When you walk up, and she looks up at you, she knows if she could go to bed with you later. What comes after is simply leading her there, and making her feel allowed to go.
There are two schools of thought when it comes to sex.
One school of thought is what you might call the 'normal guy school'. In this school, a woman will not go to bed with you until you have 'gotten her ready'. The ways a normal guy tries to make a woman want him / tries to 'get her ready' include:
- Spending time with her
- Connecting enough with her
- Making her laugh
- Showing her whom he is
- Displaying valuable things about himself
- Communicating to her she 'qualifies' for him
Once she has seen enough of the guy's good qualities, goes this school of thought, she will then open up to the idea of sex.
The other school of thought though is what we might call the 'lover school'. In this school, if a woman is going to go to bed with you, she knows it the moment you approach. You still will end up doing things like:
- Spending time with her
- Connecting enough with her
- Making her laugh
- Showing her whom you are
- Displaying valuable things about yourself
- Communicating to her she 'qualifies' for you
However, these actions serve the purpose of moving things along and getting her comfortable enough to let her guard down with you. They are not to 'make her want you'... not really.
Because she already wanted you. You're just trying to help her feel like it's okay to give into what she wants.
Although the actions are superficially the same, the intentions behind these actions are dramatically different between these two men. These intentions drive differences in how the man carries out these actions, how much of them he feels he needs, and how fast with women he thinks he can move.
The more you think like the men in the second school of thought (the lover school), the more natural, easy, and fluid you will find getting together with new women becomes.
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