without needing to be pushed. If you’re not happy to continue down that route, just don’t do it. Do something else instead, or stop completely. Whatever you’re happy with.

[Read: Don’t be run over – learn how to stand up for yourself in your relationship]

You have to communicate this dislike to your partner otherwise how are they supposed to know that you don’t like it? If you simply take the hint every time they push your head in that direction, they might assume that you quite like it and carry on doing it. You can only break the routine by speaking up. You don’t have to do this in an accusatory “don’t do that to me!” way. Simply gently suggest that the next time they want you to give them head, they just tell you.

If the head pusher takes offense and gets all uppity about it, well, that’s their problem. You should also question whether you want to continue being intimate with someone who acts in such a childish way when you point out a dislike to them. However, for the most part, they’ll simply stop doing it and realize that it’s not something you appreciate. Again, they might just think that you do like it and that’s why they’ve carried on with it.

Far too may people are scared to be vocal about what they do and don’t want in the bedroom, but it also covers the things you don’t like happening to you. This is an intimate and vulnerable moment, you should feel safe and secure every step of the way. If  having your head pushed makes you feel unsafe, a trigger, or just a pet hate, you are well within your rights to say so, and you should do so every single time. [Read: 15 things girls do that can turn a guy off in bed]

Failure to do this means the head pusher will just carry on, and who can blame them? They’ve not been told otherwise and you’ve been happy to go along with it. They’re not a mind-reader. Being mature enough to have sexual encounters, whether full on or not, means you being mature enough to speak about it and communicate your needs, likes, and dislikes too. Sure, it can be a little cringey, but without forming the words, nothing will change.

[Read: How to have a difficult conversation without losing your nerve]

Despite all of this, the head pusher routine has been around for eons. Again, it’s down to the porn influence. In porn movies, it’s traditionally the guy who pushes the woman’s head down towards his crotch. A silent sign that it’s time for oral.

In these films, the woman normally just complies and goes for it, but we all know that porn isn’t realistic and isn’t real life. You don’t have to just go for it. You don’t have to simply put up with it. If you don’t like it, you can say so. I urge you to say so! [Read: 25 common porn myths that people still believe]

However, it might be that you actually like it. Some people do. In that case, keep going with it! We all have our own unique likes and dislikes when it comes to sex. No one should judge you on what you like and don’t like sexually. As long as your partner is on the same page as you, there’s really no issue. You should both carry on enjoying yourself behind those closed doors.

[Read: How far is too far for you? How to have boundaries in dating]

The head pusher routine is as old as the hills. Your encounter is about to take a turn towards oral, but what if you don’t like it? You owe it to yourself to speak up and ask your partner to stop doing it. 

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When Should You Have Sex? The Essential Questions to Ask Yourself

Is moving physically too fast bad? What about moving too slow? When should you have sex? These 8 questions will help you know what’s right for you.

A question many people, mostly women, have been asking for a long time is, when should you have sex?

Sex can be an intimate part of a relationship or a fun way to connect with someone new. Sex is something different for everyone. Some of us feel empowered by sex. Others feel relaxed by sex. And there are still many that feel ashamed about sex.

According to society, never on the first date. According to romantic comedies, not until after three to five dates. Some people would say not until marriage or engagement. Others are comfortable having sex right after meeting someone.

[Read: Why you should ditch these false dating myths for a better love life]

And surprise, surprise. None of them are wrong. Knowing when you should have sex isn’t a mathematical equation. You can’t add how long you’ve known each other, divide it by if you’ve said “I love you,” and multiple it by how many people you’ve been with, and calculate your magic number.

It just doesn’t work that way. So if not that way, how?

There are so many differing ideas. There are religious outlooks, parental outlooks, guys’ outlooks, and of course, yours. How do you know? When should you have sex?

[Read: Why do we STILL silently and unfairly judge women who love sex?]

Should you have sex?

Before we get into the when, have you asked yourself this question? Should you have sex at all? Do you want to have sex? Why?

Sex is something shared and enjoyed. It shouldn’t be given as a reward or taken as a punishment. It shouldn’t be because you feel like you have to or you don’t want to be a prude. Before figuring out when the right time to have sex is, think about if you want to have it at all.

If you want to have sex, then it is time to think about when you should have sex.

[Read: How to not be nervous before having sex with someone and just enjoy it]

When should you have sex?

Whether you’re a virgin or you just don’t know when to have sex with a new partner, it is all up to you.

Even if you waited three months to have sex with your ex, it doesn’t mean you have to wait that long with someone new or that you can’t wait longer. You can always change your mind. Sex is not a contract. Just because you said you’d do it earlier doesn’t mean you have to know. You can back out at any time.

I know this is all pretty general. And I’m sorry about that. But, there is no sex calculator.

I can’t say if you want a relationship, you should wait X amount of months before having sex. I won’t say he’ll think you’re easy if you do it too soon or he’ll think you’re a prude if you wait too long. None of that is true. And if someone believes it, that is on them and is their problem, not yours.

So, when should you have sex? When you feel comfortable and all parties have given consent. I know that isn’t romantic. Nor is it advice. But I’m not here for that. I’m here for guidance. I can’t tell you exactly what to do. Even if you tell yourself you want to wait X amount of weeks before having sex, these things often don’t go as planned.

[Read: How long should you wait before having sex?]

Sometimes passion overtakes plans. Other times, things get in the way or you aren’t in the mood.

There is no perfect time to have sex. There is no magic amount of time to wait to make it perfect or for the person you’re sleeping with to think of you the right way.

Questions to help you consider what you want

When should you have sex? When you can answer these questions and feel comfortable with the answers.

#1 Do you want to have sex? I know I already talked about this, but it’s an important one. If you don’t want to have sex, it isn’t time to do it. [Read: How to become sexually active when you’re ready]

#2 Do you feel safe with your partner? Whether you know each other well or not, feeling safe is very important. You should know each other’s boundaries and talk about what you will and won’t do.

#3 Is your partner pressuring you? If your partner is pressuring you, you do not need to have sex. It is not the time. Whether they ask you to prove your love or get mad if you don’t want to have sex, those are not reasons to do it. In fact, those are perfect reasons to not be with that person.

#4 Are you on the same page about birth control and protection? This really needs to be a conversation you have before sex. I know it may not be sexy, but there is nothing less sexy than unplanned pregnancy and STIs. [Read: A QnA guide to help you decide when YOU should have sex]

#5 Why do you want to have sex? I know this can be a hard one to answer. The simple answer might be, it feels good. But think about why you want to have sex with this person. Do you want to connect with them? Are you attracted to them? Do you want to impress them? Do you want the experience?

#6 Does your partner want to have sex? Man or woman, you need consent. It is that simple. If your partner doesn’t want to have sex, it isn’t time to have sex.

#7 Are you under the influence? Whether you’ve been using drugs or drinking, you cannot consent when under the influence. The same goes for your partner. You should both have clear heads. [Read: The sobering reasons drunk sex is never okay]

#8 Are you on the same page about what this means? As mentioned earlier, sex means something different to everyone. To some, it means you have a connection and are committed. To others, it’s a fun time. Not knowing where the other person is on this question can make sex complicated and even regrettable. If you know this answer beforehand, you can more easily make your decision about if you should have sex and when you should have sex.

I know that sex is this big deal to a lot of people and just a fun thing to do for others. If you’ve never had sex, it can seem overwhelming and scary. Even if you’ve had sex, it can still feel that way.

[Read: Are you sex positive? What it means and why you should get on board]

So, when should you have sex? It only has one answer and only two people can provide that answer. And they are you and your partner.

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How to Find a Unicorn & Why Dating One is Harder Than You Think

Unicorns are mythical. I’ve never seen one, neither have you *probably*. In the dating world however, there are two types. So, how to find a unicorn?

In the dating world, there are two types of unicorns. You might be wondering how to find a unicorn, but first you need to know about the two terms and what they mean. Otherwise, you might find yourself in a rather sticky situation!

So, when you hear the word ‘unicorn,’ what pops into your mind first?

Probably the horse with a horn on its head, the mythical creature that has long adorned children’s toys and meditation websites. Well, I’m going to put myself out there and say you’ve never seen one. If you have, well, you were either rather drunk or you need to contact a magazine and sell your story ASAP!

[Read: Unicorn dating: How to find a naughty unicorn and set the right rules]

What is a unicorn?

The first type of unicorn is a pretty benign type; however, they are extremely hard to find. This is someone who is a fantastic catch. This person is undeniably good looking, pretty sane, they have a good sense of humor, they respect other people, have a fantastic personality, oh, and they’re fantastic in bed. This is the type of person everyone wants to find.

As you can see, pretty difficult to find!

The other type of unicorn is a little different. A ‘unicorn’ is a term used to describe, usually a girl, who is bisexual and is on the lookout to join forces with other couples to enjoy no-strings-attached threesomes.

As you can see, you need to be sure which type of unicorn you’re looking for before you ask the question ‘how to find a unicorn’!

[Read: How to read the signs your friend wants to be your unicorn sex buddy]

To be clear, the first type of unicorn is far harder to find than the second. The reason is that many people aren’t convinced the first type of unicorn even exists. Can anyone be that perfect? And, surely everyone’s idea of perfection is totally different, so one person’s unicorn would be another person’s, well, horse with a cone on its head.

When you’re asking how to find a unicorn, you should ask how to find your unicorn. In that case, the search should be easier. You simply spread your net wide, date outside of your normal type, give those who you wouldn’t normally date a chance, and throw away your inhibitions. That should give you a greater chance of meeting someone you would describe as a unicorn. As far as describing one specific person as this type of mythical creature? I don’t buy it.

Now, the second type of unicorn isn’t that hard to find. Learning how to find a unicorn in this category is as simple as heading online. Now, you should be careful here. The people you think you’ve met online aren’t always genuine. To be honest, there are some pretty scary people out there pretending to be someone they’re not. [Read: 13 quick ways to instantly catch a catfisher online]

Tinder is a pretty obvious place to head if you’re looking for this type of arrangement. However, always be honest and upfront about what you’re looking for and don’t dupe someone into thinking you want more than you do. You’re more likely to come up trumps when asking how to find a unicorn when you’re honest about what you want.

[Read: The threesome invite – How to ask someone to join you in bed]

How to find a unicorn – It is all about communication

Regardless of which type of unicorn you’re attempting to find, it’s important to communicate honestly. Telling someone what you’re looking for isn’t easy. Most of us worry that if we’re upfront about such things, the other person will freak out and run away. This fear is the same if you’re trying to find someone to date or if you’re looking for the type of unicorn to complete your threesome dreams.

It’s only by being brave enough to say “I’m looking for this” can you really find what you’re looking for. The other person might not be automatically up for it. They might need a little time to think, but that’s fine. You’ve been honest and that means you have no regrets. Then, they might think about it and come back to you with a positive answer. Again, this goes for either type of unicorn.

Finding the first type, e.g. the so-called perfect partner, takes years and years and even then you’re very unlikely to find them. Everyone has flaws and failings, and to be honest, being with someone who is 100% perfect would be extremely boring.

I’m not advocating arguments with your other half, but come on, surely life would be a little dull without them? These misunderstandings and falling outs mean that you can come together and have the best make up sex ever! They also inject that passion in your relationship and help you to healthily sort out your differences. Without those arguments, simply because the other person is just too perfect, believe me, you’ll become bored. [Read: 15 must-follow rules to be a good partner in a relationship]

In this case, understanding how to find a unicorn who is perfect for you is like looking for a four leaf clover. Give it up, it’s not going to happen. Focus on finding someone who you connect with on a deeper level and love them for their flaws as much as their plus points. It’s a far more interesting and rewarding experience.

Looking for the second kind of unicorn requires communication that is altogether more terrifying! You are more likely to be knocked back when asking a bisexual woman to be the third wheel in your sexual games than you are accepted.

Again, if you don’t ask, you don’t get! In terms of knowing how to find a unicorn of this type, you’re best narrowing down your search to places where this type of thing is freely discussed. However, be safe at all times, never simply meet someone online and jump straight in, so to speak.

[Read: How to have a perfect threesome with all the right rules]

Maybe you know someone in your life who may be up for this sort of thing, but in that case, careful communication is vital. If you simply jump in and ask them, they may take offense and never speak to you again. It’s a risk. So, hint a little, use ‘what do you think of this story I heard’ kinds of examples. Then, see what reaction you get. That’s the only way you can figure out whether you’ve found your potential unicorn or not.

Personally, I think it’s just better to go with the flow; regardless of which type of unicorn you were curious about. In the dating world, there are all types of “normal.” It depends on what you want and whether your partner is up for the same thing.

When you’re trying to find someone to click with, it’s also about embracing their negative points as much as their positive points. You’re not perfect, so how can you expect them to be?

Maybe you should quit asking how to find a unicorn and just see what happens with your love life or your sex life if it’s the other type you’re searching for. You’ll meet plenty of people throughout your lifetime who may or may not fit the bill. But I’m a firm believer in ‘if it’s meant to be, it will be.’ In my opinion, it’s just better to go with the flow than spend your time searching for a mythical creature that either doesn’t exist or is hard to find.

[Read: Going unicorn hunting? How to find the mythical third in no time]

How to find a unicorn? It’s extremely difficult! Searching for perfection is basically a waste of time. It’s far better to find someone who you vibe with, both on good days and bad days. 

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Video Messaging Girls, Part 1: Why to Video Message Her

Girls may not always respond when you text. And many girls are too shy to answer phone calls. The ideal alternative? Leave women VIDEO messages.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Today’s post won’t be specific to COVID-19 (as I write this, the pandemic has taken over the world – sadly). However, what I will go over is relevant to our times.

I’m going to discuss an alternative to texting.

Digital communication is becoming the norm these days; with tons of options, but also plenty of limitations.

And I believe video messages to be the best way to interact with girls in this era of technological communication. I‘ll explain why I believe this form of communication to be WAY superior to other forms (texting in particular). Next week I’ll give you some guidelines on how I use video messaging.

Before getting into it, I will share a background story. I have been into seduction for years and have specialized in night game cold approach pickup. Ninety-percent or more of my lays have taken place on the same day or night when meeting girls.

There are several reasons why this is better than taking her contact details and going for a date at another time:

• When you’re in front of her you have the most influence on her emotional state. Your presence can help you control the interaction and generate emotional spikes. When you’re away from her you have the least influence on her state.

• The context in which you meet her affects her mood, hence her level of compliance to you. In a different setting – such as the day after, at her home – she will be in a different emotional space, and so may be less compliant.

• You usually pull from the compliance you create when you meet her. You ride the spontaneous emotional spike you created that same night. When she leaves you that initial compliance spike may be forgotten.

When it comes to one-night stands, it is often easiest to get the girl on the same night you meet her. This has the highest success rate. Once you leave her, you are no longer in control of the interaction, or of her mood. It may fade, and you may lose your chances.

That’s why guys experience girls flaking or “vanishing” despite having initially had a good interaction with a girl. Personal contact info exchanged during night game is the least likely to result in a second meet-up. It is better in day game, although she may still flake, so same-day lays are also a great strategy.

Snuggle Up: 15 Fun and Super Cute Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend

Want to get to know your boyfriend a little better but unsure how? Check out these cute questions to ask your boyfriend and learn more about him.

Getting to know your boyfriend might sound easy, but how well do you really know him? Let’s be honest, men are complex creatures. You might think you know everything there is to know, but when you delve a little deeper, you might be surprised at what you’ll learn with these cute questions to ask your boyfriend.

Weird and wonderful conversations are underrated in my opinion. There is nothing wrong with sitting there and talking about absolute rubbish. There is nothing wrong with sitting there and asking silly questions, trying to second guess their answer and working out just how much you actually know them.

It helps you to bond and allows you to really get to know the person you’re spending so much time with.

[Read: These serious questions to ask your boyfriend will help you develop a deep bond]

15 cute questions to ask your boyfriend—just for fun!

If you’re struggling to come up with a few questions to ask, or you’re just not sure which direction to go, check out these cute questions to ask your boyfriend. Then, figure out what his answers might be.

#1 What is your favorite way to pass the time? Everyone has something they like to do when they’re alone, bored, and just trying to waste a little time. Some people like to read, others like to sing, some people like to just watch Netflix. Ask him what his favorite way to waste some time is and see if it matches up with yours. Maybe you can start wasting time together! [Read: These red flags in a guy will only end in your broken heart]

#2 What toy did you play with most when you were a child? This is one of the cute questions to ask your boyfriend because it helps him remember his childhood. He’ll probably sit there with a cute smile on his face, remembering all the fun toys he used to have. Of course, you should also tell him what your favorite toy was too.

#3 If you had to choose a favorite animal, what would it be? You can learn a lot about a person by the type of animal they like best. For instance, people who like dolphins might be calm and serene. Or people who like bears might be protective and fierce. Ask him his favorite animal and then share yours. [Read: 20 deep questions to turn any guy into an open book]

#4 What is the best dream you’ve ever had? He might not remember it, but he’ll probably make one up anyway. It still tells you a lot about him. This is one of the cute questions to ask your boyfriend because it tells you where his mind wanders during sleep. It also gets him to use his imagination in the conversation too.

#5 What five words would you choose to describe me? This is definitely high up on the list because it tells you a lot about what he thinks and feels about you. It’s always interesting to let someone else describe you. While you might not totally agree with the words they come up with, it’s a fun conversation nonetheless.

#6 What did you think about me when you first laid eyes on me? You’ve asked him the words he would choose to describe you, and now you want to know what he thought of you the first time he saw you. It might surprise you. Go on, dare to tell him what you thought of him too! [Read: 20 signs of attraction in the first conversation]

#7 If I was sad, how would you cheer me up? This is interesting to know, because if you are sad at some point in the future *hopefully not*, you can give him pointers now on the best way to make you smile. It’s always good information to have in hand!

#8 How would you describe your perfect date? When it’s your turn to organize date night, this information will come in handy indeed. Of course, you can also tell him about your perfect date and give him some ideas for when it’s his turn to surprise you with a fun night out. While this is one of the cute questions to ask your boyfriend, it’s also pretty useful too!

#9 If you could choose any dessert, what would you choose? Is he going to choose a sophisticated chocolate eclair or a fun-filled ice cream sundae? It might seem like a pointless question to ask, but not all questions have to have a deep, underlying meaning. Think about your ideal dessert too, maybe you go together better than you think! [Read: Signs of a boring relationship? Here’s how to bring back the fun]

#10 What would be your dream career? If there were no barriers to choice, no need to train for years, or find the money to go back to school, what career would he choose to have? This tells you a lot about him and the things he finds interesting. It’s one of the cute questions to ask your boyfriend but one which helps you to really get to know him better too.

#11 Who was your hero when you were a child? Was it a family member? A close friend? Perhaps it was a cartoon hero or maybe Superman! Ask him who his hero was and watch his face break into a smile as he remembers all the fun from his childhood.

#12 Which is better – hamburgers or hotdogs? This is silly, fun, cute and pointless, but it’s a fun thing to ask. Which do you like best? If he likes hamburgers, maybe you can make them for dinner, and if he’s a hotdog kind of guy, head out to a fun fair for date night and enjoy some hotdogs!

#13 If you could talk to anyone for 10 minutes, living or otherwise, who would you choose? He might choose a family member that has passed or he might choose his favorite celebrity. Again, his answer will tell you a lot about what he finds important in life and the types of people he holds dear.

#14 What is your favorite thing about me? Go on, you’ve been dying to ask! It’s one of the cute questions to ask your boyfriend, and it’s also a huge confidence booster for you! You also get to tell him your favorite thing about him too, of course. [Read: Steps to emotionally connect with someone and feel closer]

#15 Are you a tea or coffee kind of person? You might already know this, but if you don’t, it’s a good way to find out what his favorite drink is first thing in the morning!

These cute questions to ask your boyfriend are a mixture of fun-filled and pointless, to deep and searching. This mix will allow you to get to know your guy a little better, but will also make the conversations you have fun and avoid heavy discussions that kill the mood and make you feel less than lighthearted.

Remember to only ever ask questions that you’re comfortable answering too! If you ask him what his favorite thing about you is, the most natural thing in the world is for him to ask you what your favorite thing is about him! So, choose your questions carefully, and be sure to have your own answers ready to go.

[Read: What does it mean to be vulnerable? 13 ways you can open up to each other]

Thinking of some cute questions to ask your boyfriend means you get to know him on a slightly deeper level.Go on, try these!

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Why Dating Apps Don’t Work for You: A Perspective Changing Guide

Doesn’t it seem like every couple you know met online? But, you just can’t figure out why dating apps don’t work for you.

As someone who spent a good six years on and off dating apps, I can tell you that wondering why dating apps don’t work for you is totally normal. It’s just a guess, but I’d say more than 50% of users would have more negative than positive things to say about dating apps.

Dating apps often feel more like endless swiping than a means to an actual real life date. Whether you do a lot of messaging and no meeting or meeting without any real connection or create a connection that doesn’t work out, this can be discouraging.

Dating apps do not promise you you’ll find what you’re looking for, but they sure make it seem convincing. I’ll bet you know at least two happy couples that met via a dating app.

[Read: How to know if online dating is the right fit for you]

If not, now you do. Because I met my boyfriend of over a year on a dating app. And if you told me 14 months ago that that would be the case, I wouldn’t have believed you. In fact, with all the bad experiences I had, I would’ve put money on not meeting anyone via a dating app.

So, when I say I get how you’re feeling, I mean it. I told myself online dating just wasn’t for me countless times. And I deleted and downloaded numerous dating apps over the years. I constantly wondered why dating apps seemed to work for everyone but me. And since you’re here, you’re probably asking yourself the same thing; why dating apps don’t work for you.

Why dating apps don’t work

Online dating and dating apps are not perfect. All platforms have their problems. I’ve tried my fair share and not one met all my needs or desires. Some had issues with distance, others with narrowing down selections, and others with messages. But none of those things really explained why dating apps don’t work.

I’m sure you’ve complained that you aren’t getting enough matches or quality options. I’ve heard tons of people say they never get a message back. And yes, those things are true.

Only about 50% of the people I matched with turn into a conversation and only about 50% of them last more than a couple minutes of chatting. This is the downside of dating apps. They take away the respect and accountability that old-fashioned dating once had.

[Read: How to create a dating checklist and why it can benefit your love life]

Maybe someone swiped through your photos and thought you were cute, but once you matched they read your profile and didn’t think you’d get along. Instead of telling you, they just don’t respond to your message. These things give you a complex. You constantly wonder why you aren’t getting more messages or matches, but you never get an answer. This unknown can make online dating difficult to deal with.

On top of that, we all have high expectations. We download these apps because we heard a great story. We think, what could it hurt?

But we underestimate the time and patience it will take to meet someone we truly connect with. We get so much immediate gratification in today’s world. You post a photo, you get likes in minutes. You order food, and it arrives in 30 minutes.

Yet, dating apps don’t provide that instantaneous response. Creating a connection with a stranger is not the same as ordering a pizza or playing a game.

If you get frustrated easily, dating apps only work on your patience even more.

[Read: How to find your soulmate: 30 practical tips to keep you from giving up]

Why dating apps don’t work for you

But, with all of that, my biggest issue was the people. Whether the app I used had endless choices or was more limited, I was not meeting the right people. I could overlook the flaws of the app, but once I go off the apps and started meeting my matches in real life, it still wasn’t working.

My guess is, it is the same for you. But there are a few reasons why dating apps don’t work for you.

#1 Your expectations are too high. This was one of my biggest problems with dating apps, and I never realized it. I would go into each date expecting the best outcome. I thought the connection was already there and now that I was going through the anxiety of meeting someone, it must work out.

These high expectations may not have ruined the date, but it ruined my outlook on the date. This way of thinking had my hopes up, so when the date was mediocre, I would convince myself it was better than it was because I had spent the time and energy on it. All of this made it feel worse when a simple date didn’t work out. I was upset and frustrated after just one date with someone I barely knew because of my disappointment.

#2 Your expectations are too low. Once I realized my expectations were too high, I started expecting the least. I expected everyone I met to ghost me. I went into dates and conversations without hope or excitement at all.

This sabotaged me. I went through the motions of dates without being open to the possibility of things working out because I expected it not to. [Read: Lower your expectations to find love? Truth or complete BS?]

#3 You don’t have patience. If you have poor patience, it makes sense dating apps aren’t your thing. Dating apps are not instant. You will not feel fulfilled or like you got what you wanted immediately or even within months or years.

Dating apps aren’t supposed to make classic dating any easier or faster. They are just a digital way of meeting people. The rest is up to you and the person you meet. Over the years I used dating apps, I always felt like I was wasting my time, but being that frustrated only put me in a negative headspace. [Read: Bumble vs. Tinder – Which dating apps best suits your needs?]

#4 You’re sensitive. There is nothing wrong with being sensitive, but when using dating apps, a thick skin is recommended. Using dating apps for fulfillment or compliments will only leave you feeling empty and reliant on others for confidence.

And the lack of accountability and respect online leaves much to be desired. With rude messages, threats, and, of course, ghosting, you should be able to deal with rejection and let it go, or the pain and confusion of online dating could be why dating apps don’t work for you.

#5 You’re overthinking. When you’re an overthinker, it is impossible to stop overthinking. I was there. I read into every delayed message or change in plans. And, I would get so anxious about meeting people it took me years of using dating apps to actually have a date.

I even told myself that my overthinking is why dating apps don’t work for me. And I just wasn’t suited for something that is meant to work out. I felt like going into a date or conversation with the expectation that you’ll like each other stressed me out.

Without work or school to be a buffer, it felt so forced. I convinced myself of this for so long. And then I decided to let it go. If I met someone and it didn’t work out, it wasn’t a big deal and if it did that was great. And then, I met my boyfriend.

#6 You’re close-minded. When I say close-minded, I’m not talking about supporting other people’s lifestyles or not trying new foods. You have a goal of what you want and aren’t willing to waiver.

If you go into a date thinking you want a relationship and aren’t willing to be more casual for a while or just enjoy your time without knowing the outcome, you will be more focused on the outcome than what’s happening. [Read: What does dating really mean and what you need to know about it]

#7 You’re not being honest. Whether you’re not being honest with potential dates or to yourself, both will prevent dating apps from working for you. If you aren’t honest about what you want and who you are, you won’t get far in any form of dating.

[Read: How to find love and learn to be open to all that life has to offer]

Even though online dating isn’t perfect, the reason why dating apps don’t work for you can be solved with a change in how you think.

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Don't Ask Women Stupid, Needy Questions

There are these stupid, clueless, needy questions men ask women. Perhaps you've asked some yourself. Yet these questions are pure sabotage for your seductions.

This is really more for new guys than anyone else.

Though I have still sometimes seen intermediate guys making these mistakes too.

In school, you probably learned "There are no stupid questions."

Well, that might be true in school. However, in dating, it is not. Because when it comes to women, there are absolutely a lot of very stupid questions that you should not ask.

We're not talking about questions like "How old are you?" or "How many guys have you been with?" that various stern women claim men should "never ask a lady!" or that "don't matter!" on various feminist-leaning blogs or news sites around the web. Those questions are actually perfectly fine; I suggest you ask both regularly (the second works better after sex, though).

However, there exists a certain class of question that, when you ask from it, conveys a degree of neediness, uncertainty, and lack of leadership that repels women like oil does water.

These questions are the ones we can, for our purposes, safely dub stupid questions.

How to Know if Someone Is Right for You: 15 Signs to Look Out For

If you’re wondering whether or not someone is right for you, take a look at these signs and see how to know if someone is right for you.

My dad would always tell me, “find someone who can be your best friend.” And though he was right, finding my best friend took years. In other words, learning how to know if someone is right for you might take time. Of course, some people meet the love of their life right away and are set for life. Finding a genuine partner takes time for most of us.

When I would date someone, I’d think whether or not we’d be a match, and even though the guy was usually great, there just wasn’t the click I needed to see in the relationship.

It wasn’t until I met my current partner where I felt that this person could really be my best friend and someone who’ll be by my side. I met him when I was 27. So, it really takes time for some of us.

[Read: Are soulmates real? The signs you’ve found the one for you]

How to know if someone is right for you

If you’re worried about whether this person is the right one for you, don’t worry. Take your time and really reflect on your relationship. If there’s one thing I’ve learned from dating—you shouldn’t rush it. If you’re not sure about your partner, slow things down and take your time before making any big decisions.

Just look at the signs to answer how to know if someone is right for you.

#1 You’re willing to risk it. When you’re with this person, you’re not scared to open up and become vulnerable. You want them to see the real you, even if it risks them not feeling the same way. Now, this sign alone doesn’t mean you found the right one because love is a two-way street. But the fact you’re willing to put it on the line shows your true feelings. [Read: 12 very real signs of true, unending love in a relationship]

#2 You don’t fear the relationship. If someone is scared of committing to another person, odds are they don’t feel that person is really the one for them. But you don’t fear the relationship, and neither do they. Instead, you want to commit yourselves to the relationship.

#3 They don’t hold you back. You don’t want to have to carry your partner on your back throughout your life. This isn’t what a relationship is about. Your partner walks beside you, not behind or ahead of you. They don’t hold you back from doing what you love; instead, they push you forward. [Read: 50 questions to test your compatibility in the relationship]

#4 You fit into each other’s lives. You can imagine living your life with this person. They like your family and friends; you have similar interests and enjoy spending time together. If you can visualize being together in the future, it shows that you fit together in each other’s lives.

#5 You don’t want to snoop. You don’t feel you need to snoop through your partner’s things or check who’s messaging them. You trust your partner and your relationship. If you feel the need to check where they are and what they’re constantly doing, there’s distrust on your side. Why? You need to figure this out.

#6 They don’t want to change you. You are who you are. And, of course, there may be things about yourself you want to change, and that’s fine. But your partner didn’t come with a list of things they don’t like about you. They accept who you are, flaws, and all.

#7 You feel safe and secure. If there’s one person who should make you feel safe, it’s your partner. If you don’t feel safe and secure around them, they’re not the person. Trust is everything, and if you don’t trust them, you don’t have anything going for your relationship. 

#8 You want to work on your relationship. To be with this person, you want to put effort into the relationship. You want to build a future with them and be vulnerable around them. No relationship is perfect, but you’re willing to work out the issues you have in order to make things work.

#9 They listen to you. If you’re upset or hurt, when you express your feelings, they don’t dismiss you. Instead, they listen and talk to you about what happened. A good partner is someone who shows genuine interest in your life and well-being. They actually want to know what’s going on in your life. [Read: These 18 emotions are things you should never feel in a healthy relationship]

#10 You talk openly about sex. Well, this is important. Most couples have sex, but very few can comfortably sit down and talk about sex. You want a partner you can talk to about sex. They should be interested in how to please you and vice versa. 

#11 You’re a team. When you are together, you’re a team. There’s nothing that can come in the way that you won’t conquer. Your relationship isn’t about competing with one another; it’s about becoming an unbreakable force. Your strengths and weaknesses balance each other, and that’s a great sign this person is the right one for you. [Read: 25 must-follow relationship rules for happy love]

#12 When you’re happy, they’re happy. Now, I don’t mean, “happy wife, happy life.” Because a relationship is about two people. If you both place each other first and work on pursuing their best interests as a couple, then this is great. Your partner should be happy when you’re happy, and vice versa.

#13 You feel comfortable to disagree with them. Can you imagine being with someone you can’t disagree with? Even my partner and I have the occasional disagreement, and we feel free enough to express our feelings. Disagreements are normal in all relationships, but if you feel you should suppress your voice, that’s a problem.

#14 You inspire each other. You two aren’t only a team. You inspire each other to chase after your dreams and goals. Your partner wants the best for you and will cheer you on while you complete your goals. The right person is someone who inspires you to be the best version of you. [Read: The signs your partner is truly supportive of your goals] 

#15 They comfort you when you’re upset. You want a partner who will be able to support you when you’re feeling down. Though this sounds simple, it’s not easy finding a partner who’s compassionate and attentive. Instead of making fun of you or criticizing you for being upset, they listen and comfort you.

[Read: Real soulmates? The 20 signs you’ve met the love of your life]

Learning how to know if someone is right for you isn’t easy to find out. But, after looking at these signs, reflect on your relationship and how you feel in it. Is this person the right one for you?

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Don't Tell Me You're Done Already

After you gave it your all in a long interaction with a girl, you might be tired out. Yet she might want things to keep going, and be disappointed if they don't. What do you do?

Remember that one guy back in high school who always finished tasks before you? He got a kick out of beating everyone else to the punch, and you were left feeling inadequate because you didn’t do them as well?

In life, this happens all the time.

Here’s someone doing something you’ve never heard of before, doing it perfectly, and there’s another doing something different, also perfectly.

You end up looking at yourself, thinking, “Hey, what the hell, what are you doing right now, eating some chips, come on!”

So it is only natural when you look around a club or the street, and you see everything happening that you haven’t done before, and you get that same feeling.

You have to learn to relax that anxiety and start to look at the situation differently if you want to progress.

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What Makes a Man Want to Kiss a Woman? The Most Kissable Traits

Men can be confusing. You think he wants to kiss you, but he isn’t making a moving. So, what makes a man want to kiss a woman exactly?

The whole dating, attraction, and crushing thing might give you butterflies and feel great, but let’s be honest, it’s also confusing, appetite-stealing, and ultra-stressful at the same time. You like him, you think he likes you back, but you can’t be sure. He hasn’t kissed you yet, and you don’t feel like you can make the move and kiss him first. What makes a man want to kiss a woman then? When you know what makes him want to kiss you, you can adjust your behavior and have him leaning in for the smooch!

However, the situation is complicated by the fact that not all guys are the same. What might make one guy weak at the knees may have zero effect on another.

Who said this whole situation was easy?! The only way forward is to go with the general approach. So let’s check out exactly what makes a man want to kiss a woman, then you can use what you’ve learned and have him in the palm of your hand.

[Read: The perfect first kiss: The 22 tips to make it amazing]

What makes a man want to kiss a woman without fail?

You want to get him leaning in, but you’re not sure how to go about it. While I can’t guarantee success, these are some of the ways to make your guy weak at the knees. [Read: How to get a guy to kiss you at the precise moment when you want him to]

#1 Don’t give it all up at once. I’m not talking about sex here, because you really should have shared a kiss before you get to that point. I’m talking about telling him everything about you. There has to be a little held back and that’s what makes a man want to kiss a woman on so many levels. He wants to learn more. The way you’re standing, what you’re wearing, how you smell, it’s all building up to this crescendo of pressure that he can’t take. The next move is a kiss! [Read: Subtle but powerful eye contact flirting moves that work like magic]

#2 Be a little mysterious. Moving on from the last point, be a little mysterious. It’s super-sexy and makes a guy go crazy. However, there is a line here. Mysterious means giving a little away, holding just enough back, and having that naughty glint in your eyes with a coy smile. It’s the combination that hits the spot. [Read: How to be mysterious without being too distant]

#3 Highlight your lips in some way. This doesn’t mean layer so much gloss on your lips that they shine from half a mile away, but it does means subtly turning his attention to your lips. A pop of red lipstick might do it, biting your lip might do it, or maybe a nude lip with a liner to accentuate and plump them up. Every guy is different. But drawing attention to your lips means that his mind is on moving closer and kissing you.

#4 A good amount of eye contact. Eye contact means that you’re interested. If he’s holding your gaze back, it’s a good sign. However, staring is not a good thing! If you combine eye contact with a bite of the lip, his mind will certainly be moving towards kissing. It’s definitely on the list of what makes a man want to kiss a woman! [Read: Lip biting and 29 other flirting tips for girls]

#5 Being approachable, but only to him. Make it a little easy for the poor guy! If you’re stand-offish and playing hard to get, he will feel far too worried about approaching you. As a result, you’re not going to get a kiss.

Simply make it clear that you want to talk to him, and he will feel more comfortable making the first move. The trick here is to make it clear that it’s only him you want to be approached by. Avoid flirting up a storm with other guys. That won’t make him want to kiss you! [Read: 13 clear signs he really wants to kiss you – Are you ready for it?]

#6 Gaze at his lips. I’ve already mentioned highlighting your lips in some way, but if you gaze at his lips every so often, you’re basically showing him that you want him to kiss you. That gives him confidence that if he makes a move, you’re not going to turn him down. What makes a man want to kiss a woman? Desire and the knowledge that she isn’t going to push him away!

#7 A few tactile touches go a long way. Again, it’s about confidence. Guys might seem super-confident, but they’re just as scared of being knocked back as everyone else. When you’re talking to him, a few playful touches to his arm will show him that you’re interested. When you combine it with biting your lip and eye contact, he’ll be more inclined to take things a little further. Of course, all of this also gets his engine revving and he’ll definitely want to kiss you! [Read: Lip biting: The science behind why it is oh-so-sexy]

Or, you could just tell him!

It could be that the guy wants to kiss you, in fact he’s desperate to. But he’s scared you’ll turn him down, worried he’s read the signals wrong, or he’s just a lacking in confidence. If you’ve tried all the moves, and you’re pretty sure that you want this kiss, just take the pressure off the poor dude and tell him! [Read: How to kiss a guy for the first time and turn him on]

Some guys love it when a woman takes control, so simply say in a playful manner “are you going to kiss me yet?” Combine that with a playful smile and all the pressure will disappear, leaving him free to just move in and do what you’ve been wanting him to do all night!

As before, knowing what makes a man want to kiss a woman varies from guy to guy. Generally, the seven points above will usually hit the spot time after time. If you’re vibing with the guy, if you think there’s a spark between you, and you’re sure that you want things to move a step further, you’ll usually hit the jackpot by displaying body language that communicates your desires to him.

[Read: What are bedroom eye? How to master the art of seductive eyes]

Flirting is such a minefield. You can never be sure if you’re thinking what they’re thinking, if you’re on the same page, or what is going to happen next. Some find it exhilarating. Some find it exhausting, I just find it totally confusing! However, those first few flushes of attraction are exciting. When it moves in the direction you want it, it’s a feeling like no other.

The kiss is the first major milestone. It’s the confirmation that you’re both heading towards something, whatever that may be, and that you like each other in the same way too. Remember, he’s probably just as embarrassed or scared about the whole thing as you are, so don’t expect him to take the reins completely! Take some the pressure off and help him out. You can kiss him too, it’s not against the rules!

[Read: Kissing chemistry 101: How to kiss someone for the first time]

What makes a man want to kiss a woman varies from guy to guy. Nevertheless, there are some points which are pretty universal.

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Tactics Tuesdays: How to Respond to LJBFs

Sometimes you make a move on a girl and she hits you with "let's just be friends." Yet just because you got one LJBF doesn't mean you're out of the running…

You make a move on a girl or ask her out.

She looks you firm in the eyes, aaaaand... "I thought we could just be friends!" she tells you.

Just like that, the wind has sucked all the way out of your sails.

I guess you have to just be friends with her now.

...

...

...

I'm kidding. What point is there to that?

You're talking to her because you want her. Either to date her or to have a fun roll in the hay with her.

When she puts the "let's just be friends" (LJBF) frame on you, you're faced with several options... but not all these options are created equal.

5 Wrong Mindsets for Cold Approach Pickup (Plus 3 RIGHT Ones)

There are many ways men think about picking up women. Many of these ways are not helpful, though.

Once you're in this long enough, you start to notice a lot of the same mindsets again and again among learners.

Some of these mindsets help the mindset holders succeed with women.

A lot of them do not.

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Very Real Short People Problems: How Many Have You Experienced?

Let’s not call it short, let’s call it ‘vertically challenged’! Sick of feeling like you’re the only one, check out these real short people problems.

Aww, you look so cute! Are you sick of hearing that? If you are, the chances are you’re dealing with a vertically challenged height. You’re sick of people commenting on your shortness. It’s just one of the short people problems to endure.

I say embrace it! Being short has a whole host of benefits. You can hide far easier than someone who is tall, for one! Of course, I’m also very aware that short people problems exist, just as tall people problems do too. Put simply, we’re never happy. However, in some situations, being a little on the short side can certainly make life a little more difficult than if you were of average height.

[Read: How to love yourself for who you are and find true happiness]

12 short people problems: How many have you experienced?

I have a friend who is five feet in height. Personally, I think she rocks the look because it totally suits her, but she hates it. I mean she literally hates it. She is constantly telling me about her short people problems and bemoaning the fact that she can’t find a pair of jeans to buy and wear without having to take them to being adjusted first.

Because many of you can probably feel her pain, remember, you’re not alone. Let’s check out the most common short people problems, so you can laugh, roll your eyes, and simply feel like you’re not the only person in the world to have ended up with your legs dangling from a not-so-high stool.

#1 Swimming pools are not built for short people. You either need to find a swimming pool with a shallow end *not always possible* or stick to the kids pool. Either way, a regular swimming pool is going to cause you problems, and if you can’t swim, the whole thing becomes even more complicated.

If you’re five feet or under, the water is likely to be up to your neck, and that doesn’t make a day around the pool particular relaxing when you’re treading water like your life depends on it every time you fancy a cool off! [Read: The 20 signs you’ve mastered the dry sense of humor and can laugh at life]

#2 Why is what you want always on the top shelf? This is one of the short people problems my friend is always complaining about. She is convinced that fate puts everything worth having on the top shelf in a supermarket. Even at home, her partner somehow forgets that she can’t reach the pasta and puts it on the top shelf. She is then left trying to find a chair to do a little kitchen climbing. Not exactly the safest!

#3 Group pictures are like Where’s Waldo? If you’ve ever found yourself excited to be included in a group photo with your friends, only to spend several minutes trying to find yourself in the melee, you’ve experienced one of the most common short people problems!

I’m sorry, there’s really no way around this, other than wearing something distinctive to make yourself stand out! The next time a group photo situation pops up, elbow your way to the front and take pride of place. [Read: How to be funny and make people love your company]

#4 You have to carry your ID at all times. Sure, we’re supposed to keep our ID on us at all times, but being ID’d when you’re trying to get into a club or into the cinema to see a horror film isn’t fun when you’re 25. However, wait until you’re 45 and you’re being ID’d, you’ll love it then, and you’ll have one over on all your friends!

#5 The ice cream you want is right at the bottom of the standing freezer. Surely you’ve experienced this problem before. You’re desperate for that strawberry cone, your mouth is watering with anticipation, but it’s right at the bottom of the chest freezer and you know if you attempt to get it, you’ll have your legs in the air and icicles on your face. I’m sure some supermarkets do this on purpose to make fun of short people problems!

#6 Wearing heels just makes you average height. The point of wearing heels is that they make you taller and help you walk with confidence. They’re sexy and look great with different outfits. However, one of the biggest short people problems is that heels just make you average height. Of course, when your average height friends wear heels on the same night out, the group photos revert back to the ‘Where’s Waldo’ issue. [Read: 13 inspiring ways to bring out the best in yourself]

#7 Trying to find clothes off the rack is impossible. Unless you manage to find the perfect petite range, finding jeans, pants, skirts, dresses, and anything else is virtually impossible without a trip to the tailor. Let’s be honest, petite ranges aren’t always designed for every body shape. It is possible to be curvy and short, yet these ranges don’t seem to agree.

#8 You want to go on the rollercoaster, but you’re not tall enough. Okay, I get it, rollercoasters have height limits because they want you to be safe. When you’re certainly older than the children who can get on, yet you’re not tall enough to clear the barrier at the entrance to the ride, it’s more than a little mortifying.

#9 Pat me on the head one more time… How many times has someone patted you on the head and said ‘aww, you’re so cute?’ How many times have you smiled with your teeth gritted together, desperately wanting to punch the grin from their face? I’m guessing quite a few. This is one of the biggest short people problems, and one of the most insulting. The next time it happens, I suggest you kick them in the shin in retaliation. Go on, I give you permission! [Read: Do guys like short girls? How to know a guy’s type]

#10 You find yourself climbing a lot, and you don’t like heights. How many times have you had to grab a chair, a stool, or a ladder to reach what you want? That’s an even bigger problem if you simply don’t like heights. And don’t get me started on those ladders with wheels on the bottom you see in libraries. Accident waiting to happen!

#11 Bathroom mirrors are never the right height. Trying to check yourself out in the bathroom mirror in a bar or restaurant is rarely a pleasant experience. The mirror is usually positioned higher up, so you find your chin cut off and you can’t get the full image of how you look. When you’re on a date and you head into the bathroom to freshen up and check you’re looking hot, standing on tip toes to fulfill the task isn’t fun. [Read: How to not give a fuck: Your guide to not worrying less and enjoying more]

 #12 Your feet swing when you sit on a stool. Finally, one of the most complained about short people problems is sitting on a stool and having your legs swinging around like a child in kindergarten. In fairness, this happens to me, and I’m not that short. It’s time people designed these stools with shortness in mind. Nobody wants to climb to be able to sit at a bar!

How many of these short people problems can you nod your head to? These might sound lighthearted, but in all fairness, being short can be an issue for many people. If you don’t want to live in heels or stacked shoes, the only thing you can do is embrace it and learn to laugh at the challenges that come your way.

[Read: How to practice self-love and be good to yourself]

Remember, good things come in small packages. A cliche as it may seem, these short people problems affect countless people around the world.

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Don't Talk About Pickup to Other People

You should not talk about game with most people. It might be tempting to (especially when it's a major point of interest of yours)… but mum's the word.

This is a sort of public service announcement, mostly for new guys, but really also for any guy who gets a little 'game obsessed' and starts to spout off about game and girls.

In your day-to-day life, you will have ample opportunity to talk about women.

I suggest that, unless you are on a seduction forum or with a group of men whom you know are very much into game, you don't mention it.

Contents

1. Narratives on Male Dating

2. Normal People Saying Things

3. Game Aware People

4. Good Friends

5. Talking to Girls

6. Conclusion

That can be trying at times, especially when seduction is your passion.

However, you really are better off not doing it.

The simple fact is that discussing the art of picking up girls is alienating to 99.97831% of men out there, including many other men who like to pick up girls.

We talk about it here on this site, and if you read here often it might feel like a normal conversation subject, even. Nevertheless, for most people, this is a subject they do not ever talk about, and don't feel comfortable talking about.

So you need some rules around discussing it.

The best rule is, "For most people, don't discuss this subject at all."

A sound corollary to that best rule is, "For those you do discuss it with, tread lightly."

Being Single During Coronavirus: The Ups and Downs of COVID Life

Being single is lonely, freeing, and sometimes confusing, but being single during coronavirus has its own set of ups and downs.

I know all about singlehood. I’ve written plenty of articles about it. It has its good times and bad just like anything else. But, during the coronavirus pandemic, being single is weirder than usual. I mean, everything is new and different right now, but being single during coronavirus is just strange.

How so? Well, if you are single during coronavirus, you get it.

You don’t have to worry about a significant other getting sick or going to work. You don’t have to take a relationship and turn it into a long distance one because you’re quarantining. And you don’t need to turn your living room into a home office for you and your partner.

Pretty much you aren’t dealing with all the things couples are right now. But, you may very well be more lonely than ever.

[Read: A guide to dating after COVID: A new normal]

Being single during coronavirus

Nights out with friends, visiting family, and just seeing your coworkers is on hold. This means almost all your socialization has ceased. Sure you may not be butting heads with your partner, but you also have a lot of time with yourself.

At first, being single during coronavirus may have felt like a relief, especially if you’re an introvert. You may have relished in staying home with your list of books to read. But now that you’ve read all the books, watched all the shows, got ahead on work, and did a DIY project, you’re probably craving some sort of human connection.

And that is totally normal. It isn’t healthy for us to be closed off from everyone we hold dear. The lack of human contact can do a lot of damage to your psyche. Of course, that is still the safe choice. Staying home and quarantining is best for everyone’s physical health, but mental health is important too.

[Read: How to stay connected while social distancing and avoid loneliness]

Video chatting with friends and family and even have socially distanced get-togethers is great. But, knowing that you’re going home to yourself can be hard when there is no end in sight.

The ups and downs of being single during coronavirus

Even if you were initially happy to take a break from dating when quarantine began, being single during the several long months of the coronavirus pandemic would be hard on anyone. With the lack of human interaction, you may be craving a real old-fashioned date more than ever.

Unfortunately, old-fashioned dating is still a risk. So, until we get the go-ahead to resume some pre-coronavirus activities I’d recommend appreciating the fact that you’re single during coronavirus. And yes, I’d say the same to someone who isn’t single.

[Read: Are you suffering from isolation and cabin fever? Here’s how to fix it]

Look at the ups and downs of being single during coronavirus. Appreciate the good things. And change what you can about the bad.

#1 Feeling lonely. This is one of the things about being single that is always a struggle. But, it really is all about how you think about it. Just because you are romantically alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. You can feel lonely even when you’re in a relationship.

Being single during coronavirus does give you more time to feel lonely though. Without seeing friends and family, the loneliness can get to you. To fight this, make dates to video chat with the people you would normally see.

Play games with friends or surprise each other with a dinner from a local restaurant to be delivered. Just because you can’t see each other in person doesn’t mean you have to be alone. [Read: How to survive and thrive living alone during the coronavirus pandemic]

#2 Having time to yourself. I know this seems like I’m rewording being alone into something more pleasant and that’s because I am. Being single during coronavirus, you may not have made the most of your time.

You may have spent time at home doing errands or taking care of things. Instead, take care of you. Do things you truly enjoy. Get back into an old hobby you didn’t have time for, cook from scratch, or have a pamper night.

#3 Wanting to date. It sucks when you actually want to date but can’t because of quarantine. Even considering dating right now is confusing. What would it even look like?

Well, that is up to you and whomever you potentially date. You may not be able to date how you’re used to but you can see what works for you. This is a time to experiment with how you meet people. It is also a time to get to know people more than you maybe would have when you could go on exciting dates. [Read: The best virtual first date ideas to really get to know each other during COVID]

#4 No fighting. I’m sure you’ve heard of the COVID divorce. It has swept its way through a number of celebrity couples and plenty of everyday couples as well. Being in such close quarters with someone you maybe saw six hours a day before is daunting. This tension can lead to fighting or even breakups in relationships that were already struggling.

Thankfully, being single during coronavirus ensures you won’t have to go through a life-changing loss during an already incredibly difficult time. [Read: The dreaded COVID divorce – What is it and why is it trending?]

#5 Online dating. If you weren’t into online dating before, coronavirus may have pushed you into it. Seeing that it is really the only way to meet new people during this time, even if just virtually. Online dating comes with an abundance of complaints. There is ghosting, catfishing, and tons of other issues to deal with. And if you’re new to online dating, you know the extra hurdles to jump just to make a simple connection.

#6 Online dating… again. Yes, online dating is both a good and a bad part of being single during coronavirus. Sure, it has its faults, but it has also led to a ton of happy relationships, mine included. The uptick in online dating during quarantine is more than 25% across platforms.

This means there are more options. And online dating now versus before all of this is more fluid. Because meeting is unlikely, you have every reason to take things slow. You can get to know each other on a different level than if you could meet just a few days after chatting.

#7 Too much time to think. For those over-thinkers out there, welcome, but also, sorry. When you are home alone, all you do is think. You have time to overanalyze flirty texts, what you did in grade school, and why you might be single.

All of this is to be expected, but it isn’t useful. All this does is stress you out and make being alone even harder. It can be healthy to think about things and reassess when you have the time to do so, but that will only get you so far. [Read: How to stop overthinking and find more peace]

#8 A new way of dating. Online dating isn’t anything new, but continuously dating online is. Usually, online dating leads to meeting within a few days or weeks. Now you may be getting into a serious relationship with someone you video chat with.

I know it sounds bonkers but I have heard many people thank this pandemic for opening their eyes to people and opportunities they never would have considered before.

[Read: 10 annoyingly common misconceptions about dating]

Being single during coronavirus has its bad parts, but it doesn’t have to be all bad.

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