Don't Compliment (or Chat Up) Girls on OBVIOUS Traits!

It’s essential in your courtships to AVOID chatting too much with girls about their obvious/peacocked traits. Why? To avoid being too GENERIC!

Over on the forum, member DarkJedi shared a report in which he made a smooth, natural street stop on a girl that melded right into an instant date, with the girl accompanying him to a pub nearby just minutes after he met her. It was a great open and transition.

Once on the instant date, however, things soon fell apart. His attempt at sexual innuendo did not land, and his deep dives on his date’s tattoos failed to create a connection. After that, he battled on for a bit, ultimately to have the date end in awkwardness and the girl text him later that she “didn’t feel we hit it off.”

DarkJedi’s takeaway was that he wasn’t being direct enough.

But that wasn’t my read of the situation at all.

Instead, I noticed (in him spending all that time talking to her about her tattoos) he’d committed one cardinal offense:

He got too hung up upon complimenting / chatting with a girl on something many other people already also have!