How to Work on Both Outer & Inner Game

It is possible to work on your self-image and outlook while also improving your game technique.

I’ve been coaching clients for many years now. Everyone has nearly the exact same issues, just in different degrees.

The universal problem they all have is taking their boring conversations that get them friendzoned or ignored, and turning them into attraction.

That was the promise that hooked me. If I learned the magic routines then sexy women would just follow me home for wild, no-strings-attached sex.

While that’s happened plenty of times, the reality is much different. I had to face soul-crushing amounts of rejection to develop the most fundamental skills.

Just learning how to approach, talk to women and hold their attention took me almost two years of daily effort.

40 Gross & Disturbing Would You Rather Questions to Make You Squirm

Looking for nasty and gross would you rather questions? It can’t more disturbing than these questions that’ll make anyone want to gag either way!

There’s nothing funnier than making friends decide between two nasty situations, and these ideas for the most disturbing and gross Would You Rather questions will be a hit.

I have to say Would You Rather is one of my favorite games to play. You get a bunch of people around in one room and make them decide between two seemingly impossible *and gross* decisions. It makes for an extremely entertaining time. You can also add in some alternatives, like these sexy and dirty would you rather questions, for extra naughty fun and laughs.

How to play Would You Rather

If some of you out there don’t know what this game is, I’ll explain the directions for you quickly. It’s a simple game that only at least two people, but it is most fun with a bunch of friends. You play by making up two related scenarios and making someone decide which one they would rather do/have happen.

It’s that simple! The only rule is that the person HAS to decide between the two and can never “skip” a certain question they deem too impossible or gross to decide. [Read: 80 really funny “would you rather” questions to ask your SO]

The best disturbing and gross Would You Rather questions you can ever ask

The best part of this game is coming up with the most disgusting and gruesome questions to make your friends turn up their nose at the mere thought of actually having to go through with either of the situations you propose.

Here are some of most disturbing and gross would you rather questions that’ll make anyone want to squirm at the mere thought!

#1 Would you rather watch your parents have sex every day for the rest of your life or join in once and make it stop? [Read: 15 really gross sex acts you probably didn’t know existed]

#2 Would you rather smell like poop all the time and not be able to smell it yourself or have your significant other smell like poop and have to smell it all the time?

#3 Would you rather drink a gallon of mayonnaise or a gallon of ketchup?

#4 Would you rather lick a homeless man’s toe or chew a piece of gum you found sticking to the underside of a table?

#5 Would you rather be super itchy all over forever or be really sticky all over forever? [Read: 25 funny What If questions that’ll make you the life of any party]

#6 Would you rather have your farts be super loud and smell like nothing or be silent and smell HORRIBLE?

#7 Would you rather pull your own thumbnail off with a fork or put a toothpick under your big toe and kick a wall?

#8 Would you rather puke up slimy slugs or have bricks come out every time you pooped?

#9 Would you rather eat a cockroach you found in your house or eat a worm that just crawled out of the ground outside?

#10 Would you rather take a bite out of a live fish you just caught or take a bite of a live—but non venomous—snake? [Read: 75 fun questions to ask a new friend and feel like BFFs in no time]

#11 Would you rather cry out tiny rocks instead of tears or sweat pickle juice?

#12 Would you rather poop your pants every time someone said your name or have maggots come out of your nose every time you sneezed?

#13 Would you rather eat only insects for the rest of your life and live as you are now or eat normally and have constant diarrhea?

#14 Would you rather have diarrhea during your wedding ceremony or have it during your wedding night?

#15 Would you rather poop out of your mouth or have someone else poop in your mouth?

#16 Would you rather lick someone else’s eye crust or drink your own urine? [Read: 80 really funny would you rather questions to ask your SO]

#17 Would you rather eat an entire bag of dead, rotting flies or have live flies come out every time you sneezed for the next 10 years?

#18 Would you rather peel off all the scabs a hobo has or suck on socks that are full of feet sweat?

#19 Would you rather have a cold sore that never ever goes away or poop your pants once a week for the rest of your life?

#20 Would you rather drink up vomit from a dark alley ground or puke in your mouth every time someone said your name?

We’re only halfway through this list of disturbing and gross would you rather questions! And we hope you or your friend have been able to pick one answer every single time. It just gets better now!

#21 Would you rather be inside a porta-potty when it falls over or smell like dog poop during a super important interview?

#22 Would you rather suck on a used tampon for a minute or make out with a public toilet seat for a minute?

#23 Would you rather fart uncontrollably during a first date or eat your date’s earwax? [Read: 20 fun questions to ask on a first date for the best conversation]

#24 Would you rather drink a cup of your mom’s period blood or a cup of your dad’s semen?

#25 Would you rather go down on your grandpa or have your grandma go down on you?

#26 Would you rather eat your own scabs uncontrollably or pee yourself a little every time you stood up?

#27 Would you rather have sex with the hottest person you know that’s freshly dead or have sex with the ugliest and smelliest person, but they’re alive? 

#28 Would you rather eat a whole raw chicken or drink a coffee cup full of liquefied slugs?

#29 Would you rather have sandpaper hands and be forced to pleasure yourself once a week forever or have no genitals at all? [Read: 87 fun This or That questions about life, food and sex]

#30 Would you rather have an elephant stick its trunk up your butt or poop out a string of nails?

#31 Would you rather cut your own eyelids off with scissors or pull each of your teeth out with a wrench?

#32 Would you rather eat a small piece of an animal’s poop or pop a zit on someone’s butt cheek with your mouth?

#33 Would you rather drink a gallon of someone else’s armpit sweat or drink a gallon of your own toe sweat?

#34 Would you rather drink a cup of spit from someone who was chewing tobacco or make out with someone who has all their teeth rotten? [Read: 8 fun, flirty games for your naughty house party]

#35 Would you rather have every hair on your body plucked off one by one or have all your toenails ripped off?

#36 Would you rather swim in a pool of your own bodily pus or run through a field of rotting corpses?

#37 Would you rather wear someone else’s poop stained underwear or use someone else’s toothbrush?

#38 Would you rather chew on a mouthful of your own toenails or a mouthful of someone else’s hair?

#39 Would you rather bite off someone else’s ear or bite off your own pinky toe?

#40 Would you rather bite off someone else’s armpit hairs and swallow them or lick the floors in public showers?

[Read: 30 would you rather questions that’ll leave you thinking]

Try these gross and disturbing would you rather questions the next time you’re with your friends, or a special someone. It’ll be the funniest and grossest hour you can imagine!

Just think, if these gross and disturbing Would You Rather questions made you squirm just by reading them, imagine how your friends will feel when they have to decide between them! 

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What Is A MILF? The Surprising Truths & Thoughts Behind Its Meaning

‘MILF’ is code for Mother I’d Like To Fuck. But there’s really much, much more to it. Here’s a unique take on what is a MILF exactly.

If you’re a dude you’ve probably used this term more times than you care to admit. Walking down the street with your boy, you see an unusually attractive older lady and you’re like, ‘Bro, check out that MILF.’ But if you’re wondering, what is a MILF, it’s time to educate yourself.

What is a MILF?

MILF is an acronym for “Mother I’d Like to Fuck”. That’s it. Plain and simple. You see a gorgeous woman who has a child *or is probably older*, it’s an indecent sexual compliment that means you’d like to bang her if you could.

But is there more to MILF than just a hot mommy you’d like to sleep with? And is it meant to be derogatory or complimentary? And are there any restrictions and limitations to who can be a MILF? We’ll get to it, and more!

Milf is short-code, and it just works!

People need short codes to speedily distinguish between categories of things in the world. MILF generally makes it clear that the mentioned person is an older woman.

If I’m with a buddy on a crowded street and want to let them know about an older lady with a gorgeous look, I’ll say, ‘MILF dead ahead, 8 out of 10.’ He knows to skip over the faces under 30 and search for the hot 35+ year old.

It’s so much more decent than saying ‘look at that older woman on the street who’s probably mothered a child, I think she’s hot and I wanna have sex with her!’

[Read: What makes a woman attractive? 18 secrets most women overlook]

What makes a woman a MILF?

There are a few specific details that make a woman a MILF. They are few, but that’s what makes them a real MILF.

#1 Older than you. Usually, this is the ideal scenario. But this is tricky, because “older” is subjective. If you’re a 20 year old, and you’re talking about a 40 year old MILF, this clearly makes sense. And in most cases, this is the way the word, MILF, works.

But what if you were 40 yourself? Would that make the woman a MILF? it does. But if you’re 40 and calling a woman a MILF, that’s just weird. You’re probably DILF potential *if you’re worthy*, so as acceptable as the scenario is, a 40 year old man is better off just calling a MILF a hot woman. You know, unless, you want everyone else around you to cringe or call you a weird old man! [Read: When does a man mature? 13 signs he’s grown a real pair]

#2 Looks ridiculously hot, almost or way out of your league. All MILFs may be mothers, but not all mothers are MILFs. A MILF is an esteemed status given to women who have managed to take care of themselves enough to not let themselves go, possibly even after having mothered a child.

#3 Probably has a child, but who cares?! I’ve never been walking with a friend and we see a hot older lady and my friend says: ‘That is either a hot MILF or a hot cougar.’ He probably doesn’t care if she’s mothered offspring. What’s important is that she looks like she could mother offspring.

We’re usually attracted to people that look capable of passing on genes to create healthy offspring. When we notice curvaceous hips or a buxom chest, this is us looking out for signs of genetic health. The hips don’t lie. [Read: Evolution and why men love women and their oh-so-hot bodies]

#4 Sexually more experienced than you. Duh, she’s older and a MILF, and in all probability, has mothered a child. She’s definitely way more experienced than you.

And when she has sex, she’s isn’t blushing and giggling with excitement because she gets to bang you. She’s making her moves and turning you on, while making sure you’re doing everything you possibly can to turn her on and pleasure her. [Read: The subtle traits that make a woman a real sex goddess]

#5 The MILF is straight to the point. Being messed around by a 22-year-old Colombian chick who doesn’t know whether she’s coming or going? One of the appeals of MILFs is that they don’t play games with you.

It’s a popular belief that if a MILF doesn’t feel you, she won’t take your info or reply to your messages. But if she is into you, she really means to follow through and may even initiate things, because she’s confident enough in her own skin and knows what she wants *she probably also works out if you’re the real deal, faster*. [Read: The pros and cons of dating a woman in control]

#6 She’s not into playing games. She’s above all of that shit, and little texting games of waiting three days and blowing hot and cold. She knows what she wants, and she knows how to make demands and have real expectations from a relationship or an affair.

Can you call a young hot mommy in her teens or early 20s a MILF?

Of course, a woman in her 20s could be a MILF. But you often hear ‘baby mother’ used more in that situation. A MILF is a bit more like a fine wine… something that takes a given amount of time to develop properly.

Though I saw a girl who was 22 and had a toddler. It was the first time I’d dated a mother, and I definitely used the word MILF more than a few times.

A popular MILF imagery is the ‘dirty 30s’ MILF who is sexually ravenous or a recently divorced single mum. She’s rediscovering who she is and is going YOLO. She may be dating several guys at the same time and looking for completely no strings attached sex. [Read: 17 important guidelines for NSA sex]

The male equivalent of MILF

There’s even a male equivalent—‘DILF’, which is code for Dad I’d Like To Fuck. Of course, they’re all around. But you just don’t give a damn about anything beyond a MILF, do you?

Why do we use the word MILF?

It’s just one of those words we like to say. It rolls off the tongue like sweet honey… Sometimes we say it for humor. Other times the word MILF is just… definitive. The truth.

Primarily, being a MILF/DILF means you’re older but still look remarkably attractive. MILF is sort of similar to the term cougar, which is a woman who is independent, older, and likes her meat younger.

But MILF/DILF are different in that those terms suggest you have parenting responsibilities. Which could also suggest you’re in a committed relationship… [Read: How to make an older woman fall in love with you]

The conqueror’s trophy MILF – How to hook up with one

To get with one, you may need to be direct. You should also know what you want. She’s seen too much in her time to be won over by timidity. To add to this, she’s not a commonly ‘available’ demography. Think about it this way: the market tends to value things based on supply and demand. So, if something is in high demand, but seems to be in relatively short supply, it’s going to increase in value.

There are simply fewer older and hot women still dating compared to younger women. So, this literally makes MILFs a hot product. And hunters of MILFs get a sense of self-validation from knowing they won something difficult to get. It’s competition.

Say you’re 20, and a MILF you come across is 45. Chances are it’s less socially acceptable for her to get with you. There’s more in your way in terms of natural social obstacles. So, if you proceed to get her despite this, it says something about your tenacity and abilities. [Read: The full guide to finding and scoring yourself a MILF]

What makes a MILF so desirable and sexy?

On one hand, men talk of banging nubile women. But out of the blue, there’s this whole obsession with MILFs. What gives? What makes MILFs way more desirable and hotter than those perky young women who are vying for male attention? Let’s find out.

What makes a MILF ooze sexuality and sex appeal

Think of a hot 20-year-old girl… It’s not hard to get the feeling that her body as it is just popped into existence one day and she woke up with an uber-slim waste line and a perky bubble butt. She didn’t go to the gym for it. She might even have a diet of cigarettes and Coca-Cola.

The same thing is likely to be the case with that girl’s sense of her own sexuality. She’s not matured fully yet. She doesn’t yet know what she likes and enjoys, or what she really appreciates in a partner.

A MILF’s sexuality is practiced. It’s deep, subtle, knowing. She truly appreciates sexuality to a level that shocks you. A MILF may dress modestly and show her sexuality in subtle ways. Her sexuality may seem to emanate from her sleekly and stylishly. However, when you make a moment of intense eye contact with a MILF, there’s a knowingness there.

Don’t get me wrong, people can be impulsive and naïve whatever their age, but wisdom and skills generally tend to form with time. [Read: Sugar mama – 21 super smooth ways to bag yourself an older woman]

#1 A MILF is the wet dream for boys. Teenagers going through puberty may be unable to attract or connect with girls their own age. For example, an adolescent who spends too much time watching porn and doesn’t have good social skills…

Due to his inexperience, he might naturally be drawn to a more maternal, nurturing figure—thinking she will mother him up unconditionally and acceptingly.

#2 A MILF is emotionally developed. Maybe you’re bored of club life and people with stringy attention spans. You want more depth. You can find depth in young people, but many higher order character traits take a lifetime to build. And it’s a never-ending journey. So, some people will consider a person to be a MILF if they meet the emotional connection criteria.

#3 A MILF is very cute or hot. There’s a somewhat universal attractiveness level spectrum, whether or not we like to admit it. In other words, people can generally agree on whether someone looks attractive or not and roughly what level of attractive they look, even if they’re not specifically ‘their type.’

This might sound controversial, but if you’re honest with yourself you may agree *ever heard the phrase ‘she’s out of his league’?*.

Things like facial details symmetry and body shape all factor in. And with that said, some people age better than others and stay looking attractive for longer. Which means that they stay looking remarkably attractive for longer. Note that the word GILF *for grandmother* isn’t popular, because there’s less chances a woman will stay looking hot at that stage of her life *although there are many exceptions*. [Read: The 30 traits of hot women that men love]

#4 The MILF is a new kind of woman. Women had massive inequality pre-world wars. Post-world wars, they slowly gained more rights. Today they’re more on an equal footing with men societally than they have been in any other time. In some arenas, such as within education, they outperform guys. It’s no longer a given that a woman’s role in society is to get married and to have children by a particular age.

Customs are unclear—more open-ended. Women have more independence and make their own sexual decisions with less social repercussions. Words like MILF pop into existence in times like this. People aren’t so sure that an older lady is probably someone else’s wife or that she won’t be DTF. [Read: The meaning of DTF and signs she’s feeling it]

#5 A MILF can have dirty affairs. I think being a parent tends to make you mature sooner, both emotionally and spiritually, whatever your age. This is because of the higher amount responsibility you bear. When a MILF does anything she does it properly. That means a sweeping, mature, lusty affair. By comparison, a ‘baby mother’ is more likely to bring drama and angry ex-lovers who carry guns. This is simply because younger people generally have less life experience than older folk.

By the time you’re in your 30s you’ll have more perspective on some of life’s absurdities. So, a MILF is more likely to have emotional control and able to keep a dirty secret. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever]

MILF sounds like a taboo word, but is it?

Let’s take it back… to how another word began.

#1 ‘You low-down Mother Fuckers.’

– US soldier to his draft board, 1911

#2 ‘You see this cat, Shaft is a bad mother

(Shut your mouth)

But I’m talking about Shaft

(Then we can dig it)’

– Isaac Hayes in his song ‘Shaft’, 1971

Another controversial term: ‘Mother fucker’ was used as early as the late 19^th century. But throughout the years, mother fucker was softened into minced oaths such as:

– Motherfugger

– Mother for you

– MOFO

The cool thing about this word is that you can’t say it, and even when you do, you’re expected to make it cryptic. Unless you really don’t give a fuck and want to make your feelings clear… *‘Mother fucker, I dare ya! NO, I double dare ya!’*.

The funny thing is most people don’t think about ‘mother fucker’ in terms of actually having sex with a mother. Counter-intuitively, they associate it with awesomeness OR sometimes with offensiveness. [Read: What’s in it for the older woman dating the younger man?]

‘That movie was mother fucking amazing.’

Or

‘Yeah, well, fuck you, you dumb mother fucker.’

THEN the internet hit and these things happened…

– Lots and lots of porn

– Lots of sexualized material on TV/movies/media

– Even more sex on social media, which popularized acronyms for sex like: mofo, ons, dtf, bdsm, bbw…

– Lots of new dating sites/apps that made dating/sex a whole different ballgame

– Everything became a candidate for ‘LOL cool’

This is why I think the word MILF is sort of an evolution of the phrase mother fucker. However, it’s also a very unique and ultra-modern word. A MILF doesn’t have to be some perverse compliment given only to an older woman who seems to be waiting to sleep with a younger guy.

If you take it for what it is, it’s just a way to compliment a woman who looks older than you, but way better than every other girl in your age group. And maybe over the years, it’ll evolve into another “motherfucker” where you’re complimenting someone for doing something really cool. In this instance, maybe it’ll turn out to be an acronym to compliment a woman who’s hot and older.

[Read: Cougar dating: The rules to dating an older woman]

So now that you know what is a MILF, and everything there is to know about this hot, older woman, maybe it’s time to use the phrase more respectably. And perhaps, the word MILF is the safest way to address the temptation of the older woman is a socially acceptable way through code.

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Feel Guilty All the Time? How to Find the Cause and Get Rid of It

If you feel guilty all the time, the chances are you’re not happy. Learn what is causing the guilt and how to get rid of it once and for all.

Do you feel guilty all the time? Well, we live in demanding times. We’re supposed to be the very best at whatever we do. Plus, we should have enough money to afford whatever we want and be totally content with our lives.

Hands up, who can honestly say they have all three of the above?

There probably aren’t too many hands up right now.

The bottom line is that you just need to be happy with whatever you do or don’t have. However, one issue that affects far more people than you might think is a sense that you feel guilty all the time. But, guilty for what?

Do you feel this way? I think everyone does to some degree, but it’s important to ask yourself what you feel guilty about and whether you actually have a true need to carry guilt around with you. Guilt is a burden. Unless there is a real need for it, it’s time to learn how to cut the ropes and push it away for good.

[Read: The tips you need to fall in love with yourself and be a better you]

What do you feel guilty all the time about?

That should be an easy question, but for those whom guilt affects, there isn’t a solid answer. It’s a sense of just feeling guilty or uneasy about something, but you can’t pinpoint what it is.

Now, if you actually have something to feel guilty about, then you can deduce the reason for your feelings. Perhaps you’ve cheated on a partner and they don’t know about it, or you’ve done something else that is yet to be discovered, or already has been, in that case, you have to work through the guilt, right any wrongs, and let it go.

[Read: How to forgive yourself for cheating and stop beating yourself up]

However, it’s not so easy when you have no clue what you’re actually feeling guilty about. A lingering sense of guilt that you can’t put your finger on is often from the past in some way.

It might be that someone always made you feel like you weren’t good enough when you were a child, or perhaps you were bullied at school. For some, it’s even harder to pinpoint and usually comes down to low self-esteem.

The best route forward here is to sit down and really think about it. Brainstorm if you must and come up with some potential reasons. That will make the fact you feel guilty all the time easier to solve.

[Read: 16 powerful secrets of self-improvement]

The chances are, you’re just too hard on yourself. The truth is that you can’t please everyone. You shouldn’t even attempt it. Sometimes we let people down. It’s not because we want to or that it’s even intentional, it’s because there are only so many hours in a day.

We only have the capability to do so much within our waking hours. Seriously, give yourself a break. You’re human! We’re all flawed and that is what makes us who we are.

The key signs of guilt to watch out for

You might not even realize that what you’re feeling is guilt. It might just be a sense of something that you can’t put your finger on. In that case, let’s look at some key signs you might feel guilty all the time. Next, work out what to do about them.

#1 You’re a people pleaser. There is nothing wrong with helping others, but if you’re always looking for approval from other people, it’s time to ask yourself why.

This is a self-esteem issue and requiring validation from others basically means that you don’t trust yourself or value your own opinion. Get to work on building yourself up, loving yourself, and understanding that the only approval you need in life is your own. [Read: The signs you’re a people pleaser and don’t realize it]

#2 You agree with others a lot. Even if deep down you don’t agree with what someone is saying, you agree to their face. Disagreeing with other people is perfectly acceptable. It means that you have your own opinions and it’s a sign of strength. There is nothing to feel guilty about here.

It loops back to the first point I made about wanting to please people. When you agree with someone, you’re looking to be part of their inner circle in many ways – just be part of your own. [Read: The art of not giving a shit – 15 steps to not care what people think for once]

#3 Your needs always come second. Your needs are just as important as everyone else’s. There is a false narrative that in order to care about or love someone, their needs must always come before your own, but that’s a recipe for unhappiness.

Your own needs need to be met, while you shouldn’t be selfish and look after only yourself all the time, you should certainly make your own a priority too. [Read: How to take care of yourself emotionally and avoid falling apart]

#4 You would rather hurt yourself than someone else. In many ways, this isn’t a negative trait because it means that you’re not willing to hurt other people willingly, but sometimes in life it’s unavoidable. Of course, you shouldn’t go around doing things which you know are going to bring pain to other people, but you also should accept that sometimes we hurt others without meaning to.

It’s likely that you will feel guilty all the time if you have to do this because that’s one of your traits, but it does’t mean you have to torture yourself. Right your wrongs, if there are any, and let it go.

#5 You feel guilty for having your own needs. We need things from people, such as care, attention, love. If you’re with someone who isn’t giving you these things, you’re likely to struggle asking for what you need.

I’m not suggesting you should have to ask for the basic things. Sometimes, if you don’t tell someone how you feel, they aren’t going to know. This could also be a situation such as asking for a pay rise at work. You deserve it, but you won’t ask for it. When you feel guilty all the time, you feel like your own needs aren’t as important. They are, and it’s time to assert yourself! [Read: Why am I so insecure? 20 reasons why you care more about others]

Learning how to be happy

Guilt is an emotion that is there for a reason. It is a pointer towards teaching us right from wrong and helping us to realize when there is a need to apologize. However, when you feel guilt guilty all the time, and there’s no actual cause for it, the guilt has no useful purpose.

[Read: How to focus on yourself and create your own sunshine]

If you feel guilty all the time, how can you be happy? You will always feel like you have a weight on your shoulders. It will stop you from going for the things that you know would bring you joy and contentment.

Not focusing on yourself is also a slippery slope towards issues such as depression and anxiety. When you feel guilty all the time, anxiety is a natural next step. You will always try to make up for something that you haven’t done wrong in the first place, you’ll always be trying to please others and forget about yourself.

Highlight this issue, accept that you feel guilty all the time, and there’s no reason for it. Then, start to work on increasing your confidence and focusing on number one. It’s not selfish, it’s entirely necessary.

[Read: 12 instant hacks to find true happiness in your life]

When you feel guilty all the time without a solid reason, you’re never fully living your life. Focusing on yourself occasionally is not a reason to feel guilty.

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15 Signs He’s Talking to Another Girl & Using You Until He Hooks Her

You’re head over heels for him, but you’re noticing he’s not feeling the same way for you. What’s going on? Do you see the signs he’s talking to another girl?

If you’re wondering about the signs he’s talking to another girl, I feel for you. This isn’t a good experience, and this is coming from someone who’s gone through it. You’re thinking things are going well, but in reality, he’s already setting himself up for someone new.

Of course, you have no idea what he’s doing. Why wouldn’t he dump you first and then talk to someone else? That would be too easy, right? Instead, before you break it off, he’s positioning himself for the next girl. 

Remember, not all men are like this. Yes, there are some men who will do this, and you may be dating him. But, not all guys are going to do this to you. It’s an unpleasant experience, yes, but don’t let this prevent you from trusting other men.

[Read: How to learn to trust men again after being betrayed]

15 warning signs he’s talking to another girl behind your back

What’s important is you figure out what’s going on and put an end to his cruel behavior. So, if you want to know the signs he’s talking to another girl, take a look and see what matches up. 

Don’t let him play you. 

#1 You feel something isn’t right. Maybe it’s one of his colleagues from work and whenever he says her name, you just get a bad feeling about her in your stomach. Either way, you’ve felt that something isn’t right. Maybe he’s cheated; maybe not. But one thing for sure is that everything is not what it seems. [Read: Should you trust your gut? The times you need to listen to it]

#2 One specific person is a priority over you. You used to be his number one, but now, you’re not even in his top ten people. But here’s the thing: someone specific has taken over your position.

He’s now putting the needs of one woman/girl above your needs, which is odd because you two are a couple. Why would he put some other woman above you?

#3 He’s always on his phone. He was never a big texter, but he’s suddenly become quite the expert at it. Recently, he’s always on his phone, but you’re just not quite sure who he’s spending all this time talking to. You may catch him smiling or giggling at his screen, and that’s never a good sign. 

Okay, it is possible it was just a meme he was laughing at. But if he hides his phone suspiciously instead of sharing the joke with you, it could be one of the alarming signs he’s talking to another girl and texting her, even if it’s just for kicks right now.

#4 He’s become secretive. You used to talk about everything, but he’s suddenly changed. He no longer shares with you his day and doesn’t tell you what he does when you’re not around. Before, this was never a problem, but now, he’s decided to become secretive. There’s a reason why. [Read: The subtle signs he’s definitely cheating on you] 

#5 He takes longer to respond to you. I understand that not everyone can reply in thirty seconds. So, take this point lightly unless you’re noticing other signs from this list.

If he’s taking hours to reply to you when he used to be much quicker, then something is up. A man in a loving relationship wouldn’t leave his partner on ‘seen’ or wouldn’t ignore their messages for hours on end. 

#6 He’s been emotionally distant. You were his go-to person when it came to talking about his feelings or his day at work. But he’s no longer sharing any of that information with you.

Well, who’s he talking about these things with then? If he was never a big talker, that’s different. But if he went from being talkative to silent, this could be one of those signs he’s talking to another girl or texting her behind your back. [Read: Is you guy emotionally distant? 15 signs he just doesn’t care anymore]

#7 You two don’t argue anymore. Though people don’t like arguing, it is a healthy sign in a relationship *to an extent, of course*. You used to bicker occasionally or argue about important things in your relationship. But now, it’s like he just doesn’t care anymore. He doesn’t want to fight for this relationship. 

#8 You’re no longer on his social media. You would both post cute photos of each other on Instagram or Facebook, but that’s all come to an end, at least for him. He doesn’t post any photos or stories of you two, making it seem like he’s single. Well, maybe that’s what he wants people to see. [Read: Is he losing interest in you and drifting away?]

#9 His phone is on lockdown. He used to be relaxed about his phone. He would leave it face up on the table, and it wouldn’t be a problem if his phone would light up from a text. But now his phone is on lockdown. He has a new password and doesn’t leave his phone out of eyesight. Wherever he goes, his phone goes. 

#10 He is frequently bailing on you. You will make plans, but then at the last minute, he will text you with a lame excuse to cancel. The funny thing is he wants to know what you’re going to do instead. Maybe he doesn’t want to run into you on the street when he’s out with someone else? Who knows, but bailing on you constantly isn’t a promising sign, and could even be a sign he’s talking to another girl or worse, making plans with her. [Read: How to get a guy to stop playing games with your feelings]

#11 You spend less time with him. And it’s not because you want to. If you had it your way, you would spend more time with him. But you feel like he’s been slowly weaning you off. The only thing you don’t know is who he’s spending all his free time with. Well, one thing we know is it’s not you. 

#12 He has become defensive. Maybe you’ve confronted him about his change of behavior. But instead of being honest with you, he becomes defensive and tries to spin your questions against you. If there was nothing going on, then why would he feel the need to defend himself?

#13 You don’t see his friends anymore. You used to spend time with each other’s friends, but there’s been a sudden pull back on his side. His friends seemed to have disappeared, and there’s a reason why. If he’s talking to someone else, his friends probably know he’s talking to another girl and having you hang out with them only means trouble. [Read: The signs you’re wasting your time in a one-sided relationship]

#14 You’re no longer in his plans. You used to talk about the future, even if the future was next week. But any plans you discussed are no longer even appearing in conversation. Or if they are, he’s quick to avoid making any commitment to them. Don’t you think that’s a little odd? If you’re noticing this, it’s probably one of those warning signs he’s talking to another girl. Or he’s just starting to lose interest in the relationship.

#15 He’s tried to dump you, but you reconciled. You don’t know what exactly brought up the conversation of breaking up, but it definitely wasn’t your idea. He tried to dump you out of nowhere and was hesitant and even refused to tell you why he wants to end things with you. But after some tears from your side, you got back together again. 

[Read: 15 signs he wants to break up but is too afraid to just tell you directly]

Sometimes, you just can’t know for sure if a guy is just losing interest or talking to some other girl behind your back. But if you keep an eye on these signs he’s talking to another girl in mind, and pay attention to the girls he seems to be talking about more often, there’s a good chance you’d be able to put two and two together.

[Read: How to deal with jealousy in a relationship and learn to overcome it]

After looking at the signs he’s talking to another girl, it’s time to sit down and talk to him about it. He may deny it in the beginning but stick with your gut instinct.

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How to Know if Marriage Is for Me: The Steps to Know What You Want

Getting married isn’t for everyone. If you find yourself wondering how to know if marriage is for me, you came to the right place.

Marriage is a big commitment that society has pressured a lot of people into. It can be lovely and sacred for those who choose it as their path, but it isn’t for everyone and that is okay. If you’ve been wondering how to know if marriage is for me, I’m here to help.

Just like monogamy isn’t for everyone, marriage isn’t either. Although pop culture, society, and probably your parents would like to tell you there is something wrong with you if you don’t want to get married, there isn’t.

There are many reasons you may not want to be married. Maybe you like being single or you don’t like the concept. Maybe you don’t like being tied down to the government or it’s the religious aspect. Any and all of these are okay. 

[Read: The hugely false dating myths you need to banish from your mind]

Who is marriage for?

People get married for all sorts of reasons, many of which funnily enough also lead to divorce. But, with that, so many people get married and it lasts. So many people get married and don’t regret it.

Marriage is for people that want to be married. Simple, but it is true. 

Marriage is for people who believe in marriage. It is for people that want to spend their lives together and are willing to work through the ups and downs together. 

Sure, sometimes it doesn’t work out, but that is the way of life. Things don’t always work out. You may even get to the end of this article and think you never want to get married. And in 10 years, meet the love of your life and feel differently. 

[Read: 15 big relationship questions to ask yourself before going to the next level]

Is marriage a good idea or a bad idea?

From someone who has never been married but has seen happily married couples, miserably married couples, and divorced couples, I can tell you that marriage has every possibility and potential to be amazing. It can lead to a stronger relationship and a happy family. 

Is it a trap and overrated? Is it important or worth it? All of these depend on who you ask. Someone who went through a bitter divorce may tell you to avoid marriage at all costs. Someone who has been happily married for years might say it was the best thing that ever happened to them. [Read: 16 questions about marriage that make talking about it really easy]

Recommending marriage isn’t like recommending a car or a television. It is so unique. What is so great about one marriage can be so dysfunctional about another.

What makes one marriage so happy can tear another apart. There are no sure things when it comes to marriage. 

[Read: The biggest signs you’re simply not ready for marriage]

Who is marriage for?

We can hope that, if entered into for the right reasons, two people who are willing to put the effort in to keep it going will be happy for the rest of their lives.

Marriage is for people who have faith in that idea. It is for people who want to work for that happiness even if it means compromise. It is for people who trust each other and love each other.

I don’t want to get all sappy, but marriage is for the people who respect marriage and want it to work out. I can’t say if you get married you’ll love it or you’ll hate it, neither can anyone else, although they’ll try. 

Maybe your grumpy uncle will tell you to never settle down and get married, but your best friend tells you it’s made him happier than ever before. 

If you’re considering the idea of marriage and wondering if marriage is for you, you need to remember that everything you hear about marriage depends on the people, their experiences and the circumstances. [Read: 20 very good reasons to get married and life happily ever after]

How to know if marriage is for me?

If you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, marriage may be for you. But, you can do those things without the label of marriage.

That is a personal question for you and your partner to answer. You can be together your whole lives without the rings or the ceremony or the license. 

Or maybe you don’t think marriage is for you because you don’t want to settle down and monogamy isn’t for you. That’s cool too.

[Read: Is monogamy for you? Knowing your needs and what you’re built for]

Even if you think you never want to get married, that could change. Or maybe you love the idea of marriage and have been planning your wedding since you knew what it was, but decide it isn’t for you later on.

I’m sorry I can’t offer you some straightforward advice here, but marriage isn’t a straightforward thing. It is messy and complicated just like anything else. 

But, one thing I can say is that label or not, relationships are hard work. If you are willing to put the work into a relationship to sustain it for the rest of your lives, you are making the same commitment in your own eyes. [Read: 13 hard challenges of being in a committed relationship]

For some, that commitment needs to be made in front of God, friends, family, a priest, and a crying flower girl, while for others that commitment being stated on the couch in their home is enough.

If you’re wondering how to know if marriage is for you, you need to remember that this decision is up to you, and what you want. There is nothing wrong with you for wanting to stay single or to be committed outside the institution of marriage. And, there is nothing wrong with wanting to get married. 

Personally, I’ve seen a hard marriage play out before my eyes. It taught me a lot about what a marriage and a relationship require. It taught me about family and sacrifice. [Read: The ridiculous myths people believe about marriage]

For me, that pain and experience didn’t sour the idea of marriage but strengthened it. Making that commitment in front of your most loved friends and family is a celebration. It isn’t about religion or paperwork but a celebration of the next step of a relationship and a commitment to keep moving forward together. 

Can kids come outside of marriage? Yes. Can everything I mentioned come without a marriage? Yes.

Maybe I’ve been influence by tradition, the patriarchy, and society, but I’m excited for a ring and a dress and photos of a momentous night that I can look back on for years to come.

[Read: Marital traditions: Their not-so-sweet origins & our modern choices]

I am a private person. Although when the time comes, I want a small wedding, sharing my love for my future husband in front of the people that are most important to us feels like a dream. It feels like something I’d be lucky to have the opportunity to do. 

And then living our lives as husband and wife together for better or worse is what I want. I want to be there for him when he needs me. I want to come home to him after a bad day. And I want him to complain about the taxes and snore. I see all the good and the bad as better with him. [Read: The first year of marriage and the surprising truths no one talks about]

Sure, being able to refer to him as my husband is a big dream in my little girl rom-com fantasy, but what’s wrong with that? Nothing. 

But, that is just one woman’s take on marriage before actually having been in it. You don’t have to have those same feelings. [Read: Itching to get hitched? Why you should never rush into marriage]

Maybe for you, marriage is about coming together before God or linking yourself to this other person. Or maybe marriage to you reminds you of your parents’ divorce or being trapped in something that has no end. 

It is all okay. 

[Read: 15 things you should know before you get engaged]

So, we’re back to wondering how to know if marriage is for me. Decide what marriage means to you and go from there. And never say never one way or the other. Because you never really know what life brings or how minds can change.

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How to Talk to Your Crush: The Secrets to Make Them Fall for You

Want to know how to talk to your crush and make them get a bigger crush on you before you ever tell them you like them? Follow these powerful steps!

Learning how to talk to your crush and professing your love to them is actually the easy part. Building the foundation perfectly to ensure that your crush is actually just as crazy about you as you are about them, well, that’s the tricky part.

If you follow these steps, you’ll surely be able to talk to your crush and make them like you back in no time. But for it to be really effective 100% of the time, you need to make sure your crush notices you and gets interested in you first, in all the right ways. Read the first part to know about the subtle secrets to make your crush notice you and like you back before you use these tips on how to talk to your crush.

Talking to your crush is easy if you think about it. But the right foundation to make sure they’re eager to talk to you already, that’s the first step you need to take!

How to talk to your crush and slowly but surely make them fall for you

The thought of striking a conversation with your crush could make you feel like you have butterflies in your stomach.

But if you take things slow, and focus on the three stages mentioned in the introduction, the attention stage, the chemistry stage and finally the conversation stage, you’d realize that even before you start talking to your crush, your crush would already have a crush on you!

STAGE 3 – How to talk to your crush and the easiest ways to initiate a conversation

If you followed the first two stages to the tee, your crush probably likes you already, and they’d assume they’re the one who has a crush on you, and not the other way around. Now all you need to do is initiate a conversation subtly, without making it too obvious that you’re looking for excuses to chat them up.

Use these 8 ways to initiate a conversation with your crush. You can use just one of these tips, or use many of them. As long as you don’t make it obvious that you’re faking a meet-cute, it’s all perfect for you! [Read: How to create a romantic meet cute with your crush]

But just a word of caution to play it safe, don’t stretch the first time you talk to your crush into a long conversation immediately unless there’s a good opportunity to do so. We get it, you’re ecstatic to be talking to them so casually, but it should be brief and quick, and should be just long enough to make both of you feel like acquaintances.

#1 Ask for help. The easiest way to chat up a crush is by asking them for help. If you notice your crush standing nearby, pretend like you’re looking for something, a book or a particular person. Look around dramatically and impatiently, and pretend like you’re almost panicking because you’re already late for something. [Read: 15 easy conversation starters you can use on your crush]

And all of a sudden, lock eyes with your crush, and ask them a question, “hey… did you notice a book lying around here?” or “I’m sorry, but did you see a girl walk past here just now?”

Once your crush answers your question, continue to look around for a few more seconds, and exchange a fleeting glance, nod or smile and walk away like you’re flustered and busy.

Don’t start a conversation here, or it’ll appear like you were just faking it to chat them up. There’s always a next time to talk to your crush for longer. [Read: How to talk to anyone and master the art of a true conversationalist]

#2 Drop something. If you’re walking in front of your crush or walking past them, *accidentally* drop something of little value like a pen or a piece of paper.

As long as your crush sees it fall, they’d definitely use the excuse to strike a conversation with you. And even if your crush doesn’t notice it falling, you have nothing to lose. [Read: 15 subtle but very obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]

#3 Use social media. This is so easy it doesn’t make sense why people don’t use this more often! Comment on something your crush comments on. Don’t reply directly to their comment or that just makes it obvious you’re trying to catch their attention.

You don’t need to answer your crush directly, just be seen by them online. As long as you have mutual friends and you’ve caught their eye already, your crush WILL snoop your social media account and try to get to know more about you. [Read: How to slide into your crush’s DM, rouse their interest, and get that reply!]

You need to remember that the secret behind getting a crush to like you is to make them believe they’re the ones who are more curious about you! Do this right, and when you do start talking to your crush, they’d be more than eager to keep the conversation going with you! [Read: 22 ways to have swag and look cool doing anything at all!]

#4 Smile while walking past your crush. When you’re walking past your crush and their friends aren’t around, just smile fleetingly or say hi to your crush. Don’t stop and chat though, just smile happily or say hello warmly and confidently, and just continue walking past them. It’s awkward that very instant, but it works like a charm!

Just remember not to slow down as you walk past them, turn around, or worse, stop and stare. That would just make you look super-eager and you’d probably kill your winning streak instantly.

As long as you’ve built the chemistry up in the earlier stages, your crush would be waiting to talk to you the very next time both of you bump into each other. [Read: Does your crush like you? – 18 signs to decode their body language]

#5 Get friendly with your crush’s friends. Do both of you share any common friends? Try to get to know them better. Don’t tell this friend about your crush. Instead, just try to strike up a conversation with the friend now and then. It’s a great way to get to know your crush without approaching them directly.

#6 Use your friends. If you’re hanging out with your friends and your crush walks past you or sits down somewhere near you, use your friends to get the message across. Let them know you have a crush on this person.

When they tease you or constantly stare at your crush, it would embarrass your crush because they’d start to realize there’s some funny business in the air. [Read: How to use your friends to get your crush to ask you out]

#7 Bumping into each other. If you bump into your crush, accidentally or otherwise, don’t be shy. Instead of walking away or looking the other way, smile, wave or say hello. Both of you have been exchanging glances for far too long to miss out on an opportunity like this! And if you do end up getting into a conversation, keep the conversation short the first time around.

#8 Follow them on social media or send a friend request. If both of you have been exchanging flirty glances on the streets and commenting on the same social media posts, that’s enough of an excuse to get friendly online. After all, texting does take a huge load of pressure off face to face conversations. [Read: Texting your crush – The step-by-step guide to doing it right]

After the first conversation – Don’t overdo it

When both of you start waving hellos and talking to each other, your crush may give you a lot of attention, but don’t get clingy or fawn over your crush.

Play it cool and make it seem like mutual interest rather than a one sided crush. Avoid giving too much attention all at once, and your crush will pursue you just as much as you pursue them.

Avoid falling into the friend zone

This usually happens when you go out of your way to help your crush. Be nice and friendly, but tease your crush and leave them hanging instead of trying to please them all the time. [Read: How to avoid the friend zone and make your crush fall for you instead]

Don’t be jealous. Don’t get jealous or rude when you find your crush talking to someone else. Remember, both of you aren’t dating yet, and you have no right to tell this person who they can or can’t talk to. If you show off your displeasure to your crush, they’d only get more annoyed with your behavior. Just pretend like it doesn’t bother you. [Read: The naughtiest ways to get out of the friend zone]

What to talk about with your crush – How to know the right things to say

It’s hard to figure out what to talk about with your crush when you don’t really know them. You can talk about the weather or current events, but that won’t make them see you as someone they could date.

You need some better material. You need something that’ll tell them you’re interested and also show them you could be a great match. But that’s pretty difficult when you’re nervous about talking to them in the first place.

Remember, first impressions are a big deal

They just are. As much as we wish everyone would give us multiple chances to prove ourselves, that’s just not reality. People are very much set in their ways once they make up their minds, especially when it comes to crushes and dating.

That means you really only have a short period of time to impress someone and get them excited about you. The best way to do this is through some good conversation. But it also has to be the RIGHT kind of conversation, because asking about their previous lovers and other naughty questions doesn’t cut it. [Read: 12 easy ways to avoid a first impression catastrophe]

5 tips to build the romance with alone time

The easiest way to make your crush get attracted to you is by spending time with each other when no one’s around. If you notice your crush and you’re with your friends, excuse yourself and walk up to your crush and start a conversation.

The more alone time both of you get, the faster the attraction would build and the stronger the infatuation. [Read: 20 signs of attraction you can notice in the very first conversation]

#1 Eye contact. Make eye contact while talking to your crush. Look into their eyes while saying something, and hold your gaze. It’ll seem awkward at first, but it’ll send the message that you like this person.

#2 Smile and laugh. Don’t be boring when you’re spending alone time with your crush. Smile, laugh and tease your crush. [Read: How to be funny and make people love your company]

#3 Compliments. Compliments work wonders in a conversation. It’ll bring both of you closer, and it would make your crush start flirting with you even if they don’t realize it themselves. [Read: 25 sweet compliments for guys they’ll never forget!]

#4 Talk about common interests. Try to find common ground in conversations. Find out more about things they like, be it movies, shows or anything else. When both of you find something in common, it’ll give both of you a chance to bond over common interests.

#5 Text and call each other. Exchange phone numbers, or use social media, and text each other. And if you want to get flirty and naughty, text each other later in the evenings or at night.

[Read: The things to text a guy and make him flirt back with you]

[Read: 15 tips to text a girl and make her like you in no time]

The best conversations that work like a charm while talking to your crush

You’re ready to talk to them and you know they’re interested enough to talk back, but you may be clueless as to where to start. Well, we’ve got you covered with this one. Here are some topics to keep in mind for when you want to talk to your crush.

#1 Their biggest interests. People love to talk about themselves and what they love doing. Plus, it’s also great information for you to know and it’ll also show them you’re interested in what they like to do. You can even draw connections to your own hobbies this way.

#2 What you like to do for fun. You can’t just make this entire conversation like an interview. You want to throw some tidbits of information about yourself into the mix, too. This is also important for showing them you’re into them. Because why else would you be talking about stuff you find fun? [Read: How to keep a conversation going with no effort at all]

#3 Something embarrassing that happened to you recently. We’ve all been through embarrassing things. If you want to make your date laugh, you should absolutely tell them a funny, embarrassing story of yourself.

This also helps them feel at ease and more comfortable around you. And the more comfortable they feel, the more likely they’ll talk to you about deeper stuff. This helps you bond and get to know each other better.

#4 Stuff that reminds you of them. You can talk about a show or a movie you recently saw that reminds you a lot of them. The point is to make them see that you think about them often. They’ll not only feel touched, but if they like you back, it’ll be a great bonding moment for the two of you. [Read: 15 guaranteed ways to get your crush to like you]

#5 Something you know they like. If you’ve been chatting for a while, then you know a thing or two about stuff they find funny or that they like. So if you see an article about a certain food you think is weird that you know they like, show them.

Talking about stuff like this is perfect because they’ll actually want to talk about it. They’ll be engaged and willing to discuss it versus you trying to talk about things they have no interest in.

#6 Memes you think are funny. You want to share things you think are humorous because ultimately, you need to be with someone who has the same sense of humor as you. This is the perfect way to test just that. Send them funny stuff and see how they respond.

#7 What they do for fun. It’s not just about you. You’ll want to know if you two are in common in the fun department, too. So just ask. More likely than not, people will tell you what they love to do just because people like to discuss things they enjoy. It’s a great topic that can lead to a much bigger discussion. [Read: 15 things you have to do when you realize your crush likes you back]

#8 Some funny fears they have. Everyone is afraid of something. This is a great way to break the ice and get to know them a bit better. You can even tease them a little bit or laugh about the fact that you both hate balloons!

#9 Legitimate fears they have. Take it a step further and a step deeper and discuss some real, deep fears. After talking about little fears, this is a perfect way to get into a more meaningful conversation.

You can easily talk about the stuff that scares you most in life – like death or unfulfilled potential. They’re serious topics but you’ll be able to tell how they feel about you this way.

#10 Plans for the future. We’ve all got certain plans and things we want to do in the future. One way to see if the two of you will be headed in the same direction is to just ask about it. Keep in mind that this doesn’t really mean kids or family.

Talking about that stuff too soon can be a bad thing for your budding relationship. But you can mention your plans for your career and any goals you’re working to achieve. [Read: 12 life questions to help you visualize your future]

#11 What they’d rather be doing with their life. Not everyone is in their happy place. Certain people would rather have a different job or a better relationship with their families. If you find out what theirs is, you’ll learn a lot about them.

It’s also a topic that forces a lot of bonding. It’s sensitive information and if they’re willing to share it with you, that’s super important. They’re showing they trust you and even care about you a little in return.

There’s a certain way you want to go about talking to your crush to let them know you’re interested and to get them to like you back. Use these conversation topics while talking to your crush, and you’ll know exactly what to talk about with your crush when you see them. [Read: How to emotionally connect with someone and feel closer instantly]

Asking your crush out

You can follow all the steps here, but if you make a mistake at this point, everything you’ve built up to this point could come crashing down like a house of cards.

Don’t make the mistake of telling your crush you like them or want to date them too soon into the flirting. Rushing this part can ruin everything if your crush isn’t ready to date you yet. [Read: How to tell someone you like them and win them over]

Instead, invite your crush out to spend time with you. Ask your crush if they’d like to join you for lunch or coffee sometime. Tell them about a new place you’ve been waiting to check out, and that you would love to take them there.

It may take a few “dates” and a bit of hanging out for both of you to feel the romantic connection. But when that does happen, you’ll just know that your crush is ready to answer in the affirmative when you finally ask them if they like you too!

[Read: The best ways to tell your crush you like them and make them go awww!]

It’s really easy to get a crush to like you as long as you use these tips on how to talk to your crush, and play it safe and slow. Don’t rush in too soon, and work on building the flirty connection first. And before you know it, your crush would have fallen for you, just as hard as you’ve fallen for them!

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Tactics Tuesdays: Be Happy as You Lead Her Out the Door

When you escalate but she stops you cold, it can be awkward walking her out. To keep things cool (and raise the odds you see her again & bed her later), be merry as you walk her out.

Every guy has girls he pulls home who don’t go to bed with him.

Maybe she stopped you at the kiss, or maybe you got too shy and didn’t go for it.

Or maybe you made it somewhere into the escalation, only to hit a wall of last minute resistance you failed to overcome.

Regardless, you brought her back, hoped to get together with her, then it fizzled out.

In the end, you had to lead her out the door.

If you’re a reader on this site, you know that once she crosses that threshold, without ending up your lover, the odds she’s ever coming back plummet.

Nevertheless, there’s something you can do as you walk her out that increases those odds – not to 50/50, but at least to the point where you’ve still got a fighting chance.

Breaking Up with a Girl: What You'll Experience (and How to Manage)

Breaking up can pull you through a wringer. How you handle a breakup, and how you manage your emotions and recovery, will determine where you go from there.

When you break up with a girl, it won’t always be an easy process.

Some breakups go down easy. The ones where you weren’t overly attached to the girl, and you part as friends. Or the ones where for whatever reason you never got all that into her.

Those breakups, a lot of the time, can be smooth breakups.

Yet even those can sometimes have hiccups.

The tough breakups (whether it’s expected or not) are the ones where your emotions play games with you post-breakup.

They stretch you around like Silly Putty and break you to pieces like a ceramic pot.

How you handle yourself in the weeks and months after a breakup determine the life you’ll lead following it.

Feeling Unloved in a Relationship? How to Feel Loved & Happy Again

Whether it’s a long or short-term relationship, recently, things have shifted. These are the things to do when you’re feeling unloved in a relationship.

When it comes to relationships, falling in love is the easy part. Two people choosing to come together with its challenges. Of course, there will be times when we feel unloved in a relationship or not as close as we want to be. This doesn’t mean your partner is cheating on you *even though we like to assume the worst*. If you have kids, a stressful job, or major life changes, it’s easy to let your relationship slide into the backseat.

Feeling unloved in a relationship doesn’t mean it’s time to call it quits. But it is a warning sign that you should communicate and reunite as a team.

So, let’s not get too ahead of ourselves; if anything, this is a chance to reawaken the connection between you two and get on the same page. Hollywood movies make love look so easy, don’t they?

[Read: The steps to take to tell your partner you’re unhappy]

The 11 steps you need to take when feeling unloved in a relationship

Anyway, it’s time to know the things you can do when you’re feeling unloved in your relationship. Here’s how you can turn it around.

#1 Stop, wait a minute. But really – stop. Just take a breath. When you’re feeling unloved in a relationship, it can feel like your world is falling apart. But you need to calm down and be kind to yourself. Yes, you’re feeling these emotions, but they will pass. [Read: Am I unloved? The one thing you need to know when you feel unloved]

#2 Assess your own feelings. You’re the one who’s feeling these emotions. So, the first thing you need to do is to focus and analyze them. Why are you feeling like this? What’s bothering you? Have you been feeling like this for long, or is this a recent emotion?

#3 Talk to your partner. If you can’t talk to your partner about this, who else can you talk to? This relationship is a two-way street, meaning your partner needs to understand how you’re feeling. From there, you can communicate and see what’s going on with you and the relationship. [Read: 5 tips for choosing the right words to talk to your partner]

#4 But really communicate. If you want to find out what’s going on in your relationship, talking to your partner is the only way to do so. When I say communicate, I don’t just mean you say how you’re feeling, and you leave it at that. I mean, you two need to dig deep and share what you’re both feeling. If you’re feeling unloved in a relationship, you can’t tiptoe around it.

#5 Be direct with your feelings. This isn’t the time to play coy and beat around the bush. You need to be direct with your feelings when talking to your partner. They can’t read your mind, and you can’t read their mind. Who knows, maybe they’re feeling the same. What’s important is you don’t hide anything from them. [Read: 14 little details that’ll make you a way better communicator in love]

#6 Make a plan together. So, you sat down and spoke with your partner about how you’re feeling unloved in a relationship with them. Now you know how they’re feeling and vice versa. Now, what?

It’s time to make a plan of how you will together improve the situation. Do you want to have a weekly date night? Don’t use your phone two hours before bed? Whatever you two decide, make sure it’s done together. [Read: How to compromise in your relationship]

#7 Try to see your partner’s point-of-view. You and your partner are in a relationship, right? It’s not just you or them. This means you need to listen to your partner’s point of view. They may see something that you don’t see or suggest a solution to the issue. Your partner wants to fix this as much as you do.

#8 The loneliness may exist only in yourself. There could be a chance that the loneliness you’re feeling is only existing in yourself. If your partner has expressed they’re feeling loved in the relationship; you need to do some soul searching. Your internal issues could reflect how you feel in your relationship.

#9 Try relationship counseling. It’s not necessarily going to be easy to solve this with your partner. Maybe you can’t see each other’s point of view or don’t know what steps to take. Seeing a relationship counselor can help guide you in the right direction *everyone needs a little guidance now and then* when feeling unloved in a relationship.

#10 Be patient. It’s not easy prioritizing your relationship, especially when you and your partner are living busy lives. Though it’s entirely possible, it’ll take time. I know, I know, I’m not patient either, but change doesn’t happen overnight; it’s a slow turn. [Read: How to find and focus on the right priority in your relationship]

#11 Get comfortable with loneliness. If you feel unloved by your partner because they’re ignoring you, that’s one thing. But if you’re feeling unloved even when your partner is showing you consistent affection and kindness, then this is an internal issue. You need to confront your loneliness and the feelings of being unloved in a relationship.

[Read: We accept the love we think we deserve: A real life example]

No one said relationships were going to be easy. What’s important is you communicate with your partner when you’re feeling unloved in a relationship.

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13 Sexually Intimate Questions to Ask a Girl & Read Her Naughty Mind

You don’t know unless you ask! If you want to turn her on, here are 13 sexually intimate questions to ask a girl to get the info you need.

If you want to have a full and fulfilling sex life, you should know what your partner likes. The problem is that can be hard if you’re at the start of a relationship and you’re just getting to know them. It’s also likely that both of you are a little shy at this point. Coming right out and telling each other what you like is all a bit cringey, so what are some helpful sexual intimate questions to ask a girl and get the ball rolling? 

The best way to get around the cringe? Ask! You never know what someone likes unless you ask them in the right situation and in the right way. By doing this, you’ll give them the confidence to open up and be honest with you, therefore bettering the sex you have together. 

There’s really no downside to this. Simply learn the best questions to ask. Don’t come straight out and ask something wild; it is possible to scare someone off you know! Instead, stick to easy to answer questions that will allow your girl to tell you what she wants and needs from you. She might also have the confidence to then explore new things and tell you about her wildest fantasies.

Again, it’s all win-win!

[Read: Intimate sex questions to help couple’s build a bond of trust]

Sexually intimate questions to ask a girl, boosting your sex life in the process

Coming up with the best sexually intimate questions to ask a girl needs to be done carefully. Some girls are quite happy to openly talk about their bedroom preferences, while others a little shyer. Hopefully, you know her well enough to understand which category she falls into. Then, tailor your approach according to her personality and comfort level.

To give you a few ideas, however, let’s check out 13 sexually intimate questions to ask a girl, allowing you to find out what she wants and what she’d love to try. 

#1 Where on your body would you like me to kiss? This question is best asked in the heat of the moment, and then she can either tell you verbally or show you. That could lead to some pretty fun-filled moments! [Read: How to make out with subtle moves to make it hot]

#2 Have you ever tried role play? And did you like it? Not everyone does, but some people have real fantasies about dressing up or playing different roles in the bedroom. If this is something you’d like to try, you can find out if your girl would be into it by asking this question. 

#3 What do you like to be called in bed? Some people like to be called a certain thing in the bedroom; it turns them on. However, there are some names which are a total turnoff.

It’s a good idea to find out ahead of time what your girl prefers so you don’t put your foot in it right at a very interesting moment. For that reason, it’s one of the best sexually intimate questions to ask a girl! [Read: Sex in a new relationship: How to make the first time less awkward]

#4 Does the idea of a threesome turn you on? Now, be careful with this one and tailor how you ask it to the girl in question. She might think you’re suggesting that you have one, when perhaps you’re just finding out how she feels about them in general because talking about it is a turn on in itself! [Read: Conversation starters that’ll make both of you horny just by talking about it] 

#5 Have you ever tried anal with anyone in the past? In terms of sexually intimate questions to ask a girl, this is up there with the most explicit. She might not want to tell you, but you’ll figure that out from her reaction. Again, this might be something you want to explore together, so asking is the one way to find out how she feels about it. 

#6 What is your favorite position? Basic knowledge 101 and always good to know! If you know what her favorite position is, you can use it regularly when you’re intimate together, so just go ahead and ask! You could even take it a step further and ask if there are any new positions she’d like to try. [Read: 7 basic sex positions that’ll make anyone think you’re a real pro]

#7 Do you ever watch porn? Some couples enjoy watching porn together and maybe this is something you’d like to do too. In that case, this is one of the sexually intimate questions to ask a girl that could really enhance bedroom time for the both of you. If she’s never watched it but shows interest in doing so, ask if she would like to give it a go, but be sure to select what you watch carefully. [Read: The 15 best female-friendly porn sites that are tinglingly perfect]

#8 Where is the riskiest place you’ve ever had sex? This one is building up to finding out whether she likes the idea of being caught or being watched, or indeed watching others during sex. She might come up with a crazy story or she might not have one at all, either way is fine! [Read: Best places to have sex that go beyond your bedroom]

#9 Lights on or off? A less intimate one, but it helps you to understand what makes her feel comfortable in bed. If she says lights off, suggest maybe leaving them on next time and see how she feels about it. Always go with what makes her comfortable. 

#10 What’s your biggest fantasy that you’d like to try? Everyone has a fantasy. It’s just a case of whether they feel comfortable enough to share it! Go on, ask her! However, remember to share yours once she’s told you what she has always wanted to try. It’s only fair! [Read: Top 50 kinky ideas that are a must-try in every naughty relationship]

#11 Do you like the idea of tying me up or being tied up? Bondage is something lots of couples enjoy as part of a healthy sex life. Some people like it, others don’t. You won’t know how she feels about it unless you ask her first. If she does, it’s something you can explore slowly together. 

#12 Have you ever tried, or wanted to try, sex with another woman? This one can be tailored according to your situation. If you’re a same sex couple, you could ask whether she’s ever wanted to try sex with a man, or a bisexual, etc. It’s something to explore.

Do remember to be sensitive here, and if you feel like she won’t respond well or won’t feel comfortable answering, don’t ask. When it comes to sexually intimate questions to ask a girl, you have to know whether it’s okay to ask or not. [Read: How to cuddle with a girl so it leads to sex every single time]

#13 Do you like dirty talk? The plus point in this question is that you get to find out whether she’s comfortable with it before you try. There is nothing more awkward than talking dirty only to get zero response, simply because she doesn’t like it or doesn’t feel comfortable. By asking if she likes it first, you know whether to try it or not! [Read: How to talk dirty during sex and cut out the awkward]

These are some great examples of sexually intimate questions to ask a girl you’re getting to know better. Remember, you should know your girl a little beforehand to be sure that you’re not going to offend her or scare her by asking something which she may not be comfortable with. Remember that her comfort and security is vitally important, as is yours. 

[Read: How to talk about sex without sounding like a pervert]

Try these sexually intimate questions to ask a girl to understand her better. It allows you to explore your sex life together, within her boundaries and also within yours.

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