What It Means When She Says She Wants an Open Relationship

When she says she wants an open relationship, does she mean it? Well, with women, things often have double meanings.

We had a forum thread recently where a member revealed his girlfriend of four years requested an open relationship.

He wasn't sure about it, figuring it might not go his way. But he said yes to it, and some misadventures followed: his gal started getting boinked by other guys, but then our forum member ended up shagging a few girls, then meeting a girl he started to fall for.

The 4-year-girlfriend, previously feeling liberated over her newfound sexual freedom, changed her tune once her beau fell for a woman of his own, and decided she wanted to close the relationship back up again.

Our hero argued with his woman, drama ensued, and ultimately he broke up with her.

I've seen a lot of relationships switch from closed to open over the years, and it is always a drama-filled process, not for the faint of heart (or those who don't like having their hearts torn up and dashed around a bit).

A lot of guys think they can handle it. Some can... for a while.

This article's about what it means when your girlfriend or wife asks for an open relationship.

We'll talk a little bit about whether you ought to give her that, first, too.

Learning to Seduce, Pt 1: "Get Her Now" vs. Build the Skill

Most guys who start learning seduction do so to fix an immediate need. Yet the REAL results come from long-term practice.

Hi there. I hope you are all doing fine.

After spending weeks discussing indirect game and sharing two very detailed case studies of how I do things in field (showing how all the puzzle pieces come together), I have decided to move on to other subjects.

So today, let’s discuss seduction advice. I’ll debunk some misconceptions about the limitations and promises of those “quick fixes” for seduction we all too often hear.

What can we know, and what can we not know? And more importantly, what can you expect from this field of knowledge? I intend to give you a more realistic view of pickup and seduction.

Unfortunately, in this industry, we see many empty promises and outright crap to buy into. I hope that my breakdown will make sense and seem trustworthy.

Insecurity in a Relationship: How to Feel More Secure & Love Better

Insecurity in a relationship feels terrible because no one seems to understand you. Learn to get over your relationship insecurity and grow stronger.

It’s the worst, isn’t you? You love someone truly with all your heart. And yet, you always feel like they love you less, or don’t love you at all. Welcome to the world of relationship insecurities! You’re not alone, and honestly, your feelings are valid. As we learn more about why you’re feeling them, we’ll help you figure out how to get over your insecurity in a relationship, and feel like a great lover and person too!

What makes relationship insecurities so heartbreaking to handle is that no one, not even your partner, seems to understand that all you feel in love in confusing pain. You really do love them, and you express your love to them. But somehow, they don’t seem to be making you feel secure in the way they express their love towards you.

In a relationship, a breakup is a single step that finalizes the end. But an insecure relationship makes you believe you’re in love and yet, you feel like you’ve broken up already.

[Read: Toxic love – 13 ways it can harm you permanently and how to get out soon]

Understanding insecurity in a relationship

Falling in love may feel like a bed of roses. But if you believe your love isn’t reciprocated equally, you may end up hurt or feeling insecure about your relationship status.

You may be feeling all alone too, because understanding and dealing with insecurity in a relationship isn’t easy, especially if your partner doesn’t understand you or what you’re going through. And almost always, the difference in the way both of you express your love to each other can cause more pain and frustration that may eventually lead to a breakup.

Ironic, isn’t it? The one thing you’re trying to avoid is a breakup. It’s the primary reason behind all of your insecurity. And yet, your own behavior is leading you towards a self-fulfilling prophecy of an impending breakup!

[Read: Why am I so insecure? 20 reasons why you care more than others]

Is your insecurity ruining your own relationship?

Everyone has insecurities and everyone has been hurt by someone. I mean, how else would we develop them? Some of us have minor relationship insecurities while others have more. We’re all different and this is just something we have to work through and overcome.

In your past relationships, were you constantly worried your now-ex would dump you or leave you for someone else? That’s the kind of insecurity that would push two people apart. So now, in your new relationship, you need to accept the fact that you need to trust your partner or else the relationship won’t last anyway.

What causes insecurity in a relationship?

Are you living through an insecure relationship right now? Honestly, why do you feel insecure in your relationship? Just sit back for a moment, and ask yourself what makes you feel less loved?

One of the best ways to understand relationship insecurities is to understand the root cause of the problem. In all probability, you’re insecure because you’re afraid of losing your lover *maybe to someone else*. Leaving all other smaller reasons and humiliating breakup scenarios aside, why are you convinced your partner will leave you?

Do you feel insecure in the relationship because a lot of people are attracted to your lover? Is it because your partner spends a lot of time out with their own friends and doesn’t stay in touch with you? Or is it because your partner never really makes you feel special and appreciated? Or is it something else?

To really understand relationship insecurities, you need to ponder over your insecurities and find the real reason. And most importantly, is there something your partner can do about it? [Read: Am I clingy? Here’s how to know the truth about yourself]

The signs of insecurity in a relationship

How can you tell if you’re actually deeply insecure, or if it’s just a passing thought? If you see your partner liking someone’s posts on social media or flirting with them in the comments, you would feel a twinge of jealousy. But if it’s fleeting and you trust your partner anyway, this is a momentary bout of insecurity and jealousy. And everyone feels it.

But if you’re constantly worried your partner is up to something, if you feel the need to snoop on them, check their phone when they’re asleep, read their texts all the time, or if you find yourself stalking every social media friend of your partner, well, we may have a problem here.

Check out these 29 signs of relationship insecurity and ask yourself if you see these signs in your life.

How to express your insecurity in the relationship

Once you’ve understand the cause of your relationship insecurities, speak to your partner about it. You don’t have to tell your partner you’re feeling insecure, that may just strain the relationship further. Just mention that you don’t feel loved at times and elaborate on a few examples when you did feel insecure.

Don’t sound frustrated or agitated, just say it as a matter of fact. If your partner does love you, they’d immediately try to reassure you and make you feel better.

But before you voice your insecurities and ask your partner to become a whole new person, be certain that it’s something your partner can reasonably change. It’s alright to ask your boyfriend or girlfriend to pay more attention to you when they’re with friends. It’s just not alright to ask them to stop talking their friends altogether! [Read: The 13 foundations of a relationship that separate the good from the bad]

Why am I so insecure?

Insecurity in a relationship can crop up for the most trivial of reasons, but the most common reasons are when you feel your partner’s too good for you or if you think there are far too many people around you who are way better than you *and may steal your partner*.

On the other hand, even a very secure person can begin to feel insecure and low on self-esteem when they date someone who intentionally gaslights them or makes them feel inferior. [Read: How to spot gaslighting in a relationship and shut it down for good]

Is it your partner’s behavior, or your own past, that makes you insecure?

Now this is something you really need to focus on. But it’s not easy to separate the two, when you’re already feeling insecure. You may even have to speak to a trusted friend to ask for their point of view.

Is your insecurity in the relationship caused by your own imaginative mind and low self-esteem? Or is your partner’s behavior triggering the low self-esteem in you?

As much as you’d like to blame yourself because of your past relationships, sometimes, a bad partner can make you feel terrible about yourself. So how can you tell them apart?

The easiest way is to watch how your partner behaves when you express your fears to them. Once you voice your relationship insecurities to your lover, you may feel better for the moment. But how does your partner react to the triggers of your insecurity?

Does your partner tell you you’re making a big issue out of something that’s insignificant? Do they continue behaving the same way and doing the same things that make you feel insecure? [Read: 16 discreet signs you’re being taken for granted by your partner]

Or does your partner change their behavior or try their best to make you feel more secure, even if it means they have to go out of their way to do something for you?

Pay attention to the way your partner treats you and cares for you. If they truly love you, they’d try to do something to help you with your insecurity. But if they don’t really care, or they’re actively trying to gaslight you, they may even enjoy making you feel insecure! [Read: 16 subtle signs you’re dating a narcissist who is abusing you]

How to get over insecurities after being cheated on

Being cheated on hurts, no matter how strong you are internally, or how high your self-esteem is. And if you’re in a string of bad relationships, you’re bound to feel insecure no matter how successful or good looking or awesome you are in every aspect of your life.

At one point, you may just become tired of entering a relationship because you’d assume they’d cheat on you or leave you anyway. But thinking along these lines will end even the best of relationships in no time. How can any relationship work when you’ve set your mind up for it to fail?

It doesn’t matter if they see your anxiety, it WILL show up in other ways. So, if you want a healthy and freeing relationship, you’re going to need to get over your relationship insecurity. We’ve all been there, but you don’t have to stay in this spot. [Read: Insecure women – 15 ways to stop damaging yourself and be glorious]

How to stop being insecure in a relationship

If you’re feeling insecure in the relationship even after your partner changes their ways for you and reassures you, perhaps you just need to feel better about yourself. And understand the fact that your partner’s not the problem. You are!

Start feeling confident about yourself and have a little faith in your relationship. Use these steps to change yourself, and you may just learn to get over your insecurities in the relationship.

#1 Your partner is a part of your life. Let your partner be a part of your life, not your whole life. It’s as simple as that. When your whole life revolves around your love life, it’s easy to start obsessing about it and picking tiny imaginary flaws that may not even exist.

And insecurities have a way of cropping up when you want to speak to your partner or meet them all the time *and you’d be clingy too*. Lead your own life and dedicate a part of it to love. It’ll keep your love life more fun and exciting, and you’ll worry less about relationship insecurities. [Read: How to stop being clingy so your partner won’t up and leave you ASAP]

#2 Trust your partner. Unless you leapt into the relationship without really figuring out if your partner likes you a lot, you should really learn to trust your partner.

Both of you are attracted to each other and love each other, so why would you want to snoop around or look for ways to catch your partner red-handed. Learn to trust your partner, unless you have solid reasons to doubt them.

#3 This is about you. Your relationship insecurity isn’t about the person you date, it’s about you. Maybe they just bring out specific insecurities. For example, if they’re good looking, you may think you’re not attractive enough to be with them.

So, if this is the case, work on your self-esteem. They’re not telling you you’re not attractive enough to be with them, you’re telling this to yourself. [Read: How to deal with jealousy in a relationship and learn to overcome it]

#4 This person wants to be with you. Realize this person you’re dating wanted to be with you. You didn’t tie them up to a chair and force this relationship on them. Really, they want to be with you!

So, you need to acknowledge that. If this is what they want, why would they try to sabotage it? [Read: 19 signs of emotional damage and ways to get past them]

#5 Go out with your own friends. Spend time with your own friends and have a good time. It’ll help you in two ways. One, you’ll understand that no harm is really done to a relationship by spending time with friends. Two, if you do exchange a few glances with someone else, you’re not really cheating on your partner!

#4 Be an optimist. Stop the negativity. Stop wondering about what you’ll do if your partner ever dumps you or what your lover does when they go out without you.

Your partner fell in love with you for the great person that you are, remember that. If you ever do feel insecure in the relationship, learn to deal with it by talking about it with your partner or evaluate the situation by putting yourself in your partner’s shoes.

#5 Focus on what you have, not what you don’t. No one is perfect. We all have flaws, but you focus on them too much. You’re insecure in your relationship because you don’t think you have the qualities your partner finds attractive.

But they do find you attractive inside and out. Realize what you’re worth because right now, you’re treating yourself like a used t-shirt in a bargain bin. [Read: How self-respect affects you and your relationship]

#6 Grow your confidence. One of the most obvious and yet embarrassing reasons for insecurity in a relationship is the lack of confidence. It hurts but it’s true. You’re insecure because you don’t believe you’re good enough.

Accept compliments and glances from other good looking people when you’re out with friends, pick a few hobbies, and every now and then, force yourself to do something you’ve always wanted to do even if it’s outside your comfort zone.

The longer you drive a car, the more experienced driver you become. Likewise, the more you learn to live your life to the fullest, the more you’ll learn to be confident about yourself and your worth.

#7 Feel good about yourself. Insecurities in a relationship crop up when you are happy to see your partner, but not really happy with what you see in your own mirror.

Go out often and start dressing like a million bucks. And work out and get that dream body you’ve always wanted to have. When you feel like a million bucks, you know you’re worthy of anyone. And when you feel confident and worthy, relationship insecurities have nowhere to go but to the bin! [Read: How to look hot – 18 tips to take you from boring to flawless]

#8 Maintain your independence. If you’re insecure about your relationship, the worst thing to do is smother it. In order to work on your self-esteem, maintain your own identity and independence. When you do things that boost your self-esteem, activities that you love doing, it automatically affects your relationship for the better.

#9 Cut the negative comments. Right now, your head is full of negative thoughts. You think you’re fat, ugly, not smart enough… the list goes on. But this is all wrong, really.

You need to cut the negativity because this only makes it worse. So, when you have those urges to think poorly about yourself – stop. Stop it immediately and tell yourself that you’re worth it. [Read: Is your negative thinking ruining your life?]

#10 Leave the past in the past. We all have baggage, this isn’t an excuse to drag it into your new relationship. Practice on leaving the past in the past because it’s not doing you any good. Instead, it’s only dragging you down and making you a Debbie Downer in the relationship.

#11 Don’t compare your relationship to others. You don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors. On Facebook or Instagram, they look all cheery and happy, but who knows what the issues are in their relationship. The worst thing you do is compare your own relationship to others, it’s pointless. It’s actually completely useless and a waste of time. [Read: The dangers of social media and why it makes you so insecure]

#12 Don’t restrict your partner from being themselves. Someone with relationship insecurities tends to hold their partner down and prevent them from being themselves. You need to make sure you don’t become possessive and restricting. This only makes them feel suffocated and will result with them pulling away.

#13 Cut the overanalyzing. You sit and analyze. Everything. What they said, how they said it, how they look at you when they talk. But seriously, enough with the overanalyzing!

Overanalyzing is going to destroy you mentally. It will tear you apart and torture you. So, when you find yourself doing it, stop and redirect your thoughts. [Read: 11 strategies to stop overanalyzing and find more peace]

#14 Talk to your partner. You need to communicate with your partner about your insecurities. They need to know what’s going on with you emotionally so that they can support you. Sit down with your partner and talk about what makes you insecure and what the triggers are. This shouldn’t mean that they should walk on eggshells around you. However, they’ll be mindful of your emotions.

#15 Go to therapy. If you find yourself unable to overcome this on your own, don’t worry, this is why we have therapists. It’s always nice to talk to someone who doesn’t know anything about you or your partner.

#16 Talk about your issues. Talking about things that bother us can be uncomfortable and awkward but that’s only because you make it like that. When something bothers you, you need to discuss it soon after rather than letting it build up. This is a recipe for a disaster. [Read: How to master positive self-talk and banish negativity]

#17 Trust your instincts. You are the only one who really knows yourself. This means you should trust in yourself that you know when something doesn’t feel right and when you’re just overreacting and putting imagination into reality. Trust your gut.

[Read: 15 steps to transform your life and stop being insecure]

Deal with your relationship insecurity – The final blow

Now not all relationships are perfect. At times, you may be really confident and feel attractive, but you may still end up feeling insecure. Your partner may take you for granted, flirt with others in front of you or even ignore you completely.

If you’re struck by relationship insecurities even after speaking to your partner about it, and even after changing yourself using the confidence building tips mentioned here, then something’s just not right.

Perhaps, your partner is just taking you for granted and not really bothering to help you feel better about the relationship. [Read: 15 strong ways to stop being taken for granted in a relationship]

When you’re faced with a situation like this, where the insecurity in a relationship is not because of the lack of confidence but the lack of love and overdose of neglect, it’s time to take a decision about it.

Being stuck in an insecure relationship is worse than breaking up with your partner or catching them cheating. Insecurity in a relationship will suck the confidence and the happiness out of your life, and you’ll never really feel loved. You’ll just wither away from the inside until the relationship ends.

[Read: Why do narcissist partners ignore texts and do the selfish things they do]

Learn to deal with insecurity in a relationship, either by growing your confidence or confronting your partner. But if nothing really works, perhaps it’s time to step out and find someone else who can give you the happiness and love you crave for.

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20 Best Thank You Note for Gift-Message And Wording

No matter whom the gift is from or what the gift is, it’s always important to write a thank you note for gift to show your gratitude and appreciation for…

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25 Special Birthday Wishes For Your Crush

Your search for the perfect birthday wishes for crush is over! Birthday is always a special day. It is the day when we appreciate the presence of anyone who’s around…

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30 Flirty Text For Him To Create Romantic Mood

If you’re looking for some quality flirty texts for him, you’re at the right place. These days having a conversation can go downhill quickly as we run out of things…

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How to Deal with Jealousy in a Relationship & Learn to Overcome It

Jealousy isn’t always a sign of weakness or insecurity. Learn how to deal with jealousy in a relationship and overcome it in a healthier way.

Let’s get this straight, understanding how to deal with jealousy and overcome it in a relationship isn’t easy. It’s almost impossible to feel loved up and empathetic when we believe our relationship is being threatened by some external force. And before we know it, we’re flying off our handle in a jealous rage.

What is jealousy in a relationship?

Before we even get to dealing with jealousy or even overcoming it, we really need to understand what it means to get jealous when you’re in a relationship.

So what is jealousy in love? Simply put, jealously is a thinly veiled mask that hides our insecurity in a relationship. We feel insecure and assume we may be losing our partner, and so we react through a jealous rage. But all the while, it’s our insecurity that hides behind the excuse of jealousy.

The funny thing about jealousy is that it can confuse anyone into believing that the relationship is threatened even if they’re in a perfectly happy relationship.

[Read: Why am I so jealous? How to find the hidden reasons and fix it]

Is jealousy really bad in a relationship?

Jealousy in a relationship crops up in many ways, but in essence, it’s a sign of insecurity and the fear of losing the one you love. But more importantly, you need to remember that jealously in a relationship is never ever a bad thing.

No one intentionally chooses to be jealous, and almost always, it’s misunderstanding and lack of communication that leads to jealousy.

How to deal with jealousy in a relationship

You may get jealous of your partner for several reasons. You may not like the fact that they’re hanging out with someone else and having a lot of fun, or you may just feel insecure about losing your lover to someone else.

While jealousy due to misunderstanding is acceptable, irrational jealousy is NEVER acceptable. [Read: 17 big signs of a jealous and possessive boyfriend]

When a partner is threatened or feels jealous for the smallest of reasons, it’s almost always a sign of internal insecurity and low self-esteem.

You may be driven by your fears of losing the one you love and your insecurities may reveal your jealousy as a plea for more love and care. It is human nature, after all, to crave for reassurance and love when doubt arises.

But you should always remember that jealousy is actually one of the biggest causes for the downfall of a relationship. So when you do feel jealous, you don’t bring your partner closer. In fact, you drive them away with your behavior! [Read: The signs of low self-esteem in a man that reveal his dark side]

How to learn to control jealousy and get rid of it

The most simplest answer can solve all your jealousy issues. BUT it’s also the hardest part of it all – Learn to trust your partner and don’t doubt them unnecessarily.

Regain your confidence and remember that they do love you, and your boyfriend or girlfriend is not going to stop loving you by just talking to someone attractive.

Let there be no secrecy and if something bothers you, tell your partner in a clear but non-confrontational manner that you did not like or appreciate their behavior. This is a lot better than the good old show of the green eyed monster. We’ll get to this in more detail below, so let’s read on until then. [Read: 18 no-fail ways to calm your jealous girlfriend’s fears]

The things we get jealous of in a relationship

Okay, let’s be honest here. It is definitely not easy to just smile and relax when you see your partner accepting and throwing around compliments *a.k.a. flirting* with other good looking people in person or on social media. It feels weird to come across an Instagram post where your partner has liked another hot guy or girl’s picture. [Read: 15 things you shouldn’t do on Instagram when you have a partner]

We feel hot under the collar when we see our partner hugging someone else goodbye, and the hug seems to linger just a wee bit longer than it should. Or when they get drunk and dance in someone else’s arms.

Whew, just the thought of the different ways the green eyed monster can be roused can make anyone’s head spin!

It’s a crazy world we live in these days, with more social interaction than ever before in the history of mankind *yeah, let’s ignore the part where we’re also the loneliest bunch of humans too!*

These days, you definitely need to be thick-skinned if you want to survive the early days of a new relationship that’s doused in jealous and insecure thoughts. Are we dating? Are we in a relationship? Am I being gaslighted? Am I being used? Is it okay for me to be feeling jealous right now? [Read: How to stop being insecure in a relationship and be happy together instead]

Honestly, no matter what you’re worried about, YES, it’s completely alright to feel jealous.

Your partner’s friend seems to be calling them late at night – yes, you can be jealous. Your partner seems to be spending too much time with their friends – yes, it’s okay to be jealous. Your partner likes someone else’s post – YES, you’re only human!

The flip side of the things we get jealous of in love

Now here’s something you need to ask yourself. Why do you believe your partner’s behavior is completely unacceptable?

Put yourself in their place. Someone compliments your post on social media, wouldn’t you thank them? Would you avoid liking a friend’s post just because they’re attractive? Wouldn’t you hug or kiss a very good friend if you bump into them after ages? Wouldn’t you be happy to see them? Haven’t you ever found yourself having a fun conversation with someone *flirting* while your partner wasn’t around? Wouldn’t you dance with a good looking friend if your partner’s too tired to dance anymore?

Jealousy rears its head, not by the actions of your partner or anything else, but by your own misconceptions. It’s all about the way you perceive and see things. Somehow, it’s all fine and innocent when we do it. But the minute our partner does the same, it’s way, way out of line!! [Read: How to feel secure in a relationship when you feel really insecure inside]

Why we get jealous so easily

Humans have a tendency of being pessimistic and hope for the worst when it comes to relationships, and this tendency affects your rational mind. If you were just sitting with your friends and you notice two of your friends who are dating each other bickering over a petty jealousy-induced fight, wouldn’t you tell yourself they were just acting stupid and immature?

Now how are you behaving when you mistrust your partner for similar reasons? The problem with dealing with jealousy in a relationship is that most people forget to put themselves in their partner’s shoes and see what they would have done. You may have had your share of fun too if you were in your lover’s place. [Read: Lack of empathy in a relationship – Why it matters and how to fix it]

How to overcome jealousy in a relationship – The steps both of you have to take

It is normal to get jealous in love, but jealousy should never be shoved aside or pushed under the carpet. The only way to overcome jealousy in a relationship is by confronting it and overcoming it.

At times, you may be the one who’s feeling jealous, or at times, your partner may be the one going green in their head. The best way to help each other is through effective communication and understanding. Here are a few steps you should always keep in mind.

#1 Listen to each other, really! Your partner may be trying to say something to you, so pay attention. Most of the times, when jealousy sets in, all your lover wants you to do is pay attention to them, and show them you still care.

If you want to keep your partner happy and have a healthy relationship, then both of you should be ready to listen to each other and hear what each of you have to say. Try to empathize and read your partner’s mind and their actions when they feel ignored, and give them enough attention if they’re feeling alone while you’re texting someone else. [Read: How to tell how your partner feels and learn to read their mind]

#2 Communicate and understand. If you’re jealous with your partner about something, then just tell them about it. You may sulk, give them the silent treatment, and make the day worse for the both of you.

Instead of plotting in your mind, just say what’s on your mind and you can work things out faster and have more time to spend in happiness, than in misery. And if your partner wants to tell you something, don’t walk away in a mad rage even if you’re convinced it makes no sense to you.

Remember, what seems like nonsense to you could mean a lot to your partner when they are hurt and crave for your reassurance. [Read: How to become a better person in the relationship and be happier too]

#3 Read the signs. Most of the times, even if your partner is hurt or feeling low, they may not tell you they’re feeling jealous about something you did because it’s embarassing. So look out for signs that suggest they’re feeling insecure about something you’ve done.

Sit down and talk to them. Coax your partner into saying what’s on their mind and let them know they mean a lot to you. Sometimes, it’s easy to misunderstand each other, but it’s always easier to make a partner feel more secure if you try.

#4 Put yourself in their shoes. One of the best ways to deal with jealousy in a relationship is to learn to put yourself in your lover’s shoes. What would you have done if you were in your lover’s place? Would you have behaved the same way?

Always put yourself in their shoes and try to understand what your partner is going through. Perhaps, you thought your partner was flirting. But maybe your partner was just being nice or trying to make a good impression on someone else, and you assumed they’re flirting. Does everything in the world have to revolve around your partner wanting to break up with you, or cheat on you? [Read: 15 steps to stop being so insecure and transform your life]

#5 Reassurance. One of the best ways to deal with jealousy is to reassure your partner when they’re feeling jealous. If you react with anger instead of reassurance, things will only get worse.

Tell your partner that you’re sorry to have neglected them unintentionally, if you did neglect them. Or just reassure your mate and let them know how much you love them and care about them.

When someone gets jealous, remember, more than anything else, they’re afraid of losing you and they want your attention, badly!

Do you get jealous easily and often? Don’t ignore the warning signs

Look, it’s all fair and nice when the “jealousy” we’re taking about is inside our own heads. But sometimes, you may end up dating someone who tries to gaslight you, or emotionally abuse you. [Read: How to spot gaslighting and shut it down for good]

As much as you’re willing to accommodate your partner’s behavior and see things from their perspective, never ever, ever put up with something your partner does if you wouldn’t do the same.

Use the steps we’ve mentioned earlier to see things from your partner’s point of view. But no matter how hard you try, if you still think your jealous thoughts are valid and can’t be justified by your partner, you have every right to have a talk with them. And put your foot down and tell them it’s unacceptable.

Never compromise who you are, just to stay in a relationship with someone who makes you feel insecure all the time. [Read: How to recognize the signs of emotional neglect in a relationship]

Jealousy and love and how to keep the harmony

In a normal, healthy relationship, remember that feeling jealous is not something to be ashamed of. It’s just that you care about someone too much and can’t imagine someone new taking them away from you.

At times, you may not like your boyfriend or girlfriend flirting with someone because you feel they’re having a better time, even without you around. This brings out a feeling of insecurity which can turn into bitter jealousy.

Jealousy can be cute if it’s experienced in moderation, but anything beyond that can change your happy relationship into a frustrated one. [Read: How to stop being so jealous and learn to live envy-free]

Learn to relax and have a good time when you’re in love, instead of suspecting your lover all the time. Jealousy in a relationship is just a subconscious way to get attention from the one you love, so learn to face situations and communicate with your partner when you feel low.

And always understand the importance of listening when your partner is depressed or angry because of jealousy. Instead of looking at their jealousy as something to be annoyed about, see it as an opportunity to reassure your love to them. And build a stronger, more secure and healthy relationship.

At times, jealousy in a relationship may seem trivial, but if not confronted and overcome, jealousy can burn your relationship apart.

Understanding and reassurance is what it takes to hold your love together and overpower the green eyed monster that’s lurking in the corners, waiting to hurt you and make you hate your lover. So overcome jealousy in a relationship and reassure, communicate and fall in love with your sweetheart, more with every day!

[Read: 15 signs of a healthy relationship you should always look for]

Almost always, jealousy in a relationship is the fear of losing a lover and not a sign of aggression or possessiveness. Learn to deal with jealousy in a relationship and overcome it by understanding these steps, and you’ll be in a much happier, and healthier, relationship too.

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