Does the Perfect Partner or Relationship Exist?

I suspect this is more an American problem... in part because I haven't seen it so much outside of America, and in part because America is a nation with people uniquely fixated on "I should get what I want -- all of what I want."

However, there is a certain expectation that a perfect partner and/or relationship should be achievable.

To put that into specific terms:

• It should be possible to find a partner who shares all the same interests as you

• It should be possible to find a partner who wants time together when you want it, and to be alone when you want to be alone

• It should be possible to find a partner with the same love language as you, so you are always happy with her ways of showing affection and she is always happy with yours

• It should be possible to find a partner who always communicates in exactly the way that works best with you, so you always know what the issue is and never encounter drama

• It should be possible to find a partner whose sex drive exactly matches yours, so the sex is never too little, and never too much

• It should be possible to find a partner who's fine to do all the chores that you don't want to do

• It should be possible to find a partner who has all your other requirements, wrapped up into one: your looks requirements, physique requirements, height requirements, intellect requirements, personality requirements, social life requirements. All wrapped up in one

• It should be possible to find a partner who wants exactly what you want from the relationship (more closeness or just a little closeness; one child or two children or ten children or no children; to live a lavish lifestyle, or to live a minimalist one). And that, should you change your preferences at some point, she will change her preferences at the same time, or nearly so, and the two of you won't grow apart

• It should be possible to find a partner who is always pleasing and rarely irritating, and never, ever, ever causes a fuss

The perfect partner, and the perfect relationship.

It should be possible... should it?

Because many relationships end due to what we could ultimately boil down to this one consideration: "She just wasn't perfect enough."