32 Flirty & Deep Would You Rather Questions for Couples to Connect Better

Are you in the mood to learn more about your partner but just don’t know what to ask? Try our Would You Rather questions for couples!

When you’re dating someone new, you want to find out as much about them as possible. But you don’t want to sit them down under a spotlight and ask question after question. That’s only going to traumatize them! So, how do you get to know your partner better without giving off the impression you’re investigating them? It’s Would You Rather questions for couples for the win!

Would You Rather is an easy game to play. You give your partner a question, and then they choose which one of the two options they’d prefer. Oh, and they must choose one answer; there’s no “none” or “I don’t know”—they must pick one!

What is Would You Rather about?

Would You Rather is one of the oldest party games around, and Would You Rather for couples follows exactly the same rules. It’s all about posing your partner with a dilemma and making it hard for them to decide which option to choose.

This can be because the two options are equally awesome: ‘would you rather be able to fly, or turn invisible?’ Tough one, because they both sound so cool. Or because the two options are equally terrible: ‘would you rather swim in poop, or swim in vomit?’ Ew, gross!

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The best thing about Would You Rather for couples is it’s played using just the players’ imaginations. You can learn so much about somebody by the options they pick and how they justify their choices. In turn, you can also find out how their mind works by studying the questions they create.

So, asking Would You Rather questions for couples is really the ultimate getting-to-know-you game! It’s a simple, fun, and potentially flirty way to find out anything you need to know about your partner.

Why should you ask Would You Rather questions?

If you want to share your life with somebody, you need to know everything about them. You need to know about all of their likes and dislikes, values, and interests. It becomes super important to find out every tiny little detail about their personality.

Of course, you can’t just come out and ask questions of somebody. Especially if you’re quite early on in your journey as a couple. As we’ve discussed before, you don’t want to freak them out by bombarding them with questions like they’re in a job interview.

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So, how do you find out everything about them discreetly? With Would You Rather questions for couples, of course! These questions are easy icebreakers; sometimes, people will use them to introduce workmates to each other or warm things up at a party.

When you ask Would You Rather questions, you’re giving somebody an opportunity to let you in on what they really think. They have an open channel to share their opinions, values, and feelings.

Best of all, Would You Rather questions are often challenging. They’re built to push people out of their comfort zones – and draw out some extra juicy information!

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32 Would You Rather questions for couples

Would You Rather is a fun game to get to know each other without needing to feel like you’re ruining the mood by asking them serious questions. It’s best to start off with some playful and fun questions, move into sexy territory, and then throw in some serious ones. Don’t make all the questions intense; it’s not going to be a good time for anyone.

The best tactic is to save the deep Would You Rather questions for couples for last. That way, the person you’re asking will feel comfortable with you – and you’ll both probably have given a lot away already. Then, when you feel things are getting more intense, you can make the questions a little more insightful!

Remember, you need to answer the questions your partner is going to ask you as well. They can’t be the only one answering Would You Rather questions, or it’ll be no fun! You need to let them ask you, too.

So, let’s go through the best Would You Rather questions for couples! [Read: Super fun drinking card games to get the party started]

Playful Would You Rather questions for couples

1. Would you rather eat unlimited sushi for life or unlimited tacos for life?

This is a tough one… We don’t even know if we could answer this question! Ask them which food they couldn’t live without. You could even use their answer to plan your next dinner date.

2. Would you rather go to a dog show or a horse race together?

Are they a dog person, a cat person, or a horse person? Maybe they don’t believe animals should be used in sports? Either way, you’ll learn about their views on animals by asking this question.

3. Would you rather not be able to use search engines or social media?

Do they value knowledge or Instagram likes? Ask them this and find out what they like to do online. Perhaps they’ll tell you about their favorite sites and apps.

4. Would you rather spend $5,000 on traveling or on a physical item like a TV?

What does your partner value the most, material things or experiences? This is a great way to segue into some of the deeper Would You Rather questions for couples, too. [Read: The signs a superficial person they just can’t help showing]

5. Would you rather send a wrong message to your boss or your ex?

Ah! What could be worse than this question?! This might bring up some hilarious memories from your partner’s past. Make sure you share your funny stories too.

6. Would you rather dine in a 5-star restaurant or enjoy homemade dinner by the campfire?

What’s more their style? This is a great way to find out if they expect the finer things or are more interested in the simple life. It’ll also give you some date ideas for later!

[Read: Where to go on a first date – 85 fun and romantic ideas]

7. Would you rather not shower for a week or not brush your teeth for a week?

Most of us could probably go without showering, but not brushing our teeth… This is a great example of the gross-out genre of Would You Rather questions, and it’s guaranteed to get a laugh.

8. Would you rather go to jail or get away and live life on the run?

What’s worse, to live in fear or live through injustice? This question could bring up a very amusing conversation where you both imagine how you’d survive on the run.

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9. Would you rather lose the ability to read or lose the ability to speak?

Ah! We love doing both so much! Are they a chatterbox or an intellectual? Maybe they have a career that means they can’t go without either. You’re guaranteed to learn more about them by asking this.

10. Would you rather be transported permanently 500 years into the future or 500 years into the past?

Have they seen Back to the Future? We don’t know what’s worse, being stuck in the olden days or lost in the future. Find out what they think the future will bring. Or if they’re interested in things from days gone by.

11. Would you rather be trapped together in the jungle or in a haunted house?

This will get you some funny answers. Would they rather be stalked by ghostly ghouls or lions and tigers and bears… oh my! Let them know you’d always protect them no matter where you ended up.

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12. Would you rather your significant other be a zombie or an alien?

This one could work with any type of supernatural creature: vampires, witches, werewolves, and more. Are they a UFO believer? What’s their plan for the zombie apocalypse? And most importantly, are they Team Edward or Team Jacob?

13. Would you rather live together on a houseboat or in a cabin?

Here’s a great opportunity to fantasize about their ideal future home. Everybody has an image of their dream place; best of all, this question encourages them to think about playing house with you!

Flirty Would You Rather questions for couples

14. Would you rather have kinky sex or romantic sex?

What type of sex do they prefer? By asking this, you can learn more about what they like in bed. You might even have the same kinks! [Read: Secret kinky sex positions for wild sex every night of the week]

15. Would you rather have group sex with strangers or with all your exes?

Oh god, not your exes… This will create some super weird images in your partner’s mind and yours too. It’s also an interesting way to find out if they would ever try group sex.

16. Would you rather be with a sweet computer geek or a sexy sports star?

Or, if you’re asking a guy: would you rather be with a cute goth girl or a Victoria’s Secret model? Asking this is a great chance to find out what your partner perceives as attractive. Are they interested in a person’s inside or outside?

17. Would you rather cook for your significant other or cook as a couple?

Meaning would they cook for you, or would it be a joint effort? This Would You Rather question will bring up adorable visions of the two of you enjoying domestic bliss. Romantic, right?

18. Would you rather have morning sex or late-night sex?

Who doesn’t love some lazy Sunday morning sex? But what about late-night sex, when you’re both a little buzzed and excited from a night out? What a great way to get some dirty talk going!

19. Would you rather have one partner or multiple partners?

Nowadays, more and more people are opening their minds to polyamory, also known as ethical non-monogamy. Or maybe your partner is interested in trying out a threesome? Prepare yourself because you two might not have the same views.

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20. Would you rather elope or have a huge wedding?

Another romantic Would You Rather question for couples. What does your partner envision for their future? If you’ve been together for a while, this could kick-start a conversation about marriage.

21. Would you rather have sex with my best friend or with your best friend?

Eek! This is a tough question, so only ask this if you’re ready for the answer. Everybody thinks their best friend is gorgeous but does your partner feel the same way? And do they ever feel tempted by them?

22. Would you rather be submissive or dominating?

If you’re somebody who dabbles in BDSM, you’ll know that you need to be compatible if you want to play as a couple. Ask your partner which side they prefer. This Would You Rather is a rare case where your partner can answer both or neither, but only if they’re a switch!

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23. Would you rather be the big spoon or the little spoon?

Aww… Which position does your partner like to take when they’re cuddling? Let’s hope it’s the opposite of yours because two big spoons could end up having a pretty uncomfortable night!

24. Would you rather have a sexy shower or a sexy bath?

Shower sex is hard to master, and most people have never even thought of doing it in the bath. Open your partner’s mind by bringing up these two wet and wild options.

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25. Would you rather have a cupboard full of sex toys or a cupboard full of sexy outfits?

Do they like playing with sex toys? Or do they prefer dressing up for some sexy role-play? Find out which one your partner prefers. Then, let them know what you’d like to see them wear – or play with.

Deep Would You Rather questions for couples

26. Would you rather have everything or know everything?

What’s more important for them, knowledge or material goods? Find out what they truly value in life. Are they more or less superficial than you? Make sure you have a deep conversation about their choice.

27. Would you rather be caught cheating or catch your spouse cheating?

Would they rather inflict pain on others or take on that pain? Perhaps they’ve been cheated on – or cheated – in the past, and this question will give them a chance to share their experience with you. [Read: The serial cheat code – the reasons why cheaters can’t help themselves]

28. Would you rather let your spouse date your best friend or your arch-enemy?

Are you sure you can say either? Also, do you actually know who their worst enemy in the world is? Find out who they hate and how possessive they feel about those they love by asking them this Would You Rather question.

29. Would you rather be with an ex-convict or a recovering drug addict?

Do they believe that everybody deserves a second chance? What if something terrible happened to you? Would they be willing to stay by your side and wait for you, or would they cut ties and look after themselves instead?

30. Would you rather know when you’re going to die or how you’re going to die?

We don’t really want to know either, to be honest! However, asking this will show you your partner’s views on mortality. Do they fear death? Or do they think it’s worse to live with the knowledge of impending doom? Afterward, ask them what risks they’d take once they had that knowledge.

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31. Would you rather have plenty of gold and cash or save your enemy’s life?

Oh, snap. This will really show their true colors. Are they a vengeful person, or can they find a way to forgive? Maybe their enemy has hurt them worse than any compensation could cover. Could they cope with the blood of another person on their hands?

32. Would you rather be in a bad relationship for the rest of your life or have no SO for the rest of your life?

Though people should pick the latter, it’s amazing how many people will stay in the wrong relationship to not be alone. Of course, it’s always better to be happy. But are they so afraid enough of being alone that they’d take the risk of a loveless relationship?

[Read: Not ready for a relationship? The legit reasons why to hold off until you’re ready]

Now you have all the Would You Rather questions for couples you need. So, grab some wine or beer, sit on the couch, and have fun with your partner!

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