Why Do Women Want Men Who Can Provide for Them Long-Term?

In today’s modern, egalitarian world, why do women still want long-term providers? Isn’t that redundant? Shouldn’t women just take care of themselves?

We have a romantically inexperienced member on the forum right now struggling to understand why women want men capable of provision in long-term relationships. Why can’t he just be his “really really cute” and “adorable” (his words) self and let women provide for him?

It might seem to make sense, after all. Women get more college degrees than men these days and, at least before age 30, in many cities (like New York and Washington, D.C.) out-earn men. The sex roles have flipped. It’s time for women to take on the provider role. Isn’t it?

This member in the thread above later argued that because women have slept with different men and are not virgins, they don’t bring enough to the table and do not deserve his resources. Therefore, they should be willing to do the work and bring home the bacon while he kicks around at home, presumably tidying up the house and working in the shed, or maybe the flower garden (after a hard day of “looking really, really cute,” I guess).

It’s obviously an absurd position to hold, but… why?

WHY is it ridiculous that a man could be the really, really cute & adorable, dependent, lovely house husband and a woman the hard-working, doting breadwinner – even in our modern, feministic, egalitarian society?