Do you have a hard time controlling your sexual urges? If you want to know how to stop being horny, we have every single technique you can use ASAP!
If you’re horny, you have sex, and if you have no partner, you masturbate. But what if you don’t want to resort to those two methods? Well, sex and masturbation are great ways to relieve sexual tension and reduce your carnal urges. But there are other ways to stop being horny too!
Feeling horny is a natural body response we all know so well. All people experience it—even some asexuals *who may prefer to masturbate over banging someone else*.
But when you’re feeling so horny that every sturdy table leg or the corner of a table start looking like a perfect specimen of the opposite sex, maybe that’s a good time to wonder what you can do to stop being horny.
[Read: High sex drive in women – The signs and causes of high libido and what to do]
Firstly, Sex and Arousal Aren’t Bad Things!
Ah, let’s get this out of the way to begin with. Many people feel terrible guilt each time they feel themselves getting aroused.
As much as you’ve heard someone tell you that feeling horny is a bad thing, it’s not. All of us experience it, and it’s just another sign that your body is functioning, and everything down there is in perfect order.
So if you feel bad for getting wet or hard, relax, and just remember that it’s nothing to be ashamed of!
[Read: 28 thirsty signs you’re sexually frustrated, horny and need sex ASAP]
Why Are We Even Horny?
Humans have forever been puzzled and intrigued by the mysteries of desire. If you’ve ever pondered, “Why am I always so horny?”, you’re not alone.
Before we delve into ways to stop being horny or relieve sexual tension, it’s essential to understand the machinery behind these urges.
1. The limbic brain: Headquarters of desire
The limbic system, often termed our emotional brain, is the epicenter of our feelings, including desire. Key structures like the hypothalamus and amygdala play pivotal roles.
Hypothalamus: This little nugget regulates hormones by communicating with the pituitary gland. These hormones, in turn, affect our sexual desires. Feeling a rush of excitement? Thank your hypothalamus.
Amygdala: Responsible for emotions, survival instincts, and memory. It’s the amygdala that might remind you of that ex when a particular song plays, but it doesn’t mean you should dial them up!
2. Neurotransmitters: Chemical messengers of lust
Dopamine: Often dubbed the ‘pleasure chemical,’ and for good reason, this is a chemical you want in your system. Elevated dopamine levels can make you feel good and increase the urge for sexual activity. It’s dopamine that gives you that ‘high’ when you’re around someone you’re attracted to.
Serotonin: Regulates mood, and low levels can sometimes lead to increased libido. It’s a balance of dopamine and serotonin that sets the stage for how horny you feel.
3. Evolutionary perspective: Propagation but with caution!
From an evolutionary standpoint, our primal purpose boils down to passing on our genes. We’re biologically wired to seek mates and reproduce.
But don’t worry, evolution also gave us the neocortex, the brain’s rational part, which tells us, “Maybe texting the ex at 2 a.m. isn’t the wisest idea.” [Read: 23 ways to get someone to have sex with you, be it a stranger or a friend]
Why Am I Always So Horny?
While it’s common to experience these feelings, understanding the factors driving this heightened state of horniness can be enlightening.
Let’s explore the reasons behind why your sex drive might be through the roof.
1. Hormonal fluctuations
Testosterone in men and estradiol *a form of estrogen* in women can significantly influence libido. Women may notice an uptick in desire during ovulation, while men might find fluctuations during the day.
2. A fresh romantic interest
When you find someone new who tickles your fancy, neurotransmitters go haywire, prepping your body for intimacy.
This is essentially the brain’s way to ensure the species goes on. But remember, sex isn’t always about procreation—sometimes, it’s just recreation! [Read: 28 thirsty signs you’re sexually frustrated, horny, and need sex ASAP]
3. Natural variances in libido
Some people biologically have a higher sex drive. Factors like genetics, upbringing, and personal experiences can play a part.
If you’ve always been a naturally more fired-up person, then there’s no point in worrying about if there’s something wrong with you now.
4. Overstimulation
Engaging in frequent masturbation can, paradoxically, lead to increased sexual desire. This is due to the release of neurotransmitters that might lead you to crave more of that dopamine high. [Read: Chronic masturbation – 30 side-effects, signs, and ways to stop masturbating]
How To Know If You’re Too Horny and Need To Fix It
Before you let that shameful voice in your head tell you that it’s wrong to feel horny, shut it up right now! Horniness and lust are perfectly normal feelings to have, even if you don’t have someone to release those feelings with *wink, wink*.
But as with everything else, there is such a thing as too much. There’s feeling horny enough to masturbate frequently, and then there’s too much horniness.
Think you actually have a problem and your libido is affecting your life? Look out for these signs:
1. You’re not able to concentrate on anything else.
2. You’re stressed, and can’t relax unless you have sex or masturbate.
3. You’re experiencing relationship problems, because of your unusual demand for sex.
4. You spend more of your time looking for a way to release your sexual tension.
5. You’re addicted to porn or masturbation.
[Read: Why am I so horny? 21 signs, reason, hypersexuality and when to seek help]
How To Stop Being Horny and Calm Your Mind
If you genuinely are worried about your feelings, and sex or masturbation just aren’t scratching that itch, there are ways to stop being horny and calm yourself. Give these tips a try, and you’ll achieve a calmer state of mind soon.
1. Take a shower
The old wives’ tale goes: when in heat, take a dip. However, the effect of a cold shower against horniness varies for each individual.
Some say it helps calm them down. Some say it’s “meh,” and a few believe that it’s actually counter-productive as standing wet, naked, and caressing yourself all over invites more of those urges in. Still, it’s worth a try.
Efficacy rating: 50%
[Read: 20 physical signs of female arousal to recognize a girl feeling horny]
2. Exercise
Someone leaning towards Freudian psychology or even New Age philosophy would tell you that getting strong sexual urges is the effect of pent-up sexual energy that needs release.
And of course, the perfect way to release it is by way of a strenuous physical activity none other than sexual intercourse.
But instead of intercourse, divert that energy by doing other forms of exercise. So the next time you feel horny, jump into your tracksuit and do twenty laps, hit the gym, or pour it all out on the punching bag.
This helps you release that tension and distract your brain from your other urges. And you’ll be too tired after anyway.
Efficacy rating: 80%
[Read: 22 horny signs to tell if a guy is turned on and is aroused as because of you]
3. Sexual transmutation
Want to convert all of that sexual energy into something more positive and life-goals-oriented? Enter sexual transmutation.
When you have a certain amount of sexual energy building up, it can be difficult to think straight. It can be a hindrance to productivity and make it hard to get anything done without errors. However, when you harness the power of that sexual energy and pour it into something else, the results might just surprise you.
The word ‘transmutation’ basically means that you’re taking one type of energy and turning it into something else. So, don’t let this energy irritate you— take that sexual energy and turn it into creative energy, as one example! [Read: Sexual transmutation – How to harness your horniness and convert it into another energy]
Efficacy: 40-100%
4. Change your diet
Just how aphrodisiacs supposedly increase your libido, certain foodstuffs do the opposite when you consume them.
However, take note that these don’t work like medication that takes effect an hour later. You might need to gradually incorporate these into your diet if you feel you’re oversexed. [Read: Nom-nom, no-nos – 17 foods to avoid before having sex]
Carbonated drinks – drinks with more sugar than water in their formula make you dehydrated and feel less pleasant than normal. So if you feel horny, chug a little bit of the unhealthy drink.
Canned foods – high levels of sodium and potassium to keep these canned foods somewhat fresh not only guarantee to make you lose your sex drive, but they also make a man’s spunk taste horrible.
Soy and cheese – soybean products are a major source of phytoestrogen while cheese gives off a large amount of xenoestrogen. What do they do? They screw up your hormonal balance which manages your libido. So if you want to stop being horny, gorge on these.
Fats and oils – good old grease may taste good, but it also floods the body with a lot of free radicals screwing up the body’s hormonal balance. Feeling horny? Treat yourself to a good double bacon cheeseburger.
Alcohol and coffee – combine both in some sort of a speedball and you instantly get limp. Alcohol is often thought to be a form of aphrodisiac, but it does the opposite. It screws up your mental state and sex drive. [Read: True sex talk – alcohol’s effect on sex and your libido]
Efficacy rating: 80% but use at your own risk.
5. Get it out of the way—masturbate
Sometimes, you just don’t have a choice. Your mind is foggy, you can’t think straight, your blood’s flowing through your loins and your brain’s losing blood fast.
If you’re having a very hard time concentrating on anything, don’t hate yourself for it. Just walk into a private space and flick your bean or choke your chicken.
There’s always another day and another opportunity to control your sexual urges.
Efficacy: 100%
6. Kill the mood with anything counter-erotic
People, sometimes you get horny because kinky thoughts run through your mind. Just like bad sex, you can put your urges at bay by doing stuff that usually kills the mood for you when you’re about to go at it.
Watch, read, or listen to comedy – laughter is good except in the bedroom. Watching your favorite sitcom realigns your focus away from sex.
Or you can choose something more depressing – we’ve been depressed at some point in our life. And one thing for sure is sex is the last thing you’ll be worried about when you’re feeling blue. The brain parts that function when you’re depressed shuts off the other parts making you horny. [Read: 41 best sad movies to heal your broken heart, make you cry, and feel better]
Even scary stuff– a quick jump scare scene definitely deflates your boner. Try it!
Efficacy rating: 70-80%
7. Physical pain
\We’re not saying you should hurt yourself, but we’re just letting you know experiencing physical pain would definitely whisk that horniness away.
Unless you are a masochist, that is. It may feel silly just imagining it but if you don’t mind giving yourself a pinch or a slap *and if you’re desperate enough*, give it a try. [Read: 37 health benefits of masturbation, bad side effects, and other must-knows]
Efficacy rating: 40%
8. Meditation
Feeling horny is a state of mind as much as it is a bodily function. As Buddhism teaches, one can control desires and urges by practicing mental discipline through meditation.
You don’t need to practice Buddhism altogether. The basic requirement for meditation is simply a quiet and peaceful space where you empty your mind and let go of your desires. [Read: Why am I so horny? 21 signs, reasons, hypersexuality, and when to seek help]
Efficacy rating: 75%
9. Schedule a time for it
If you want to know how to stop being horny and find that controlling your urges is extremely hard, then maybe you can start by scheduling a time for it each day.
By doing this, you can distract yourself even if the thought pops up because you aren’t stopping yourself from masturbating. You’re just pushing it into its own place in your schedule.
Efficacy rating: 0% because you’re not solving anything there, and just prolonging the inevitable. But it’s a start!
10. Engage in cognitive distractions
Distract the mind by engaging in activities that demand cognitive attention, such as puzzles, reading a dense book, or delving into strategy games. The key is to occupy the brain and channel its energy away from erotic thoughts.
By immersing yourself in intellectually stimulating tasks, the brain is less focused on sensations and more on problem-solving and critical thinking.
This shift in concentration can effectively help relieve sexual tension, offering a mental reprieve from those persistent urges.
Efficacy rating: 60%
11. Practice mindfulness
Although meditation is a type of mindfulness, integrating mindfulness throughout daily activities can also be beneficial. Focusing on the current moment and being fully present can help reduce the intensity of distracting urges. [Read: How to be chill and learn to live a happier life as a result]
Efficacy rating: 75%
12. Deep breathing
Take a breather, quite literally! Dive into some breathing exercises—think of it as giving your lungs a mini workout. Take a deep inhale, play a quick game of ‘hold-your-breath’ *just for a few seconds*, then let it all out, pretending you’re cooling off a big plate of your grandma’s freshly baked cookies.
This simple act doesn’t just give your lungs a good stretch, but it also helps your body and mind chill out, making it an easy way to relieve sexual tension and stop being horny.
Efficacy rating: 40%
13. Limit stimulants
Decrease your intake of caffeine and sugar. This can help in lowering overall physiological arousal, potentially reducing feelings of horniness.
Efficacy rating: 50%
14. Avoid triggers
Identify and understand what tends to trigger these feelings for you. It could be certain types of music, movies, or even specific places or scents. Being aware and either limiting exposure or preparing mentally can assist in managing your undesirable response. [Read: 50 best steamy romance movies to get you both hot, naughty, and in the mood]
Efficacy rating: 90% if you can fully understand and avoid your triggers.
15. Sleep well
Ever noticed how everything, including that leftover pizza, looks more appealing when you’re sleep-deprived? Well, missing out on Zzz’s can crank up those horny feelings, thanks to our body’s sneaky chase for that feel-good buddy, dopamine.
So, if you’re aiming to hit the ‘stop being horny’ button, maybe try hitting the snooze button first. Tucking in early or snagging that extra hour of dreamland can make a world of difference in keeping those urges in check!
Efficacy rating: 75%
16. Talk about it
As daunting as it might sound, sharing feelings of persistent arousal with a trusted individual, whether a friend, partner, or therapist, can offer a sense of relief. Sometimes vocalizing feelings can decrease their intensity.
Efficacy rating: 100% especially if you work alongside a therapist to curb your desires
17. Progressive Muscle Relaxation *PMR*
Progressive muscle relaxation is like giving your muscles a brief “stretch and relax” routine. Start at your feet and move upwards, focusing on each muscle group. For each set, tense the muscles as hard as you can for a few moments and then release, allowing them to fully relax.
It’s like letting each muscle have its mini workout followed by a well-deserved break. By systematically addressing each group, you help your body release pent-up tension.
As a bonus? This relaxation can be a handy tool in your toolkit when you’re looking to curb those heightened feelings of horniness.
Efficacy rating: 40% – this could either calm you down or rile you up.
Myths vs. Facts
When it comes to understanding our bodies and desires, there’s a sea of misinformation out there.
Navigating this realm can be confusing, especially when you’re trying to stop being horny or seeking ways to relieve sexual tension. Let’s set the record straight on some widespread myths:
Myth 1: Blue balls are life-threatening
Fact: While “blue balls” refer to a real sensation of testicular discomfort due to prolonged arousal without release, it’s by no means life-threatening. It can be uncomfortable, but it won’t cause lasting damage. [Read: Blue balls – why guys get epididymal hypertension and how to cure it ASAP]
Myth 2: Everyone’s doing it, all the time
Fact: People have varied sex drives. Just because it seems like “everyone’s doing it” doesn’t mean they are, or that you should feel pressured. Everyone’s rhythm is unique.
Myth 3: Men think about sex every seven seconds
Fact: The idea that people, especially men, think about sex every seven seconds isn’t backed by scientific evidence.
While it varies from person to person, it’s nowhere near as frequent as this myth suggests. [Read: How men think about relationships and 18 secrets on what they want from love]
Myth 4: Masturbation will make you go blind or grow hair on your palms
Fact: Old tales to scare people from self-exploration! Masturbation is a natural activity that many people engage in. It doesn’t cause blindness or any wild palm growth.
Myth 5: If you’re always horny, there’s something wrong with you
Fact: Sex drive varies greatly among individuals. While persistent arousal can be a sign of certain medical conditions, simply having a high libido doesn’t mean there’s something amiss.
Being Horny Is Not a Bad Thing
As a final thought, keep in mind that being too horny or looking for ways to stop being too horny is not a bad thing.
You see a problem in your life, and you’re trying to fix it. And for that, you deserve a pat on your back. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself.
[Read: Sex addict -30 subtle signs you’re turning into one and what to do about it]
Being horny is a good thing, but it should learn to know its place. If you do want to stop being horny, use these ways to convert sexual tension into something more positive and enjoyable for yourself.
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