The rerelease of our vaunted day game course Meet Girls Everywhere is just around the corner (it rereleases this Saturday).
Yet before it premieres, we’ve got one more video to show you… on pulling off same-day lays.
A same-day lay is any pickup where you first meet the girl and sleep with her on the same day.
This is a little more “order of the day” in night game, where one-night stands are common, alcohol abounds, and many women present are there specifically to meet a man to go home with.
The workplace is a great environment to meet new people. From those coworkers, you’ll get the chance to meet new friends, and if you’re single, the possibility of an office romance. But it’s important to really understand the signs that a female co-worker likes you before making a fatal mistake.
The workplace is a hugely controlled environment where classic flirting moves you may be able to pull off in a bar or at your college campus may not work. One misunderstood gesture towards a female coworker may end up in either a disciplinary hearing, termination, or worse, a sexual harassment case.
Put simply, work isn’t the right place to mistake a crush. You might think you see signs she’s flirting with you at work and she’s actually looking at the person behind you. Maybe she’s simply being friendly. Can you imagine how embarrassing it would be to get that wrong?
The best advice is look for some solid signs a female coworker is flirting with you first and foremost. [Read: How to know if your boss is actually flirting with you]
It is important to be certain when interpreting flirtatious hints from female coworkers.
Knowing the signs that a female coworker likes you helps you avoid being the center of negative attention. At the same time, you may get lucky with a good dose of office romance, if you play your cards right.
However, do remember that some workplaces prohibit relationships between employees. That’s something you need to check before you do anything. Even if you see the signs that a female coworker is flirting with you, making a wrong move could mean you lose your job. [Read: What is flirting? The science behind this common act]
Greeting coworkers you bump into every morning is a typical way most people start their day. However, if someone greets you more frequently and enthusiastically, it is a clear sign they have a special interest in you.
If you see this along with a few other points on the list, it’s probably likely that a female coworker is flirting with you. [Read: 16 signs a woman is attracted to you and wants you to make a move]
She doesn’t take the shorter corner to quickly get her to her desk. Instead, she goes the long way so that she passes by your cubicle to catch a glimpse of you and say, “good morning.” [Read: 15 body language cues a girl gives away if she’s into you]
You suddenly notice that she keeps turning up at the employee lounge at the same time as you. If you want further confirmation, adjust your break schedule again. If she turns up again then there’s a good chance she likes you.
In uncrowded meeting rooms people normally spread out a little. But not this girl. She’s comfortable sitting next to you even if the whole conference room is empty.
You get daily lunch invitations from her that reminds you of your high school days with your best buddies. At first she invites you with a group but sooner or later she invites you out to lunch with just the two of you. [Read: The best places to go on a first date]
A female coworker surely likes you if she starts popping up with work-related questions that aren’t connected to her usual responsibilities.
In addition, you get asked simple questions the person near her could easily answer. Instead, she chooses to ask you, because it is a good excuse to talk to you. In terms of the signs that a female coworker is flirting with you, she’s definitely leading up to full-on flirt mode! [Read: How girls flirt – 15 subtle things they do differently]
She knows the meetings you’ve had, the places where you’ve had your lunch, whether you’ll join the company-sponsored marathon, and the conversations you had with your other co-workers.
Sometimes it’s annoying, and sometimes it’s endearing. She sends you a lot of email correspondence and emoticon-laden instant messages, enough to breach company internal communications policy. She’s attracted to you, so she’s willing to break these rules. [Read: How to flirt over text and type your way into someone’s heart]
She tells you how her meetings went, her frustrations about her boss or some coworkers, or how the photocopying machine keeps breaking down. One of the biggest signs a female coworker likes you is when she lets you into her world, sometimes more than necessary.
By now she must know pretty much everything about you as a coworker. From this point, she starts asking questions about your life outside work.
It might start with a question regarding your hobbies and interests, then your family, where you spend your weekends, and slowly creep into facts about your love life. [Read: How to tell if a girl is flirting with you: 18 telltale signs]
Another sign that your female coworker likes you is when she showers you with small treats of food or drinks.
She “accidentally” keeps making extra cookies or brownies, or leaves you those imported snacks she got as a souvenir from her trip overseas. She might even message to say she packed you some casserole in the pantry fridge, left over from her culinary experiments the night before.
It’s almost a showcase of her being a good future wife. [Read: Wife material – What you should really be looking for in a woman]
A new shirt, haircut, cologne, or sneakers never go unnoticed and uncomplimented to a crushing female coworker. Even if the whole company doesn’t care about any changes in your appearance.
It’s one of the signs a female coworker is flirting with you if she’s heavy on the compliments. [Read: 16 hush-hush signs your friend wants to have sex with you]
Believe us when we say she’s probably stalking every bulletin board to check if you’re joining the next company function.
Be it a blood drive, an inter-departmental party, or a company sports event, she’s motivated to join as long as she knows she’ll see you there.
Basically, you’re being asked out on a date under the pretext of two coworkers blowing off some steam after work. Just like the lunch scenario, it starts as a group gathering but diminishes to just the pair of you.
If this is not a clear sign that your female coworker likes you, we don’t know what else is. [Read: How to make your move when you know a girl likes you]
Even if you’re the most oblivious guy in the rank and file roster, other people will notice. After all, an office is like a small town! Nothing escapes the eyes of your neighbors.
Sooner or later, you’ll notice the other girls teasing your crushing female coworker while you’re around. And you’ll get prying questions from your male office buddies on why you haven’t made a move on the poor girl yet. [Read: 13 ways to tease a girl and get her to ask you out]
It could very well be that she’s trying to figure out whether you spent your down time with someone special, or whether you are single! She will also be trying to figure out where you regularly spend your time.
Don’t be surprised if she ‘accidentally’ turns up!
By doing this, she is subtly letting you know that she doesn’t have a partner and that while she’s living it up with friends, she would very much like you to join her!
This is also a way of her letting you know where she is going to be during her downtime. [Read: 15 subtle but very obvious signs of flirting between two people]
If she is always offering to team up and collaborate on projects, or offers to work with you in general, that could be a strong sign.
On the flip side, she could mix it up on occasion and collaborate with someone else, regularly giving you glances and probably trying to make you jealous! [Read: 12 signs she’s teasing you and wants you to chase her]
If you sit next to each other at a meeting *and this happens a fair amount* and her leg brushes against yours, this is no mistake! She is flirting with you in a big way. It is one of the most forward and confident of all the at-work flirting moves.
We’re not talking about a quick, accidental glance, but deliberate, regular eye contact which has an air of flirtation. For instance, she plays with her hair, bites her lip, licks her lips, or smiles coyly.
This is a big, big sign she’s flirting with you at work! [Read: Signs of sexual attraction you should keep your eye on]
Why else would she give you a name unless she plans to spend more time with you? If she adds herself into the name, that’s an even bigger sign she’s flirting with you at work.
We’re talking about names like ‘Sonny and Cher’, or ‘super twosome’. If she starts mentioning ‘we’ rather than ‘you’ and ‘I’, that’s another sign to watch for.
Perhaps you’re working from home for one day, or maybe you’re simply sick and not at work. She notices and asks you about it when you return. If she notices your absence, she’s obviously looking for you! [Read: How to tell if a woman is attracted to you and wants you to make a move]
Of course, not all workplaces are too happy for co-workers to be getting it on. Confirm HR policies and procedures before you decide whether you feel the same or not. If there are no organizational barriers in the way, and you like your female coworker too, start flirting back and see where it takes you!
Many relationships begin in the office. While they don’t always work out, they’re fun while they last. Who knows, you might be the new power partnership!
[Read: 15 signs of sexual tension at work and ways to break the tension]
The workplace is a common place to find romance. However, the approach must be handled with care as everyone is expected to act professionally at all times. So, memorize these signs that a female coworker likes you and act accordingly.
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No relationship is perfect. There are ups and downs, arguments, and falls out. But that doesn’t mean everything is going wrong. It’s important to keep things in perspective and know when you’re just going through a bit of a rough patch, versus when it’s time to leave a relationship.
How do you know? Signs. There are always signs.
When you’re in a relationship, it can be hard to accept those signs. Because, let’s face it, deep down, we all know what the signs are. It’s whether or not we accept them and take action that makes all the difference.
By not understanding when to leave a relationship, you potentially spend months or even years in a union that simply doesn’t make you happy anymore. [Read: The important questions to ask before leaving someone you love]
Be sure to exhaust all options and turn over every rock before making your decision. Everything from couples counseling, to taking a solo vacation to clear your head should be attempted.
Every relationship is worth fighting for—especially one that was, or still is, filled with love. [Read: The real reasons why so many couples drift apart over time]
When making this decision, you need to push your emotions aside and attack this situation methodically. If you’re stuck and don’t know what to do next, that just means you need to think more.
If it feels easy, it means you don’t care. In that case, it’s probably super-easy for you. That means you’re lucky. For most people, knowing when it’s time to leave a relationship causes agony. The ‘what if’ will follow you around for a while. But, if you know it’s not right and you’re not happy, what other option do you have?
Talk to your partner, try everything you can, but listen to your gut. Staying for the wrong reasons will not make you happy. If it’s not meant to be, it’s just not meant to be. [Read: Are some people meant to be alone? 13 signs you’re that person]
This is by no means an exhaustive list, but if you can nod along to several of these signs, you have a problem.
A clear sign that it’s time for you to leave the relationship is when you’ve been unfaithful, and don’t feel particularly guilty about it.
The same can be said about your partner. If they have cheated before—whether once or on multiple occasions—it’s time to think about packing up. [Confession: I cheated on my boyfriend and feel so much better!]
If you have a “backup” in place, whether it’s a fling whom you bang every so often, or simply someone with whom you share a strong emotional connection, you need to get out of your relationship right now.
Once you seek love and companionship elsewhere, and prefer spending time with them, there’s no reason to stay with your current partner.
The saying, “don’t leave your old job before finding a new one,” applies to this situation. Do you find yourself trolling bars to meet new people? Facebook stalking hot singles? Adding acquaintances of the opposite sex on social media or to your phonebook so that you can ‘keep in touch?’
You are probably trying to fill a void and you’re unconsciously *or consciously* looking for a new partner. [Read: To cheat or not to cheat? A guide to make up your mind]
It’s normal for couples in long-term relationships to have less sex than brand-new couples. However, it’s not normal for you to only have sex occasionally and, when you do, not enjoy it. That could be because you’re envisioning someone else banging you, or feeling nothing because the spark is gone.
Work on trying to bring the passion back, but if that doesn’t work, you have no option but to leave.
Being in a relationship should be fun and passionate. You should want to do everything with your partner. However, if you feel bored out of your mind and keep doing the same things day in and day out, you may need to get out before it’s too late.
This is especially true if you have tried many times to get your partner to do something fresh and interesting, but they’re too set in their ways to bother. [Read: 21 reasons why you’re getting bored with your relationship]
It’s normal to feel a little jealous of other couples who have it made, but if this feeling intensifies and you start comparing every aspect of your relationship to what everyone else has, it’s very unhealthy. It’s also a clear sign that you need to end your relationship.
If you truly love your partner, you should be feeling grateful, not resentful.
If you prefer late nights out, sleeping around, flirting with everything that moves, the freedom to come and go as you please, and the luxury to design your life without anyone else in your way, you should get out of your relationship.
Go back to being single and ready to mingle. [Read: How to be happy being single & explore the freedom of singledom]
The biggest danger of being in a relationship *especially a long-term one* is forgetting who you really are. Many people simply become an extension of their partners and end up embracing their beliefs, personalities, and so on.
If you don’t recognize who you see in the mirror, it’s time for you to rediscover yourself. You can start doing that by leaving your relationship. [Read: How to fall out of love when you don’t see a future in your romance]
No one wants to end up alone, but if you think you’d be happier being alone than with your partner, you know it’s definitely time to leave.
All relationships have ups and downs, but if you can’t remember the last time you were truly happy and satisfied, it’s a red flag that your relationship is unhealthy. Work on it or start packing your bags now. [Read: The steps to take to tell your partner you’re unhappy]
Fights, arguments, disagreements, and pettiness are normal. Every couple has to deal with them. However, if it happens on a daily basis and over every little thing, it’s really best to part ways.
Trust us when we say that you’re bound to find happiness, peace, and calm elsewhere. [Read: 16 signs you’re settling in an unhappy relationship]
The whole point of committing yourself to another person is that you have someone there with you through thick and thin. This is someone with whom you can share all of your problems, and someone you can share all your joy with.
If you find yourself bottling everything in, or if you’d rather share your feelings with others besides your partner, it’s a clear sign that you need to exit the relationship.
You should never let anyone walk all over you—most of all the person who has pledged to love you, no matter what. You should be appreciated every day, and loved and cared for despite all the hardships that life throws your way.
If your partner takes advantage of you in any way whatsoever, or manipulates you and lies frequently, you need to wake up and realize that you can do better. [Read: Am I being taken for granted? The discreet signs to know for sure]
If you’ve both stopped making an effort in everything, from trying to make conversation to seriously letting yourselves go, then there’s truly no point in being together.
“We’ve been together for 13 years, it’d be a shame to leave now!” Sound familiar? You use the happy moments that you’ve shared in the past as reasons to stay with your partner.
You need to be honest with yourself and accept the fact that it shouldn’t be about what happened way back then. It should be about what’s happening now. [Read: How to let go of the past and be excited about the future]
This should go without saying, but some people need to be prodded in the right direction. If you’re being mentally or physically abused, you need to walk out today.
Your partner should not get a second chance, because they lost every right to it the moment they hurt you. [Read: 16 abusive relationship signs of a devious lover]
When you look to the future, do you see them with you? If not, then that’s a clear sign that you need to leave.
If you see yourself alone and you’re happy, or you see yourself with someone else, don’t stick around. Leave and find a happier future for the both of you. For sure, it will be hard in the beginning, but it’s necessary and it will get better.
If you no longer feel like you enjoy spending time with your partner, that’s not how it should be. When you look at them and no longer feel love, but instead dislike, you need to leave.
If you have lost all respect for them, how are you going to get that back? These are clear signs it’s time to leave a relationship and move on. [Read: 15 signs of a lack of respect in a relationship you can’t ignore]
You owe it to yourself to go after your dreams. If your partner is actively suppressing those dreams or pulling you back, ask yourself why.
If you stay, you’re going to look back in a few years’ time and wish that you’d done something about it. You’ll regret your choice not to go after your dreams and probably your choice to stay with this person.
If your partner has done something and you can’t forgive them, even after a large amount of time has passed, it’s not going to get any easier. If you’ve tried to overcome it and failed, that’s a sign.
Perhaps they cheated on you or hurt you in another way. It doesn’t matter what it is, if you can’t move past it, you’re always going to be stuck if you stay with them. [Read: 20 sure signs your relationship is oh-so-over already]
Whether you are going out with friends or having an argument, your partner is always dismissing you. They don’t consider your opinion or feelings. Instead, you feel like you’re just someone who’s there.
How you feel doesn’t matter to them, and when it comes to feeling connected and loved, that’s not there. If that’s the case, you’re looking at a prime example of when to leave a relationship. [Read: Never ignore these 29 signs of a lack of respect in a relationship]
No one said once you enter a loving relationship, it’ll continue to be a loving relationship until the end. People change – nothing is linear.
If it’s been months since you’ve felt genuine love toward your partner, this is something serious you need to consider. Do you love your partner anymore? If you don’t, this could be when to leave a relationship.
Every relationship has its good and bad — some small, crappy things you let slide, but only to a point. If you’re feeling like there are more cons in your relationship than positive things, you’ve got yourself a problem.
If your relationship is slowly dying, put it out of its misery. [Read: The signs of a toxic relationship that’ll go from bad to worse]
In the beginning, you were on the same page and felt connected. But it’s been a long time since you’ve felt that. And that’s okay; it’s normal for people to grow apart and choose different paths.
But if that’s the case, be honest with yourself and understand that the relationship isn’t what it once was.
Sure, they’re your partner, but you don’t feel that they love you anymore. The connection isn’t there, and neither is the physical affection.
Things have flatlined without the hope of a revival in sight. In a healthy relationship, you should feel loved by your partner, and if that’s not happening, it’s time to move on. [Read: What to do when you don’t love them back]
The entire relationship is on your shoulders. If it wasn’t for you and your hard work, it would have been over months ago. But, you’re single-handedly keeping things alive.
Aren’t you exhausted? Don’t you want to be with someone who wants to carry some responsibility for the relationship on their shoulders as well? [Read: The hidden signs of a one-sided relationship we all choose to ignore]
It’s normal for couples to make personal sacrifices, and they make those sacrifices for the sake of their loving relationship. But, if your partner is making you feel like you’re always being taken for granted, it’s time to question what’s going on.
Sometimes, we fall into a habit of expecting our partners to always do the same things but if that’s leaving you feeling resentful, you need to have a conversation. Then, if nothing changes, leave.
You feel like you’re a clown juggling all of your partner’s needs and demands. Your partner places high standards on you, but they don’t give you much in return. Instead, the onus is all on you to make this a better relationship.
Screw that! Find someone who actually wants a partner, not a servant. [Read: Being taken for granted? Signs, reasons, and firm ways to stop them]
Are you sticking with this relationship because you’re scared to be alone? If that’s the case, then you really need to leave the relationship.
You’re not in it for the right reasons; instead, you’re in it because of fear. Being with someone out of fear will never work, and eventually, you will end up alone anyway. [Read: How to let go of your fear of being alone and find peace]
After everything, you may still have a lot of love for your partner. You might not want to leave, but deep down you know it’s the only way to feel happy again in the future. Knowing when it’s time to leave a relationship is always hard.
Staying in a broken relationship that shows no signs of being fixed is simply a waste of time and effort for the both of you. In the long-run, you’ll both end up even more hurt and resentful. It’s far better to be brave and say goodbye now.
Do so with your head held high and know that you did everything you could to make things work. Sometimes it’s more brave to walk away than to stay in a situation that simply isn’t working.
[Read: When is it time to break up? The signs to know for sure it’s time]
Leaving the person you love is one of the hardest things to do. At the end of the day, you need to make yourself happy, and if leaving your partner will help you get there, do it and don’t look back.
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Guys give all kinds of mixed signals. One minute he can’t keep his hands off you. Next, he needs space. Honestly, how can you know the signs he wants an exclusive and serious relationship with you?!
Sometimes, a guy may confuse you, leading you to believe that he wants a relationship with you when really, he simply wants something that’s no-strings-attached.
This feeling sucks, we know, which is why you need to see the red flags before you fall head-over-heels for him. You should try to be honest with yourself if you see red flags early on that indicate that he is not truly interested in going further with you.
[Read: 34 very big relationship red flags most women ignore early in a relationship]
You’re not interested in wasting your time dating someone who doesn’t see a future with you. There’s no point dating someone if you don’t really see it going anywhere. If you really like him, ask him where he sees the relationship going *that is, if he hasn’t already told you*.
Sometimes guy tells us he doesn’t want a relationship or that he just wants to be casual. And instead of speaking up about what we want, we agree and act cool as a cucumber, hoping he will change his mind.
This is the first thing you should understand. If a guy says he wants it to be casual, that he doesn’t want a relationship, or any version of that, take him at his word. [Read: Things you should be talking about if things are getting serious]
Just because the last guy you dated said the same thing, then got engaged six months after you broke up, it doesn’t mean he was lying.
No matter how much he cuddles, tells you he likes you, or spends time with you, if he says he doesn’t want a committed relationship, believe him. No signs will outweigh that statement.
Too many women have hung onto signs of hope that a guy would change his mind only to spend months or even years waiting for more. And it never happened.
Let’s start with talking about why a guy may NOT want a serious relationship for a bit here before we look at the right signs. When you observe the signs and realize that he doesn’t want a serious relationship with you, it’s always best not to take it personally.
It’s not that he doesn’t want one with you, but this goes for any girl he comes across with. When a guy says he isn’t ready, he’s still fixing himself, or whatever lame excuse he comes up with, it’s best to believe him.
There’s no changing his mind, and frankly, it’s not up to you to do so. A guy can refrain from a relationship possibly because of his past, an awful childhood, having the wrong set of priorities, immaturity, or fear of commitment. [Unpopular opinion: Why playing hard to get with a guy is pointless]
There are a lot of factors at play, and most often, it’s because of an internal issue they haven’t faced and healed from yet.
Before we discuss the signs that he does want an exclusive relationship with you, let’s talk about some of the things to look for if he doesn’t.
Maybe you’re out at a restaurant or bar with some of your friends, and you see him there with another girl. Uh oh. That’s not a good sign at all, unless it’s his sister.
Or if you have mutual friends and they tell you that he has been going out with other people, then he’s not that interested in you. He doesn’t want to be serious – at least not with you. [Read: What makes someone a player? The 21 sly signs of a player’s mind]
Maybe when you’re with him, you can see that the dating app notifications are going off on his phone. Well, that means that he hasn’t deleted them.
If he was that serious about you, he would be eager to get off the dating apps and jump into a serious relationship. But if he’s not doing that, then he is definitely still keeping his options open to see if someone else comes along.
This is one of the biggest signs that he doesn’t want a serious relationship with you. If he’s not initiating dates very often, then he’s not making you a priority in his life. Maybe you find that you are the one who is doing all of the initiating. [Read: How you get attached to a guy and 19 ways to not stay hooked on him]
He might agree to see you, but then he backs out because “something suddenly came up.” That is not a good sign. First, you should let him chase you. A man who really wants to be with you will make time in his life for you – no doubt.
When you are dating someone, you need to get to know them as well as you can. That’s the whole point of dating – to get to know someone well enough to know if you want to continue dating them and if there is any kind of future.
But if he’s only talking about himself, world events, or something else other than asking questions about you, then he doesn’t care. A guy should want to get to know you. And if he can’t even ask you simple questions about yourself, then you should dump the guy. [Read: Guys and casual relationships – why they like it and what they want from it]
You might be chatting and texting with him a lot. When you ask him what his weekend plans are, he might tell you he’s busy with friends, family, and anything else but you. He probably won’t even tell you what his plans are without you asking first.
If he’s not including you in his plans, it’s because he doesn’t want to. He could have you meet his friends if he wanted you to join them, but he doesn’t. And that is not a good sign. He doesn’t want to be serious with you if he does that.
It never feels good when someone doesn’t want to date you or be exclusive. And it probably upsets you. So, here are some things you can do if he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. [Read: How you can overcome your fear of being rejected]
Your instinct might tell you to fight for him and win him over. But that never works. You can’t change someone’s mind if they don’t want to date you exclusively. So, don’t torture yourself by having false hope.
You just need to accept it and move on with your life. This guy isn’t the only person out there, you know. Regardless of how much you like him, you just need to put it behind you and move forward.
Above all, don’t take this personally. It’s easy to put yourself down and think that there’s something wrong with you. But most assuredly, there is not! [Read: How to build self-esteem and love life with 10 simple life changes]
You are perfect just the way you are. Just because he doesn’t think you’re the perfect fit for him doesn’t mean that you won’t be for someone else.
Take some time off from dating. Do things you enjoy. If you have a hobby that you have been neglecting, then pick it back up.
Or if you wanted to go back to school, do that. Even if you just pamper yourself with massages and mani-pedis, focus on yourself to make you feel better. [Read: How to focus on yourself – 27 ways to create your own sunshine]
Other people can be a great distraction when you have disappointment or heartbreak. So go out with your friends and visit your family more often.
If there is anyone in the world who can make you feel better, it’s the people who love you. Let them cheer you up so you can eventually get over this.
As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea! You might be hung up on this one guy, but why? He’s not a god – he’s just a human being. [Read: How to stop caring about someone – 23 ways to move on from the pain]
So, take this as a gift that he doesn’t want to be serious with you. That just frees you up for the right guy to come along and appreciate and love you the way you deserve to be loved!
If you want to know the signs that he wants a serious relationship with you, then the next thing you need to think about is when is the right time to become exclusive. [Read: 20 signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you and just wants a bit of fun]
This is really the greatest question asked by people. How long do we have to wait before becoming a committed couple? And honestly? It’s really just up to you and your partner. There isn’t a solid timeframe. You don’t just wait a month and suddenly become official.
You move at the pace that works best for you. If you both know you want to be committed after only two dates, that’s great!
If it takes you a few more months before you want to commit yourself to someone else, that’s okay too. Do what works for you but just keep the line of communication open so you both know. [Read: Determining your relationship made easy]
There are many signs that can be a good giveaway that a guy is indeed serious about you.
Remember to pay attention to his words and to his actions. If he includes you in his future, loves to spend time with you, stops seeing other people, and tells you he wants to be with you, then you two are on a clear path to commitment.
If you’re unsure about a guy, do not settle for games or for always doubting if he wants something more with you, because it will drive you crazy. Just leave him behind, move on, and stay hopeful, because someone else is meant to be with you. [Read: The signs he is getting attached and is ready for a real commitment]
But if you’re still not sure as to whether or not the guy you’re seeing is ready to be your boyfriend, asking him forthright is clearly not a good bet. Sure, you could but if he’s really not ready at all, it’ll be awkward and he might get skittish.
Therefore, making sure he’s showing the signs he wants to be exclusive and serious, and will help you know if a discussion should be had. Here’s how to know if he’s ready to commit to you.
A guy who is serious about you will tell you about his life goals and his dreams. This is his way of letting you know what he wants to achieve in life, and of seeing if you are both going down a similar life path. If he’s not, he won’t even bother sharing his life goals with you. [Read: The undeniable signs he wants to spend his life with you]
The reason he does this is to give you a sense of what he envisions in his future and what he’s deeply driven about.
But if you ask about his goals and he repeatedly shuts himself off, diverts the topic, or just skims the idea without going into details, he’s not that serious about you, at least not yet.
Mentioning you or introducing you to his family and friends is one of the best indicators that he wants to be exclusive or serious with you. [Read: Does he really love you? 20 sure signs to read his mind]
When a guy is not serious about someone, he will not take the time to integrate them into his world. If anything, this is one of the obvious signs he wants a serious relationship with you.
Guys don’t just let anyone into their life and their circle, so if he introduces you to his loved ones, you should feel special! Nothing makes it clearer whether or not he wants something serious than him telling his family and friends about you, and what you mean to him.
This is a huge step for anyone to take when they’re serious about someone. You just don’t introduce anyone to your family and friends. No, no, no.
You make sure the person is worthy of meeting your closest social group. If he wasn’t serious, you’d never meet his close circle. [Read: How to accept your boyfriend’s friends and get them to accept you]
Also, it is always easier to have someone meet your family than it is to meet someone else’s. If you asked him to meet your family and he agreed and handled it well, he only put in that effort because he sees something with you.
In addition to meeting each other’s families, if he wants you to meet his friends too, that’s a great sign. A guy’s friends are very special to him. He won’t want to introduce you to his friends unless he was serious about you.
So, if he was holding off on introducing his friends to you for a few weeks and then decided to do it, it’s probably because he’s realized he wants to be with you long-term. [Read: How to not screw up when you meet the parents for the first time]
If he is eager to – or already has – met your friends, then that’s great as well. A committed relationship isn’t just about not dating other people, it is about honesty and sharing things. This means introducing you to his favorite people and vice versa.
If he goes through the nerves of meeting your closest friends and family and wants you to meet his, he wants to see how your lives fit together.
One of the signs he wants a serious relationship with you is when he shows you his vulnerable and honest side. Most men don’t like showing this side of them to just anyone, as it shows weakness and vulnerability. [Read: 20 sure signs to know if he loves you or not]
When he gets to know you and his mushy side starts to show, then you are definitely heading down the path of commitment. It takes a lot for a guy to be emotional, and it is a true sign of trust when he shows you his emotional side.
Though men are as emotional as women, they’re not as expressive when it comes to their feelings. If he’s serious about you, he knows he must open up if he wants the relationship to grow into something more. So, if he does express his feelings to you, he wants to be committed to you.
A guy who wants to be in a relationship with you is a guy who will tell you how he feels. You won’t really have to sit and wonder about whether he wants to be with you. He’ll make it clear. [Read: 40 Things guys say when they like you and actions that mean a lot more]
Otherwise, if you’re just a fling, you won’t get any vulnerability out of him. He’s not going to tell you shit. The conversations will be extremely shallow.
Another great sign that he wants a relationship with you is if he includes you in his future plans. If he begins to say ‘we’ this or ‘we’ that, then he wants to get serious with you.
A guy who does not see himself with someone will not visualize himself with the person he is dating just to pass the time. [Read: The sneaky signs he’s faking love just to sleep with you]
He obviously cares about you enough to include you in his plans, whether those plans are short-term or long-term. He’ll include you in his business plans, his life goals, in family gatherings, and so much more.
Guys can be quite scared of commitment when it isn’t with the right girl, so this is an important indicator of whether he’s serious.
If he initiates spending time together, that is a great sign. This will be something any guy who likes you will do.
They’ll be the ones to make the plans and initiate spending time with you. Basically, if he’s continuously making an effort to be in your life and to have you in his life, he wants to be committed to you.
The way he makes time for you is one of the important signs he wants a serious relationship with you. If he enjoys your company and digs your vibe, then he will always make time for you.
Even if it is just to see your face for a second during a video chat in the middle of the day, that is still making time for you. [Read: Looking for official? The real signs he wants you to be his girlfriend]
Guys are practical, and if spending time with you makes them feel good, then they will jump through hoops to be with you. Time is an investment in a future with you, and he will get to know more about you the more time he spends with you.
But if he’s not serious, then he won’t even bother showing up or giving you a portion of his time. Another great indicator is if he always initiates plans for you and him to spend time together.
If a guy is serious about a future with you, then he will not play games. You know, those silly little games like ignoring your calls/texts, leading you on, saying one thing then doing another, and so on. [Read: 25 signs he really loves you even if he doesn’t say it out loud]
He won’t even bother confusing you with all these mind games and mixed signals if he’s serious about you, as he knows it’ll mess up his chances entirely of winning your heart. If you continuously find yourself questioning his intentions and where the two of you stand, then walk away.
Again, guys are straightforward and logical, so he will not waste time playing games with someone he sees himself with. [Read: 22 early warning signs or a bad boyfriend you should never ignore]
Really, you shouldn’t have to second guess if he is serious about you if he stops seeing other people. He is so enthralled with you that you are enough, and he does not need to look for anyone else.
If you’re the only person he cares about seeing because you make him happy and nobody else can take your place, that’s a pretty obvious sign right there. [Read: 19 sure signs you’re in an exclusive relationship already]
Even if he hasn’t said it officially, he’s already deleted all his dating apps from his phone and hinted at being exclusive with you. These are small steps, but they are leading in a good direction. If you notice these small acts, it’s time to talk with him about the future.
If he does not want to be exclusive or serious with you, then he will make it clear that he wants to continue to test the waters with other people. He’ll have a backup in case things don’t work out with you if he’s not serious about you. [Read: Does he love me? 37 signs he’s past like and totally in love with you]
There is no surer sign of whether or not he wants to commit to you than him telling you that he wants to be with you, and you alone. All doubts, questions, and worries will cease as soon as those words leave his mouth.
Again, guys are pretty scared of commitment, so the fact that he says he wants to settle down is one of the most concrete signs he wants a serious relationship with you. This means he doesn’t see himself with anybody else other than you!
If you really like him and your goal was always to be with him, then you can smile, knowing that you finally won his heart. If his actions match his words, that’s how you can know for sure. [Read: 18 signs a man is emotionally attached to you and ready to get even closer]
If it isn’t apparent by now, guys who aren’t looking for a serious relationship don’t like the mention of labels and commitment. But if he doesn’t run away whenever you mention it or when it comes up, he’s not afraid of committing himself to you.
This is because he really wants to be with you, and he’d be more than happy to put a label on your relationship, given a chance. But if a guy isn’t serious about you, he’ll avoid that topic entirely and change the subject abruptly. [Read: What are we? How to get your crush to label your relationship]
When he says something sweet and romantic to you, he doesn’t just leave it at that. When a guy is serious about you, he’ll match his actions with his words.
So, he’ll do his best not to disappoint you or let you down when he makes a promise. He won’t flake and will live up to the promise because you matter to him.
But if he isn’t serious about you, he doesn’t care about delivering through with his words or disappointing you. If you’re a fling, that’s all you’ll ever be.
Look, guys have a lot of priorities, more than what meets the eye. If he prioritizes you, this is one of the signs he wants a serious relationship with you. Guys don’t just prioritize anyone along with their family and friends, career, and hobbies. [Read: The right priority in your relationship – How to find & focus on it]
The fact that he prioritizes you over most things speaks volumes about how serious he is with his intentions for you.
On the other hand, if he isn’t into you for the long haul, other things will always come first above you, such as partying with his friends, career, and hobbies.
When it comes to communication, he makes sure you two are on the same page. If there is miscommunication, he spends the time to iron out the issues and prevent them from happening again. How you argue and resolve conflict is a focus for him because he sees a future with you.
And it might seem like listening is such a mundane action, but when a guy listens to everything you say, he’s pretty serious about you.
This is because listening shows that he cares and that he acknowledges everything you say. Especially when he remembers even the little details from all your stories and rants, that’s when you know for sure.
After all, why else would a guy listen and remember these details if you’re just a fling?
Maybe it’s running errands for you, grabbing your favorite coffee, driving far, or helping you with a project. He will go out of his way for you. A guy who wants a committed relationship with you cares about you. It means even more if he doesn’t expect anything in return. [Read: Does he like me? 41 subtle signs and body language guys can’t hide]
If a guy helps you in the best way he can, it’s one of the signs he wants a serious relationship with you. If you’re just a casual fling for him, he won’t even bother helping you with anything.
That means he will put in the effort to make you happy when your happiness is all he gets out of it. The motto of a guy without serious intentions is to avoid having any strings attached, and helping you would mean the possibility of establishing strings. So, if he helps you, he’s serious about you.
This is a really huge indicator when it comes to whether he wants a serious relationship with you. When he shows you his flaws and his not-so-perfect side, his intentions for you are serious. [Read: What does it mean to be vulnerable? 15 ways you can open up more]
Nobody likes showing others their flaws, so the fact that he’s willing to show even the unfavorable parts of himself to you speaks volumes about just how serious he is for you.
The past isn’t really a great topic to talk about with anyone as it reveals baggage and a lot of drama and pain. But if he opens himself up to the point where you know about his past and his pain, he’s serious about you. [Read: 33signs and qualities that make a guy a really good boyfriend]
This is one of the aspects a guy wouldn’t dare to share with just a fling, hookup, or any casual relationship. So, if you know a lot of things about his past, he trusts you enough to tell you all of these things.
If a guy isn’t willing to talk about his past, something may be up. Maybe he cheated, or is still a bit hurt from a heartbreak. But a guy willing to tell you the truth and open up about his past is willing to share what he’s learned and is open to more of that.
Some people say to leave the past in the past, but our pasts make us who we are today. Sharing those stories with someone new says a lot. [Read: 45 signs he loves you even if he doesn’t say it out loud]
This guy doesn’t usually jump from woman to woman. That’s a good sign he’s serious about his relationships. If he’s had long-term relationships before, it shows a history of commitment.
This behavior is what you want to see in a guy you’re serious about. His past behavior is a good indicator of his future behavior. [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend]
If you’re casually dating a guy, you probably only see him when you have sex, which is understandable. If he’s serious about you, he focuses on spending quality time with you.
He wants to talk and really get to know you on a deeper level. Whether he calls you and chats on the phone or asks you out for coffee, these are strong signs he wants more. [Read: The undeniable signs he wants to spend his life with you]
He’ll show a willingness to discuss deeper topics with you. He won’t just keep the conversation at surface level. He’ll dig a little deeper to really get to know you on a much better level. He’ll talk about stuff that speaks to your core values and morals.
This is his way of making sure the two of you are compatible in this sense. And that means he’s probably ready to be exclusive and serious.
Most guys that are casually dating don’t care about the dating history of the person they’re seeing. Why would they care? It doesn’t affect them. [Read: Dating history – which exes should your partner know about?]
But if he’s serious about you, he wants to know if you’re able to commit and if you’re interested. Are you someone who wants to be in a committed relationship? If so, make it clear to him.
This is a great sign that he wants to have a serious relationship with you. He’s not asking you over to his house for “Netflix and chill.” When he plans a date, he makes sure you’re going to enjoy yourself to the fullest.
He wants the date to be interesting and give you an opportunity to relax and open up. This is one of those signs he wants something serious with you. [Read: How many dates should you go on before a relationship becomes official?]
He may have had plans with his buddies, but once he found out that you’re free, he canceled them to see you. If he’s turning down other opportunities for a chance to spend time with you, it shows he wants to commit.
It’s one thing to go on dates and have fun, but if he wants a future with you, he’ll focus on creating traditions.
Maybe you always go camping on the first weekend of summer or get ice cream every Sunday. These are small things, but he creates traditions that hold you together.
We all know how important social media has become. If he’s putting photos and statuses of you on his social media, he’s letting everyone know that he’s not interested in anyone else but you.
This is a great sign if he wants people to know he might want to be in a serious relationship with you. [Read: 39 signs he’s getting attached and needs you in his life]
We’re not saying he needs to spend money on you in order to show he’s serious. Some men love showing off or are brought up to pay for their partners.
If he treats you with small gifts and tokens, he’s showing his appreciation and love you for. It may sound a bit shallow, but it’s true.
Everyone has their own special spots no one knows about. Usually, we don’t show other people these spots unless the person is special. If he’s taking you to his most private places, he wants to bring you into his world. [Read: 25 signs and qualities of a really great boyfriend]
Guys who don’t ask you personal questions aren’t interested in anything beyond the surface level. He might ask things like whether you are close to your family, how you got into your career, etc.
But if they only ask you to answer what you asked them, they are just being polite. A guy interested in a committed relationship will be genuinely interested in what you have to say. [Read: The actions that reveal a man’s love for you]
Public displays of affection always prove just how much your partner cares about you. Sure, some people might not be all that into it, but if your man is loving on you with anyone around to see, they’re proud.
And being proud also means he’s probably thinking about being exclusive and serious with you. When he doesn’t care who sees, it’s clear he only has eyes for you. Pay attention the next time he’s being lovey-dovey in public.
Another great sign that he wants a serious relationship with you is if you’re going about yourselves and it already feels like you’re in a relationship. If you feel it, then he probably feels it too. And that means he’s happy with being exclusive.
If he’s doing all the things a committed boyfriend would be doing, he might already be committed to you without you two talking about it.
This is probably one of the biggest signs he wants to be exclusive and serious with you. When he’s checking in with you before taking weekend-long trips and making sure you’re cool with it, he’s committed already.
Otherwise, he wouldn’t owe it to you. Guys who are randomly leaving for the weekend without informing you don’t want exclusivity.
A guy who opens up about wanting to settle down or have a serious relationship is trying to tell you something. Perhaps he might not be ready that very moment, but he’s getting close. [Read: How to show commitment in a relationship and make each other feel secure]
He’s opening up to you and making sure you know that he wants to be exclusive and serious in the near future, if not already.
This is just something any guy who likes you should do. But it’ll become more apparent the more he’s thinking about becoming exclusive and serious with you. He’ll ask what you think about certain things in his life. He might even ask your advice on difficult things he’s dealing with.
This is his way of opening up. He’s letting you in. And usually, when a guy does this, he wants to be exclusive, serious, and committed to you. It’s one of the better signs he wants to be exclusive so pay attention. [Read: 30 deep questions to ask someone before you get in too far]
This is another one of the great signs that he wants a serious relationship with you. When you are out in a group or just meeting random people, he doesn’t flirt with other girls. Sure, he is probably friendly just like he would be to anyone. But you can tell he isn’t interested in the other girls that he meets.
What is even better is if he holds your hand or puts his arm around you when he is talking to other girls. This is like him “marking his territory” and telling everyone that you belong to him and to keep their hands off him.
When you are together or out on dates, he might take pictures of the two of you together. That’s great that he even wants to do that.
But if he goes a step further and puts them on social media, then he is telling the world that he is proud to be with you.
Not only does he not want to hide the fact that he’s dating you, but he also wants to tell other girls that he is practically off the market. If he wanted to keep his options open, he would definitely hide you – not only on social media, but from his friends and family too.
If it’s still pretty early in the dating stage with him, he might just come right out and ask if you are seeing anyone else. It’s safe to assume that you might be, but he wants to know for sure.
This is probably his way of asking you to be exclusive and serious without coming out directly and asking you.
He is testing the waters to see how you react before he suggests that you both stop dating other people. This is another great sign that he wants a serious relationship with you. [Read: How to get a guy to stop dating other girls and be exclusive with you]
If you feel like the two of you are so much alike that he just “gets” you, then he will probably want to be exclusive and serious. It doesn’t matter what your similarities are. Maybe it’s that you have the same sense of humor, personality, or family background.
When a guy feels like he gets you, then he assumes that you get him too. Why wouldn’t he want to keep you around if the two of you vibe that well together? Well, then probably does.
Now, people say a lot of crap just to keep other people hanging around them. However, if he’s sat you down and had a genuine conversation with you about the future, then he’s probably not joking.
The best way to tell if he wants something serious is if he is willing to let you know. It takes a mature person to talk about the future, and it sounds like he has his head on straight. [Read: The 19 subtle signs a man has emotionally matured]
If he says he wants a committed relationship with you, he does. A guy will not just admit this and risk being rejected if he doesn’t mean it. If you spot these signs, you may breathe a sigh of relief. The guy you’re dating wants the same thing as you.
But that hope can drag you along for months just waiting for these signs to turn into action. Once you see these signs, and if he has actually told you he wants a committed relationship, bring it up.
Just because he is the guy doesn’t mean it is always his job to start these talks. Let him know you’ve been dating a while, you both want the same thing, and think you should make that next step to make it official. [Read: Exclusive relationship – 36 signs you’re ready for it or in one already]
Now that you know the signs that he wants an exclusive relationship with you, what do you think? Do you think your guy wants you and only you? If you answered “yes,” then you might wonder why. Well, here are the top reasons he doesn’t want you to date anyone else.
He might be at that age where he is ready to settle down, get married, and start a family. And that means that he is serious about finding someone that he can spend the rest of his life with.
If he is looking for that, then he’s not going to waste his time with anyone that he doesn’t see a future with.
If the two of you have been dating for a while, then he might already be in love with you. Even if he hasn’t told you that yet, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t feel it in his heart.
Maybe he is worried you don’t feel the same way, so he’s holding back. But if he loves you, then you can be sure that he wants to be exclusive and serious with you. [Read: Does he love me? 37 signs he’s past like and totally in love with you]
Maybe he’s been single for a while and has had enough of being alone or playing the field. He likes the idea of commitment, and he doesn’t really want to date around anymore. So, if he’s still going out with you, he might be waiting for the right moment to ask you to be in a relationship with him.
Now this is the best reason of all, isn’t it? Everyone wants to be with someone who can’t picture their life without them.
So, as he’s looking forward to his future, he just can’t see it with anyone else but you. And if you feel the same way about him, then you could be a match made in heaven!
[Read: 13 signs he wants a relationship but is just a little scared]
Being aware of the signs that he wants a serious relationship with you will help you understand when you can bring up the topic of becoming committed to each other. This can save you a lot of alarm if you try to DTR too early.
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Most women have encountered this question—is he attracted to me? You may be talking to a guy, but you can’t seem to figure out if he likes you. He could be really shy, unsure of how to approach you, or he could simply not be interested.
With some men, you know right away where they stand with you, while others make you feel like you’re deciphering a code.
If you’re stuck trying to work out whether someone you’re crushing on likes you back or not, the good news is that there are some signs you can search for.
While it may be harder to figure some guys out than others, it’s rarely totally impossible. You just need to open your mind and know what to look for! [Read: Different types of attraction – Which is most vital for true love?]
The truth is that working out if a guy is really interested isn’t that complex. But, if you don’t know what signs to look for, it can seem like a never-ending puzzle.
If he is shy, he’ll never approach you or outright flirt with you; that’s not his style. He may wait months, even years, before he finds the courage to make a move!
Of course, you don’t need to wait that long. If you have some confidence that he reciprocates your feelings, you can be the one to make the first move instead.
So, let’s get you up to speed with what you need to look out for so you can answer the infamous question, is he attracted to me? [Read: How to flirt with a shy guy – 15 baby steps to get him to talk to you]
You cannot base anything on one single interaction between the two of you. What you need to look for is a pattern. For example, say a guy smiles at you while you’re in line at the grocery store. That’s a good sign, but it still means nothing.
Now, you leave the grocery store and he walks by you and says something. That is a sign. He didn’t need to talk to you, but he went out of his way to do so. [Read: How guys flirt – 15 subtle things guys do to impress a girl]
Now, we’re not saying you need to confess your undying love for him and go down on one knee to propose. But you should take small risks to see if there’s a reaction. You want to do a little bit more than what you usually do.
So, if you like the coffee shop guy, instead of just saying ‘hi,’ ask him how his weekend was. This is a small risk to see if he reacts positively. If he just nods and says, “It was good,” well, he’s not taking a step forward to match the risk you made.
Again, he could be shy, but you’ll notice other signs on top of that if that’s the case. [Read: How to flirt with a shy guy – 15 baby steps to help him warm up]
If you chat away, and he just stands there nodding in silence, he’s not doing anything. If he is attracted to you, he will do something. By something, we mean anything.
He tries to keep the conversation going or start the conversation the next time he sees you. If you literally get nothing back in return, he’s not interested.
If someone likes you, they want to spend time with you. It’s as simple as that. Now, maybe he’s too shy to ask you to hang out, so, feel free to make the first move. If he agrees to hang out with you, that’s a good sign. It doesn’t mean he likes you yet though.
However, if you two continue hanging out, then take it as a sign that he’s attracted to you. Nobody invests copious amounts of time into people they don’t find attractive. [Read: The rules of attraction as explained by science]
When you like a guy, you take the extra time to make sure you look your best, right? So, why wouldn’t he?
You notice he’s wearing cologne; a clean, stain-free shirt; fixed his hair. Though you may not think of it as a huge deal, it is. That is, unless, he’s already into his appearance; then, you can’t really tell if it’s because of you or him.
Because he wants to know more! He wants to know more about you, so he’s asking you what your favorite ice cream is, what your hobbies are—he’s trying to see what kind of person you are.
At this point, he is attracted to you, but if he digs for information, then he’s trying to work out if you’re someone he could see himself with. [Read: 75 flirty questions to ask your crush and make them think of you]
Now, men compliment women all the time, so, we wouldn’t take this one sign with huge importance. It means that they may be attracted to you, but are they interested in you?
It could be that he just wants to get you into bed, which we guess technically means he’s attracted to you. Anyway, the point is, if he notices your new haircut or says that he likes your shirt, it means he’s paying attention to you. [Read: 20 clear signs of attraction in a first conversation]
We don’t mean that he grabs your ass. If that happens, obviously, he’s attracted to you but he clearly doesn’t respect you.
We mean that he touches your arm or puts his hand on your back when you walk past him. These are respectful moments of physical contact, but they really show that he’s attracted to you and values you. That is much different from him just wanting to sleep with you. [Read: How to flirt by touch and use subtle body language to seduce anyone]
It’s not that he’s invading your personal space, but, basically, he’s entering your personal space in a good way. If he’s attracted to you, you notice he sits closer to you than other guys.
Now, you can test this out by moving closer to him.
For example, if you sit next to each other, slide closer to him to show him something on your phone. If he doesn’t move away for more space between you two, it’s a good sign that he’s into you.
If he inches even closer, that’s an even bigger answer to your question, ‘is he attracted to me?’ [Read: 16 giveaways to watch for if he’s attracted to you]
From experience, do you often look into the eyes of a guy who you don’t like? You might look at them, but you don’t do any prolonged glances in their direction. Why? Because it makes you feel uncomfortable and it gives off the wrong vibe.
Eye contact is a very important part of attraction. If he gives you an ample amount of eye contact, that’s usually done when there’s a romantic interest.
Have you ever been around a guy who doesn’t like you? Yeah, he doesn’t even look at you. [Read: What does eye contact mean to a guy? Is he a subtle flirt?]
When you’re around someone who makes you feel good, you can’t help but smile. Smiling is another important sign of attraction and warmth between two people, especially if there’s romantic interest involved. Men and women tend to smile naturally when they’re around someone they like.
But, if he only smiles with his mouth closed, there’s a high chance of him doing so just to be polite. [Read: Is he just shy or not interested? 15 ways to decode his behavior]
If he’s shy, he may not be able to flirt with you, but that doesn’t mean he’s not interested. However, if he’s not the shy type, then he’ll probably try to flirt with you.
Now, flirting is not enough of a sign to show that he’s into you. You might find yourself flirting with many people that you have no intention of being with, probably without even realizing it.
But what happens at the end of your conversation? Does it just end there? Or does he try to subtly ask you out or wish to see you again? [Read: 14 ways to know for sure if a guy is flirting with you]
There’s a high chance that if you share similar interests with him, both of you will find each other more attractive. For example, you tell him you love to watch basketball and then he says he loves basketball too. This is him letting you know that you have something in common.
If he didn’t want to connect with you, he wouldn’t be sharing this information with you. Instead, he would just nod his head and say, “cool.” Then, he’ll try to connect with you based on the things you have in common, to take the conversation further.
We don’t mean this in a controlling and obsessive way. If you notice those signs, then you shouldn’t be trying to figure out if he likes you – you should run away in the opposite direction.
By protective, we mean if someone treats you disrespectfully, he steps in or makes sure you get home safely. That is being protective in a healthy and respectful way. [Read: The damsel in distress – Why all good men find them irresistible]
Despite what you might think, men are emotional. It’s just that often, they simply choose not to show it. If a man decides to share his feelings and emotions with you, this is usually a very big step for him.
It means he trusts you and is most likely attracted to you. Sharing emotions is a crucial factor in connecting with someone. He let his guard down and wants you to see who he is.
We mentioned eye contact, but this is a little different. You probably notice this when you quickly catch a glimpse of him. When you really like someone, you probably won’t be able to stop looking at them.
So, for him, he’s having a hard time keeping himself in check. He may look away quickly or he could even hold eye contact with you after you catch him staring at you. Basically, he’s not just making eye contact, he’s admiring you. [Read: Signs a man is in love – 17 gestures that are louder than words]
When he’s around his friends, he farts, burps, and talks bullshit. But when you’re around, he’s a little more reserved. He’s not burping, he’s holding those farts in, and instead, he’s asking you if you’re hungry or cold.
For sure, he might just be a pretty well-mannered guy, but you’ll be able to tell the difference.
Now, you shouldn’t expect him to pull your chair out for you or throw his jacket on a puddle so you can walk over it—this isn’t the 1950s. But you’ll notice his manners appearing more when he’s around you. [Read: Proper social etiquette – The main rules that redefine modern manners]
When a guy is attracted to you, he’ll subconsciously try to impress you; it’s what evolution has taught him!
He may try to show off his physical prowess by lifting something heavy, or he may go out of his way to do you a favor. It doesn’t matter how small or big it is, if a man is attracted to you, he’ll do everything he possibly can to make himself seem like the perfect example of a gentleman. [Read: What is chivalry? The knight’s code and modern men]
Does he text you good morning or even good night?
Why would a guy do this often, or even every day, unless he’s totally smitten by you already? If a guy goes out of his way to stay in touch, and even initiates conversations just because, chances are he’s trying to impress you.
Social media is a huge blessing for flirty friends. You don’t even have to directly tell someone you like them, all you need to do is share memes with them every day.
And then, in the middle of all those funny memes, he may slip in something complimentary, flirty, or even sexual. Of course, it’s a joke because it’s a meme. But if he’s doing this very often, odds are he’s attracted to you and is trying to drop a few hints to see how you’ll react to it. [Read: Instagram flirting – How it’s secretly ruining your relationship]
Does he linger back and hang around even after all your other friends leave? If a guy tries everything he possibly can to spend time alone with you, that’s a sign. That might mean dropping you off at home, walking you home, or even arriving early if it means he can spend time with you.
He’s clearly fallen hard, and is doing everything he possibly can to slip out of the friend zone. [Read: 34 naughty ways to slip out of the friend zone in no time]
He may not want to ruin it all by asking you out on a date directly. But if you’re wondering, is he attracted to me, ask yourself if he asks you out casually all the time?
Does he text you one evening asking you if you’re bored *because he apparently is* and would like to hang out? Does he talk about a new restaurant he’d like to check out with you?
If a guy is attracted to you, he’s going to casually ask you out often. And somehow, it’s always just you two and no one else on that outing!
There may be a hundred other people in the room, but you’ll know when a guy likes you if he only has eyes for you. A supermodel lookalike may walk by, and he probably wouldn’t even notice her. That’s when you know that you’re at the center of his world.
He’ll also hang off your every word, laugh at your jokes, and find every excuse to be by your side as often as he can without coming off as creepy.
The same way you would be excited to see your crush, he’ll light up when you walk into a room. You can tell if he genuinely enjoys your company as it will shine through in his face and body language.
He’ll seem very happy to see you and will pepper the ensuing conversation with stuff like, “Wow, I’m so glad you could make it,” and “I was worried that I would miss out on the pleasure of your company.” [Read: The biggest signs of sexual attraction to keep an eye on]
A surefire way to tell if he’s attracted to you is to take note of how often he dotes on you.
For example, you’re at a party, and he makes a beeline toward you to say hi. He doesn’t leave your side, he engages you in conversation throughout the night, he always gets you a drink. At the end of the night, he walks you back to your car.
These little actions are signs of his affection. When a man shows that he cares about your comfort and safety, it proves that he’s interested. [Read: Key differences – Protective boyfriend or a controlling boyfriend?]
It’s a fact that people only make an effort to spend time with those they care about. If a guy plans an outing, and invites you and no one else along, he probably likes you.
For example, he will invite you for an excursion that he could very well do alone, such as heading to IKEA to pick out shower curtains. He will find any excuse to get you to spend time with him, even if it’s doing something as silly as furniture shopping.
The invitation is usually coupled with a plea for help or advice. [Read: 15 ways to tell someone likes you for sure without asking them about it]
Paying attention to nonverbal communication is a great way to tell if he’s attracted to you. When standing, if you notice his arms are always at his side, with his open palms facing you, he’s projecting openness and willingness to have you close by.
If his arms are crossed in front of his chest, then he’s not interested. When sitting, if he has his legs open, he’s unconsciously letting you know that he’s interested. Whereas if his legs are crossed, you can count on the opposite. [Read: Does he like me? 41 subtle signs and body language clues to know a guy is into you]
Does he stumble over his words a little or seem a little nervous generally? Maybe he’s fidgeting or blushing? These are all signs of nerves.
The reason he’s nervous? He’s crushing on you and he’s scared of how he’s coming across!
He loves to hear your laugh and thinks that it’s the best way to impress you. So, it’s likely he’ll try to bring out his best jokes or one-liners. Watch out for them and give the guy a giggle for his efforts!
He’s not likely to throw out a stand-up routine, but you’ll certainly notice that if he gets a laugh from you, his face lights up with delight.
Most guys aren’t super-responsive to messages in general, but if he’s answering you pretty quickly, it’s because he’s waiting to hear from you. If you’re still wondering, ‘is he attracted to me?’, the likelihood of a yes is very high!
If you tell him you have a big presentation at work that day, he’ll ask you how it went when he sees you again. He might even message you to ask.
If you tell him you’re going to see a band with your friends, he’ll make a point of asking if you enjoyed it. Basically, he’s remembering what you tell him, and guys only do that when they’re interested in someone! [Read: Are you in love? The clear signs you’re past lust and really in love]
If he’s not interested in you, he’ll only treat you the same as the rest of his friends. But, if he’s treating you very differently, that’s because he sees you with different eyes.
The people around you are sure to notice, and it’s possible they’re nudging you and telling you that he’s interested.
If you’re talking, look at his lips. If he’s drawing attention to his lips, it’s because it’s a subconscious move when someone is attracted to the other person. He’s basically telling you all you need to know without even realizing it!
So, if you notice this and you’re still asking, ‘is he attracted to me?’, you know the answer. [Read: Lip biting – what makes it so hot and secrets to make it way sexier]
Well, there’s no question left to ask, is there?
You’ve been trying to work out the answer to, ‘is he attracted to me?’, and you’re pretty sure that, based on these signs, he is. So, what now?
Think about how you feel. The fact that you’re asking yourself if he is attracted to you basically says that you have some feelings of your own. So, it’s time to be honest about those feelings and work out what they are. [Read: Do I like him? The easy questions to reveal the answer in a minute]
If you like him, go with the flow and see where it takes you. If you show him that you share his attraction, he’ll probably ask you out. Or, if you’re not into waiting and you want to take the initiative, just go on and ask him out instead.
You know you want to!
[Read: How to let a guy know you’re interested in him without appearing overeager]
Now that you know the signs, can you answer the question of ‘is he attracted to me?’ All that’s left to do is look forward to the first date!
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