To Attract Women, Acting like an Older Man Can Only Help You

Women want men, not boys. Does that mean a young guy should adopt the styles and traits of older men in order to attract girls his own age?

Contents

1. Girls Want Men, Not Boys

1. Refined Behavior
2. Refined Style
3. Refined Texting

2. Act More Mature and Get More Girls

I’ve been discussing pickup and outings with some younger friends and clients as a 30-something talking to guys in their early 20s or just out of college. One comment that always stands out is, “Are you sure that your older-man style is going to work for me getting younger girls?”

When guys are young (early 20s or younger) and just getting into game, it can be tough finding themselves in cities or environments where the population is predominantly older, or extremely variable. For day game cold approach in New York City, you’re just as likely to meet a 28-year-old as a 22-year-old unless you calibrate your venues and approach areas.

So, to quickly address the issue of actually meeting younger women, you can, for example, stick to areas near a college.

But more to the point of this article, virtually all men want women who are either younger or roughly the same age as they are. I meet very few young men who want to give it a shot with an older woman. With girls, however, it’s not really a question of age preference. It's more a question of what she considers "manly."

But many young guys aren’t sure if adopting the behaviors or styles of older men will help them. Hence the question: will this also work for the kinds of girls I want?

The answer is a firm “yes.” Here's why that is, and what you can do.

How to Handle the Pressure to Live Life to the Fullest and Thrive

We’re always being told that we need to live life to the fullest, but nobody ever tells us how to actually do it! Thankfully, it’s quite easy.

How many times have you been told that you need to live life to the fullest or life is too short?  You need to get out there and live your life before it’s too late? It’s all true, but don’t you find it puts pressure on you?

I, personally, start to question why my life in its current form isn’t good enough. Should I be climbing Kilimanjaro? Should I skydive? Am I not living my life to its fullest form if I’m not dancing with death on a daily basis?

Many people panic and think that they’ll end up with regrets on their death bed. I know I used to think this way, but then I had an epiphany. Because I’m kind and caring, I’m going to share it with you. [Read: This is how to kick-ass in all areas of your life]

Different ideas of a full life

You see, it goes a little like this. Everyone’s idea of living life to the fullest is totally different. Yes, for one person that does mean skydiving, rock climbing, fire eating, and all of those other *quite frankly* terrifying pastimes.

For another person, the best life is sitting on their balcony on a warm summer’s evening and reading a good book. Maybe going to a bar with a friend and enjoying a bottle of wine. There is no pressure people, and it’s time we all realized this!

My epiphany occurred during a particular spell when I didn’t think I was doing enough with my life. I had friends who were off doing volunteering and charity work in foreign countries, friends who were having children and telling me how life-altering it all was, and I also had friends who were partying like they were 18 again every other day and loving every second of it.

I started to look at my life and I wasn’t sure what I was doing. Would I end up regretting not doing something life-altering and amazing? But, what could I do that would be life-altering? And I didn’t want to do anything life-altering. So, did that mean there was something wrong with me?

After a rather soul-searching conversation with a friend *and two bottles of wine* I realized something important. When you attempt to life live to the fullest, you’re not doing it right. You’re faking it. You’re trying to fulfill what someone else tells you is the ‘fullest’, but in order to really get this subject matter right, find out what your idea of the ‘fullest’ is, and go with that.

Can you see where I’m going with this? [Read: Don’t overlook these 31 blissful things in your life]

How to find your idea of a full life

If you’re determined to avoid those regrets in later life, and let’s face it, we all are, sit down and do some soul-searching in the here and now.

Are you happy? Ask yourself that question and really think about it. Most of us aren’t really sure what true happiness is. Again, we’re sold a story via movies, books, and TV that true happiness is about bursting into song while walking down the street and not being able to stop smiling, literally.

Firstly, if you start to burst into song in the middle of a public street, you’re going to get odd looks, and secondly, if you really can’t stop smiling, like physically can’t stop, the chances are you have a problem.

That’s the truth. [Read: How to be happy on your own without a relationship]

What is true happiness?

For me, happiness is more about contentment. About knowing that I have what I need and I’m going where I want to go. It’s not about constantly wanting to sing and dance, because those moments come and go. It’s not humanly possible to be 100% happy all of the time, but it is entirely possible to be 100% content and fine with everything. That’s what I aim for. By doing that, I feel I am happy.

Now, if you’re not happy, that’s your starting point. Do a mind map, a brain dump, a brainstorm, whatever it is that you want to call it. Write down everything in your life that you’re happy with and what you’re not happy with. Then, you simply do more of the things you’re happy with, and you change the things you’re not happy with.

From there, identify the things you enjoy, the things which make you smile, and the things which you would like to do. That is how you find your idea of the ‘fullest’.

How to live life to the fullest, according to me

To me, when you live life to the fullest you’re doing the following:

#1 Doing the things you enjoy.

#2 Cutting out or minimizing the time spent doing the things you don’t enjoy.

#3 Spending time with friends and family.

#4 Being kind to others.

#5 Learning new things as much as possible.

#6 Making sure that you’re healthy by eating a balanced diet and exercising regularly.

#7 Cutting out self-sabotaging or damaging behaviors in your life.

#8 Working towards your dreams and aims, making sure you make progress and reach them.

#9 Always being open to new opportunities.

#10 Going with the flow and seeing where it takes you.

You don’t have to jump out of planes with a parachute strapped to your back because someone told you that’s what defines living life to the fullest. Only bungee jump off a terrifyingly high bridge if YOU want to. You don’t have to trek up a volcano or swim with sharks. These are not necessary things to say that you are living your life to the fullest extent, they are simply things, experiences.

However, they are things you can do if you want to, if these are your dreams. If you can hand on heart say that you really want to skydive, then in order to life your life to the fullest, you need to skydive. [Read: The secret to happiness – An uncomplicated guide for a happy life]

Create the bucket list YOU want

Can you see what I’m getting at here? Living life to the fullest is about being happy first and foremost. It’s also about doing the things you want to do, and working towards the bigger aims in time. Not living life to the fullest would mean that you sit there, saying ‘I wish I could change my career’ but not actually doing anything about it.

You can change your career, and it may change your life. If you don’t do it, you’ll have regrets. That means your life won’t have been a fulfilling one.

I haven’t jumped out of a plane or bungee jumped, and I can’t see myself trekking up a mountain any time soon. But I feel I am living my life to its fullest capacity. I’m slowing ticking things off my bucket list and making sure that I’m healthy and happy every single day. I have a job I love and I worked hard to get it. Surely that’s the equivalent of skydiving, right? [Read: 15 things everyone should know about how to live a happy life]

Seriously, don’t do something you hand on heart don’t want to do simply because you feel it will give you fewer regrets in later life. Quite frankly, I’d rather have a hot bath and a glass of wine than go zip-lining, but I have total respect for those that go for the big adventures!

[Read: How to be more positive and increase the quality of your life]

The pressure to live life to the fullest can be overwhelming. Identify what your idea of living life to its fullest capacity is. Then, stick to that. This is your life, your rules, your dreams, and your story.

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How to Get a Player to Like You & Hook Him Before He Hooks You

Everyone says you can’t get a player to like you, but it’s not as hard as they make it sound. You just need to know how to get a player to like you.

So, you like a player, and you want him to like you back. But how? How are you going to manage that? Well, that’s why you’re here. I’m going to guide you through the art of knowing how to get a player to like you.

But please, please remember, this person is a player. So, while you try to get them to like you, don’t get played yourself.

How to get a player to like you and fall hard

I used to love chasing after players. Wow, I’m making myself sound so desperate. Well, I wasn’t that desperate, but I definitely enjoyed the challenge. If he looked, acted, and talked like a player, I was automatically into him. How could I not? [Read: The reasons why your guy is acting distant and strange]

Players are usually pretty good looking, know exactly what to say, and the right moves to make. As I got older, I realized what a waste of time it was. But, in the moment, I loved it. Listen, do I think you should get a player to like you? No, I don’t. I’m old school when it comes to this.

Players aren’t people who change magically overnight. But, if you’re like me, then you’re not going to let that get in the way of winning over his affection. Listen, I really hope it works out for you. Maybe I’m just bitter from my unsuccessful past. Never mind, this isn’t my therapy session—it’s time to focus on you. Go get him, girl.

#1 Focus on friendship. I know you want to jump straight into it, but you need to develop a relationship with him first. He’s a player which means he’s used to women falling for him. This guy can get any girl in the room, so this isn’t a problem for him.

But you need to offer him something else, something he doesn’t get with the other girls—friendship. Being his friend gives you an advantage. [Read: The reasons why a guy could play hard to get]

#2 Don’t be like the others. You see the other women falling for him and chasing him around. Don’t do this if you want to learn the art of knowing how to get a player to like you. Remember, focus on building a friendship. If you act like the other women, he’ll see you like them. I know it’s hard, but act relaxed, in the same way you would act with your other friends.

#3 Rock your confidence. If you want to make someone like you, be confident. This is a player we’re talking about, remember? They’re used to being around women and getting what they want.

Show him you love yourself and know what you’re worth. This will give him the desire to chase you because he knows you’re not going to be an easy catch. Keep your head high, shoulders back, and work that walk, girl! [Read: 30 effortlessly easy and sexy ways to keep a guy interested and hooked]

#4 Don’t tell him you like him. Oh, I know you want to just blurt it out, but don’t. He’s a player which means he’s all about games. If he knows how you feel about him right away, in his head, he’s already won. You need to put on a convincing poker face. This doesn’t mean you need to be an ice queen, but don’t be the one who confesses their feelings first. Give it time.

#5 Get seducing. Well, it’s time to work your charm. That’s right, seduce him. Yes, he’s a player, but at the end of the day, he’s also a human. And when a man sees a confident woman who’s seducing him, it’s hard for him to resist.

This doesn’t mean you need to completely change the way you dress or how you do your makeup, but you should add a little flirting and eye contact into the mix. [Read: 15 ways to tease and flirt with a friend without being weird]

#6 Comfortable is sexy. The traditional way of seducing a man is to put on a tight dress and heels, but you don’t have to do that. You can if you want, but what people find most appealing is when someone is comfortable with themselves. This can be in a tight dress, or something more casual. There’s no seduction outfit you need to wear. Put on something that makes you feel sexy.

#7 Be what he can’t have. That’s right. I know you want him to have you, but right now, you need to make it look like he can’t have it. Players are always getting what they want, that’s why they’re players. But, be someone he can’t have when he snaps his fingers. He needs to work for your attention. [Read: How to get any guy to notice you and fall for you]

#8 Be independent. Players are always around women that want to be with them. Women that need them around. But no guy wants a woman who’s going to hang off of him, especially a player.

When it comes to players, this is usually why they never commit. Sure, they like women, but the ones they’re with become clingy. So, live your own life. Join an activity, hang out with your friends, do your own thing.

#9 Don’t be so available. This is something that’s really important. A player always has a couple of girls on his phone who are available whenever he needs them. You don’t want to be that girl. Because once that happens, you’ll never leave that spot. If he calls or texts you, don’t reply right away. You need to show him he’s not on your priority list. [Read: How to play hard to get with a guy and leave him craving for you]

#10 Get along with his friends. Unless you don’t like his friends… then maybe you should reconsider this entire plan. But, if you do like his friends, well, this is a great time to get to know them. A player has a strong support system amongst his male friends. They usually have an entourage. If you want to leave an impression on him, get to know his friends. 

#11 Be supportive. If you’re developing the friendship, great. But being a friend is more than just hanging out together. You need to show him that you’re there for him. He probably doesn’t express his emotions to other women very often. But by being there for him, you show him the relationship is genuine and safe. [Read: How to get someone to open up and really connect]

#12 Cool it with the compliments. Of course, you want to tell him he looks cute today or that you like his shirt. You can do it, with a limit. Don’t be the person who’s throwing compliments at him like flies. It’s okay to validate his ego or self-esteem. But, if it’s excessive, well, you’ll be seeing more of his ego than anything.

#13 Rock his world. If you get to the point where you are going to have sex, well, good for you. It’s not easy to make it that far. This is the night where you to rock his world. Of course, he’ll need to rock yours too. If the sex ends up being amazing, he won’t be a player anymore. He’s been with many women, so, this needs to make him change his mind about what he’s doing in life.

#14 Be patient. I know you want this to happen quickly, but when it comes to people’s emotions, it’s not something you can force. You need to give him time to relax, open up to you, and develop a connection. If it’s a genuine connection and friendship, it’s not going to blossom overnight. I know it can be hard because you want things to move forward, but you can’t push too hard. Just chill. [Read: All the reasons why chasing a guy never helps]

#15 Know when to move on. That being said, you’re probably not going to wait around for years and years. At some point, if you’re feeling he’s not into you that way, it’s time to let it go. It’s hard, I know, but what are you doing to yourself?

You can’t end up being the person you hangs around a guy endlessly, waiting for the moment when he realizes he likes you. That moment won’t happen, at least not when you’re glued to his side.

[Read: How to ignore a guy and get him chasing you]

You know how to get a player to like you. Now, the next step is actually doing it. You just need to own what you’re doing, and he’ll fall head over heels.

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Dating for Three Months? Warning Signs Your Relationship Will End

The first flourishes of love don’t last forever, but how can you tell whether your relationship is doomed after dating for three months only?

How can you know if your relationship is going to stand the test of time after dating for three months? Should you give your guy the push?

Every relationship is different, but the first few months should be packed with passion, excitement, butterflies, and not wanting to spend a moment apart. Do you recognize yourself in that description? Unfortunately, for many, the reality is a little different.

Why is the three-month mark important?

The importance of the three-month mark showcases your guy on his best behavior. You might have seen a few of his faults, but not many. You should be so completely head over heels in lust and passion that you aren’t annoyed by them.

If you notice little things creeping in, or there are any major red flags, perhaps it’s time to admit defeat. Maybe put your efforts into someone much more worthy, before your heart takes a battering. [Read: 10 guys to stop dating if you want real love]

I’m not trying to pour cold water on your excitement. Let’s face it, most relationships don’t last, and finding THE ONE, if he even exists, can be hard. Why waste your time with those who aren’t worthy?

You’re a goddess, you’re a queen! You deserve the best. Anything less is just not good enough. [Read: Feel unworthy? Why we accept the love we think we deserve]

Dating for three months and notice these signs?

So, let’s try and work out the red flags. The warnings signs that after dating for three months, it’s time to kick him to the curb!

# 1 His communication slows down. In the first three months your phone should be hot. He should be on every messaging app you own, and you should speak every day. Of course, there are going to be times when something comes up, or he’s busy at work and can’t talk. But if you’re noticing a downward trend in messaging and talking, there’s definitely something up.

Remember, this part of your relationship might be the confusing stage *are we/aren’t we/what the hell are we?*, but it’s also supposed to be the most exciting. I’m not suggesting it’s all downhill from here. But this is the point where everything is new and shiny. As a result, he should be blowing your phone up. [Read: 16 easy ways to respect yourself in a relationship]

#2 It’s harder to pin him down. Are date nights and spontaneous Netflix and chill evenings not as frequent as they were? This is a definite red flag, ladies. Again, it’s about newness and excitement. While seeing each other every spare second you have is probably a little stalker-ish, a regular date schedule is the least you should expect.

If you’re noticing that he’s spending more time with his friends than before, that’s not necessarily something to freak out about straightaway. It could be that one of his crew is going through a hard time, and he feels he needs to be there. If it’s ongoing, bring it up with him.

Be careful how you do it, because you don’t want to sound clingy. Just casually inquire as to why your fun nights out are becoming less of a regular thing. [Read: How to make a relationship work for the better]

#3 He’s suddenly Mr. Vague. It’s not that you should be planning weddings and new houses, but after dating for three months you should be able to talk about the next month or two at the least. For instance, if you’re coming up to summer vacation, has there been talk about going on a weekend away? If not, why not?

If you try and speak about doing this in a few weeks, or that next month, what is his response? If it’s vague, you should wonder why.

A guy committed to making it work will have no problems saying ‘yes’ to the possibility of a weekend away some time next month. Okay, guys don’t generally like to plan things out like girls do. If he’s non-committal and vaguer than ‘um, yeah, maybe, we’ll see’, assess whether you want that for the rest of your relationship or not. You deserve better! [Read: 22 early warning signs of a bad boyfriend]

#4 You still haven’t met his friends. It’s not unusual to have not met his parents after three months. In fact, it’s pretty normal, but not having met his friends? Yeah, that’s a bit odd.

He should be so enamored with you, so keen to show you off, that he will take you to the bar at the weekend with him. He won’t have a problem allowing his besties to rub shoulders with you.

The thing is, if you haven’t met his friends and they don’t really know about you *because you only have his word for it that they do*, then he’s not seeing you in his future. If he was, you’d be with him on the Sunday afternoon regular group catch up, especially if his friends take their girlfriends. This is a guy who is acting single. In that case, you should be out there being single instead of wasting your time. [Read: 10 relationship milestones and when they should happen]

#5 You’re not Insta or Facebook official yet. Okay, I know you’re not 12, but being official on some kind of social media channel is a pretty big deal. It says ‘I’m taken.’ If you’re not official on Facebook or Instagram, and his relationship status is still ‘single,’ you should have a question mark in your mind.

Of course, he might just not have thought about it. Men aren’t quite so keen on these things as women are. In that case, why not bring it up? Say, ‘hey let’s take a selfie for my Insta, I’ll tag you’ and see what the reaction is. If he looks panicked or tries to get out of it, you’re a secret.

#6 His PDA has slowed down. Not all guys are into PDA. However, if your guy used to hold your hand and now doesn’t, why? If he’s complacent at this point, you’ve got a problem for the rest of your time together! He should be holding your hand or showing some kind of affection towards you when you’re out and about. You’re not his sister after all.

I know relationships aren’t always hearts and flowers. But dating for three months, you’re still in the honeymoon stage. In fact, you’re nowhere near out of it. So, why does he think it’s okay to act non-committal around you? He should be worshiping at your feet! [Read: The 9 signs your boyfriend is no longer in love with you]

#7 He isn’t as interested in sex as before. I really don’t want to put this out there, but I have to. If he was all over you at the start, and has lost interest after three months, there’s usually someone else who taking his attention.

Sorry, but it’s normally true. Okay, there could be some other reason. Perhaps, he’s feeling bloated or has some problem ‘down there.’ In that case, you can let him off, but he should be communicating that to you!

Sex is a vital part of any relationship. And after three months you should be running upstairs for a quickie at every opportunity, not wondering why your man doesn’t seem bothered anymore.

#8 He doesn’t put you first. If he’s not going to put you first at the start of your relationship, he’s basically setting a very loud example for how it’s going to be for the rest of your relationship. Is that what you want? I’d bet that you put him first. Why isn’t he doing the same?

If you constantly notice that you’re further down his priority list than washing his socks, wave goodbye and move on.

#9 He’s not supportive if something goes wrong. Men don’t always know how to comfort a crying woman. In fact, some women don’t know how to comfort another woman when she’s crying. But if you find that he doesn’t even attempt to support you during hard times, those are alarm bells!

It’s not wise to be tearing up over the smallest thing on a regular basis, but if you do have a crisis of some kind, or simply having a bad day and need a little TLC, he should be there to give you what you need.

If your relationship progresses, you’re supposed to be a team. Life is going to throw challenges along the way. If he’s not particularly supportive now, what’s he going to be like later? [Read: How to let go of a relationship that’s bad for you]

Time to move on after dating for three months?

I hope you’re not nodding along to these ten red flags, but if you are, don’t worry. Three months isn’t a huge amount of time wasted, and you can simply chalk it up to experience and move on.

You’re allowed to go out and get a little drunk to get over it. Or cry and post meaningful quotes on Facebook. But know this—if you walked away from these red flags at the three months’ stage, you’ve really done your future self a huge favor.

[Read: 9 relationship stages all couples must go through]

Now that you know the signs your relationship isn’t going to make it after dating for three months, do the right thing for you.

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12 Subtle Signs You’re a Lesbian or Leaning Towards the Same Sex

You’ve locked eyes with a couple of women, but you’re not sure how you feel. Lesbian? Bisexual? Well, it’s time to look at the signs you’re a lesbian.

When it comes to sexuality, it’s not always so obvious. Some of us go years struggling to find out what’s going on within ourselves. It’s not easy to figure out the signs you’re a lesbian.

You may have some moments with men where you think you’re straight, and then an encounter with a woman occurs. It makes you question how you’re really feeling. And this is completely normal.

Most of us, if not all of us, have thought about our sexuality. There were times where I wondered if I was straight or bisexual, and eventually, I figured my sexuality out. But it didn’t happen overnight. Plus, when it came to learning about myself, I didn’t have anyone to talk to. [Read: What you need to know about the different sexual orientations]

The subtle signs you’re a lesbian even if you don’t know it

The good thing here is you’re not alone. Sure, there’s not a one-size-fits-all test to figure out your sexuality, but there are some general signs that can help steer you in the right direction. Of course, if you read these signs and you’re still not sure, don’t worry. Sexuality isn’t something you can figure out overnight. Be patient—give yourself time to explore.

So, let’s get this show on the road. It’s time you knew the signs you’re a lesbian so you can self-reflect and think about how you feel when it comes to sexuality and attraction.

#1 You hooked up with a girl and liked it. You can still be a lesbian without having kissed a woman. But, if you’ve kissed a girl and you liked it, then that’s a great sign you’re attracted to women. Does it mean you’re a lesbian? No. It could also mean you’re bisexual. But it does mean you’re attracted to women to some extent. [Read: Do you understand what it means to be sexually fluid in the dating world?]

#2 You’ve questioned your sexuality. There are many times where you’ve asked yourself, “Am I a lesbian?” “Do I like women?” “Am I bisexual?” If you find yourself routinely questioning yourself, then it’s a strong sign you’re either a lesbian or bisexual. If you were completely straight, these questions wouldn’t continue to pop into your head.

#3 You’re turned on when reading/watching lesbian love stories. When you watch a lesbian romantic movie or read lesbian erotica, you’re highly aroused. You can feel something deep inside of you tingle, and you imagine yourself in their position. It’s almost as though you feel like you belong in that scenario. [Read: How to know if you’re a lesbian without asking around]

#4 If you do date men, they’re more feminine. The men you’ve dated in the past were never really overly masculine. They were all slightly feminine. Now, this doesn’t mean you’re a lesbian, you could just like that type of guy. However, many bisexual or lesbian women go through a stage where the men they date are more feminine than masculine.

#5 You see women everywhere. Women make up half the world’s population, so yes, women are literally everywhere. But this is different. When you walk down the street, all you see are women. While your friends are noticing guys, your eyes are set on the women. Unless you think about it, you don’t even notice you’re doing it. [Read: Am I lesbian or bisexual? How to understand your true desires]

#6 You’ve been in love with another woman. Again, it doesn’t mean you’re a lesbian. You could also be bisexual. But if you’ve been in love with another woman, it’s clear that you’re attracted to women. If you’re able to have a relationship with a woman, it means you’re capable of having another relationship again.

#7 When you’re on a date with a guy, you think about women. When you’re on a date with a guy, usually, you’re thinking about them. But your mind isn’t on them at all. Instead, you’re thinking about the girl you met last week that was into you. If you find yourself thinking about women more than men, it could mean you’re a bisexual or a lesbian. [Read: The secret signs of female bisexuality]

#8 You think about women sexually. When you meet a woman, you think about her in a sexual way. You wonder how she kisses, what she’s like in bed. These thoughts are normal and show that you’re probably either bisexual or a lesbian. Why else would you think about this? [Read: What it means to have a lesbian fantasy as a straight woman]

 #9 Your favorite website is Tumblr. When it comes to sexual exploration, Tumblr is the place to go. On Tumblr, you can see more lesbian pictures and clips than anywhere else. But if you’re on there, you already knew that.

#10 Your gut tells you. Deep down, you know what you are. Deep down, you know whether or not you like women. Of course, you may have fears and are worried about what your family will think; these things add up and weigh down your feelings. But if your gut is telling you that you’re attracted to women, then you are. There’s no reason to suppress these feelings because they’re completely natural.

#11 You can’t visualize dating a man. When you think about dating a man in your future, you’re not excited. If anything, you become sad. There’s something inside of you telling you it’s not right, and that’s because being with a man isn’t what you want. [Read: 15 lesbian dating apps for the newly out lez]

#12 You have a lot of platonic male friendships. When you look at your list of friends, many of them are male. Have you had sex with them? No. In fact, most of your male friendships are strictly platonic. They see you as one of the guys, and you don’t see them as anything but friends.

[Read: How to know if you’re a lesbian or just sexually curious]

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