Removing Fear Through Good Practice (Rejection Part 1)

Men are afraid of rejection. But there are ways to optimize yourself to rarely encounter it.

Editor's note: this is Part 1 of Alek's 2-part series on fear and resistance. We mistakenly published Part 2 first. You can read Part 2 of the series here.

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Hey all! I hope you’re doing great.

Today I want to discuss a simple subject that many men have issues with: “making a move.” This could be:

• Approaching,

• Escalating the vibe

• “Going for the kill” (Inviting her to go home with you)

We won’t be covering anything new. Instead, we’ll be going over well-trod ground, but covering old concepts in a new light, giving readers clarification on how things fit together. This post is mostly suited to beginners, but intermediate players may also benefit.

Guys may hold themselves back from making a move, understandably, due to fear of rejection. There’s no sense pretending rejections are pleasant. The truth is they can hurt our egos or even our dignity as men.

As a result, many have suggested using mindsets or mental exercises to counter these fears. I’m not here to say these don’t work, as they can be beneficial. However, I want to offer a more practical solution or mindset to help conquer these fears. My solutions aren’t intended to discredit others you may seek to apply. We aren’t dealing with an “either/or” dichotomy but rather something you can ADD to your arsenal.

So, let’s get on with it.

How to Be Emotionless: 16 Ways to Lose Feelings & Gain Control

You can learn how to be emotionless and heartless using these steps. But there are healthier alternatives to being cold-hearted and live a better live too!

It’s a strange place to be in, isn’t it? Wanting to know how to be emotionless and cold? On one hand, we have psychopaths and narcissists at one end of the spectrum who can’t empathize or experience normal feelings. And on the other hand, we have you, on the other end of the spectrum, wanting to learn ways to feel heartless and become emotionless.

It’s possible, and we’ll show you how to be emotionless and harden your heart like a rock. But where is this pain coming from? Why would someone who is gifted with empathy, love and emotions want to throw it all away to turn into a zombie without emotions?

Why you’re hurting and why it’s okay to feel hurt

Everybody hurts. And when that happens, we feel stupid and weak, and helpless. And you’d be willing to do anything to never feel this way again.

Is it because of your lover? Is it your friends who made you feel weak and stupid? Or is it someone at work? Or life, perhaps?

You need to remember that some of us are more sensitive than others, and that’s okay. It’s a gift of empathy and feelings you need to be proud of having. Experiencing feelings deeply doesn’t make you weak. It’s what makes you a good friend, lover and an overall better human being.

Yes, the world may be more shallow and narcissistic these days, and everyone focuses more on the superficial than real feelings. But do you really want to be one of them?

[Read: How to get over feeling unwanted in life and start feeling desirable again]

You’re sensitive, and you should love yourself for it

Remember this, you’re not too sensitive if you get hurt by someone else’s actions. Calling you “sensitive” is an excuse shitty people use when they want to hurt you and expect you to just accept it.

If you want to be happy, allow yourself to feel these emotions instead of trying to learn how to be emotionless. But on the other hand, if you do think you’re really sensitive and find yourself taking offense for the smallest of reasons, here’s something you need to check out – How to stop being so sensitive all the time. It can help you understand what makes you sensitive and how you can overcome it.

People care, they just pretend they don’t!

Before you go learning how to be emotionless below, here’s an honest truth you should know. Everyone cares! Everyone is emotional!

But they just hide it really well behind a veil of nonchalance. Do you ever wonder why so many of us spend every free minute furiously scrolling through the same apps, watching Netflix or staying distracted on social media? That’s because any time left to ourselves and our own minds makes us think and feel emotions. And people don’t want to do that. Instead, they just want to distract themselves and pretend their house isn’t on fire when the world around them is burning.

You feel emotions, so it means you’re able to connect with your thoughts without being distracted by them, and that’s a good thing to feel!

[Read: Why you feel unloved and the different ways to fix it yourself]

The first step in learning how to lose your strong emotions

There are some of us who are just more sensitive than others. Being highly emotional is a difficult way to go through life. Feeling like you are on an emotional roller coaster all of the time is not only tiring, it can leave you feeling lost.

If you are someone who takes things to heart easily, don’t worry, you can learn how to be emotionless when it is called for. The key is to know when to invest the energy and when just to let it go. We’ll share the best ways you can use below. And as much as you’re using this guide to stop having emotions and grow a cold heart, always remember that having emotions is a good thing, as long as you can control it and your emotions don’t hurt others.

How to be emotionless and cold hearted

Emotions are pretty powerful things when used for the right reasons. If you have a hard time with them overpowering you, it can leave you feeling drained and in a constant state of stress. Learning to let go of things you can’t control is the best way to decipher when you should get wrapped up in something or to just walk away.

For a highly sensitive person, learning how to be emotionless takes practice and mindfulness. It is about catching yourself before you fall into the endless emotional pit. Here are some ways you can do it.

[Read: The raw psychological effects of being ignored by someone you love]

1. Cut your empathy down.

Empathy is a very important part of humanity, but being overly empathetic can leave you feeling like a weeping wound. There are things that you can feel for other people, and then there are times when you have to reserve feelings for yourself and your own situation.

You can’t possibly take the weight of the world on your shoulders, so don’t let everyone else’s misfortune weigh down on you so heavily. [Read: 20 signs you’re a people pleaser and just don’t know it]

2. Stop being everyone’s counselor.

When you are an emotional person, you have a tendency to put more thought and concern into other people. That can leave you feeling like a counselor to everyone you know. Because you are a good listener and care deeply for others, it can feel like all of your emotional energy is being spent helping out your friends and family members.

If you want to know how to be emotionless, sometimes, you just have to not answer the phone or not be the one who drops everything to help someone through their emotional crisis. Likely, you have enough on your own emotional plate. [Read: 16 signs you’re being taken for granted by the ones you love]

3. Stop internalizing.

When someone is in a bad mood or does something to you, emotional people have a tendency to take it on themselves or to internalize it. That can leave you with a whole lot of unresolved feelings, continual guilt, and doubt about who you are.

If someone is being crappy, rude, or downright nasty *and you haven’t done anything*, release them with love. You can’t be responsible for other people’s feelings or rude behavior. If you haven’t done anything wrong to them, then that is on them.

4. Avoid socially stressful situations.

If you are a social-phobe, don’t stick yourself into situations that are going to provoke high stress. Being emotional makes it more difficult to be in tense or stressful social situations.

If you know that going to a family wedding is going to let out your emotional monsters, then skip it. You don’t have to do things that aren’t good for you. [Read: Too empathetic? How to detach yourself and have a better life]

5. Put yourself first.

For some people, hearing someone else’s emotional turmoil is cathartic. To those who are full of emotion, it can be like an endless roller coaster. If you are the person who puts everyone and their emotional needs above you, then it is time to make an oath to put yourself first.

People who are highly emotional have a hard time investing in their own well-being. You don’t have to be super human or put others before you. When you want to know how to be emotionless, you have to put your own needs above others’ in your life.

If you are knee-deep in something, stop bringing in more shovels to put you under. Figure out your own shit before you worry about other people. [Read: How self respect affects you and all your relationships with others]

6. Try to listen without feelings.

Emotional people have a tendency to insert themselves into a situation and navigate it imaginarily through emotions to check out all angles. If you have a problem, step back, and out, to see what is going on rationally, instead of trying to figure out the emotions of it.

Seeing a problem is much easier when you take all the feeling out of the scenario. It also saves you a whole lot of wasted emotional energy.

7. Break up with drama.

If you have someone in your life who is continually putting you over the emotional edge, then that may be more toxins than you need in life. Some people like to be the martyr and create drama to get attention.

They often turn to people in their lives who care, and that is likely you. If you have someone who always seems to be in crisis mode, stop letting them use your emotional energy to get their fill.

It is okay to cut someone loose if they are demanding too much of your energy. They will find someone else to listen to their woes and problems, and you won’t find yourself being sucked in.

Drama queens want all the drama, but they never want to take steps to change their situation. They just use your emotional energy to fulfill their needs and then walk home happy as a clam, leaving you in their wake until they need their fill again. Ditch ‘em! [Read: 17 types of bad friends you need to unfriend from your life]

8. Clean your surroundings.

You may wonder how learning to be emotionless has anything to do with the clutter on your table or in your house. But it does play a big part. When you’re surrounded by clutter and find yourself unorganized, your mind stays unorganized, your thoughts are muddled and confused. Every waking minute is filled with confusion and chaos instead of a streamlined thought flow.

Clear the clutter in your life, and your mind will feel clear. You’d feel more in control of your life, and less controlled by your emotions. Inner peace is everything when it comes to getting a grip on your emotions.

9. Avoid helplessness.

This may be caused because of work, your relationship, or your friendships. But if there’s a part of your life that makes you feel overwhelmed by emotions in a negative way, it’s time to cut them out. You may be sensitive, but that doesn’t give anyone in your life the excuse to treat you like dirt.

When you feel helpless, you start to feel more emotional and distressed. Avoid the people who make you feel helpless, and regain control over your life again. You’ll find that learning how to be emotionless comes easier when you own your own feelings, instead of letting someone else control it.

[Read: How to find yourself again after a seriously low point in life]

10. Seeking validation from others.

No one knows you better than you. And yet, do you constantly go seeking validation from others to make yourself feel better? Love yourself, focus on yourself and believe in yourself. If the number of social media likes or how many friends you had around you on your birthday defines how emotionally happy you are, that’s a recipe for disaster. [Read: When your friends don’t wish you happy birthday – The power play games they’re trying]

As hard as it is, don’t rely on others to create the happiness in your life. Love yourself and learn to create happiness from within. Do this, and it’ll help you control your emotions a lot better. [Read: How to focus on yourself – 27 ways to create your own sunshine]

11. Apologizing and obsessing.

Do you apologize to others all the time, for the smallest slights? Do you find yourself obsessing over some mistake you did, even if it’s something the other person doesn’t care about? Maybe now is the time to learn to stop apologizing for things that aren’t directly in your control.

When you apologize for everything, you take the blame for everything that goes wrong. And that makes you more emotional, guilty, and sad. Own responsibility for the mistakes you make, but stop believing that everyone deserves an apology because you choose to put yourself first for once.

12. Implosive anger.

Do you hold everything that upsets you inside, until you can’t hold it anymore and then explode? Of course, if you’re doing this, you’d want to learn how to be emotionless! But you need to ask yourself here, do you want to be emotionless, or do you need to learn how to express your emotions better?

If you can learn to speak your mind, honestly and politely, in the first place, there would have been no reason for you to build your rage to the point where you have to lose it! Sometimes, it isn’t about learning how it be emotionless, it’s more about learning how to express your emotions better. [Read: How to express your feelings and get your point across the right way]

13. Distract yourself momentarily.

We’ve mentioned earlier that people use distractions to stop feeling emotions, and that’s a bad thing. But sometimes, 30 minutes of a healthy distraction can help you calm down and collect your thoughts. Remember, when you’re trying to figure out how to be emotionless, what you really want to know is how to stop feeling the pain of those emotions. So a healthy distraction can be a good escape, as long as you use it wisely.

14. Meditate.

Yoga kicks ass when it comes to controlling your feelings and emotions. Not into yoga? Just sit down anywhere you’re comfortable, set the timer on your phone for 10 minutes, close your eyes and breathe deeply. Literally, that’s all you need to do to start feeling in control again, and lose all the chaotic emotions you feel right now! [Read: 14 really quick stress busters to quickly recharge your mind and feel peace]

15. Don’t give power to unhealthy thoughts.

We’re human, we can think. But that doesn’t mean every thought that passes through your mind is healthy for you. Self-deprecation, self-hate, feeling like a loser, or hating yourself for feeling too emotional – these are the thoughts you don’t ever have to believe in, or give power to. Every time you think something negative about yourself, say something positive using your words to give strength to yourself and your self-belief.

16. Let go of control.

This is very important when learning how to become emotionless. Why do we become emotionless in the first place? It’s because something doesn’t go according to our plans. You imagine a scenario in your mind, and someone else screws it up and destroys your perfectly-built fantasy.

When you try to control your surroundings, or the people in your life, it’s inevitable that you’re going to feel more emotional. You’re depending on others to keep you emotionally stable. How can that work when every human has their own thoughts, desires and there own dreams to follow? Go with the flow, let go of control, and you won’t feel the need to feel emotionless.

[Read: 20 glaring signs you have a control freak in you and need to fix it!]

How to be emotionless in a relationship

Being emotionless in a relationship is just like being emotionless in any other part of your life. You should stop seeking control, stop repressing your feelings, and learn to communicate your feelings openly with each other.

If you feel the need to become emotionless and heartless in a relationship, it only means one thing. There isn’t healthy communication between the two of you. Read this article for 14 tips on how both of you can learn to communicate better with each other.

Try it, and if it doesn’t work, perhaps, the two of you aren’t a good fit.

Learning to be emotionless and heartless vs. Learning to control and understand your emotions

Being emotional is something that some people are born with, but others lack it. If you are someone who admires the person who can walk away without a care in the world, who lacks empathy, and puts themselves first, there are things you can do to cut back on the emotions that you expend. You can stop the energy you put out and the continual roller coaster you find yourself on.

The good news is that although you feel for everyone else, and it can seem like a curse, it isn’t all bad. Feelings are good things, as is being empathetic. If you use your emotional energy in the right way, it can end up making not just everyone else feel good, but also yourself.

If you want to know how to be emotionless, it is all about learning when you should invest and when to shut it out. You can learn to be less emotional and more in control of your feelings while still being the person you were meant to be!

Want to read more about getting your emotions under control? Try these:

Why am I so emotional? Science has the answers you may not expect

The mysterious factors that play a big part in your emotional stability

19 signs of emotional damage and all the ways to get past them

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Resistance Is Not Rejection, Part 1

Resistance is not rejection. Pros know this and calibrate accordingly. Novices think it's the end of their chances with the girl they're talking to.

Hey guys, welcome back!

Last week I discussed how to counter different forms of anxiety regarding “making a move” with girls, whether we’re dealing with:

• Approach anxiety

• Fear of escalating the vibe

• Fear of going for the kill (attempt an extraction)

Some of you have experienced great results through affirmations and other techniques (inner game). Others have conquered anxieties with meeting women by repeatedly exposing themselves to rejection.

I won’t deny that for some, these strategies may work. However, they simply don’t work for me. I’m a practical guy; I want practical solutions to my problems. Whenever I know that I have an answer to any potential difficulty I may face, I feel more comfortable and less anxious about the situation.

It’s from this point of view that I decided to write a two-part series on this subject. Last time we discussed the many causes of resistance and rejection. Being aware and knowing how to avoid these issues will grant you better results and allow you to feel more confident and relaxed since you know you can potentially avoid resistance and rejection.

Resistance may still occur, but with my advice, it can be a lighter form that is less hostile or scary. More importantly, that “lower caliber” resistance (sometimes facing resistance is simply unavoidable) will be easier to deal with.

That alone should make you feel more at ease with making a move (that’s the message from my last post). But what if you could prevent the mistakes that trigger resistance and deal with it whenever it bears its ugly face? What if you could turn resistance around to your benefit?

Would making a move seem scary then? You’d not only know how to prevent resistance (the subject of my last post) but also know to circumvent it and turn things around. There wouldn’t be any lingering fears, or they’d be greatly minimized. Worst-case scenario you’d enjoy the practical benefits of doing things right, which would give you better results.

Today I’ll discuss how you can learn to handle resistance and turn it around, listing the different strategies. I won’t write about anything new here but will share some basics in a new light so newer readers can take the message and get more results. More experienced guys may view this post as a good recap.

How to Know a Guy Has a Big Dick: 18 Signs He’s Big & Well-Endowed

Curious to know if a guy has a big dick even before you see it? Here’s what you need to look for to know if he’s well endowed and has a big package!

As they say, size isn’t everything. But when you’re seeing someone new or are interested in a guy, curiosity can run wild. You can try to ignore it, but your eyes can’t help but take a quick glance downwards at his package when he isn’t looking. And your mind can’t help but wonder if he’s big and well endowed! To put all your doubts to rest, here’s how to know if a guy has a big dick, and know how big he really is down there.

Some women prefer a man who’s a bit smaller and some prefer men who are huge, but if you ever come across a woman who says she’s not interested in what size his package is, she’s lying.

Penis size can factor into how sexually compatible you are, and how you view your mate, so it can definitely be a concern when you’ve started seeing someone new.

[Read: Why are men so obsessed with their penis size? The honest truth]

Does it really matter if a guy has a big dick or a small one?

We all know that size doesn’t really matter to a large extent, but that doesn’t mean we’re not curious. I mean, sometimes you just want to know. When women meet a guy, knowing how to tell if a guy has a big D is one of the first things that goes through our minds.

Maybe we’ll even think about how good the guy would be in bed, or how his dick would feel inside us. But to get there, we think about the dick. It doesn’t mean we like the guy. It’s just a thought that comes to our minds. It’s equivalent to thinking about whether or not you left the stove on. It comes into your head, and it leaves just as quickly. I know it sounds shallow, but men do the same with women. So, I think we can call it even.

Does size really matter though? Well, apparently it does matter according to the Kamasutra! Check out this article on how the penis size matters and the three different size compatibilities for the best sex!

The grower and the shower – The complications of dick measurement

We don’t want to get into the reasons why you want to know how to tell if a guy has a big D. We’ll leave that for another day. But here’s what you should know.

There are two kinds of penises in the world – the growers and the showers. If you want to read more about them, check it out here – Growers vs showers and why you should pick the grower!

What is a shower?

The shower (read: show-er) is a kind of penis that looks big all the time. It makes a guy’s package look bigger, his speedos look fitter and tighter, and makes a girl assume he’s going to get way bigger.

But when he does eventually get hard, he usually just swells up like a toad and the girth increases. His penis doesn’t become any longer, and what you see when he’s flaccid is what you see when he’s hard.

What is a grower?

A grower, on the other hand, is a penis that looks small-to-tiny in normal circumstances. The package may seem smaller than you’d wish when you see him with his pants on. But when he gets aroused, the grower grows… and how! You may be surprised how something that looks so small can become so much bigger.

If you’ve watched any porn and see a guy with a tiny flaccid dick to begin with, and then, as the “show” proceeds, the tiny penis turns into a mega-monster, well, you’ve just watched a grower in action.

[Read: Big dick vs Small dick and why a big package isn’t always better]

What’s the average penis size in the first place?

Well, we need to know the averages before we go looking for a big penis. So here are the basic averages you need to know about:

– The average erect penis is 5.17 inches long.
– The average flaccid penis is 3.61 inches long.
– The average girth of an erect penis is 4.59 inches.
– The average girth of a flaccid penis is 3.67 inches.

Wanna know more about the average penis size, which ethnicities have the largest ones, and other facts about the average penis, check out these average penis facts that’ll make you a penis know-it-all in no time!

Can you tell how big a guy is without seeing him naked?

Before delving in further, you should know there’s no actual way to tell the size of a guy. Sure, you can make assumptions, but unless you see it with your own eyes, you’ll never know.

Every body is different. More importantly, you should also know size doesn’t matter all that much. What it really comes down to is how they use their penis. That’s the secret. But yeah, that’s not helping, is it? You just want to know how big his dick is!

Read: What it’s like really to sleep with a big dick

How to know a guy has a big dick before seeing it

So, how can you tell how big a guy is, without having to get him naked? You don’t want to spend quality time investing in him emotionally, only to have him drop his trousers and be a teeny bit disappointed.

There are ways to find out without sleeping with him, and they could potentially save you from killing the passion of your budding new relationship. It only requires a little bit of snooping.

1. There is no accurate way to tell if he has a big D.

Yeah, I know you may be bummed to read this, but there isn’t a 100% way to tell if a guy has a big package. Of course, there are generalizations, but that’s about it.

Some men look like they’d have a large penis, and they don’t. While some men who may appear to be smaller, end up having larger penises. You just never know!

2. The digit ratio to recognize a big package.

This is a scientific paper published in the Asian Journal of Andrology, based on a study conducted in Korea on a limited group of people. And it did give some conclusive evidence you could still use to get an idea about how big a guy’s package is. Take a look at his ring finger and index finger when it’s placed on a table.

Is the ring finger and index finger almost the same length? The ratio between these two fingers is called the digit ratio. The smaller the difference in length between a guy’s shorter index finger and his ring finger, the bigger the size of his erect penis. It’s tested, and it’s true! *although on a limited audience*

[Read: What is jelqing and how it can help make your penis grow]

3. The way he sits can show his size.

Does he spread his leg while sitting? Okay, let’s be honest, there are many guys who sit with their legs spread as wide as they possibly can even if they’re packing a pencil dick in their shorts.

But if you can sneak a glance when he’s not looking, and see that he’s parted his legs, and his package still seems to spill over, there’s a good chance he’s got something big in his pants.

4. His confidence is huge.

This is probably the most accurate way to tell if a guy has a big penis. Wait, let me rephrase that. It’s the best way to tell he knows what he’s doing. Just because a man has a big penis doesn’t mean the sex will be better. Try to change your perspective and instead, focus on a man’s confidence. Not cockiness – confidence.

[Read: 18 fascinating and unknown facts about the penis]

5. A guy’s personality and his big dick.

If you get the chance to speak with him, what’s his personality like? If he’s a big talker and exaggerating about his accomplishments, then he sounds like a talker. But if he’s a generally humble guy that isn’t obsessed with making comments about his dick, well, then he probably has a big one.

6. Look at his hands before his pants.

Ah yes, you probably know this one. There are thousands of jokes about hands and the size of their penis. This age-old tale is pretty accurate. Though I haven’t slept with every man in the world – my sample size is small. But there are women who believe the secret to knowing if a man has a big penis is in their hands. Big penis = big hands.

If you really want to know if a guy has a big dick without seeing it, one of the things I’ve noticed that is almost always spot on is the correlation between hand size and penis size. It almost never fails! The shape and size of his hands are an indication of how big a guy is, and there’s even science to prove it.

It turns out that when in the womb, the amount of prenatal testosterone that men are exposed to directly controls both the hormone production in hands and penises. Therefore, higher doses of testosterone that lead to bigger hands can lead to other things being big too.

[Read: How to recognize the perfect cock – A woman’s opinion on how your dick measures up]

7. It’s all in the fingers.

Besides the size of his hands, it turns out that the way his fingers are shaped could give you an indication of what to expect. If his fingers are short and stubby, chances are so are his penis.

If they’re long but not very thick, then it suggests that he’s got length but not a lot of girth. There is also research that shows that if a guy has a shorter index finger than ring finger then he is above average, size-wise.

[Read: The 13 types of penises women love… or laugh at]

8. It’s not just about hands – check the feet too.

As with hand size, you can figure out if a guy has a big dick without seeing it, by looking at his feet. It may sound like a cliché, but it has been known to be accurate.

Almost every single man that I’ve dated who has had huge feet has turned out to be well endowed. Every now and again, you find men who have massive feet but not much in the penis department, but it’s quite rare.

[Read: Do women ever get penis envy? The truth revealed!]

9. The bulge can tell you about his Big D.

This is probably the most accurate way to kind of tell if a man has a big D. If he’s sitting down and you see a giant bulge from his crotch area, he’s probably packing. He may even walk a little funny – it’s because of the third leg. Duh. Check out the way he walks and see if you can spot the bulge. [Read: Why are men so obsessed with their penis size?]

10. Where is he from?

Everyone knows that some ethnicities have larger penises than others. This doesn’t mean if he’s from a “small penis” country, he’ll have a small penis. But if he’s from certain places in South America and Africa, the chances are he has a big penis.

It may seem like a stereotype but it’s a valid one, that is backed up with scientific research. It’s been shown that men from certain parts of the world have larger penises, due to their heritage and the genetic makeup of their ancestors. A study found that the Congo and South America are places where men have the largest penises.

The research notes that men with larger penis sizes hail from places like Colombia, the Congo, and Bolivia. Whereas men that hail from places such as Thailand and Korea aren’t as well endowed. Results of this research may not always be the best indication, but it’s still something to keep in mind.

11. Get up close and personal!

If you’re wondering how to tell if a guy has a big D, you can know this when you’re spending time with him. Sometimes if you’re out dancing on a date, or just Netflix and chilling, you may get a bit close and get him a bit excited.

If this does happen, and he’s wearing something that isn’t hugely loose, try and brush past him as you may be able to feel a slight outline of what he has hidden away. An unmistakable erection is one of the best strategies for how to tell how big he is without seeing it!

[Read: How to make a man horny and rock hard just by casually sitting next to him]

12. Beware of the gym hulks!

If you want to know how to tell how big a guy is without seeing it, don’t base it on how muscular or ripped he is. Base it on his natural body type, because any man can pile on muscle with enough hours at the gym to disguise what his true body looks like.

See if you can get hold of an old photo of him before he started getting into lifting weights, to check what he used to look like. Because, if you’re wondering how to tell if a guy has a big D without seeing it, sometimes his current outer appearance can fool you.

On top of this, sometimes super beefy men who practically live at the gym are only sculpting their body to appear more attractive to overcompensate for the parts of their body that they can’t change. Unfortunately, there’s no physical exercise that you can do to increase penis size!

[Read: Weird penis – The freakiest penis behavior that is actually normal]

13. Big nose, big hose?

You know the saying, “big nose, big hose.” Aside from feet, men who have larger noses are known to have bigger penises. Don’t ask me why, I can’t tell you the answer. But if he has a big nose, well, he just might have a big hose.

14. There’s something in his walk.

Sometimes the most obvious sign a guy has a big package is if he walks as if he’s got something big between his legs. Does he have a bit of a bounce in his step? Does he shuffle?

How he walks could be a dead giveaway of what he has concealed, because he’ll move in a certain way to accommodate what he has. Most guys with not much to brag about walk quite casually, as it’s obviously a lot harder to walk easily if you have a third leg that’s always getting in the way!

[Read: 18 fascinating and unknown facts about the penis]

15. Notice how he carries himself.

A lot of guys who are confident and caring are the ones who have the most impressive package. If he’s incredibly passionate, affectionate, or constantly trying to find excuses to brush past you or touch you, then chances are that he knows he has nothing to be worried about.

When a man knows that you’re not going to gasp when he takes off his pants, he acts far more relaxed around you and has no need to not be confident or make up excuses to not be flirtatious around you.

[Read: How to tell if a guy is horny around you – 22 signs he’s horny AF!]

16. Look for the quiet ones.

In my personal experience, I’ve found that a lot of men who are generally quite shy, unassuming, or quiet are the ones who are packing the most. I don’t know why this is, but it’s been accurate almost every time.

Something about a shy man equals a large penis, possibly because he doesn’t feel that he has anything to prove. He knows he’s well endowed, so why bother shouting about it?

[Read: Circumcised vs. Uncircumcised penis – Who makes the sexy cut?]

17. Don’t go for guys that brag the loudest.

Not towards him, run away from him. Listen, he could be telling you the truth and have a big penis. But he probably doesn’t know how to use it. And let me tell you one thing: it’s not going to be good if he doesn’t know what he’s doing. Men with big penises who know how to have sex don’t brag. They just show you.

If he’s constantly going on about how amazing he is in bed, or how big his penis is, or how awesome a person he is, it’s most likely all an act. It seems that if a man is incredibly cocky *excuse the pun* he doesn’t have much going on down below.

This is because he wants to distract from the insecurities he has, and puff up his chest to trick you into thinking he’s some sort of sex god. This classic tactic of overcompensating is not only there to try and fool you into believing it, but to fool himself. Go for a humble, modest guy, and you’ll have better luck if you want to know how big a guy is without seeing it.

18. Make sure he doesn’t have grand delusions.

A man who is constantly exaggerating his accomplishments or abilities is one to be wary of. It’s a dating rule in general to avoid people who tend to lie or overuse hyperbole in all situations.

But it’s also an indication that he may have an over-amplified view of himself. If he’s exaggerating that much about something you can fact check… what else is he exaggerating about that you can’t see?

[Read: When a smaller penis can mean better sex]

Ultimately, there’s no 100% foolproof way to judge how big a guy is until you get up close and intimate, but these tips should help you attempt to unravel the mystery. But remember, at the end of the day, it’s not about size. It’s about how they use it.

[Read: Why do men get random boners? The science behind his untimely erections!]

There you have it – how to know a guy has a big dick without seeing it. But just remember that how big a man is isn’t as important as the connection you have. If he’s not packing much, then chances are he’s packing a hell of an amazing personality. So don’t be discouraged!

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110+ Sexy & Dirty Questions to Ask a Guy & Seduce Him In No Time

Looking for the best sexy, dirty questions to text a guy and make him desire you sexually? Use this, and 100%, you’ll excite and seduce him instantly!

The right kind of dirty, sexy questions to ask a guy can go a long way in building the sexual tension, teasing a guy, or even seducing a guy into making him want you sexually. And the best part, you can be as sexually suggestive or friendly as you’d like, and make him think he’s the one initiating the dirty questions. Wanna know how you can do this? Read on!

How to use these sexy questions to seduce a guy you like

There are different ways to use dirty questions while texting a guy. Is this a guy you like, and you want to seduce him? Or is this someone you’ve been intimate with already? As much as sexy questions may seem generic, and like they’re all the same, they’re very different!

As you read on, we’ve split the article into two sections – you can use the step-by-step 20 sexy questions we have below, to text a guy casually to begin with, and seduce him into talking dirty and desiring you sexually within the next 30 minutes.

And further below, we have shared a list of 90+ sexy questions to ask a guy, if you’ve already been intimate with him and want to get him hard and horny just reading your texts.

Try these texts, and you’ll be surprised to see just how effective they can be in the art of seduction.

The art of dirty questions, texts and building sexual tension

You can always ask these sexy questions face to face, but it’s never as effective or as powerful as using them via texts. In person, there’s awkwardness, fear, stress, anxiety and what-not to get in the way and kill the mood. But if you use these questions while texting a guy, not only are you going to leave him grinning and stiff in his shorts, you’re also going to make him imagine things.

And imagination is a very powerful tool to seduce a guy and make him horny every time he thinks of you and your texts. Time your questions right, and you’ll accomplish your mission of seducing him in no time.

In case you want to seduce a guy and make him horny when you’re hanging out with him, use this guide on how to get a guy horny and hard while casually sitting next to him to arouse a guy discreetly, without making your secret plans obvious at all!

Part 1 – Sexy questions to ask a guy and seduce him

If you two have never sexted each other, and have never been sexually intimate, use these questions to make him think of you sexually. You can ask these questions in person, but I’d suggest you do it via a text.

Text these questions one after the other in the order that’s mentioned here, and there’s a huge chance that both of you would be making out with each other by the time you’re done asking him these questions. Are you ready to put these sexy questions that’ll get him in your bed to the test?

But just to be sure you’ve already build the sexual tension with this guy, use this guide on how to seduce a man who’s not yet yours and build the sexual tension with him to make sure he’s craving for you already!

The right kind of dirty questions to seduce a guy

There are many kinds of sexy questions you can ask a guy.

But if you want to turn him on, in no time, you have to remember to start off by warming him up and eventually getting more personal and intimate with each passing question.

Ask questions to which you already know the answers to. But hear it from him.

Don’t make it seem like you’re the only one asking all the dirty questions. By using these questions, you’ll make his answers get more and more naughty with each passing question, so it’ll always seem like he’s the one making all the moves.

Be subtle in your questions, at least at the beginning and get dirtier with each question you ask. And always remember this, avoid asking him questions that make him focus on anything other than you once you’re halfway past these questions.

Text him when you know he’s all alone and has no plans for the night. Your focus is to seduce him into sleeping with you without ever appearing like the desperate one. Trust us, stick to these 20 step-by-step questions and we assure you, he’ll be in your bed before the night is over!

[Read: How to turn a guy on without touching him – A guide to get him to fantasize about you]

The 20 naughty questions to make him come to you all hot and horny

Start off by texting something casual and try to figure out if he’s lazing and has the time to text you for an hour or so without any interruptions. These 20 questions are open ended questions and he’ll ask you for your answers all the while too. Play coy, but let him know you’re enjoying the texts when you respond to him. And you’ll be able to work your magic and seduce him in an hour’s time with these 20 texts!

#1 Hey, I’m curious, do you ever check me out when I walk away from you? *curious and casual*

#2 Have you ever hooked up with a friend? *to get his mind thinking of hookups*

#3 Do you think you’re a good kisser? [Read: How to kiss a friend accidentally and get away with it]

#4 Has anyone ever accidentally seen you naked? *funny, but with a naughty twist*

#5 Have you ever felt like flashing to someone? *you’re probably turning him on*

#6 What are you wearing right now? *harmless…*

#7 What’s the sexiest outfit a girl should wear to turn you on? *know his fantasies*

#8 What kind of outfit would look best on me? *make him think of you sexually*

#9 Would you help me pick that outfit if I asked you to? *who wouldn’t?!*

#10 What’s your favorite part of a girl’s body? *he’s going to think of you naked*

#11 Which part of my body do you think looks the best? *make him say it!*

#12 What do you wear when you go to bed? *a minor distraction so he asks you the same thing*

#13 When was the last time a girl was in your bed? *you want him to ask the same thing back*

#14 What’s your idea of good foreplay? *he’s talking dirty already*

#15 What’s your favorite sexual fantasy? *you’re arousing him*

#16 Do you think we’d do something funny if we get drunk together? *funny, but oh-so-horny now*

#17 Have you ever sexted your picture to anyone? *if you share pics here, crop out your face*

#18 Have you ever felt horny while texting on the phone? *like now?!*

#19 If I were with you right now, what would you do to me? *he’s fantasizing about all the things he can do to you*

#20 Do you wanna come over to my place now? *and… he’s on his way!*

Try it!

Don’t think these 20 sexy questions to ask a guy can get him into bed with you before the end of the text conversation? Try it, you’ll be surprised. Just remember to avoid trying to sound funny, focus on feeling sexy and let him know that you’re horny!

[Read: How to get a guy to sleep with you and woo him without being slutty]

Part 2 – Dirty questions to ask a guy you’ve hooked up with

Whether you’ve just a met a new guy or are looking to spice things up in a relationship, these dirty questions will make any man hot, hot, HOT!

It’s great to add a little something different into the bedroom from time to time, and asking seriously dirty questions to get your man all hot and bothered is certainly one way to do it! These 90 questions are sexy, seductive, and downright dirty and may even help you discover more about each other. They are the perfect way to build up explosive sexual tension and get him thinking about you all day long.

90 sexy, dirty questions to ask a guy and make him want more

Whether you want to take it slow and simply try out some subtle flirting when he is not with you, or if you want to be more direct in the bedroom, there are questions that will suit every girl’s needs.

You can text some of these questions to him when he is at work to get him feeling horny at his desk and counting down the minutes until he gets home. Some are good if you are apart from each other a lot or have a long-distance relationship. Others are perfect to whisper in his ear when you are about to get down and dirty! But hey, why not take a stab at trying them all out?

#1 When is the last time you dreamt about me naked?

#2 What looks hotter on me, short skirts or short shorts? [Read: How to look sexy without trying to look sexy]

#3 Can you tell what color underwear I have on today?

#4 What’s the dirtiest thing you’ve done in bed?

#5 What’s the naughtiest thing you’ve done in your life?

#6 What is your sexiest fantasy? [Read: The top 50 kinky sex ideas for a lust-fueled relationship]

#7 Do you want to be inside me right now?

#8 Which part of your body do you want me to touch?

#9 Which part of your body do you want me to lick? [Read: How to master the art of the perfect blowjob]

#10 Which part of your body do you want me to nibble?

#11 What shall I do with all this leftover whipped cream?

#12 Have you ever been caught having sex?

#13 Have you ever been caught masturbating?

#14 Do you want to watch me masturbate? [Read: The 15 sexy benefits of masturbation]

#15 Have you used any sex toys before?

#16 Do you want to use a sex toy on me?

#17 Do you prefer oral, vaginal, or anal sex?

#18 Do you want to try anal sex? [Read: The dirty truth: Is it possible to have an anal orgasm?]

#19 Want me to shave my pussy?

#20 Would you help me shave my pussy? [Read: Trim, shave, or natural: The real score on the bush]

#21 What’s your favorite sexual position?

#22 Can you guess what I’m wearing right now?

#23 If you could sleep with a celebrity, who would it be?

#24 Would you get jealous if you saw me flirting with another guy? [Read: How to make a guy jealous and get his attention]

#25 How would you feel if I kissed a hot girl?

#26 Have you ever considered a threesome?

#27 What’s the hottest thing I’ve ever done to you?

#28 Where is the most exciting place you’ve had sex? [Read: The best places to have sex – 41 wild and naughty places beyond the bed]

#29 Are you a boobs or a butt kind of guy? [Read: Why do guys like breasts like crazy?]

#30 Do you want me to talk dirty right now?

#31 Do you like what I am doing?

#32 Do you want me to go faster?

#33 Do you want me to slow down?

#34 What do you want me to do to you?

#35 Have you ever disturbed the neighbors because you were having really loud sex? [Read: How to moan & look and sound even more sexy in bed]

#36 Have you ever done it outside?

#37 What’s the sexiest book you’ve ever read?

#38 What’s the sexiest film you’ve ever seen?

#39 Do you want to watch some porn together?

#40 Do you like the idea of someone watching us have sex?

#41 Do you like the idea of tying me up?

#42 Do you like the idea of being tied up by me?

#43 Do you want to try rough sex? [Read: 15 ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever]

#44 Do you want me to be dominant?

#45 Do you want to suck my toes?

#46 Have you ever been to a strip club?

#47 How many fingers could you get inside me? [Read: Sexual exploration: Ever heard of the finger blowjob?]

#48 Do you want to go skinny-dipping?

#49 What’s your favorite part of my body?

#50 Do you feel horny right now?

#51 Do you check me out when I leave the room?

#51 What’s the sexiest outfit on a girl?

#52 Do you think I am a good kisser? [Read: 12 foolproof kissing tips for a perfectly sexy smooch]

#53 Do you think you are a good kisser?

#54 Where would you like me to kiss you the most?

#55 Where do you want me to kiss you the most?

#56 Has anyone ever accidentally seen you naked?

#57 Have you ever slept with more than one person in the same night? [Read: Is he a player or a gentleman? 13 clear giveaways]

#58 How do you feel about group sex?

#59 Would it turn you on to see me making out with someone else?

#60 If I were to dress up like a nurse or a naughty schoolgirl, which would you prefer?

#61 Do you want to have phone sex with me?

#62 Do you want to have FaceTime sex with me?

#63 What outfit do you think would look best on me?

#64 Want to play a game?

#65 Want to get really drunk and have sex all night long?

#66 What’s the longest you’ve lasted during sex? [Read: 15 things you do that turn him off while having sex!]

#67 What’s the most mind-blowing orgasm you’ve ever had?

#68 How many times have you had sex in one night?

#69 When did I look the hottest to you and why?

#70 What is your favorite underwear on me?

#71 Do you like this outfit?

#72 Do you want to get wild in bed tonight? [Read: 9 wild ways to have sex in the shower and enjoy it!]

#73 If you could do absolutely anything to me in the bedroom, what would it be?

#74 Do you prefer it fast or slow?

#75 Do you want me to call out your name in bed?

#76 Have you ever had multiple orgasms? [Read: How to push the right buttons to achieve multiple orgasms]

#77 Have you ever given a girl multiple orgasms?

#78 Want to try this new sex position later?

#79 I’m thinking about you naked right now, are you thinking about me?

#80 Do you want to rip my clothes off right now?

#81 What are you going to do to me when you get home tonight?

#82 I’ve been a very naughty girl, how are you going to punish me? [Read: 6 naughty ways to tease your man and leave him hard]

#83 Which female superhero would you have sex with and why?

#84 Want me to dress up as a superhero?

#85 Do you want to stay in bed all day together?

#86 I’m getting in the shower now, want to join me? [Read: Slippery when wet: Make shower sex sizzle with these tips]

#87 Do you want to have a bath together later?

#89 I’m so horny right now, what are you going to do about it?

#90 I’m cold, wanna warm me up? [Read: 20 hot sex ideas to blow your lover’s mind in bed]

These awesome sexy and dirty questions to ask a guy are sure to have any guy worked up and ready to tear your clothes off! So if you feel like you could add a little “ooh la la“ to your sex life, then why not try them out and see how well they work?

Are you looking for more sexy and naughty questions to ask a guy or text him? Try these:

60 dirty and sexy things to say to a guy + the magic art of dirty talking to impress him

30 hot texts that’ll turn him on and leave him obscenely horny 

How to tell if a guy is turned on – 22 horny signs he aroused AF!

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300+ Most Romantic Text Messages for Her that’ll Make Her Melt

There are no better ways to express your love for a girl that than by using the most romantic text messages for her, and let her know how special she is.

If you’re not really the romantic type and need a little help telling your lady how you feel, these romantic text messages for her will help in expressing yourself, make her feel more loved, and feel like the luckiest girl in the world to have a wonderful guy like you in her life!

Why is it important to be romantic in a relationship

Romance is really important in a relationship. No matter what anyone else says about it not being that big of a deal, it is. Even if your girl says she’s not into the “romantic things,” you still have to bring a level of romance to the relationship in order to show her that you care about her.

For those of you who aren’t the best at this, because let’s be real, many people aren’t, there is hope. Sometimes all you need to have some romance is a single text message a day with a cute message that she’ll love reading. That may just be what you need to spice things up.

The need for romantic gestures in love

Although I’ve just explained that romance is crucial for a happy and healthy relationship, there will be those of you still arguing with that point. Well, I’ll just explain why it is you should implement romantic gestures in your relationship.

It shows that you care about them in an intimate way. Many people often get used to their relationships and forget to do this. Doing so can lead to insecurities, jealousy, and even the other person not being happy with you. Adding some romantic text messages for her to the equation can fix those issues. [Read: 50 flirty text messages that are sure to make her smile]

The best kind of romantic text messages for her

There are different kinds of romantic texts you can use. And luckily for you, we have the best romantic texts for her, for literally every emotion and circumstance.

To make it easier for you, we’ve split these romantic texts into different occasions and reasons in the links below. Pick the romantic texts you like, and send her a cute text message, maybe even one every morning. You know what they say, nothing beats receiving a sweet, romantic message from their lover first thing in the morning, when someone wakes up. [Read: 20 reasons why a good morning text is the most important part of expressing love]

Click on a link that’s appropriate for you right now, or just pick one romantic text from the huge list below.

50 good morning texts to send your girlfriend and start her day with a smile

100 sweet things to say to your girl to make her heart soar when you aren’t around

20 super sweet things to text and girl and make her go awwww

50 very naughty text messages that’ll make her wet and wild for you

20 swoon worthy romantic phrases that sound like they’re straight out of a romance novel

Want more of them? Just read on below, and take your pick from this list of romantic texts for her!

The best romantic text messages to make a girl smile as soon as she sees your text

All of us know that romance and romantic words are the best ways to express your love. That all being said, being romantic isn’t easy for everyone. While some people may be able to woo a girl with just a few words on their own, others may need outside help in order to bring the romance and be cute toward their girl.

If you’re the latter, we’re here to help. Here are some romantic text messages for her that she’ll love to see pop up on her phone. Just remember to personalize them a little bit when necessary so she knows that you really mean the things you’re saying to her.

#1 Good morning, beautiful.

#2 Waking up with you is my favorite part of the day.

#3 Thinking about you. I hope you’re having a great day.

#4 The sound of your laugh is my favorite thing.

#5 I can’t wait to be back by your side.

#6 There’s nothing I want more right now than to see your smile.

#7 If I could, I would send you a kiss through the phone.

#8 I just wanted to tell you how happy I am that you’re mine.

#9 I usually don’t get attached too easily, but that changed when I met you.

#10 Meeting you changed my entire life for the better.

[Read: 25 funny things to text a girl and laugh your way into her heart]

#11 I can’t wait to see what our future holds together.

#12 I want to be by your side, going through life with you, forever.

#13 There’s nothing that makes me more excited than a future with you.

#14 Together, we can get through anything. Just remember that.

#15 I love you. That’s the best way to describe how I feel about you.

#16 You are by far my favorite hello and the worst good bye.

#17 I never want to know a life without you in it.

#18 I never thought I could care about someone as much as I care about you.

#19 You’re on my mind every minute of every day.

#20 I can’t stop thinking about how amazing of a woman you are.

[Read: The 25 sweetest romantic gestures for everyday life]

#21 Your determination makes me proud to call you mine.

#22 The sound of your voice has the power to make my entire day better.

#23 My life has never been as good as it is with you.

#24 I miss you, and wish I could be with you right now.

#25 No distance is far enough to ruin what we have.

#26 I never knew life could be this good, and I’m glad you’re the reason for it.

#27 I would climb a thousand mountains and swim across the sea just to see you smile.

#28 I’m glad I wished on that shooting star so long ago because it gave me you, the girl of my dreams.

#29 Your beauty – inside and out – still astonishes me.

#30 You were the piece of my life I was desperately missing.

[Read: 18 casual things to text a girl and leave her addicted to you]

#31 To you, I may just be one person. But to me, you’re the world.

#32 Your happiness is far more important to me than even my own.

#33 Someday, I hope to hold your wrinkled hand and look into your wrinkled eyes and say, “we did it.”

#34 I love how you bring out the very best in me.

#35 I’ve never felt this way about anyone in my whole life.

#36 I love how I can just be myself around you and know you’ll never judge me.

#37 You know, as much as I love when you get dolled up, I love when you’re makeup-free and relaxed-looking just as much – if not more.

#38 You blow me away with your kindness and ambition.

#39 Even after all this time, I still get butterflies when I see you.

#40 There’s nothing that makes me happier than when I am with you.

[Read: Are you texting her too much? The little clues girls give when they think you’re a clingy texter]

#41 Could you stop being so amazing? You’re blowing my mind!

#42 If you got any more perfect, I wouldn’t be able to comprehend it.

#43 I may not be a super hero, but I’ll always protect you.

#44 I hate when you’re upset because I can’t stand seeing you that way.

#45 When life gets hard for me, I just remember that I have you in my life and I automatically feel better.

[Read: What to text a girl – The dos, don’ts and all the secrets to know]

#46 You inspire me to be the best person I can be, and I can’t thank you enough for that.

#47 Thank you for just being who you are.

#48 You are truly the light of my life, and when I get stuck in the darkness, you always bring me back.

#49 There are so many things I could say about how much I care about you, but the only thing that really gets the message across is this: I never want to be without you.

#50 Together is where we belong, and I can’t imagine it any other way.

[Read: How often should you text a girl? 17 must-know rules of texting]

BONUS Texts! 80 more utterly romantic things to say to your girlfriend over a text – For different stages of your relationship

Just remember, personalization is the key to making her feel loved and special. Don’t forget that less is more, and even the smallest romantic text messages for her will make your girl happy.

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25 Sure Signs She’s Serious About You & Wants a Real Relationship

Is she ready to commit? If you’re looking for signs she’s serious about you and wants a relationship with you, here are the signs you need to look for.

You’ve casually dated for a while, and you’re ready to take the relationship to the next level. Do you see the signs she’s serious about you or the signs she wants a relationship with you? Maybe you’re both friends or you’ve started seeing each other, but how can you tell for sure if she’s serious about you, and is looking to commit to a real relationship? Well, here’s how!

You may really like her and want something more, but you’re not the only one involved in the relationship. That’s right, what about her? Is she exhibiting the signs she’s ready for a relationship or are there red flags?

We’re only human. Naturally, we’re pretty selfish when it comes to love. We want to be with someone who makes us happy. Sure, there comes a time when we wonder about how the other person feels, but that’s only because we want them to like us.

On the other hand, if you think she’s not so serious just yet, check out these signs she’s definitely not ready to get serious with you right now to read her mind like a book!

How to know if she’s serious about you

When two people like each other, things can get a little tricky. It should be very straightforward, but let’s be honest, it’s never easy when it comes to people. Instead, you navigate the signs she wants a serious relationship with you to see what’s up.

I wish it could be an “I like you, you like me, let’s be together” type of deal, but most of the time, we’re trying to decode each other’s actions and words to see where we stand. Maybe this girl is a close friend of yours, or you have been casually seeing each other. You’re not sure if she’s looking for something serious or not.

Now, you could just ask her. It would save you a lot of time and energy. But there’s also the fear of moving too fast, or talking about exclusivity when you’re just in the talking stage, which can come off as pushy if she’s not really ready for a serious relationship.

[Read: Talking stage vs Dating stage – How to tell them apart and know your exact stage]

Can you tell if she’s really ready for a relationship with you?

No one wants to pour their heart out and get turned down. We’ve all seen it happen, and it really traumatizes people. So, before you ask her if she’s ready for a relationship with you, why not try to look at the signs she’s serious about you to understand her better.

The signs? Yes, the signs. She’s showing you what she wants; you just need to see it. Of course, there is a small possibility that she may show positive signs she wants a relationship, and then change her mind. And it can happen. But let’s assume whatever she’s showing you is what she wants. Check out why a girl may suddenly lose interest and what you did to cause it to know more about that.

If you’re wondering whether she wants a relationship with you, make a move regardless. It’s best to figure out what she wants now rather than later. The signs she wants a serious relationship with you are always there, but do you see them?

25 sign she wants a relationship and is serious about you

You may be ready, but if she’s not ready, then your relationship won’t last. Both people need to be equally ready and committed to it. Before you even ask her if she wants to be serious with you, she should figure out if she actually wants more.

Waiting for an answer can be hard, and that’s why you need to be looking for the signs she’s serious about you and wants a relationship. This helps you get a better picture of what she wants and whether or not you should invest more of your time and energy into her.

So, let’s get started and see what the signs she’s ready for a relationship are. It would be good to know, right?

[Read: What does it mean to be exclusive? 15 signs you’re at this stage with her]

1. She’s dropping hints or made it clear already.

If she’s told you she’s ready for a relationship and wants to be with you, what are you waiting for? You can’t get a bigger and better sign she’s serious about you than this one! If she tells you, then she’s giving you the green light and telling you she really likes you. This is good news!

[Read: How to ask a girl to be your girlfriend – And really impress her!]

2. She’s behaving differently.

There’s just something you feel deep inside of you when you’re around her. You notice she’s acting closer, and making you feel her feelings have become more serious. These are feelings that you can’t necessarily put words to. You just feel that she really likes you and wants something more.

3. She’s opened up to you.

People don’t open up to just anyone they meet. There needs to be a certain level of trust. Of course, just because someone trusts you, doesn’t mean they want something serious with you.

She could see you as a good friend. But if she’s opening up to you, she’s letting her guard down. If other signs she wants a relationship with you are also popping out, then this could mean she wants something more.

4. What’s your baggage?

She wants to know what kind of baggage you’re carrying with you. Why would she want to know that if she wasn’t into you? Of course, if she’s sniffing around and trying to investigate your past, she wants to know what kind of partner you’ll be to her.

[Read: How to be an amazing boyfriend – 33 traits that’ll make you the best ever!]

5. Her memories.

Past relationships can be quite traumatic and many people would rather relegate these memories to the back of their minds. If she’s willing to bring these memories up, she wants to be vulnerable with you. This is a sign of trust, but she’s also showing you how she doesn’t want to be treated.

6. What kind of subtle commitments are you seeing?

She’ll sleep over at your house, leave her stuff there, and always have a date night with you. These aren’t big moves, but when you really look at them, she’s making commitments to the relationship. That really shows she’s into having something serious with you.

7. She taps into your emotions.

Now, even though men are emotional, they’re not very expressive. This is normal. Of course, work on this, but she’s always trying her best to tap into your emotions.

When you’re upset, she focuses on figuring out what’s wrong and what she can do to make you feel better. And when she’s jealous, well, she makes sure you know. [Read: How to interpret the subtle signs she wants to be your girlfriend]

8. She wants to meet your family.

Now, we both know that meeting the parents is no small move. If she’s excited and interested in meeting your family, that’s a great sign. She wants to know where you’re coming from and who your closest people are. Why? Because she wants to know if she’ll fit in the picture.

9. She invites you to meet her family.

Has she introduced you to her family yet? This is a big move. Make sure you’re ready! She wants to show you off to her family and see if they approve of you before taking the next step. [Read: Meeting your girlfriend’s parents – 21 big dos and don’ts]

10. She tells you she’s scared.

She’s scared to be in a relationship and she’s not the only girl who has fears. If she’s had a rough dating past, the last thing she wants is to be heartbroken again. By telling you she’s worried, she lets you know that she wants to move forward but needs that extra push.

11. She spends her extra time with you.

Nowadays, we’re all busy. Whether school or work, no one has much spare time anymore, but when she does have free time, she usually spends it with you. It’s clear she makes you a priority. If you’re spending Friday and Saturday nights with someone, you probably like them.

Let’s get this straight, if she wasn’t into you, she wouldn’t be spending her time with you. It’s really that simple. She wouldn’t be spending any time with you. But if she’s making time to see you, then this is something to take into consideration. Her time is valuable, and she’s not going to waste it on someone she doesn’t like. So if you’re looking for sure signs she wants a relationship with you, this is a big one to focus on.

12. You sense that touch.

Okay, this doesn’t mean she’s jumping on you and ripping your clothes off. It should be her touching your arm when she laughs or hugging you. These aren’t huge gestures, but they do show a physical connection. Touch is an important part of intimacy, and if she’s touching you frequently, she’s trying to get closer to you.

This doesn’t mean you should be overly touchy back, but this does mean she’s interested in you. In general, we don’t touch people we don’t like. If she touches you on the arm while laughing, fixes your shirt or hair, these small gestures mean something intimate. [Read: 15 subtle body language cues a girl gives away if she’s falling hard for you]

13. She remembers the small things.

You know, when we’re trying to figure how someone feels about us, we always try to look for big signs. But those aren’t the signs you should be paying attention to. It’s all about the small things she does. If she remembers the smallest details, things you enjoy watching on TV or your favorite flavor of chips, that’s a big deal.

You mentioned your favorite band or artist months ago, and she remembered for your birthday. See, these small details are important. If you don’t like someone, you easily forget these details. If she is genuinely interested and she wants a relationship with you, these are the details she’d want to use to make you happy.

14. She got rid of her dating apps.

Well, this is a big one. If she deleted her dating app, she’s not joking around. Deleting a dating app is basically showing she’s not interested in meeting anyone else. She doesn’t want to hunt for another date, she found someone who could potentially make her happy. Hint: that’s you.

15. She’s honest with you.

When you ask her a question, she tells you her honest opinion. No lies, because she wants you to trust her. When a girl is open and honest with you, she values and trusts you as a person. Not many men get this side of her. [Read: What a woman is really telling you when she pulls away]

16. She really listens.

There are times when we’re listening to someone talk, but not really listening. But when you’re with her, she really listens. And that says a lot about how she feels about you. If she didn’t care, she wouldn’t be paying so much attention to you.

When it comes to relationships, most of the time we’re talking to ourselves and not really listening to each other. When you really like someone, you focus on what they have to say because you respect their opinion.

17. She really looks at you.

She doesn’t look at you the way she looks at other guys. When she looks at you, she looks directly in your eyes and maintains eye contact. This gesture is usually underrated; however, most communication is non-verbal. Which means eye contact is essential for understanding the feelings of someone else. [Read: 20 very sweet ways to make your girlfriend really happy to date you]

18. She talks about her issues with you.

Maybe there’s something about you and her that is an issue for her. But instead of letting it slide, she confronts you on it. And if she does that, she’s interested in improving your relationship, which means a lot. She wants to make this relationship the best it can be.

19. She teases you.

She’s not being mean, but she loves to tease you. This is a common sign she wants a relationship with you. Teasing is a form of flirting, and we all know when someone is flirting, it’s because they like the other person. She may also be teasing you to try to hide her feelings.

20. She puts you on her social media.

When it comes to social media, she’s not going to put photos of a guy up if she’s not serious about him. If she did, it would cancel out all the other guys that she could possibly connect with. So, she’s not going to jeopardize herself unless she’s really into you. [Read: How to show off your girlfriend on social media in a way she’ll love!]

21. You’ve met each other’s loved ones.

Have you met her family and close friends already? Has she met your friends and family? If so, it’s a pretty big deal. This may have happened accidentally, or after some serious planning. But if you’ve met all of her closest friends, and she’s done the same, it’s a very good sign she wants a relationship with you even if you don’t see it just yet.

22. She spends important holidays with you.

Whether it’s Christmas or Thanksgiving, she’ll make sure to spend those holidays with you. She’ll even spend the holidays with your family or invite you to her home. Either way, this is a huge sign she’s serious about you as she’s letting you into her inner circle.

23. She drops hints about the future.

Oh, she is dropping some crazy hints to you, and maybe you see them or maybe not. But if she mentions traveling with you in the summer or going to her nephew’s birthday in a couple of weeks, she’s trying to make things more serious.

No girl will discuss the future unless she sees a future. If she’s making plans with you months in advance, well, she pictures you being in her life. This is a really good sign she wants a relationship and she’s serious about you, as she already envisions you as someone important and special. [Read: 16 signs she is falling in love with you and wants something serious]

24. She’s not interested in dating anyone.

Okay, so she’s probably deleted her dating apps already, and that’s a good sign. But what about dates? Is she meeting her ex, or still talking to that guy she was in a no strings attached relationship with?

If she’s ended all her relationships with everyone else, removed any dating apps she had on her phone, and isn’t going on dates with other people, you’ve got a serious sign she wants a relationship with you. If someone does that, they’re transitioning into a very exclusive relationship with you. If she wasn’t sure about you, she would continue dating other people.

25. She makes you a priority.

She used to see you only when she had time, but now things have changed. She’ll cancel plans or switch them around if it means she gets some extra time alone with you. That’s a pretty big deal. Once you’ve become a priority in someone’s life, they see you as someone important.

[Read: The real reasons she’s not emotionally ready for a relationship]

Knowing the signs she wants a relationship with you, or not, will definitely relieve your second thoughts. After looking at the signs she’s serious about you, what do you think? Now it’s time for you to decide what you want from the relationship.

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How to Get a Girl That’s Out of Your League: 15 Ways to Impress Her

You can learn how to get a girl that’s out of your league. Just because time stops when she walks in the room, doesn’t mean she’s too good for you.

She’s the girl of everyone’s dreams. She’s the one who makes angels sing and pluck their harps as she moves. Her every step, her every move, seems perfectly cultivated by the Gods. She’s the one who has every guy worshiping the ground she walks on. She’s the girl of your dreams which essentially means she’s out of your league.

Until now, you probably thought there is no way you could get a girl that’s out of your league. With so many guys drooling over her, you’re already imagining the rejection. In your mind, she is the queen, but she doesn’t even know you exist. So, why even bother?

Why risk your feelings and put the effort in when there’s no chance? Other than your anxieties, who says there’s no chance? Just take Shrek, for example… Spoiler alert: Fiona chose an actual ogre, and she was was way out of his league. If Shrek can pull that off, you have a chance.

[Read: How to be attractive to women and be a cut above all other men]

Give it a shot

Don’t give up! You have a shot at dating her! You really do. I won’t tell you it’s a sure thing, but it is worth a shot. Just because you may not be Harry Styles in the looks department or Paul Rudd in the comedy department, doesn’t mean dating her is completely out of the question.

Just look at more than half of the most gorgeous women in Hollywood and their husbands. These are uneven playing fields, but when it works it works.

You don’t need to be or even look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney to know how to get a girl that’s out of your league. What you need is the confidence of the sexiest guys in Hollywood. Seriously, with just a change of attitude, even the girl of your dreams could consider you to be her Chris Evans.

[Read: 33 traits of a great boyfriend that’ll make a guy the best ever!]

How to get a girl that’s out of your league – The first step

Before we give you a list of things to do and try in order to get a girl that’s out of your league, there is something you must do. Whether you want to get your dream girl or any girl who is out of your league, you’ll need to work on your confidence.

And this is not about faking it until you make it. You really need to have the confidence of the guy that makes you feel inferior. Don’t be cocky, be sure of yourself. You need to know that you are a catch. And you really need to believe it. [Read: The subtle differences between a cocky man and an arrogant man every guy must know]

If you worship the ground she walks on and act shocked when she knows your name, it will only encourage her to view you as you view yourself, unworthy.

Believe in yourself if you want a girl that’s out of your league

If you don’t believe you deserve a girl as wonderful as her, you won’t.

I don’t want to consider myself as a girl who is out of anyone’s league but when I was dating, it was really hard to like a guy who clearly didn’t like himself. It is nice to get compliments from her but she shouldn’t have to reassure you that you are good enough for her.

When I had guys asking if they were bothering me when they texted, I found that bothersome. I didn’t originally think they weren’t good enough for me because they were funny or clever or smart, but when they felt like I was too good for them, it made me feel uncomfortable. [Read: The 20 life hacks you can use to feel super-confident in no time]

I felt like they put me on a pedestal because they didn’t find themselves to be good enough for me. It is hard to have that all put on you. You don’t want her to have to boost your ego or make you feel good enough.

If you know you’re a catch, she will see that confidence in you and that is the first step in how to get a girl that’s out of your league.

Why is she out of your league?

The whole idea of someone being out of your league is shallow and stale, but for the sake of the phrase, let’s go with it. You think she’s out of your league? Why?

What makes her so amazing? Is she better than you? Really think about it.

It’s like trying to date a celebrity. You would never even go for it because they are just on another level. But, are they? They are just a regular person, as is this girl you so desire.

You may have built her up in your mind, but is she really so indescribable? Try to view her as a person. Sure, she may be gorgeous, but she is just a person at the end of the day. [Read: How to know your league in dating terms and focus on what truly matters]

Yes, girls like compliments, but we also like being treated with respect. If you think of her and treat her as an equal, she will appreciate that so much for than you drooling over her.

Stop thinking of her as being out of your league and instead, level your playing field.

Does her beauty outweigh your intelligence or sense of humor? If she is a surgeon and as beautiful as a model, that doesn’t mean she is some magical creator. It means she is someone who can share an intellectual conversation with you and is enjoyable to look at.

That doesn’t change who she is as a person, nor does it make her any more worthy of happiness or love.

Instead of boggling your mind trying to figure out how to get a girl that’s out of your league, try to stop thinking of her that way. [Read: The 14 secrets of self-worth and self-belief to start respecting yourself]

How to get a girl that’s out of your league

If you feel like your chances with her are slim, instead of giving up, try something new. Learning how to get a girl that’s out of your league isn’t about tricks or manipulation, but about changing your perspective.

#1 Have the right reasons.

At first, you have to ask yourself why you want to date her in the first place. You can’t just choose to want to be with someone based on how she looks, right? That would be pretty shallow. And you probably shouldn’t be trying to go out with her if you’re just looking to use her for your social status or to make an ex jealous, because that would just be mean.

Instead, you have to have at least some knowledge about who she is before you decide to date her. Is there more to her than her looks? Does she have common interests with you? Is she the type of girl that you can see yourself dating even if she didn’t look like a literal angel? If you can see past her looks and still want to date her, then move on to the next steps. [Read: Why is inner beauty far more important than outer beauty?]

#2 Be a gentleman.

Being the bad boy who jerks women around won’t get you anywhere with her, or any other girl for that matter. Some guys say good guys finish last, but those guys really aren’t so good. It’s being a gentleman that will get you noticed. And you can’t just be a gentleman around her. You need to genuinely be a good guy.

You should treat your coworkers and employees with respect, help elder ladies across the street, and help your neighbor unload their groceries.

Showing her that you’re a nice guy who respects people will instantly give you points. When it comes to a girl that’s out of your league, showing her that hanging out with you means she won’t be hanging out with a douche bag who just wants to get in her pants is key. [Read: 15 ways to be a gentleman and win her over with your charm]

#3 Have a sense of humor.

Looks fade, yes, even hers. But a sense of humor sticks around for the long haul. My parents are going on 35 years together, and what keeps their marriage strong? Laughter.

Women in general are suckers for guys who can make them laugh. But, when a girl is out of your league, laughter is more than just the best medicine. It’s the social panacea that can get you closer to tons of other people. Being a guy with a sense of humor not only means you’re a fun guy to hang out with, but it also shows people that you’re quick enough with your wits to come up with something amusing to say.

Just a word of advice on the humor: don’t make a joke at someone’s expense. It’s rude, and it paints you in bad light, especially if you’re talking to the girl you want to date. If you think the only way you can come up with something funny is by making fun of someone else, skip the humor lest you start offending people and turning her off. [Read: The right way to be funny and make people love your company]

#4 Be around.

We’re not saying you should lurk in the shadows, because that would be creepy. By being around, we mean you should be within her periphery whenever it matters. If the girl is a friend of your friend, convince your pal to invite you whenever she’ll be around. If she’s an office mate, sync your coffee breaks often enough to make you a familiar face.

Plus, you may feel that she is out of your league, but hanging out with her and her friends will not just bring you to that same league, but maybe even the same team.

Being around her, even in a platonic or casual sense will ease your nerves. The more time you spend with her, even in a group setting, will help you feel more at ease and comfortable. This will also do the same for her. Just this simple level of familiarity will help you pass the awkwardness and find things to talk about.

Once you get past the small talk, then you can move on to a real conversation, and maybe even a request for a night out together. [Read: 30 ways to get the perfect conversation going with a girl who’s intimidates you]

#5 Be confident, but not arrogant.

I know, I know. We already discussed confidence, but this is a big one. A girl who knows she’s hot also knows that she can be intimidating. Odds are, she has guys hitting on her all the time. This may sound nice, but it can be a lot to handle.

When guys drool over her, it can come with a lot of pressure to maintain this level of perfection. If you view her as an equal rather than this unattainable beauty, it will put her at ease.

You won’t get struck by lightning whenever you try to talk to her. Smile and try to relax when you’re talking to her. Talk about things you are knowledgeable about so you aren’t reaching for something to say. She’s more likely to pay attention to you, and maybe even like you, if she can see that you’re not intimidated. [Read: 16 ways to build your confidence and impress the girl you like]

#6 Show off.

Okay, no one likes a show-off, but giving her a glimpse into your skillset lets her know you are capable. What you think you lack in looks can be more than made up for in talent. Take her to the batting cages, help her with her computer, or even show her some of your photography.

You can show her what you’re good at and hope that it piques her interest. As a girl, seeing a guy who is good at something and takes pride in that is really very sexy. She might show admiration for your talent, if you just find a way to make her notice. [Read: The Prince Charming traits that still charm and make women swoon today!]

#7 Find her soft spot.

Women have soft spots for all sorts of things, from sweets to puppies, and more. Once you know more about her, you can find out what she’s really into. Don’t assume all girls are the same and are lured in by cute babies. Some girls will prefer snakes to kittens and tattoos over nice watches.

If she is a sucker for Starbucks, pick up her favorite drink for her. If she loves cats, send her some cute kitty memes. Maybe she loves music, talk to her about this new band you heard of. Also just ask her about these things. A great place to start is animals. If she has a pet ask about them, she will love that you want to hear more. [Read: 12 things girls absolutely love to talk about]

#8 Focus on her mind.

As I said, the girls who you think are out of your league are most likely already aware of how gorgeous they are. She will most likely find it tedious when you keep telling her how gorgeous she is and how lucky you are.

Instead, compliment her on what’s going on in her mind. Compliment her sense of style instead of her body. Let her know how impressed you are by her work ethic or focus. After a couple of conversations, she will start to open up about her opinions and views.

From there, you can let her know that you are in awe of how passionate she is. Really pay attention to what she says, so you can let her know you see her as more than a hot body and pretty face. [Read: 23 things girls wish guys knew about how a girl’s mind works]

#9 Try something unique.

When you are ready to ask her out or just make your feelings known, instead of bringing her flowers or candy, do something that is more specific to you and her. If you shared your nostalgia for the 90s’, maybe bring her Silly Putty or an Etch-a-Sketch as a gift.

If you’re good at editing, you can create a poster for a concert and invite only her. You can even edit a little video to ask her out and send it to her in a link. Be original and show her you listen by making it something that makes sense for you two. Let her know you enjoy putting in that effort for her. [Read: 20 unique ways to ask her out on a date]

#10 Think positively.

I know this can be hard, especially if you’ve been rejected in the past. But, try to go in with an open mind. Don’t immediately think all of this will go to waste. Think positive. Let go of what’s happened before. Just because someone else turned you down doesn’t mean she will. Every girl is different.

Try not to have expectations. Don’t assume what you do will work out or fail. Just give it a go. This is all about taking a chance. You wouldn’t go skydiving with the belief that you’ll plummet to your death, so when it comes to learning how to get a girl out of your league, let go of those fears. [Read: Learn how to think positive and reprogram your mind to stay positive all the time]

#11 Don’t overthink.

This is incredibly difficult. And now that you’ve read most of this feature, you’re probably thinking, how? Well, try to be as rational as possible. Rationality isn’t exactly the go-to once feelings get involved, but nonetheless, try.

Overthinking will get you in your head. You’ll be nervous and awkward. Instead, when you want to say something, say it. Just breathe deep and be yourself. When you think too much you start analyzing everything so specifically you convince yourself that something means something it doesn’t and vice versa. Try to let your feelings guide you instead of your anxiety.

#12 Be friends.

There is no such thing as the friendzone. If you believe that her friendship is some sort of punishment for being a nice guy or not having chemistry, you are not viewing her as an equal. Many guys believe that being there for a girl means they’re entitled to something sexual, when that is strictly friendship.

View her friendship as an honor, not some sort of rejection. Appreciate the bond you can grow as friends. Not only will being true friends help you connect better, but it can help you get closer without the nerves. You never know what could come of it later. But, in the meantime, who doesn’t need more friends? [Read: 15 ways to be friends with someone you like]

#13 Keep living your life.

Do not make getting a girl that’s out of your league your goal. Do not make this your life’s focus. Even if you like her and are hoping she’ll date you, don’t just drop everything for her. Say you do date her, this is how relationships become dysfunctional. Keep living your life to the fullest, with or without her.

Maybe she wants your help studying or building furniture. Don’t just drop your plans to meet up with her. Let her know you’re busy and make plans that work for both of you. This is not manipulation or playing hard to get. This is focusing on your life and letting her be an addition to it, not absorbing it completely.

It is just a bonus that this lets her know you are in demand and have a full life. Her liking you does not define you. [Read: How to be your own hero and start taking full control of your life]

#14 Tell the truth.

Let her know how you feel. Be honest and upfront. When a guy can be vulnerable and take that risk of rejection, it shows his interest. You may think she’s out of your league, but you’d be surprised by how many guys you think are on her level would never be vulnerable.

Tell her you really like her and would love to take her out on a date. It sounds easier than it is, but it will feel like such a relief no matter what the response is. [Read: How to tell a girl you like her and come come off creepy or weird]

#15 Let her go.

Rejection is always a possibility. It is a part of dating. You know that. Sometimes you just need to let go. If you’ve done everything on this list and she isn’t interested it is time to move on. You can do everything right and still not be a match made in heaven and that is okay. Not everyone will like you. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you.

You don’t need everyone to like you just one person, the right person. So, if it comes to the point where you need to let her go and move on, try not to let it get you down. [Read: How to lose feelings for a girl and let go of the might-have-beens]

Just because it may be more complicated to learn how to get a girl that’s out of your league doesn’t mean it is impossible. With your unique style, added confidence, and a little charm your genuine feelings will shine through and the girl of your dreams just might look your way!

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