Scouting for Meet Girls Spots: You Just Have to Go There

Ever try to predict how good a place will be to meet girls by looking at a map or talking to people? If you have, you'll know how wrong you often get it. But… why?

I like to regularly scout new spots. Keeps things fresh, and you don't know what you'll find -- either in the place, or in the woman situation (see: new spot bonus).

The other day I decided to work at a shopping mall in one of the university areas. I walked by the women's university, where school's just about to be back in session, with cars unloading female college students and their suitcases and belongings. Then I found the nearby mall and took a stroll through it.

And... I was surprised how few single women there were there.

There were lots of families. Lots of children. A few couples and trios of college girls. Next to none there alone. And of the women who were there, only a handful were very attractive.

The mall had multiple floors, but only two options to work at, a Starbucks on the first floor and a tea place on one of the upper floors. The tea place actually looked like the better bet as far as clientele, but I opted for the Starbucks to get a clearer idea about the mall's foot traffic.

In the several hours I spent there, I saw perhaps a handful of attractive women, solo, walk by. The rest were all couples, trios, and families. Most of the women I saw did not have attractive faces (if unmasked) and/or didn't have the best bodies.

Where were all the attractive solo girls?

Toxic Girlfriend: How to Tell if the Girl You Like Will Be Toxic

Your first date was fun, but by the third date, you notice she’s exhibiting some behaviors that are making you second guess if she’s a toxic girlfriend.

I was a toxic girlfriend. There. I said it. It’s actually the first time I said it out loud. I was a toxic girlfriend, even when I met my current partner. I spent two years of the relationship unlearning that behavior and becoming my true self. And let me tell you, it wasn’t easy.

First, no one wants to admit they’re a toxic person. Secondly, I didn’t even know I was toxic until my partner sat me down and talked to me. I was a wounded person. I dated the same type of guys over and over again, cried over the same reasons, and nothing changed.

How to tell she’ll be a toxic girlfriend

Now, you may really like her. Listen, just because she’s like this doesn’t mean she can’t change. She can change, but it will take a lot of work and effort on her part. She will need to wise up and make the change on her own.

[Read: How to fix a toxic relationship… can you or is it too far gone?]

So, this may not be someone who’s ready for a healthy relationship right now. She needs to do some soul searching. If you see these signs in her, this doesn’t mean she’s a bad person. However, it does mean you should avoid going into a relationship with her.

Get out before you even start with these signs of a toxic girlfriend. [Read: 15 signs of a toxic relationship that’ll go from bad to worse] 

#1 For her, love is the most important thing in the world. She doesn’t believe she can be happy unless she finds herself a man to be with. For her, love is the biggest goal in her life. And this can place her in positions of being with men she doesn’t truly love.

#2 Her idea of love is shallow. When you ask her about love and what she thinks of it, her answers are shallow. Her idea of love is based on what she’s seen on TV or read in romance books. There’s not a strong sense of reality in her definition. She doesn’t talk about the struggles and obstacles people in relationships need to work through. [Read: What is love? How to recognize it when you see it]

#3 She lets go of her boundaries. She has boundaries; it’s not that she doesn’t. But her boundaries are all over the place. No one really knows what she wants or what she’s looking for because she doesn’t even know herself. Her boundaries are inconsistent, which is what brings on the drama. 

#4 She has unrealistic views of love in her head. She wants to be chased by a man in the rain or proposed to on a baseball field after two dates. She doesn’t have realistic views of love going on in her head. She lives in her head, loving the drama and fantasy of what she sees in chick flicks. 

#5 She doesn’t learn from her past. She makes the same mistakes over and over again. If you ask about her dating history, you’ll notice all her stories have the same plot. Her ex treated her badly, yet, she never mentions her own behavior or responsibility in the relationship. [Read: 18 sure signs the girl you like is just using you!]

#6 She loves attention. It’s not that she loves it; she needs it. If she’s always texting you or calling you a couple of times a day, she’s craving attention. This is because she’s empty inside and needs something to fill herself. Instead of self-reflecting, she looks outwards.

#7 The smallest thing feels like the end of the world. She lost her earring or accidentally tripped going up the stairs, either of those actions would destroy her day. When things don’t go according to plan, she can’t handle it. She struggles with adapting to situations that aren’t flowing exactly how she pictured it. [Read: 11 types of girls you should avoid falling for at all costs]

#8 She has a history of dating men who trigger her issues. She just can’t get enough of them! She chooses these types of guys because this is what she knows. The emotionally distant ones, the abusive men, these are the types of people she goes to because they’re also toxic.

#9 She falls deep into a relationship. She gives all of herself into her relationships, even to the point where she doesn’t know who she is. And the reason is that she doesn’t have a strong sense of who she is. When you don’t know who you are, it’s easy to lose yourself in someone else’s hands. She wants to spend every moment with her partner, never letting them go.

#10 She lacks self-awareness. If she was aware of herself, she wouldn’t keep dating the same guys over and over again. But toxic girls lack this self-awareness, always falling into their old ways. This goes beyond her dating life. This lack of self-awareness runs through all aspects of her life.

#11 Her partner provides her with self-esteem. On her own, she has very little self-worth or respect for herself. But if her partner thinks she’s beautiful, then she is. She depends on her partner for her own self-validation, and that’s a scary thing. Without a man by her side, she questions who she is and her worth in the world. [Read: How to deal with a needy girlfriend and help her feel secure]

#12 Nothing you do is good enough. You could give her the world, and she still wouldn’t be impressed. This is because, for toxic women, nothing is good enough for them. They keep wanting more and more, yet they don’t understand why they’re not happy. She has an emptiness inside of her that cannot be filled with outside people or objects.

[Read: What is a toxic relationship? Know the signs and how to get out]

If you’re noticing that the girl you’re dating is exhibiting these signs, the odds are she’s going to be a toxic girlfriend.

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Should One Even Bother with Dating During a Pandemic?

This COVID pandemic has thrown a massive wrench in the dating game. In lockdown, meeting women is much harder, if not impossible. So, should you even bother right now?

Hey guys, and welcome back. I’ve recently shared a few guides and opinions on the COVID-19 pandemic and how it affects pickup and seduction.

If you'd like to catch up on those, here they are:

• Pickup Artist Tips for Surviving the COVID-19 Lockdown
• The COVID-19 Effect: Do We Need to Rethink Pickup and Seduction?
• COVID-19 Has Not Made Dating Apps Better
• Dating Strategies for Different Levels of Lockdown
• How a Girl's Perception of COVID-19 Affects Her Sex Drive
• COVID-19 Dating – How to Meet Women in the Era of Masks
• Alek's M.O. for Meeting Women During COVID – Plan A
• Alek's M.O. for Meeting Women During COVID – Plans B and C

Contents

I. Why Even Bother?

II. Get a Girlfriend

III. Get an F-buddy

IV. Do Something Else

V. Recap

I know we live in frustrating times; and I will not hide it, I find these times frustrating, too. But I keep a cool head and carry on, trying to figure out ways to maintain my lifestyle.

Things will eventually get back to normal; when is the real question. I am not going to sit back and wait, though I admit, I am not as active as I usually am with my pickup and seduction hobby. So I do what I can to maintain my skills and keep some female company as I believe this to be healthy. Having girls around is healthy for my brain, especially these days when everybody seems to have lost their minds.

I know some of you are still questioning whether one should still bother with seduction at all during these times. This question is what I’ll cover in today’s post.

15 Harmless Questions to Ask to Get to Know Someone Really Well

Time is short. Sometimes we want to find out more but don’t have the hours. Here are 15 questions to ask to get to know someone without delay!

In order to get to know someone on a deeper level, dig down a few layers. You must ask inventive questions and share experiences together, and it all takes time. However, most of us simply don’t have time. Even if we do, we’re in a rush. If that sounds like your situation, there are a few questions to ask to get to know someone quickly.

Use them to really dig beneath the surface and find out about the person you’re spending so much time with.

Questions to ask to get to know someone well

It’s possible to spend several hours with someone, even weeks or months, and feel like you don’t really know them that well.

[Read: 30 all around good questions to ask people and form better connections]

Sure, you know the basics, such as their name, where they came from, the job they do, perhaps you know their parents’ names and whether they have siblings, etc., but does that mean that you know them, like really know them?

No.

The answers might be shocking, they might be surprising, they might be something you don’t quite know what to deal with, but they’ll certainly be enlightening.

#1 What is your number one pet peeve? Finding out what really gets someone’s blood boiling can tell you a lot about them. It’s one of the best questions to ask to get to know someone, for sure. It can also tell you about what not to do around them, to avoid their wrath!

It might be rudeness, it might be cruelty to animals, it might be not putting the toilet seat down. It can be anything from the serious to the crazy, but it’s an interesting thing to learn. [Read: How to make new friends as an adult]

#2 Who is your hero in life? This is an interesting one because learning about their hero tells you what they look up to. For instance, they might say someone like Nelson Mandela, Obama, Mother Teresa, or another force of good from history, past or recent. However, they might also say something joking, such as Mickey Mouse. Avoiding such a serious question tells you a lot about a person.

#3 What is your favorite movie of all time? This is an easy one to ask and tells you about the things they enjoy in their spare time. They might say a film from the ‘80s, such as Dirty Dancing or Back to The Future, or they might say that they love the effects in the Avatar. The list goes on, but it’s definitely one of the questions to ask to get to know someone and what they enjoy watching. [Read: 75 fun questions to ask a new friend and feel like BFFs in no time]

#4 If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? Learning about how someone views themselves is important and can give you an insight into their real confidence levels. They might say something about their looks or their weight, or perhaps they’ll say something about their personality. It’s an intriguing question to ask, and it will help you to get to know the person behind the mask.

#5 What is your favorite childhood memory? It’s wonderful to sit and hear someone’s favorite memory from when they were small and to watch their face light up as they recall the small details. It’s definitely one of the most important questions to ask to get to know someone and will show you about the things they hold dear.

#6 What makes you really angry? This is a little different from the pet peeve question, because while a peeve might make them a little annoyed, anger is totally different. It might be something political, environmental, or something else entirely, but it’s a great question to find out a little more about the person you’re spending time with. It also shows you what they’re truly passionate about. [Read: 25 personal questions to ask a friend and bond like BFFs]

#7 If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you choose? This is one of the great questions to ask to get to know someone because it tells you about the places they dream about.

They might choose a castaway island with coconuts and white sand or a wooden hut in the middle of a snowy retreat. Or they might opt for a vibrant city. All of this helps you to get to know the person on a deeper level.

#8 What are you most proud of in your life? Again, this tells you about their deeper experiences and feelings. Learning what someone is proud of tells you about what makes them tick. It exposes their passions, desires, and what they want out of life. It’s one of the best questions to ask to get to know someone pretty quickly. [Read: How to be more playful and flirty when getting to know someone]

#9 What do you do in your downtime? If you’re potentially romantically involved with this person, learning about what they do in their downtime could give you some great ideas for future dates!

#10 What is the best gift anyone has ever given you in your life? This is a very testing question because if the person says something wildly expensive and says the gift was amazing because of the price, it could point towards them being a materialistic person. However, if they tell you it was a homemade gift from their nephew or niece, it tells you that they value time over money.

#11 What is the worst gift anyone has ever given you in your life? The opposite question is also one of the best questions to ask to get to know someone too. Again, they might say that they received a hand knitted scarf from their auntie and they hated it, and it would say something quite negative about them, even if it was an awful scarf. [Read: 50 cheeky questions to ask someone you like]

#12 What one word could people use to describe you accurately? This is ideal for finding out how they see themselves. They could say ‘quirky’, ‘fun’, ‘silly’, ‘organized’, the list goes on. It’s fun to see how someone views their own personality. You can see if your view is the same as theirs or whether you should get to know them a little more.

#13 If you had a super power, what would it be? This is a fun one! Ask them what their ideal super power would be and why. Maybe they want to fly and explore the word, or maybe they want to be invisible so they can sneak into locker rooms. The options are endless!

#14 If you could change one thing about your life right now, what would it be? This is one of the questions to get to know someone quite well in the here and now. It requires total honesty on their part. You’ll find out more information than you would if you simply danced around such deep questions. It also tells you a lot about what they want-and don’t want-out of life. [Read: The biggest signs of an emotional connection with someone]

#15 If you won the lottery, what would you do with the money? And they have to be honest! Would they gift some of it, spend all of it, invest it, buy a house? What would they do? This tells you a lot about who they are and what is important to them. It’s one of the best questions to ask get to know someone pretty well indeed!

[Read: 20 funny get to know you questions to help you bond instantly]

These questions to ask to get to know someone will help you to delve a little deeper. Bonus, it will get you thinking about what your own answers would be too.

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30 Inspiring Kindness Quotes For Kids To Learn Care And Share

Kindness is the most inexpensive yet most valuable gift. Kids are incredibly impressionable human beings who learn from our words and behavior.  If you are kind to animals, your kids…

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The Dreaded COVID Divorce: What Is It and Why Is It Trending?

COVID-19 has warped our way of life all across the globe, and amongst those changes, a COVID divorce has become quite a popular topic.

COVID has uprooted our lives in endless ways. Quarantining at home with your spouse or partner can be hard on a relationship, even the healthiest one.  Are you or someone you know facing a COVID divorce?

Being home for work, avoiding social gatherings and those outside your household, can put a lot of pressure on your relationship.

For partners that are independent and enjoy their alone time, it can feel overwhelming and even suffocating to be together every day without an end in sight.

It may sound bad, but marriage doesn’t mean you are connected at the hip. Most couples have friends outside their marriage, visit extended family, go to work, and social gatherings. These things keep your relationship healthy.

When your spouse or partner is your only source of socializing, it can be hard on good relationships and expose ones that may have already been failing.

[Read: How to ensure your relationship survives the coronavirus isolation?]

What is a COVID divorce?

A COVID divorce is essentially a divorce or break up during the current pandemic overtaking the world. But, it is more than that. Sure, in some cases it may be a coincidence that a couple breaks up now, but for others, it is caused by the strain brought on by the hardships of the pandemic.

Some celebrity couples who have broken up and started the term, COVID divorce are: last year’s Bachelor, Colton Underwood and Cassie Randolph, Cole Sprouse and Lili Reinhart, and Kelly Clarkson and Brandon Blackstock.

These breakups could have been in the works for a while, but I’m sure COVID didn’t help things.

Imagine spending all day every day with your partner outside of this pandemic. You normally have a night out with friends, run errands, and more. Now you are together in your home without the support and independence you’re accustomed to.

[Read: Resentment in marriage – how it grows and ways to weed it out]

Now, this time has also given some couples a chance to rekindle their relationships. Dave and Odette Annable separated a while back but announced their reconnection a few weeks back. Perhaps this time has given them a chance to focus on their relationship in a way they couldn’t before.

But, that seems to be the exception, not the rule.

Why are there so many COVID divorces?

Now that we get what a COVID divorce is, why are they trending? Why does it seem like a new couple announces their breakup every day?

Well, according to experts, this adjustment has disrupted routines to a breaking point. Couples are forced together. This means they need to communicate and interact in ways they have never done before.

For example, a couple that is working from home may need to share some work essentials like an office, computer equipment, and more. This can put a burden on a relationship that thrived away from work.

Yes, this is likely temporary, but without an end in sight, many couples cannot cope with this new set of issues.

[Read: Here’s where to start if you want to improve your marriage]

Everything from rescheduling an expensive wedding to losing income and working from home adds struggles to relationships.

According to a notable psychiatrist, most of these couples were struggling before the pandemic and lockdown orders were set, but the extensive time together brought the troubles to the surface.

Things that couples have been resenting or holding in for months or even years have erupted because there are fewer distractions outside of the home.

Not to mention, there is a lack of resources right now. Couples staying home may find it hard to do virtual therapy due to a lack of privacy. Therapists are also seeing a rise in new clients so it could be difficult to get an appointment for couples counseling.

Couples that loved to travel or were accustomed to one partner traveling for work have to readjust to something they are unfamiliar with. All of this introduces new hurdles and adds to existing ones.

[Read: Relationship therapy and how to know if it will work for your situation]

Are you headed for a COVID divorce?

Maybe you clicked on this article because you’re curious. Or perhaps you were seeking it out for advice or insights. If you are in a relationship, living with your partner, and struggling right now, I can tell you, you are not alone.

Tensions are running high for family members as well. The anxiety and stress of the current climate along with all the changes are enough to stress you out. Add that to a delicate relationship and it makes sense that you are nervous.

If your relationship was on the rocks before the lockdown, the changes in your routine are probably making it unbearable. People respond to high-stress times so differently which is why big life changes often lead to divorce or breakups. [Read: How to ensure your relationship survives the coronavirus isolation]

You may be anxious about contracting COVID-19 while your partner is a lot more relaxed. Maybe you want to be as cautious as possible while they are still visiting friends and refuse to wear a mask. These sorts of differences can cause a rift in a marriage that is as intense as a difference in religion or politics.

But, this time can offer you time to focus on these issues and work through them together. This time is something you may not have had before.

[Read: 11 tiny relationship issues you’re better off ignoring]

How to prevent a COVID divorce?

If you are feeling stuck during quarantine, you are not alone. Wanting to keep your marriage or relationship intact makes sense. Whether new issues arose due to the pandemic or this time is shining a light on old problems, work on them from home.

#1 Split your time. If you share a small space, you may feel trapped in your relationship which makes everything more difficult. But, just because you’re at home together doesn’t mean you have to be together all the time.

If you share an office take turns. One of you can work from the couch and the other from the office. You can even switch off days. Go for walks separately and even watch your favorite shows separately. Come together the same way you did before.

Maybe have breakfast and dinner together, but spend the middle of the day apart doing your own things.

#2 Have dates. Okay, you can’t go out to eat in a neutral environment. You may not feel the need to get dressed up or talk about things you would if you were in public but try.

Plan a date night once a week. Take turns cooking or ordering food and setting something up. Maybe an indoor picnic if the weather is bad. Go for a romantic stroll. And get dressed up if you’d normally do that. [Read: Are you suffering from isolation and cabin fever during the pandemic?]

#3 Vent. Just because you can’t meet up with your friends to vent about how loudly your partner breathes doesn’t mean you can’t talk to them. Have FaceTimes or phone calls with friends.

Do this outside or on your daily walk to maintain privacy. Recreating the social times you had before virtually may feel off, but it will help you.

#4 Online therapy. Whether you want to schedule counseling together or alone, there are a lot of online resources that offer talk therapy during these times. A lot of traditional therapists offer virtual visits as well.

Whether you went to therapy beforehand or not, the help and guidance from a professional will offer you outside perspectives on your relationship. [Read: Could dealing with a pandemic bring you closer to your partner?]

#5 Don’t try for a baby. I know so many people are getting pregnant right now, but if you are struggling in your relationship, now is probably not the time. Adding a child to a marriage on the brink will only add more stress to your situation.

The distraction may push things off for a while but adding a baby to a risky relationship is never a fix to a problem. [Read: Why a baby trap is the dumbest thing you could do to keep your partner in your life]

#6 Check-in. This is a hard time for everyone. Don’t assume you know how your partner is feeling without talking about it. Take some time once a week to check in with each other.

Discuss your worries and fears. Listen to each other’s concerns. If you can communicate and work through your struggles right now, this time could bring you closer together.

[Read: How to avoid a Covidivorce and keep your relationship going strong]

The term COVID divorce seems to be trending now and has been for months. Remember, it doesn’t have to be the case for you.

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How to ‘Meet Smooth’ and Sweep Women Off Their Feet

Women dream of being swept off their feet by a sexy stranger. Here's how to set yourself up as the object of her fantasies before you even make eye contact.

Contents

I. Common Day Game Mistakes

II. The Smooth Operator

III. How Do You Meet Smooth?

IV. Strategic Effortlessness

V. Nonverbal Narratives

VI. Deliberately Expressive Subcommunication

VII. Onward

Ever wonder what’s missing from your approach?

Maybe you meet respectable numbers of cute new girls each week, but you’ve often noticed difficulties reaching the hook point. Perhaps these recent approaches and attempts to chat up attractive women during the day have failed to bring the positive results you’d expect. However, just increasing the number of girls you’re meeting won’t address the issue.

If you’ve worked on your fundamentals, carefully considered each of the 3 schools of seduction, and broadened your arsenal of pickup tech, you may have come to a realization. While volume game helps you screen for girls who are interested in you, it is the least effective path for an up-and-coming seducer to take each battleground of the journey to dating success. This is especially true if you use polarizing openers to approach new women in day game.

It doesn’t matter if the probability of getting intimate with the women you open is low. This article will show you the steps toward better day game results. What’s more, you’ll be able to look back on the practical tips from this article with warmth and appreciation because they helped propel you past frustrating plateaus. You’ll dramatically boost your odds of getting laid each time you decide to meet a new girl during the day.

25 Best Surgery Wishes And Messages For Dearest One

Well Wishes For Surgery My brave little baby, you have handled your sickness and pain like a boss. I hope the surgery is completed with flying colors. See you on…

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Here's Why You Have a Crush on That Girl – And How to Move Forward

Crushing is the result of inaction. You have a crush on that girl because you never made a move. Want to escape that perpetual “what if” state with her? Here’s how.

Contents

I. Spiderman and High School Jocks

II. Needy Guys

III. Crushes Are an Illusion

IV. What to Do If You Have a Crush

V. Digital Voyeurism in the Social Media Age

VI. Is Sex Everywhere?

VII. Wrap-Up

Whether you’re in high school, college, or the world of work, one phenomenon repeats in most guys’ lives — the crush. You are enchanted by a classmate or co-worker, and you develop feelings for her. But why this girl, and not somebody else? And why do you get those feelings in the first place?

Let’s explore some solutions to the crush problem (and yes, it is a problem). It’s exacerbated in this day and age by social media and dating apps that place sex “everywhere.” Sadly, for many guys, it’s just out of reach.

Thank You Messages for Mentor

Thank You Message for Mentor : A simple message can show your gratitude for your mentor. Yet you can find it... More

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Tactics Tuesdays: The Easiest Way to Touch Any Part of a Woman

You can touch a woman on pretty much any part of her body… IF she likes you, she's comfortable with you, and you use this simple technique.

There's a simple little way to get away with touching pretty much any part of a woman's body.

The rules are that she has to be into you enough to permit a touch there, and she has to be comfortable enough with you to enjoy a touch there -- and you also need to able to tell a story in an excited enough, confident enough way.

If your timing and calibration is correct, however, this tactic will let you get away with pretty much any kind of touch you can imagine (from fairly harmless stuff like looping her arm in yours or lacing her fingers with yours to the naughtiest kinds of touch you can imagine). It is one of the most innocuous ways to touch a girl you can imagine.

This simple tactic is that you will tell a story to a girl that involves the kind of touch you want to do on her -- and then you'll demonstrate that kind of touch right on her.

Rushing into a Relationship? Why You Need to Learn to Slow Down

The pressure to be loved up is immense these days. However, rushing into a relationship when you’re not compatible, or ready, leads to heartache.

Is it me, or is the world on fast forward these days? Everyone is so busy rushing around, trying to get from A to B, hit so-called life milestones, rushing into a relationship, and doing better than everyone else. What happened to taking your time? Enjoying the moment? Actually living?

For some reason, being single still has that dreaded stigma attached to it. Blame it on the movies, TV, social media, whatever you like, but there’s a lot to be said for staying single for a while, getting to know yourself a little better, and actually living for yourself. No, it’s not selfish, it’s necessary!

If you’re nodding your head, ask yourself why you’re rushing into a relationship.

[Read: Do you want a partner or are you just feeling more lonely?]

When you meet someone, do you automatically start thinking ahead and wondering what the relationship is going to be like? This is all before a relationship even begins! If so, chill out a little bit, let things evolve naturally, and see what happens. There’s a lot to be said for going with the flow!

The clearest signs you’re rushing into a relationship

To help you understand whether this is a problem you should address, let’s look at a few signs that you might be rushing into a relationship.

#1 You just don’t feel comfortable being yourself. It takes time to get to know someone, and, equally, it takes time to feel comfortable enough to just be yourself around someone. Most people are on their best behavior when they first meet someone and start dating. Think about the last time you met someone. How quickly did you feel comfortable lounging around in your sweat pants and not really caring about your appearance? It probably took months or longer!

[Read: How fast is too fast in a relationship? Your guide to perfect timings]

If you feel pressure to keep up a certain pretense all the time, it’s probably because you’re rushing into a relationship that hasn’t had time to evolve naturally. There should be a period of time when you just get to know one another, when you simply focus on having fun and learning about the other person. When you’re rushing, you side-step all of that. It feels completely overwhelming.

#2 You feel pressured to be part of a couple. This particular sign is usually because everyone around you is coupled up. It’s one of the main reasons that people are rushing into a relationship these days. The thing is, you don’t have to compete when it comes to love. If your friends are all in relationships, that doesn’t mean you have to be. We all move at difference paces. Some people simply might prefer to be single.

If you’re rushing things, it could very well be because you feel like you’re the odd one out or that you’re missing out on something. Remember, there are many perks to being single too! [Read: 12 surprising and uplifting perks to being the third wheel]

#3 The L word is uttered very soon after meeting. While you might think you love someone the moment you set eyes on them, the chances of this being true are very slim. If the L word is uttered within weeks, sit back and think about your motivation here. You don’t know the person well enough to be telling them you love them, and if you hear it from someone you’re dating, you should wonder what’s going on.

Sure, it’s nice, but let’s be honest here, love takes a while to develop and strengthen. If it’s being claimed too soon, it can’t be that true.

If you feel pressured to say the L word quickly or you feel like you want to, it could be because you’re trying to lock the relationship down sooner rather than later. [Read: 10 reasons why saying “I love you” too soon just sucks]

#4 You try and put a label on your relationship too soon. It’s normal to wonder what the relationship actually is. For example, is it exclusive? Is it going anywhere? But, having this type of conversation with someone too soon can either scare them off, or take the fun out of the whole getting to know one another stage.

If you feel like you need a label and you’ve not really been together that long, it’s one of the biggest signs that you’re rushing into a relationship. There is no need to label what’s going on between you, it will become clear enough over time. [Read: 17 modern dating terms to help you master the evolving dating game]

#5 You share everything about yourself. Over-sharing is a sign of rushing too. There’s getting to know each other naturally. Then, there’s feeling the need to off-load everything about your life. By over-sharing, you attempt to fast forward to the point where you know each other well.

Again, you can’t rush this stage because it’s something which evolves naturally over time. You’ll get to know the other person via the experiences you have together and the memories you create. There’s really no need to sit down and give your partner a verbal autobiography. [Read: The 11 signs you’re spending way too much couple time together]

#6 People tell you to slow down, and you don’t listen. It’s likely that your friends or family members are telling you to chill out and slow down a little. When you’re clearly rushing into a relationship, you’re likely to be stressed. It will show to those around you because you’ll be questioning everything and tying yourself up in knots.

The early stages of dating is always confusing and full of questions. But, when you rush things, everything will be ten times harder and more confusing. So, if you’re being advised to slow down and you’re not listening, it’s one of the big signs that you’re rushing into a relationship ahead of time.

#7 You have moments when you realize you hardly know them at all. When you’re together, you might run out of things to talk about or you might wonder whether you really know them that well at all. The reason is because you don’t. It’s not possible to know someone that quickly. As a result, you’ll experience awkward silences and moments when you’re not sure what to say.

This can often lead to misunderstandings and even arguments. That’s because when you don’t know someone that well and you’re trying to force a relationship, the whole thing becomes a big stressful mess. [Read: How to respond to an overreaction without losing your cool]

#8 You’re on a rollercoaster of emotions. Rushing into a relationship means that you’ll not have the time to process the delicate feelings you’re experiencing. As a result, you’ll go from high highs to low lows. It will all be so overwhelming that you’ll risk burnout.

If you’re always jumping from one emotion to another and you’re not spending time just relaxing and enjoying things as they are, question why you’re rushing things. What is it actually doing for you? The chances are, you’re going to end up stressed. Seriously, what’s the point in a relationship that simply stresses you out?

[Read: Is your relationship moving too fast? How to pinpoint your dating speed]

Rushing into a relationship rarely ends well. Take your time, learn about each other, and enjoy each shared moment as it comes. Your future relationship will be stronger for it.

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The Red Flags in a Guy That Will Only End in Your Heart Breaking

When it comes to dating, you’re meeting new men, seeing which person would be the best partner for you. So, pay attention to the red flags in a guy.

It’s easy to get swept up at the moment, especially if he’s a smooth talker, and that’s when you forget about the little voice in your head. But, no matter how well the date is going, keep your eyes open for the red flags in a guy.

After the date, if you spot them, go home and think about the red flags you saw. How could they affect your life? If it’s just an annoying act or trait he has, well, we all have them. But if he’s showing he has serious issues, think twice whether you want to go on a second date with him.

13 red flags in a guy to make you think twice

The dating world is a wild one. Everyone has had their own experience when it comes to dating and meeting new people. Most of us meet nice people who are genuine and kind, but then there’s always that one person who comes and ruins dating for you.

[Read: How to remain hopeful while dating and not let heartaches stop you]

Maybe they lied to you or gave you the impression they wanted more—either way, it left you a little heartbroken. I get it! We’ve all been there *well, most of us—some were lucky!*.

If you’re new to the dating world or re-entering it after some time, it’s important for you to know the red flags in a guy. That’s a flag you don’t want.

#1 He’s never been single. Of course, some people have been in year-long relationships and then become single. But then there are also people who chronically jump from one relationship to the next. This isn’t cute. It’s not a trait you want in a partner. If he’s never been single, you should wonder if he’s ever gone through the necessary growing pains. [Read: These are the types of men you shouldn’t date if you’re looking to find true love]

#2 They expect a lot from you. But they don’t expect much from themselves. It’s common for women to find themselves in relationships where they’re the only ones investing in it, while their partner takes the backseat. If he’s not willing to invest in the relationship right away equally, he’ll never do it.

#3 His exes are all crazy. Weirdly enough, not one of his exes seems to be level-headed and rational people. When he talks about his exes, they’re all crazy and took advantage of him. He’s making himself look like a walking angel, and if the blame is all on them, then you know there’s an issue. [Read: Understanding gaslighting and how to know if your lover is messing with your mind]

#4 They don’t apologize. Run! Run far away! Listen, I dated someone like that, and it’s a nightmare. Everything is your fault, and they will never apologize for their behavior. In other words, you will never be equal to them. Sorry is hard to say, but if he can apologize, it means he’s able to be vulnerable and take responsibility.

#5 They’re not nice to other people. When you’re out for dinner, they’re rude to the staff for no real reason. And though this may seem like not a big deal, it is. If they’re rude to people they don’t even know, then how can you expect them to treat you with kindness and respect? [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend]

#6 He’s never lived out of his parent’s house. Now, this doesn’t mean he’s a mama’s boy who’s looking for a girlfriend who’s going to be his second mother. But if you’re someone who’s independent, you want a partner who’s on your level. You don’t want someone you need to carry through life.

#7 No is not an option. At least not for him. Of course, no one likes to hear the word no, but at some point, you accept the answer and move on. But for him, he doesn’t take no lightly. In fact, he’ll keep pushing your boundaries until that no becomes a yes. Not cool. This doesn’t show respect. [Read: The signs of a toxic boyfriend that should make you move away fast] 

#8 He loves to complain. The guy is a chronic complainer. Nothing is ever good enough for him, and though you may think this is a sign of “high standards,” it’s also a red flag. This isn’t about high standards; this is about him whining about his life not being fair. It’s his life! He’s the only one who can improve it!

#9 You have different sexual preferences. I don’t want to say sex is the most important part of the relationship, but it’s up there. If you start to see you aren’t sexually compatible at some point along the date, don’t stick around. If he likes having sex three times a day, and you like having sex once a month, this isn’t going to work.

#10 Everything has a motive. There are some people who are kind and compassionate out of the goodness of their hearts. They want to be kind and compassionate. And then there are people who act kind and compassionate but do so out of an ulterior motive. You don’t want that in a partner. [Read: 15 subtle signs of a controlling boyfriend most girls don’t notice]

#11 He pulls you from friends and family. A man should never pull you away from your friends and family. If they are trying to stop you from hanging out with the people you love and trust, this is a huge warning sign that there will be more to come, and it won’t be pretty.

#12 He doesn’t listen to you. When you talk to him, he’s on his phone or rolling his eyes, and we all know that’s not a good sign. Red flag! These are serious signs of disrespect, and it’s not going to get any better down the road. [Read: First date red flags that say a lot more than your date]

#13 He makes cruel jokes. Ew. Listen, I’m down for playfully teasing each other here and there, but if he’s making cruel and hurtful jokes towards you, red flag. He’s trying to break you down, and eventually, these jokes will become abusive.

[Read: Manchild alert! Don’t fall for the immature prick]

You don’t want to get your heart broken by someone who’s a walking red flag. The next time you’re on a date, look for these red flags in a guy. And if you notice them, walk away.

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8 Signs of a Seductive Individual

Seductive people more easily obtain money, power, fame, and sex. What’s the secret sauce, and can anyone increase their seductive powers by using it?

Contents

I. The Benefits of Being Seductive

II. 8 Signs of a Seductive Individual

1. Charisma
2. Sex
3. Money
4. Power
5. Fame
6. Confidence
7. Positivity
8. Intelligence

III. Conclusion

IV. How to Become More Seductive

What qualities make a seductive individual?

First, let’s get acquainted with the word.

“Seductive: tending to seduce: having alluring or tempting qualities, a seductive, sometimes disingenuous man

Synonyms: alluring, appealing, attractive, bewitching, captivating, charismatic, charming, elfin, enchanting, engaging, entrancing, fascinating, fetching, glamorous, magnetic.

Antonyms: repellent, repelling, repugnant, repulsive, revolting, unalluring.”

If people are calling you repugnant, you are definitely not seductive.

If you approach a hottie at the mall and she tells her friends she met a captivating, engaging man, you’re definitely seductive.

I don’t think many people identify as ‘seductive’ individuals. But if you want to become seductive, this article will point out the qualities and skills necessary.

How to Stop Being Jealous for No Reason & Learn to Live Envy-Free

Trust issues can really impede a relationship. So, how do you stop being jealous for no reason and live with freedom of mind?

Jealousy is an ugly part of dating and relationships. It can poison a great relationship. And the worst part, it is often brought on by our past circumstances rather than rational things happening now. So, how do you stop being jealous for no reason?

Because jealousy can eat away at your mind. It can overtake your trust and drive you crazy if you let it.

One small thing can set off jealousy. If you’ve been lied to or cheated on in the past, noticing your partner’s cute coworker could be enough to set it off. Even a fear of abandonment or low self-esteem can make jealousy get out of control.

When you feel jealous, it can make you so frustrated. You may very well know that your partner is loyal, but you can’t shake those jealous feelings. It seems like you are jealous for no reason.

[Read: Why am I so jealous? Look at the hidden reasons and learn to fix it]

Are you jealous for no reason?

Oftentimes, when you’re jealous, it can feel like there is no reason. You trust your partner and know they aren’t cheating. You know they treat you right. But, you just can’t shake those feelings of insecurity.

Even though your rational side tells you everything is fine, and there is no reason to worry or being jealous, your emotions won’t abide by your mind.

[Read: Feeling relationship insecurity? Here’s how to let it go and learn to love more]

The reason for this is most likely your past. You could be in an amazingly healthy relationship, but sometimes your past emotional traumas can come back to bite you in the butt.

No matter how long away or how much we are over them, our past relationships and romantic experiences steer us into the future.

So, even though you may think you are being jealous for no reason, there is a reason. It probably has nothing to do with your partner or current relationship, but fear from being hurt in the past.

No, it isn’t rational, but it is normal. If you haven’t fully faced the pain from a past relationship or the impact of it, it could be sabotaging the relationship you have now. Or if you struggle with your self-esteem and confidence, you may think you don’t deserve the relationship you’re in.

[Read: Am I unlovable? The one thing you need to remember when you feel unloved]

These things can subconsciously lead to jealousy that takes over your mind and even your life. And, even though feeling jealous due to your past is common, it doesn’t mean you have to suffer. You can stop being jealous for no reason.

How to stop being jealous for no reason

So, we have established that you aren’t being jealous for no reason. There is a reason, it just isn’t based in the present.

Realizing that is the first step to stop being jealous for no reason. Figuring that reason out and facing it will help you get a hold of the meaning behind your jealousy and lead to its end.

But, how do you go about dealing with your past affecting your current relationship?

#1 Dig deeper. Instead of passing your jealousy off as an irrational fear and burying it deep inside, face it. Dig deep into your past and figure out what could be causing it. If you know your partner is honest and loyal, figure out what in you is struggling.

Are you feeling inferior to someone in your partner’s life? Do you crave attention? Are you scared of being hurt again? Is your mind accustomed to being left or cheated on so you are building up a wall to prepare for it? [Read: We accept the love we think we deserve – Why don’t you think you’re worthy?]

#2 Deal with the past. I know this is easier said than done. Facing your past takes a lot of strength and patience. You really need to think about your prior situation and how it affected you.

Sometimes, facing your past is a life long journey, but acknowledging the facts and dealing with them will help you rationalize your jealousy and release it from impacting you so much.

#3 Face what your jealousy is doing to you now. In order to stop being jealous for no reason, look at how it is affecting you. Is it making you lose focus at work? Are you spending time social media stalking the people in your partner’s life? Are you losing trust in your partner for no rational reason?

Facing what your jealousy is doing to your life will motivate you to take more steps to let it go.

#4 Make a list of what you want to work on. That’s right. Grab a pen and paper, and make a list of the things you want to work on. Do you need to work on gratitude? Do you need to appreciate the things your partner does for you? Or do you need to separate your relationship from the past?

Write down whatever you want to work on, then look back on it at least once a week to see your progress. [Read: Why am I so unhappy all the time? 8 changes to change your life for good]

#5 Separate yourself from your past. Your past is a part of you. To some degree, it will always affect you. But, you can learn how to let your past teach you without holding you back. Appreciate the experiences you’ve had, whether good or bad.

All those moments have led you to now. Think about what your past has done for you. And look at how you’ve changed since then. Try to live in the present with your lessons but not the pain.

#6 Talk to your partner. Make sure your partner knows what is going on with you. If you hold it in, it can sour your relationship and lead to resentment. Let your partner know that you are jealous and why.

Let them know you trust them but can’t seem to shake feelings of jealousy due to your own issues. You are in a relationship with this person, so they should want to work with you on this. Let them know what it is that is triggering their jealousy so they can be patient with you.

#7 Find healthy methods of coping. Consider what will help you in moments when your jealousy feels like it is erupting. If your partner is out with people from work and you’re feeling jealous, what can you do to face that?

Would it help to just talk it out with a friend or your partner? Should you write out your feelings? Do you need to reason with yourself about the facts of the situation? Different things work for everyone, and it could take some time to figure out what works for you.

#8 Try therapy. Sometimes we can’t fight our internal battles alone. Jealousy is powerful and asking for help from someone trained in psychology could be exactly what will get you over this hurdle. A trained professional can offer you personalized and guided methods for dealing with jealousy and your past. [Read: How to let go of resentment and stop feeding the hate: Really start living!]

#9 Practice self-love. Even more often than past betrayals, being jealous for no reason is often due to self-esteem issues. When we believe we are not worthy of love, we self-sabotage our own happiness.

By practicing self-love, you can start to build up your confidence. When you love yourself you feel worthy of an honest relationship and your jealousy and fears will begin to dwindle.

[Read: How to be more confident with these self-love daily habits]

You can stop being jealous for no reason when you find out the true reason and face it. Find the freedom of an envy-free life.

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20 Sweet Good Morning Poems For Her

Good morning poems for her are one of the best ways to wish good morning to your loved ones. Everyone loves a well-crafted poem as it appeals to the heart.…

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People Usually Choose Mates with Similar Faces

You may have noticed, but a LOT of couples look really similar to each other, facially. Is there an element of attraction related to facial similarity?

Send this article to anyone you know who thinks "You can't get a good-looking woman unless you're genetically blessed with natural good looks yourself!" to really blow his mind.

There's an interesting phenomenon I've paid some attention to over the years: the phenomenon of romantic couples looking facially quite similar to one another.

I first started paying attention to it when I noticed how different different people's assessments are of what is attractive. There's a thread on our forum where guys post pictures of their dream lays... any man who goes through that list is going to see some women he agrees with, and some women he says, "What? That's your dream shag?!"

Seriously, you should scroll through that list... you'll be surprised. Here's just a sample of what different men from the Boards rate as their dream girls to go to bed with:

The dream lays of various different guys. Which ones are your dream lays?

What I began to notice over the years was oftentimes when a guy told me some girl was really hot, and I looked at her and thought, "Whoa... that girl is not really attractive at all," I could take a look at the girl, then take a look at the guy, and I'd discover they actually had a great deal of facial similarity. Similar eyes, similar nose, similar mouth, similar jawline.

And it would click: "Ahhhh... that's why he likes her. She looks like him."

When I'd look at celebrities, and scratch my head over why a wealthy, famous guy with his pick of nearly any woman he wants would choose as his wife some of the total dogs a lot of male celebrities seem to pick (in my tastes), I'd realize those dogs were, in fact, very facially similar to the male partner himself.

At the same time, from time to time, I'll notice couples whose faces are almost total opposites. This intrigued me too. I see it a lot less than the "dead similar" couples, but I do see it.

And as I saw all this, I started to formulate a theory, that gave me a better understanding of human mate choice matching.

This theory made me even more confident (as if I was confident enough) in my own pickups as well... because it helped me realize a few things about what kinds of girls were likely to be most receptive to me, and what kinds of girls I was likely to get on with best myself.

If You’re Regularly Asking Yourself, Am I a Bad Person: Read This

Do you find yourself musing, am I a bad person, on a regular basis? Do you find that you blame yourself when something goes wrong? You’re not alone.

When you’re constantly surrounded by negative events, it’s easy to start wondering, am I a bad person? If things seem to be falling apart for you at the moment, or you’re not spending as much time with those you care about as you normally would, repeat after me—you are NOT a bad person!

The world is a strange and uncertain place at the moment. The Covid-19 situation has changed everything about our lives and turned the whole thing upside down. It’s no wonder that many of us are feeling a little low or even anxious about what’s going to happen and whether things will ever return to that thing that we used to call ‘normal.’

Why you might ask yourself ‘am I a bad person?’

It’s not just coronavirus that’s got us all in a spin either. Look at the world we’ve living in, it’s such an unfair, upside down, backwards place sometimes. Why can’t we all just be friends and get along? It makes you wonder, that’s for sure.

Within all of this, mental health starts to suffer.

[Read: What to do when you’re emotionally exhausted and just can’t deal]

When things go wrong, one thing after the other, it’s easy to assume it’s some kind of cosmic karma, but let me tell you something—I know countless wonderfully positive and kind people, and for some reason nothing goes right for them either. They would never fall into the ‘bad person’ category, so it’s very likely to be the same situation for you.

Life can be like that sometimes. Let’s look at why you might start to wonder, am I a bad person.

Are all these things connected?

A year or so ago, a series of events left me wondering whether all the negative things in my life were connected. I questioned whether I was actually some kind of undercover narcissist, or whether I was actually being punished for something I’d done in a former life.

I had a string of friendships that ended rather abruptly. My relationship went a little strange for a while. I had no energy and couldn’t focus on anything for long. I wondered whether all of this was somehow my fault. Was I a terrible person and a terrible friend? Was I really to blame for everything negative that went on around me?

[Read: How to stop feeling blue and break free from the comfort of misery]

It might sound drastic when you’re not in the situation, but when a series of negative events occur in your life, within a short time scale, it’s very easy to wonder why. At the time, the only so-called ‘reasonable’ explanation is that it’s down to you. You then question, am I a bad person, and you come to the conclusion that you must be, somehow.

Of course, the chances of this actually being true are extremely remote. I now know that I was simply going through a rough patch. I can’t be blamed for the fact that a few friendships ended for no specific reason. Of course, I might have been to blame in some small way, but it was probably mutual and maybe those friendships had simply run their course.

Deep down, I know now that I’m a good person with a kind heart, and sometimes a run of bad things just happen in life. What makes the difference is how you cope with it and how you bounce back.

[Read: How to stop feeling sorry for yourself, end the pity party and break out]

What you should be asking yourself

If you often sit and ponder, am I a bad person, ask yourself these questions:

– Do you deliberately set out to hurt people?

– Do you think about only yourself and don’t care about anyone else?

– Before you do whatever it is you’re thinking of doing, do you think about the consequences of your actions?

– When you know you might hurt someone, do you press on and do it anyway?

– Do you refuse to take accountability for anything you do?

Now, dear reader, I don’t know you personally, but the fact you’re sitting there and wondering if you’re a bad person tells me that the above points don’t apply to you. The reason? Because a truly bad person wouldn’t even care whether they were bad or not! They wouldn’t spend any time wondering about it. The fact that you are, means you’re actually good and kind at heart.

There are a million reasons why you might ask yourself this question, but the likelihood is that you’re simply affected by a circle of negativity around you.

[Read: How to stop negative people from sapping your energy]

Take ownership of your mistakes and move on

However, that doesn’t mean that there isn’t something lingering in your past that is causing you a little upset right now. If this is the case, be brave and identify what it might be. Own up to it yourself and question what you can do to make things better, if anything at all.

It could be that the ship has sailed and life has moved on, but you still feel a niggling amount of guilt at something you said or did in the past. If you want to apologize to someone for something that happened in the past, you can do so if you want to. However, it’s also just as wise to leave the past where it’s meant to be… behind you.

Forgive yourself, vow to do better next time, don’t dwell on something you can’t change, and simply do your best to move on.

Nobody is perfect. Not even Beyonce.

I know, shocking right?

[Read: How to become a better person by following these 9 golden rules]

Owning your mistakes

Mistakes make you stronger in the future. They teach you lessons to help you do better. I have a friend who used to be a terrible partner in the past. He’ll own up to it now if you ask him, and he’ll show remorse too. He used to gaslight, cheat, refuse to call back, he was a terrible partner. It’s no surprise that his relationships never lasted long.

Now, he sat down one day and asked himself, am I a bad person? He realized that yes, he had made mistakes, and yes, he needed to do better. But does all of this make him rotten at his core? No. The reason why? Because he realized his mistakes and vowed to change.

Nowadays, he’s in a committed relationship with a lovely girl who he treats like the queen she deserves to be. Is he perfect now? Of course not, but nobody is. The point is, if you’ve done something bad in the past, as long as you acknowledge it, forgive yourself, apologize where necessary, and learn from it, how can you be bad?

If a series of negative events seem to be popping up around you, take heart in the fact that you’re not alone. None of this is your fault. The world is just pretty negative right now in general. However, that doesn’t mean YOU have to be negative. Focus on cultivating a positive mindset and see how differently it makes you feel.

[Read: Why am I so unhappy? How these 8 changes will change you for good]

Regularly asking yourself, am I a bad person, is actually more common than you’d think! When surrounded by negative events, it’s easy to wonder whether you’re the one causing them. 

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How to Use Misdirection in Your Seductions of Women

A ubiquitous but under-discussed tool in every good seducer's skill set is the art of misdirection. Let's peek at how you can use misdirection to better seduce the women you meet.

One of the most enjoyable things about the art of seduction is how open it is to a variety of angles, all of them unique, and all encompassing fascinating aspects of human psychology.

We know techniques like cold reading. Deep diving. Chase frames. Sex talk. Screening and qualifying. Compliance stacking. Yes-ladders. Forcing framing. Resistance busting. And so on and so forth. All these tactics are a pleasure to use, and for the woman you use them upon, they're a pleasure to have used on her.

You see, women enjoy to be seduced.

If they didn't enjoy it, they wouldn't let you get away with it.

While uninitiated men think seducers are big baddies who trick unsuspecting women into unwanted intimacy, any veteran seducer knows the opposite is true. It's the low-skilled non-seducers who ply women with alcohol until their decision-making is impaired or snake their ways into women's trusts via the 'friend zone'.

Seducers do the opposite.

When you're a seducer, you're honest. Even when you're using your tactics, the woman still knows what your game is. She's not dumb. She plays along, however, because she likes it.

And we can use misdirection to play this game with her.

While it might have a bad rap as a tool of pickpockets and con artists, misdirection is also a part of magic shows, carnivals, and some of the very best books and movies out there, that leave you riveted to your seat and unable to turn away.

You can use misdirection to the same effect within your own seductions.

It will give you more success, and a lot more enjoyment.

Alek's M.O. for Meeting Women During COVID – Plans B and C

COVID-19 has brought challenges, but there’s always a way to flourish in the dating game. These backup plans will help you keep both of your heads happy.

Contents

I. Virtu and Fortuna

II. My Plan B: Social Circle

III. My Plan C: F-buddies

IV. Recap

Last week I detailed my overall dating game plan during the pandemic. I shared how and where I approach girls, and what I do beyond that to get them in bed.

Sadly, as many of you know, pandemic policies differ from place to place. My game plan may not fit where you live. Nevertheless, I hope you can get something out of my plan or find some tweaks to make it work for you.

Perhaps you can at least draw some inspiration from my game plan to create your own. I did my best to share my thought process and overall method to create my game plan. Feel free to take that and create a plan that best suits you.

Currently, we are in a phase where the social world has turned upside down. The rules of the game have changed, and we need to calibrate to that. Nothing is set in stone, nor is my game plan. It’s a time to experiment and rediscover our game (or discover it, if you are new to this). Of course, the situation is sad, but it opens up opportunities to rediscover good pickup strategies you may have neglected until now. I will not say we live in exciting times; that would be an exaggeration. But overall, there is an exciting element to it. This is what you should embrace; nay, it's something you must embrace.

How to Tell Someone You Don’t Like Them Without Being Mean or Rude

Rejecting someone is never easy, but learning how to tell someone you don’t like them is an essential part of life. Don’t worry, you don’t have to be mean.

Learning how to tell someone you don’t like them is an important life skill. Offering the truth, especially when difficult, will help you in so many future experiences. Plus, it is the only way to let someone down respectfully.

Most of us know what it feels like to be rejected. It sucks. Because of that, we don’t want to hurt someone else by telling them we don’t like them. But, sometimes there is no way to avoid it.

If you don’t know how to tell someone you don’t like them, you’ll be hiding from difficult conversations forever. Taking the time to learn how to tell someone you don’t like them and doing it with grace and honesty is always the best move for you and them.

[Read: Empathy fatigue? Your guilt-free guide to recognize and overcome it]

Why you should tell someone you don’t like them

When you don’t like someone, shutting down can feel like the easy thing to do. Ghosting them or even making up an excuse seems like it would be less trouble, but that isn’t true.

Ghosting is a cruel and cowardly way to deal with someone you don’t have feelings for. Ignoring them and moving on may seem like it won’t hurt them, but it will. Trust me. I’ve been there plenty of times, and it always hurts more than the truth. [Read: Ghosting a friend – 10 scenarios when it’s completely okay to ghost someone]

Ghosting is simply easy for you. It means you don’t have to have an awkward conversation or deal with what this person has to say. You don’t have to deal with the rejection. But, whether you tell someone you don’t like them or not, they still feel the feelings.

[Read: Like ghosting? Well, prepare yourself for these 10 consequences]

They will move on quicker and find closure faster if they have the truth to help them get over you. You should be flattered this person likes you even if you don’t like them back. Appreciate it and respect them enough to offer them the truth, even though it may be momentarily awkward for you.

You don’t want to be that person they think back on as a coward who went silent instead of owning up to the fact that they didn’t like them.

So, before you chicken out about hurting someone’s feelings by telling them you don’t like them, know that you likely will hurt them. But, telling them rather than ghosting them will hurt a whole lot less.

[Read: 20 hugely false dating myths to abolish from your mind]

How to tell someone you don’t like them

Learning how to tell someone you don’t like them isn’t going to be easy. It sucks to hurt someone’s feelings and crush their hope. You feel guilty and uncomfortable, and it will be awkward. But, that is a part of life. Not everything is easy. And more importantly, not everything is about you.

Telling someone you don’t like them isn’t about you, but about them. It is about respecting them enough to tell them the truth so they can move on.

Keeping that in mind will make learning how to tell someone you don’t like them a lot smoother.

#1 Do it sooner rather than later. Just like a breakup, the longer you wait, the worse it will be. If you know someone likes you and you don’t like them, just let them know. Any amount of time you let pass only leads them on. Even if you aren’t doing anything to show interest, they will remain hopeful without the truth.

I know you probably want to put it off because it will be uncomfortable, but it will get worse the longer you wait. Not only will your own anxieties increase as you put it off, but they will likely feel worse the longer you wait. [Read: Here’s how to help someone fall out of love with you]

#2 Be prepared for their response. This could go a lot of ways. When I’ve had people be honest with me in the past, I appreciated it. I’d answer simply with, “Bummer, but I really appreciate your honesty. Take care.” I’m sure that response is what you would hope for.

But, not everyone sees things like that. Some people may be very upset. They may accuse you of leading them on or ask more specific questions. Some people want to know what they did wrong or even make you feel guilty.

Know that going in there are many ways they could react, so try to be patient.

#3 Answer their questions the best you can. This person deserves some closure. some people can move on just by you telling them you aren’t interested. Others want answers. Answer their questions as honestly as possible without being cruel.

You can say you want different things, you don’t feel any chemistry, or maybe you have feelings for someone else. You don’t need to go into great detail, but giving them some reason as to why you don’t like them can help them move on.

#4 Put yourself in their shoes. During this conversation and leading up to it remember what it feels like to be rejected. Consider how you would respond in a similar situation. It can be hard to see this situation from another viewpoint, but it can help you remain as sympathetic as possible. [Read: How to show empathy and learn to share someone else’s feelings]

#5 Don’t coddle them. This is where the line between caring and too caring blurs. You want to apologize and comfort the person you’re letting down, but it is not your job. You can be polite and respectful, but trying to comfort them sends mixed messages.

If you get pulled into comforting this person, it can give them false hope that something could happen later on and keep them infatuated with you.

#6 Give them space. You don’t need to check in on them to see how they’re doing. Let them be. Whether you work together, are friends, or simply run in the same crowd, give them space to move on.

If you are constantly around or even sending them memes, it will be hard to distance themselves from their feelings for you.

#7 Let them know if you want to stay friends eventually. You can let them know what you want after this. Let them know you would eventually like to be friends or keep in touch. But, if you don’t want that, make it clear.

You can end your conversation by saying take care or good luck with everything to imply you won’t be talking again in the future. Letting them know your goal now will help them prepare for how to deal with their feelings. [Read: How to say no! Stop pleasing people and feel awesome instead]

#8 Shut it down if necessary. Although you want to do the right thing by being honest and respectful, there are some people who will take advantage of that. They will want to sit down together and get closure. They will want you to answer a ton of questions or go on for hours about how you hurt them.

This again is where the line can be crossed. You can be respectful and polite, but if things seem to be going beyond a brief conversation, let them know you’ve answered everything you can and are sorry for hurting them but can’t do anything more. Then, wish them the best of luck.

Sometimes, to move on, people need a firm answer and rejection. This is the sort of thing that makes it difficult for you to tell someone you don’t like them, but you can handle it with some tough love.

[Read: How to set boundaries in your life and feel more in control]

Learning how to tell someone you don’t like them certainly isn’t fun but is the best thing to do for both you and them. Just follow these steps, be firm and you’d be able to turn someone down without leading anyone on.

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How to Be in a Relationship after Being Single for a Long Time

You’ve been single for a while, but now you’re ready to take a leap with someone. You’re going to need learn how to be in a relationship again.

You see couples walking down the street or sitting at coffee shops all the time, but no one tells you how to be in a relationship or how hard it is. It all looks so cheery and easy from the outside, but you see how hard it really is when you’re in a relationship.

In a relationship, there are two people, and both have different needs and desires. As you can imagine, it’s not easy always aligning those desires. But, I understand, you want to experience this for yourself, as you should.

[Read: The 20 sure signs you’re ready for a relationship… or totally unprepared]

Here’s how to be in a relationship

So, if you’re wondering how to be in a relationship, you came to the right place. Is it going to be a walk in the park? No. But, if you use these tips, you’ll be able to have a healthy relationship with the person you want to be with.

A relationship isn’t about being together all the time and buying each other gifts; it’s much more than that. And, to be honest, it really starts with you… not your partner. So, read through these tips and see what things you should incorporate in your life so you can be in a relationship.

[Read: 12 healthy relationship expectations that define a good love life]

A little effort goes a long way.

#1 Slooooow it down. If you haven’t been in a relationship for a while, you may get a little excited and rush through the process.

But there’s no need to rush through anything. Take your time. Go at a pace that’s comfortable for you. If you’re not ready yet to be in a relationship, that’s okay. [Read: How fast is too fast in a relationship – your guide to perfect timings]

#2 Do you want a relationship? Give yourself some time to think about whether a relationship is something you want right now. Are you willing to invest your time in someone else? To spend your personal time with them? Don’t go into something because you feel you must.

#3 Remember you’re not perfect either. When we’re going on dates and meeting people of interest, it’s easy to pick out their flaws and highlight them. But remember you’re not perfect either. You’re flawed just like the next person. So, show some compassion towards other people. [Read: How to be a better person and grow into a kind human]

#4 It may take time for you to fall in love. Some people have immediate sparks with the person they meet, and other people take time. If you want to be in a relationship, leave time for a connection to develop and grow. If you’re enjoying your time with this person, continue to do so and see where it goes.

#5 It’s healthy to argue. Just because you have a disagreement, doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed to fail. You’re going to disagree with your partner at some point down the road. What’s important is the communication that happens during and after the argument. [Read: The first fight in a relationship and what you should do next]

#6 Human flaws are not red flags. There’s a huge difference between annoying personality traits and red flags. If this person chews with their mouth open, it doesn’t mean they’re abusive or disrespectful. Now, if this person insults you on the first date or forces sex onto you, then those are red flags.

#7 Don’t throw yourself into the relationship. If you want to be in a relationship, the first thing you should do is focus on yourself. Don’t throw yourself into something without making sure your needs are met first. Practice self-care, and don’t be the person who gives up everything for a relationship.

#8 You may have singlehood nostalgia. When going into a relationship, there are some single-ish activities you stop doing so frequently. You won’t go on dating websites or hook-up with people, and that’s something you agreed upon once you entered the relationship. You may have moments where you miss those times, and that’s normal.

[Confession: I want to be single again!]

#9  Don’t look for a project. If you want to be in a healthy relationship, don’t look for someone to fix. I can tell you right now; it’s not going to work. You shouldn’t try to find yourself someone you need to change in order to be in a relationship.

#10 Be willing to end it. As much as you want to be in a relationship, you also need to be willing to end it if it’s not for you. It takes time to meet someone you truly connect with, and this person may not be the one. The sooner you accept and move on, the closer you are to finding your partner. [Read: What does dating really mean and what you need to know about it]

#11  Not all relationships are going to be serious ones. Don’t go into a relationship with the idea it’s going to become a long term one. You don’t know what’s going to happen. It’s best for you to be present with this person and enjoy the time you’re spending with them. You can’t tell the future, and neither can they.

[Read: How to find love and learn to be open to all that life has to offer]

Knowing how to be in a relationship isn’t easy for anyone to answer; they take a lot of work. But hopefully, these tips help you out and give you a better idea of how to make it work.

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