What Daters Need to Know About Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)

There’s plenty of misinformation around STIs in the dating scene. How serious are they truly? What really are the risks? In this guide, we get to the facts.

Disclaimer: This post is about a medical subject, and the information presented is from the author’s knowledge and experience. The author is NOT a medical doctor or a health care professional. It is important to verify this information with a health care provider, preferably a specialist in dermatology and infectious diseases. This information is meant to help you understand the subject better, but it does not replace professional medical advice.

This post is from late 2024. Research may have advanced with the knowledge shared here. To stay current, consult specialists in infectious diseases.

Hey guys. I hope you are doing well.

In this article and the next, I will discuss the not-so-pleasant topic of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), formerly known as sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

But it is a crucial topic concerning sexual health. I have been discussing this frequently on forums, and it baffles me how little even some of the more experienced guys understand about STIs.

Today, I will share basic information and tips regarding STIs. I want to acknowledge that fears about STIs are valid and should not be taken lightly. My goal is to provide details to help you stay safe while offering a nuanced perspective.

I will present information from discussions with health care professionals and specialists, and personal research. Please remember that I am not a doctor, so it is always important to consult with a medical professional for expert advice.

This post is likely to be read by guys who may have engaged in activities that resulted in an infection. While this post will provide valuable details for prevention, it can still be helpful, even if it is too late. There are still steps you can take to address the situation.

In our society, we usually face two extremes: those who exaggerate the implications of STIs (it’s a death sentence) and other who trivialize it (just take antibiotics; the odds of getting something are low). Both are wrong, in my opinion.

Here is the truth

We must weigh fact against both dismissal and hyperbole.

• STIs are less dangerous than we might believe if one tests, treats, or cures themselves.

• STIs are far more dangerous than we might believe if one does not test, treat, or cure themselves.

What is my line of reasoning? Take chlamydia, for example, a bacterial STI that is frequent and relatively transmissible. In theory, all you have to do to test is to pee in a cup. What are the symptoms? They are usually benign if, any. Treatment? It used to be two pills of azithromycin, an antibiotic; however, most doctors now prescribe 7-10 days of doxycycline, another antibiotic. And it is over.

Is getting chlamydia no big deal? Well, not so fast. In some cases (although rare), untreated chlamydia can lead to complications and spread to the kidneys. What is the hassle, then?

Chlamydia and other minor infections can open the floodgate to more serious diseases such as HIV and hepatitis B and C. These infections can increase the transmission rate sevenfold! While HIV is not easily transmitted, several factors can contribute to its spread. When you consider the increased risk, the likelihood of transmission becomes much greater. Oops.

In rare cases, untreated chlamydia can lead to sterility. This is more likely with women. Do you really want to put your girls at such risk?

As you can see, a minor STI can be a significant concern.

But what about serious STIs? HIV is a serious disease, but did you know with proper treatment, you can have the same life expectancy as the general population? HIV is not necessarily life-threatening. After some time, you may no longer be contagious when you receive treatment. A specialist will sample your blood regularly to check if the treatment works and let you know when you are not contagious.

Yes, you may take pills every day, but it is not much worse than diabetes or other chronic diseases. There are many treatments, and they often function well. You may find a treatment that suits you with few side effects.

So, getting treatment is often less of a big deal than we think. The stigma from the 80s and 90s still persists.

Just to be clear, I am not minimizing anything. Having a serious STI will still affect your life drastically, and not for the better. But it is not a death sentence.

But if you are not tested and treated, it is a death sentence (you will get AIDS). And if you remain untested and untreated, you put others at risk, and in many countries, it’s punishable by law.

Although I am providing the basics about STIs, the best path to good and safe sex is PROTECTION and TESTING, TESTING, TESTING.

A good resource for STI details: https://www.aidsmap.com/

It pays to be informed.

This is a website about HIV with the latest information about research and treatments. In addition, they have plenty of information about other STIs. You can also check the public health authority’s website and search for STIs, like the CDC if you want the straight facts.

I strongly urge you to discuss your STI concerns with your doctor. If you are sexually active or plan to be, it is your responsibility, both for you and the girls.

Skilled Seducer of the Month, January 2025: James D

Our Skilled Seducer of January 2025 is forum member James D, who’s posted a string of impressive day game lays (including several same-day public sex day game lays). In this interview, Chase Amante chats with James about his experience, his vibe, various sticking points he’s encountered over the years, and how he pulls off his pickups.

Listen to the interview here:

Love Is Blind

They say love is blind, and blindfolded Cupid with his fickle arrow shots makes it seem so. But what drives people’s often seemingly random pair-ups?

The ancient Greek god of love, Cupid, is sometimes depicted as being blindfolded.

He flies about on a pair of wings to emblemize the flighty, fickle nature of lovers, and is a young boy to show the irrational nature of love.

Why Simping Behavior Evolved in Men

Male simping is ridiculously counterproductive. It wastes the males time and gets him nowhere with girls. So how on Earth did this behavior evolve?

For years the behavior of male simping has bewildered me.

Peacocking with a Wingman, Friends, or Girls

It looks funny to go out peacocked when your crew’s not dressed accordingly. Just how peacocked do your wingmen, friends, and wingwomen need to be, though?

Hey guys and welcome.

Over the past three weeks, I have been discussing the art of peacocking. This night game strategy involves dressing in a bold and flashy manner to catch women’s attention. The goal is to make yourself noticeable, even getting women to approach and initiate conversation with you.

Peacocking offers many benefits when executed properly. However, if done incorrectly, it can backfire, making you appear foolish and clown-like. For more details, see my post from two weeks ago.

Getting all this attention, although beneficial, is not without its cons, and we should also consider the drawbacks. In my previous post, I covered how peacocking affects your game and how you should strategize accordingly.

Today, I want to expand on last week’s post, which primarily discussed solo outings, which experienced night gamers often prefer. While many guys enjoy going out with wingmen (a topic I covered in a series last year), others prefer going out with friends.

Who you are out with and how they dress will determine your peacocking success or failure. So, it is crucial to strategize.

I will begin by discussing the effects peacocking has when going out with a wing, the implications of going out with several friends, and what to expect when going out with only girls.

Boyfriend Disqualifiers: Must They Fully Disqualify You?

A boyfriend disqualifier gets a girl to think of you as just a lover, not a boyfriend. When you use these, must you ‘go all the way’ in having her disqualify you – or not?

Lately there’s been a fair bit of discussion on the Skilled Seducer Forum about how far you need to go in disqualifying yourself as a boyfriend. Guys report various problems when disqualifying themselves for the boyfriend role, and other guys are telling them not to go so far in doing so.

I have mixed thoughts about boyfriend disqualification. Obviously it's a core part of seduction that enables rapid escalation. Without it, it's an uphill battle getting out of the "potential boyfriend" category and putting yourself in the "lover" category.

At the same time, I feel like there are girls of this generation who will lose interest if you completely disqualify yourself - at least in my recent experience with young Gen Z girls. As we've discussed, hook-up culture is rapidly changing, social skills are deteriorating, and mainstream values are trending towards conservative.

I’m one of a few guys in seduction who still regularly talks about boyfriend disqualification. That is to say, who still regularly talks about communicating to a girl that you are ineligible for a boyfriend/husband/long-term role.

I think we’re due for some clarification though, because I see a lot of guys using this tactic wrong. So let’s talk boyfriend disqualifiers: just how hardcore do your boyfriend disqualifiers need to be?

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Romantic Dates Can Still Pull

Romantic dates can be utterly magical. But doesn’t escalating on them break the magic? Won’t girls slow-game you to not lose a magic love? Not if you do things right!

In the vein of our ongoing One Date promotion (you can grab One Date at 30% off PLUS my two very Limited Edition Date Flows™ on the Café Date and Stargazing Date BEFORE midnight this Tuesday, January 21st, 2025; current One Date owners can pick both up free here), I want to talk about a topic that dovetails very nicely: dates that are romantic yet still pull.

When I was a young seducer, I was sometimes torn between making a date too romantic or not. “If I make it too romantic, won’t that make her want to make sure she doesn’t lose me – and thus make her hit the brakes on us getting together too soon?” I worried.

(if you aren’t sure why you want to get together with girls sooner rather than later, read this)

There was another problem, too: when I made dates very romantic, sometimes it felt like making moves to get a girl into bed popped that romance bubble. The two of you had this romantic seduction where both of you were so synced up… then all of a sudden you’re trying to make moves while she tries to resist. Back out of sync. How do you keep that romantic, synced up feeling while still making moves?

As you know from the title, I’m going to tell you that romantic dates can still pull – and can do so very well. Further: the ‘secret’ to both problems I posed above is one and the same.

Peacocking Strategy: Right Mood, Right Frame, & Social Proof

Peacocking can offer a boon to your attraction meeting women. Yet your mood, frame, and social proof play a major role in the effectiveness of your peacocking too — or its liability.

Hey guys, and welcome back.

Lately, I have been discussing the concept of “peacocking.” Peacocking refers to dressing in a way that captures women’s attention, often wearing flashy clothing and eye-catching accessories. While this approach gained popularity in the 2000s when pickup and seduction entered the mainstream, it has faced criticism recently. Many have commented on odd-looking, uncalibrated men roaming the clubs, leading to the perception that it appears silly and meme-worthy. This backlash stems from the observation that those who attempt peacocking lack solid fundamentals and struggle to pull it off effectively.

Last week, we discussed how to peacock, providing examples of items you can wear. We covered the different dimensions that ensure you do not come off as clown-like and tacky but instead appear cool and edgy.

The “how to peacock” was covered last week. The history of peacocking, what it is, how it works, and why was covered two weeks ago.

In this article, the focus is on how peacock influences your game. It will affect your presence, people’s reactions, and the overall dynamic of your interaction to affect your overall strategy.

Let’s dive in.

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The Rise of Blue Pill 2.0: Money, Muscles, & Rizz

The male space today tells men to build muscle, stack money, & deprioritize women, or rely on ‘rizz’, while PROMISING women as the eventual reward. This is BLUE PILL.

Contents

1. Blue Pill 1.0: Nice Guys

2. Introducing Blue Pill 2.0

1. Money + Muscles
2. Neo-Direct Rizz Game
3. Single Moms/Weak Dads

3. The Real Red Pill

4. Blue Pill Is Avoidance

5. Blue Pill No More

“You’ve been living in a dream world, Neo.”

“It is the world that has been pulled over your eyes to blind you from the truth: that you are a slave, Neo.”

A few decades ago, men started waking up from the Matrix that was the nice guy friend zone. They rejected the blue pill that would’ve kept them in platonic orbiter land, and took the red pill to start becoming ALPHA MALES.

But what if I told you the red pill most of them thought they were taking was really just another blue pill – one that simply moved them from one enslaving Matrix over into another?

Don’t worry. This article is not one claiming men should not be dominant men (they should) or that being a nice guy or hanging around in the friend zone are good things (they aren’t).

Instead, in it, I’m going to show you how along the way to enlightenment men en masse got Shanghaied, hoodwinked, and bamboozled right from one blue pill ideology straight into another – albeit one that dressed itself up all the while as ‘red pill’.

Why You Very, Very, Very Much Want a PROFESSIONAL Coach/Advisor (in Dating and Elsewhere!)

If he charges you money, isn’t it a scam? While scammers do exist, all the best advisors, instructors, & coaches in seduction or any field are PAID!

I’ve been coaching, writing, and selling programs in the ‘get girls’ / ‘have relationships’ space for the better part of two decades now. Every now and again we get guys who appear with the FULL CYNIC glasses on who accuse me of being motivated solely by acquisitive greed:

Nah, it just cuts into your business. The less men that participate is money you don't get.

— CLAYLAVL (@CLAYLAVLS) January 14, 2025

It's actually an easy charge for an outsider to make:

1. We often don’t think of ‘advice’ as a job or service.

2. You can get FREE advice, EVERYWHERE! From friends, random people online, etc. So why would you want to get advice from someone who does it for work?

3. There’s a seeming conflict of interest with a paid instructor: if he’s paid to do it, can he really be disinterested? Someone who gives instruction totally unpaid seems more trustworthy!

This article is about why this mindset is aggressively stupid and traps the idiots who subscribe to it in valleys of ineffectuality and lackluster returns.

Remember: with advice, as with anything else, you get what you pay for.

Tactics Tuesdays: 3 Ways to Disarm Your Drawbacks

You might be short, poor, bald, ugly, dumb, or out-of-step; we’ve all got drawbacks. Yet how do you deal with these when women bring them up?

It’s pretty common for men to feel insecure about whatever drawbacks they may have:

• Too short
• Too ugly
• Too bald
• Too broke
• Too young
• Too old
• Too much of a nobody
• Too unaccomplished
• Too awkward
• Too dumb
• Too out-of-step with the culture

Guys will put off approaching girls, skip approaching altogether, and otherwise remain stuck in safe spaces out of fear of rejection over their drawbacks.

When they do make an approach on a girl, they often look for ways to self-deprecate, which only highlights their weakness and makes them look insecure; or else they act defensive if it gets brought up, which again makes them seem insecure.

How, then, do you defuse your disadvantages when you approach new girls – or even when you go on a date, or are inside a relationship?

In this Tactics Tuesdays installment, I’ll provide you with three (3) separate (but each one of them useful) ways.

Secrets to Getting Girls: Focus Outward

If you want to attract girls, you need to focus on girls – not yourself. Get out of your head, into the moment, and focused upon the opposite sex!

I had a guy message me with some concerns that he may not be good enough for girls.

It was hard for him to motivate himself to approach women, he said, because he just did not see why anyone would value him or want to talk to him.

What most people would probably focus on is trying to buoy the confidence of a man in his position. “Think about your good qualities!” “Focus on the bright side!” “There’s surely a girl who will like you for you!”

What I advised him on was, instead, one of the Secrets to Getting Girls:

To switch his mentality from an inward focus to an outward one.

How to Peacock: Rules to Proper Peacocking + Examples

Peacocking can be very effective at drawing women in and warming them up to your approach. To use it right, however, it must be congruent + properly done.

Hey guys, welcome back.

Last week, I discussed the concept of peacocking. This older concept involves wearing eye-catching and flashy clothing or using props to draw women’s attention, ideally getting them to open you. The goal is to use your style to engage and hook women.

This concept has unfortunately declined in popularity due to overuse by inexperienced beginners, leading to poorly dressed, uncalibrated men with inadequate fundamentals dressing flashy and provocatively, often resembling clowns.

Many men discovering pickup and learning be some of its best-known concepts, including peacocking, have experienced limited results. The result has been a de-popularization of peacocking and an overall decline in the popularity of pickup culture.

Today, I will go through how to peacock. You will learn the basics to pull it off. Next week, I will cover how it affects your interactions and how to navigate the field when you peacock.

Before we begin, let’s be clear: you do not need to peacock. It is a night game technique. Yes, some guys like Vince Kelvin (aka Hollywood) have famously peacocked in day game. He is an exception to the rule. He’s also an old-schooler who has been active since the early 2000s. You can break some rules if you are that experienced. I wonder if he truly peacocks or if what he is wearing really is his style—he has been dressing like this since I heard about him in 2008. The bottom line is that he pulls it off, and it works for him.

In general, peacocking is a night game strategy. Because of the flashy, high-energy, flamboyant, and extravagant energy of night game, there is more permissibility to be outrageous.

It’s up to you whether you want to peacock in night game. It is not required; it’s a tool you can choose if you feel like it and are comfortable doing so. I’ll provide details on the pros and cons of peacocking next week to help you decide if it is something you want to try. Remember, it is not necessary and may not suit you, and that’s okay. I still recommend reading this post because even if you do not go full-out flashy peacock mode, some tips may still benefit you. It’s still crucial to wear unique items or know how to use props when doing night game. It shows that you are out to socialize and fits the night vibe. What you learn below can help you attract women; just tone it down and add one or two elements.

Let’s run through the fundamentals before discussing how to peacock and sharing some tips and tricks.

Avoid Long-Term Relationship Misery: Steer Clear of Misaligned Life Goals

If you’d prefer a relationship where you and your woman are not at one another’s throats (or walking out the door), build one with where life goals align.

Something few people discuss, because few people think long-term anymore, is the utter vitality of aligned life goals in selecting a long-term relationship partner.

(17th Century lovers were actually much better at this; you can find copious letters written by lovers discussing their hopes, dreams, and plans for their future together in detail)

Men online will talk about the importance of finding a ‘submissive’ woman. The implication superficially seems to be that you should look for a woman who will just go along with whatever you want. Of course, the question there is if she will go along with whatever YOU want, who’s to say she won’t go along with whatever anyone else wants too (including, for instance, the deliveryman or handyman who stops by while you’re at work and who’d very much like to cuckold you with her)?

The unspecified part of this whole “find a girl who’s submissive” advice – the part the men saying this intend but don’t usually know how to say – is that you want a woman who wants what YOU want, who finds your vision compelling, who is willing to submit to your leadership because she believes you will lead her where she wants to go.

The alternative to this – the uppity, rebellious woman whose life goals are in full opposition to yours – will provide you endless headaches, a far less stable relationship, and a greater chance of the relationship falling apart – or of you even getting pulled off your life goals.

Of course, if you do what a lot of folks do, and enter a relationship with whoever you like based on your initial compatibilities, it’s a roll of the dice whether you’ve chanced upon a woman with aligned life goals – or one with very, very DIFFERENT ones.

If you don’t want to be a gambler, and instead want to maximize the odds of a harmonious relationship without needless wars on life direction, then read on to know what to screen for – and how.

Join Chase, Hector, & Others at the 2025 Dating Game Summit

Chase Amante, Hector Castillo, and many other dating experts come together virtually in 2025’s Dating Game Summit. The ticket is free; you’re going to want to  attend!

Justin Harder’s put together the first serious summit the seduction community has had in years – and it’s just about to start. He’s calling it the Dating Game Summit.

You can learn more about it and pick up your FREE ticket here:

>> Attend the 2025 Dating Summit (Online) <<

Yours truly will be there, Hector Castillo will be there, plus many others you may recognize. I don’t know all the speakers, but there are a bunch attending I either know personally or am familiar with at least by name. Dr. Robert Glover (No More Mr. Nice Guy), Michael Sartain, Kezia Noble, Dave Perrotta (who’s written a few guest posts for us), Adam Lane Smith – all in attendance, alongside many others. Harder has assembled an impressive 50 speakers for the event.

If you’re familiar with the dating advice space outside of Girls Chase, there’s likely folks attending you will know (the speaker list is on the Summit page).

Tactics Tuesdays: The Nonplussed Romantic Breakup

Most men during breakups plead, rage, or act like rocks. None of these are ideal though. Instead, you want to seduce her on the way out – with the Nonplussed Romantic Breakup Attitude.

Over the years I have seen a lot of men respond to breakups a lot of different ways:

• Begging women to stay

• Pledging they will change

• Declaring “You need me!”

• Asking to “Make it work”

• Indignation (“Ungrateful!”)

• Defiance (“Who needs you!”)

One thing I very, very rarely see is the man who is completely nonplussed…

The man who doesn’t beg, plead, pledge, ask, declare, or respond with indignation or defiance.

He neither belittles the woman nor prostrates himself before her.

Instead, he remains calm, understanding, gracious, yet without emotion – he still shows some sadness and care. Just not an outpouring of it. He handles the breakup with masculine aplomb.

Perhaps it is because this reaction is so rare, but this Nonplussed Romantic Breakup Attitude is the single biggest way to ensure that you remain stuck deep within a woman’s mind post-breakup, leading to positive feelings on her end, and a whole lot of chasing from her to get you back before you even expect it.

It is how you seduce her on your way out, just as you did on the way in.

Yes: Like Other Animals, Human Females Have Mating Seasons Too

Humans have mating seasons – and if you catch a woman at the right (or wrong) time, it dramatically influences your romantic outcomes with her.

Today I’d like to shock you a bit and introduce you to a concept that I’ve been aware of for a good long while but that, in my experience, most men are completely unaware of.

It’s discussed in the scientific community, but not in these terms. In fact, the framing I’ll put on it today will be both startling and (I presume) enlightening.

For all the progress we’ve had in understanding man’s connection to animals since the time of Darwin, we still tend to think of humans as somehow ‘apart’ from other species. This includes how we think about mating seasons; i.e., that humans don’t have them. We just mate whenever.

As I will show you in this article, this is very wrong.

Human beings do have mating seasons, and as in other animals this is determined by female biology.

What Is Peacocking and Does It Work?

Peacocks use ostentatious displays to attract a female. Can this same strategy work for human beings? It can, it does, and in this guide you’ll learn just how it does so.

Hey guys. Welcome back.

Today, I’ll touch upon a classic technique in pickup and seduction that is often overlooked—peacocking.

It’s an original technique that Mystery and his crew popularized in the 2000s. The idea is to catch women’s attention by dressing flashy to facilitate openings. This usually involves wearing accessories, flamboyant clothing, or an original dressing style, so you come off as a peacock.

Back in the day, it was one of the most used techniques for night game, and quickly became the clothing style for many active pickup guys. Whenever a guy would dress flamboyantly in a club, people always suspected he must be part of the “community.”

Eventually, as seduction popularity died off, peacocking took a serious hit. It is often a meme-worthy element of pickup and seduction, usually to ridicule pickup and seduction as a whole. “Look at those nerdy clown-looking weirdos!” Often, this criticism was deserving; many of those so-called “pickup artists” (PUA) or “green PUA” (a PUA in training) did look really weird. And their miscalibrated use of gambits, negs (negative remarks), and routines, like magic tricks, gave the entire community an odd image.

However, all these can work if delivered correctly, congruently, and in the right moment and setting.

These guys took the idea of canned material a bit too far. Because they were beginners and entered pickup arenas with a hefty toolbox, memorizing material, they appeared very robotic. Adding to a poor baseline because they lacked fundamentals, pickup and seduction became less popular and was often joke worthy, with the concept of peacocking its primary victim.

Later, the introduction of natural game countered the older pickup style’s overly goofy and robotic aspects. This new approach focuses on mastering fundamentals and represents a positive shift in the game. Natural game aims to teach beginners advanced strategies, gambits and niche routines, particularly men who struggle socially. These men did not have their fundamentals in check. They usually had poor body posture, grooming, and delivery—poor everything. Add a flashy attention-seeking outfit on top of it, and instead of providing them with a degree of edginess or coolness, they looked out of place and easy targets for jokes.

Most pickup material known to the public to this day—and ridiculed by the mainstream—belongs to the Mystery Method. He was the first to promote the idea of peacocking. The popularization of the Mystery Method and its signature concepts like negging, peacocking, and “DHV’in” (demonstrating higher value) is partly due to its popularity within the community and mainstream exposure. The book The Game focuses on the Mystery Method and Mystery himself, in addition to the subsequent TV show The Pickup Artist. Coaching companies erupted in the twilight of this mass popularization, and most sold watered-down copies of the original Mystery Method. Things became worse, as poorly trained, inexperienced men with an advanced system were doomed to failure, leading to a decline in pickup and seduction popularity.

Let’s revisit the concept of peacocking. How can this work today? Why does it work? Next week, we will discuss how to use peacocking.

Seduction Failures: Girl Problem or Skill Issue?

If you’re stumbling in a seduction, is it because of the girl, or because of your skill? To figure out which, we need to establish the pattern – if there is one at all.

Commenting on my article “Always Be Closing (in Seduction, with Girls)”, Walter writes

Usually,when it comes to sex, I am really aggressive and yet I have often failed to close as you speak even though I was fooling around with women that I had just met when we were in a bed room for instance even though she suggested it too.

The first thing I’ll say here is while my advice is to move faster with women and yes, always be closing, it is also to be highly responsive and as well-calibrated as you can be in your moves with women. You can close a certain portion of girls simply by being really aggressive, but you will also blow a lot of girls out entirely.

The reason for that is it is very important for a woman in a seduction to feel that she is special to you and that you are listening to her, responding to her, and looking out for her. If at any point she stops feeling this way, trust is lost, and her legs slam shut (often never to be opened).

I don’t have a full picture of Walter’s typical escalation to sex so I don’t want to speculate too much on what he is doing here. But I use this comment to lead into this article’s subject: when a seduction fails, how do you tell whether the problem is a ‘girl problem’ or a ‘skill issue’?