Monday, 31 October 2022

When Girls Act Very Forward: Handling the Freak Test

handling the freak testYou just met this girl, but suddenly she’s all over you. Are you really THAT sexy? Don’t get excited yet: it’s only the freak test. Here’s how to handle it.

Hey guys and welcome back.

Today I will continue my series on tests. Previously, we discussed the common jealousy plot test (when girls chat or flirt with other men in front of you) and how to deal with it.

This post covers a different test linked to female attention-seeking behavior. It’s often not recognized as a test, so many fall into its trap. This test can lead to much frustration.

It’s what I call the “freak test.” It tests your reaction to overt sexual moves done by the girl.

It goes like this:

  1. A man starts an interaction with a woman.

  1. She immediately makes an overt sexual move (touches his balls, shows her tits, starts grinding on his dick, says something explicit).

  1. The man mirrors her behavior and responds because he thinks it’s appropriate, and she wants it (and rightfully so, considering her behavior).

  1. She turns cold, blocks his move, or leaves to talk with other men.

  1. The man gets frustrated and tries to persist, only to hit a wall.

He did not pass the test. And we will discuss how to pass it today.



Sunday, 30 October 2022

The Dap Trap: When Girls Press & Guys "Dawdle, About-Face, Pursue"

dawedle, about-face, pursueA girl wants to date or maybe for you to commit. But you dawdle and don’t make it happen. So she gives up – but then, you give chase! Why? The Dap Trap!

There’s a flip-floppy male behavior you’ll see in dating that is so predictable it borders on the comical: something I’ve dubbed ‘dap’, for “dawdle, about-face, pursue.”



Friday, 28 October 2022

The Magnetic Man, Pt. 4: Social Response Ability

magnetism social response abilityYour response to social situations decides how well you do in them. How do you train up this ‘response ability’ though – and become more magnetic in the process?

A popular quote goes,

With great power comes great responsibility.

It’s pertinent to today’s article because we are continuing our discussion on response ability, extending beyond conceptual skill into the broader and tantalizing topic of socializing.

As you may have noticed, your response ability extends to every realm of personal magnetism.

We will break down and cross-examine social response ability to better understand how to harmonize magnetism with the different cold approach battlefields so you come out on top in your social circle pickups and make your extended seductions run smoothly.

The “great power” you will gain from reading Girls Chase today is social response ability, and this power is best used responsibly. I hope that pun is a reminder of the quote above.



Wednesday, 26 October 2022

Law of Attraction: 37 Secrets to Manifest Love & Bring Your Dream to Life

Want to find and attract love? You should learn to use the Law of Attraction for specific goals. Once you learn how the law of attraction works, you can manifest love in your life.

Law of Attraction

Are you wondering how to find love? Learn to understand the secret Universal Law of Attraction in love, and you’ll see that knowing how to find true love can be as easy as a walk in the park.

But if you really want to understand the principle behind the Law of Attraction in love, you need to understand the system, and how it really works.

The whole world is full of patterns and logical explanations, but when it comes to love and how it works, it’s surprisingly easy and yet, totally mysterious.

It sounds like mystical magic and in some ways, you could argue that it is to a degree, but the universe wants to give you the love you deserve. All you need to do is believe it’s possible and put in a little work to help things along. 

The Law of Attraction (LOA) has been around for a while, and some say it has existed since the early 19th century, as an approach known as “New Thought.” Today, however, it’s been gaining much attention because of the best-selling books The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and The Lost Symbol by Dan Brown.

The concept is not new, in the sense that we’ve all been advised to bring ourselves good luck and good tidings through the power of positivity. 

Many say there isn’t such a law, but so many people are investing their time and money into the idea that it must work. The catch is that it should be done responsibly by grounding yourself and avoiding the delusion it could cause.

Still, we can take comfort in the fact that every bit of knowledge out there about the Law of Attraction is tied to one thing: positivity.

Let’s see how you can use the power of the Law of Attraction to manifest specific things and make it work to your advantage in terms of your relationships. [Read: Different types of attraction: Which is most vital for true love?]

What is the Law of Attraction?

You’ll probably have heard of the Law of Attraction. The idea is pretty simple: Thinking about what you want can bring it toward you. In other words, what you put out into the world is what you pull toward yourself. 

The process begins when you clear the negative aspects out of your life, focus your energy toward your goals, and tell the universe what you want. Then, you use positive affirmations and visualization techniques to encourage the love you want to attract into your life.

It is said that working with the Law of Attraction will bring you anything you ask for, as long as you’re specific and make way for the abundance. The most important thing? Belief. [Read: Science of attraction – 17 things that are far sexier than looks]

Yet again, there’s no point in trying to manifest and attract love into your life if you don’t believe the process is going to work; the chances are that whoever is sent to you will be overlooked because you’re too busy being skeptical.  

Some people believe that the Law of Attraction today is purely a false belief, whereas others believe it with every fiber of their being. The Law of Attraction suggests that whatever you choose to focus on will become your current reality.

In the same sense, this is why you can’t manifest your goals and dreams when you’re constantly focused on negative energy. In order to live out your dreams fully and achieve everything you’ve ever wanted, it all comes down to maintaining positive energy.

Basically, you attract whatever energy you have. [Read: How to think positive and reprogram your mind to stay positive]

So, if your goal is to find a relationship or achieve your dream job, you need to become more aware of your thoughts and feelings, intentions, and actions to reach your goals that you want to achieve, rather than dwelling on self-doubt. That’s what the Law of Attraction is all about. 

Like attracts like. So, if you incorporate negative energy, that’s also the kind of life you’ll be living.

What are the 7 Laws of Attraction? 

Believe it or not, the Law of Attraction is like the Laws of Physics; it has other laws within it too. So, in order to fully understand the LOA and use it in your love life to achieve success, you will also need to understand these seven laws too. [Read: How to attract a guy – 17 no-fail tips to make him stay forever]

1. The Law of Manifestation

The Law of Manifestation states that what you focus your mental and emotional energy on will manifest in your life whether it is positive or negative.

All of our feelings and thoughts are mirrored in the world around us every moment of every day. It’s already been proven by science that each single thought is made up of energy with its own unique frequency. Therefore, our minds are very powerful tools.

The good news is that the more you focus on positive things, the better your life will be. But the bad news is that if you focus on negativity a lot, then more negative things will creep into your life whether you want them to or not. 

In short, positive thoughts bring positive experiences into your life; negative thoughts bring negative outcomes. If you start using the law of manifestation, it means you train your mind to become a more positive person instead of focusing on what’s wrong about the present.

2. The Law of Magnetism

This law explains that everything in our lives – including people, circumstances, and things – is a direct result of our energy vibrations. In other words, we attract what we are. We are all like walking magnets. [Read: Chick magnet – 30 secrets to be the guy all girls are drawn to]

So, in order to get what you want in your life, you will have to raise your energy vibrations. If you aren’t on the same frequency as whatever you desire, then you probably won’t get it.

Instead, you will manifest something that is on your frequency level. And it may or may not be what you want.

3. The Law of Unwavering Desire

If some of your desires aren’t fulfilled, then this law can explain why. When you want to manifest something in your life, you can’t be wishy-washy about it. You have to have an unwavering, strong desire for it. 

We might think we want something, but we might still have fear, doubts, or desperation surrounding the desire. And all of these emotions are low-vibrational energy.

So, you have to know 100% that you want it and have only positive emotions surrounding your desire. [Read: How to hone and increase your positive emotions in a negative world]

4. The Law of Delicate Balance

The Universe works on a very delicate balance between its elements. If we have elements that are in balance within us, then we can raise our energy vibrations up to match that which we desire. And that means that you should always have a happy, peaceful, and content state of mind.

In order to achieve this balance, you will also need to have appreciation and gratitude in your heart.

If you feel desperate or obsessed with the object of your desire, then it destroys the balance and brings down your energy levels. And that pushes your desires farther away from you.

5. The Law of Harmony

The central theme of the Universe is harmony. That’s why it’s essential to the Law of Attraction. Everything is energy, and it’s all connected to each other.

So, you have to align yourself with the energy of the Universe to get what you desire. [Read: How a fearful avoidant attachment style keeps you from harmony]

If you tap into the energy of the Universe, it will give you direct access to all the positive experiences in life that are to be offered. This will also give you the power of abundance, creation, and the ability to make your dreams come true.

6. The Law of Right Action

Our actions have an equal reaction to them. In other words, what we do to others will be done to us. It’s like karma, both good and bad. 

If we treat other people badly, then we will get treated that way too. But if you are a good person, kind to everyone, and always do the right thing, then only positive things will come into your life.

So, it’s important to have behavior, thoughts, and actions that are good, truthful, and honorable. [Read: Karma relationship – 10 signs you’re stuck in a karma smackdown]

7. The Law of Universal Influence 

We are all parts of the Universe. So, all of our actions and words impact the world around us. Your individual vibration contributes to the vibration of the Universe as a whole.

Since the whole Universe is connected, that means that not only do your words and actions affect people you know, but also people you don’t. It’s like the butterfly effect.

So, you can’t just be selfish and focused on yourself. You also influence people, the world, and the Universe itself. So, you better make it a good influence.

Impact of the Law of Attraction

Once you know how to use the Law of Attraction, you can attract positive differences in your life. However, it does take practice because most people aren’t familiar with what it is and how to do it right. [Read: Psychology of attraction – 6 types and the ones that make you fall in love]

Whether you know it or not, it’s quite clear to see how the Law of Attraction is always at work in your life and everyone else’s for that matter. Everything in your life – both good and bad – has shown up in your life as a direct result of your frequency and the vibration of emotions that you’re putting out into the Universe.

So, when you master how to use the Law of Attraction to your advantage, you can change your life drastically – and that includes your love life too. So, let’s talk about how you can manifest love in your life.

What does manifesting love mean?

The power of manifestation is real. There are many success stories to add weight to that statement. However, it’s not going to work for you if you don’t put your heart and soul into it and believe that it’s possible in the first place. That’s the first hurdle. [Read: How to find love and learn to be open to all that life has to offer]

Many people simply can’t understand how this is going to work, and assume that it’s a case of putting your faith into something that’s just not going to work for you.

But think about it. Is there anything to lose in giving it a go? It can’t be worse than the string of disappointing dates you’ve had to endure so far!

So, what does manifesting love actually mean? [Read: How to open up to people and learn to welcome life in]

The definition of manifesting love

Manifesting love means asking the universe for the love you want and explaining the qualities you would like your lover to have.

If this sounds like ordering food from a restaurant, it’s a little more in-depth than that! In order to manifest this love, you must do a little work. You can’t learn how to manifest love if you just ask and then sit and wait. There’s some leg-work for you to do too.

You need to reach a place that allows you to love yourself and know that you deserve the best and nothing less. You have to clear your life of baggage and blockages to be able to welcome love in. [Read: Understanding what makes someone emotionally mature]

Push aside any perceived ideas or expectations. By doing that, you’re creating the best possible foundation for love to come your way.

Is it possible to manifest someone to love you?

Many say it is. You must believe it’s true, otherwise, the whole thing will be a waste of time. However, rather than focusing on trying to get someone to love you, why not focus on becoming the very best version of yourself that you can be, raising your standards, and loving yourself? 

By doing that, you’re more likely to attract someone into your life who reflects the high regard you hold yourself in. [Read: Why high expectations and aiming high always leads to way better results]

You cannot force someone to love you, and you should never push or beg. You don’t need to! Remember, you’re wonderful as you are. 

If someone you like doesn’t see it, they’re not the right person for you. Learning how to manifest love really comes down to focusing on yourself and putting your faith in the universe.

How to find love

There are many couples who have been together forever, but even they haven’t found true love for each other. So if you’re single and feeling hopelessly lost, don’t fret. You really are not alone. [Read: Why you can’t find love]

You could read complicated research papers or listen to therapists about their definitions of love and try to learn from them.

But it really won’t take you anywhere. After all, love isn’t a road map to go from one place to another.

Love is like a magical recipe that changes with each person. And no therapy or study papers can help you there. [Read: Long-term relationship poll]

There are so many couples who have actually given up on finding love; instead they carry on their lives talking about fairytale romances and romantic movies with their friends, but they don’t really try to find love for real.

Applying the Law of Attraction in love

How to find love in a world that’s so full of people with unique desires? Truth be told, we can leave it to the secret Law of Attraction to manifest love. It works, and it’s very easy. But you have to understand it.

You’ve made a checklist of the things you want in a partner. And just like you, your prospective partner’s made a mental checklist of the things they want in their partner too. [Read: 20 Secrets to make a girl fall for you and fall in love before asking her out]

If both of your checklists match perfectly, it’s an instant attraction. The secret Law of Attraction in love would set into motion a chain reaction that will draw both of you together like moths to a flame!

The Law of Attraction and you

Now, this is what every single person who wants to know how to find love should understand. You can ask for the moon, and you can ask for the perfect partner. But are you perfect too? 

A lot of people are shallow and want their partner to be the best person of the opposite sex. But then, the Law of Attraction in love is mutual. If you want the best partner, you have to be the best partner too. [Read: 19 Rules to be a good partner in a relationship and make them feel lucky]

Most singles start out in their teens or twenties wanting the best partner in all aspects, and by the time they’re twenty-five, they drop their expectations a wee bit. And by the time they reach their thirties, they drop all their expectations and date anyone they get.

Now obviously, even if you find your partner by dropping all your expectations, you’re never going to be completely, truly happy in love. You’re always going to look at someone else and wonder how things could have been if you could have been with your dream partner.

This is one of the biggest reasons why some people start to fall out of love with their own partners after a few years in a long-term relationship. [Read: 20 Healthy expectations in a relationship that define a good love life]

How to find love with the right partner?

Instead of dropping expectations in love, retain them. But just like you have expectations for your partner, remember that your dream partner has expectations too. 

Ask yourself what your dream partner might want from you and try to become a better person yourself.

Speak with a few friends of the opposite sex and ask them to define their ideal partner. Learn from them and try to improve your own shortcomings. [Read: How to talk to a guy and make him like you]

Remember, the difference between looking beautiful and ugly is a coat of thick makeup or a good workout, so don’t worry if you think you look unattractive.

Attractiveness is more about charisma, persona, and attitude than anything else. You’ll learn this over time, even if you don’t believe it now!

How long does it take to manifest love? 

There is no clear answer to this question, unfortunately. The good news is that it all depends on you. But the bad news is that it all depends on you. In other words, you are the central determining factor for how long it takes to manifest love.

For example, let’s say that you’ve been single for a long time and want to manifest a partner. You do all the right things and try to raise your vibration to match your ideal partner.

But you might not know some of the subconscious thoughts you have that could be sabotaging your efforts. [Read: What men want in a woman]

It could be that you actually like living alone and not sharing your bed with someone. And you know you would have to give that up if you had a serious relationship. These thoughts could be conflicting with your desires to manifest love.

Or you might not have very good self-esteem. You might want to attract a person who is loving and treats you well. But if you don’t believe that you deserve that kind of treatment, you might keep attracting people who are mean to you or abuse you.

If that happens, you might not think that the Law of Attraction is working. But here’s the catch – it is working. You are attracting exactly what you are feeling, not what you are thinking. [Read: What women want in a man]

That’s why being very clear on what you want is vital to manifesting love. You will manifest someone. But the amount of time it will take to manifest the person you want might take longer than you want. That’s why practice and being mindful is so important.

How to manifest love using the Law of Attraction – The 10 steps you MUST follow

If you’re keen to learn more about how to use some elements of the law of attraction to work toward finding the love life of your dreams, you must be serious. If you’re sure, and you know that you’re ready to give it a try, let’s look at the ultimate guide to the law of attraction and learn how to use manifestation in love.

 1. Know exactly what you want

If you’re trying to find love, what are you looking for? Understanding this will be the key to opening up new avenues in your search for love. Try to pinpoint the type of partner that you’re looking for. [Read: How to get a girl to like you]

You can’t blame the universe if you ask for something with few details and don’t get exactly what you want! Give this some thought; in fact, sit down and brainstorm if you need to. 

Develop a picture in your mind of what you want. Not how the person will look, but rather the experience you want and the qualities you want this person to have. 

Should your prospective partner be attractive, charming, earning a lot of money, overly ambitious, or all of the above? Do you want them to be kind? [Read: Is it love? Recognizing true love when it enters your life]

Have a good sense of humor? Be determined and motivated? Do you want a long-term relationship or something less serious? What exactly do you want?

Also, think about your non-negotiable traits. Make sure they are realistic: look for financially stable, but not filthy rich, or someone you’re sexually attracted to, but not Channing Tatum. He’s married, so you can’t have him. 

Don’t be vague, but also don’t be too specific about things that you don’t believe will come to you. [Read: Do you want a partner or are you just feeling more lonely in life?]

The details are essential to who you want to be with but don’t exaggerate them to the point where it seems unrealistic. For instance, maybe you want someone compatible with your personality and who knows what they want in life. That’s an adequate start for your list.

Don’t sweat over being overly specific. Instead, focus on the essence of who you want, and most importantly, the feeling you will have when you are with them.

2. Tell the Universe

There are no rules on how you’re going to get your message out there, but many people like to meditate on it.

If you’re not a meditation fan, that’s fine; you can simply sit with your eyes closed for a short while, focusing on your breath to calm your mind. [Read: What to look for in a relationship: 23 traits of a happy romance]

Then, when you’re calm, relaxed, and ready, tell the universe exactly what it is that you want. Don’t say “if you don’t mind”, or “if it’s not too much trouble,” be firm here. “I want,” that’s what you need to say!

3. Believe that you will get what you ask for

This is the biggest crux of the issue here. When you learn how to manifest love, you must believe that it’s going to come your way. 

It might not be tomorrow, but it will come your way. Your belief needs to be unshakable. Handily, the next steps will help you to develop that belief. [Read: How to build self-confidence and realize you’re worth it

4. Use positive affirmations

When manifesting love, develop a positive attitude. This will ensure that you maintain that belief and keeps your focus on exactly what you want. 

Come up with an affirmation that you can really get on board with. Something like “I am ready to welcome love into my life” or “I am deserving of the love I have requested.” 

Write your affirmation down somewhere you can easily see it. Perhaps on your bathroom mirror or as your laptop screensaver, so you’re reminded of it regularly. [Read: Is it love or limerence?]

Say it three times with meaning when you wake up in the morning, repeat it another three times at lunchtime, and repeat it three times before bed. 

The more you build up that positive attitude, the more you’ll raise your vibrations and increase the chances of the Universe giving you what you want. 

You’ll also feel more upbeat and positive, which will bring more opportunities into your life generally. [Read: 27 powerful ways to focus on yourself and create your own sunshine]

5. Visualize it

You also need to visualize what it’s going to be like when the universe delivers what you’ve asked for. All you need to do is sit down, close your eyes, and allow your mind to wander toward your perfect daydream. 

Imagine the details as much as you can. The way it looks, the way it smells, the way it feels, the way you feel in yourself when you have what you want. You can also create a vision board to keep you motivated.

Be as detailed as possible. The more you do this, the more you’ll attract your desires, and again, raise those vibrations to welcome your bounty. [Read: How to awaken your divine feminine and connect to your inner goddess

6. Clear out your life and your surroundings to make space

Decluttering is an important part of learning how to manifest love, so get to clearing out! Clear out your physical space, such as your home and workplace. 

Make sure that the free flow of energy can move around your home, by ensuring that windows aren’t cluttered, that there is nothing blocking the spaces that run from door to door, and that you focus upon natural elements as much as possible. 

Use plants around your home. You could also look at using crystals for manifesting too. Rose quartz is a great crystal to use, which can be dotted around your home. [Read: Am I ready for a relationship? 17 honest questions to ask yourself]

You could also keep some under your pillow too. Let’s say you want to take the use of crystals a step further, keep a piece of rose quartz in your left pocket, which is thought to attract more love and romance, both self-love, and the other kind. 

7. Practice feeling gratitude daily

It’s easy to get caught in the scarcity mindset: focusing on your lack of money pr lack of love life. Rather than feeling sorry for the things that you lack, find ways to make yourself feel grateful.

Keep a gratitude diary and write down one thing in your life you’re grateful for every single day. Of course, if you can come up with more than one, that’s a bonus! 

Gratitude helps you to open your heart to love. It also boosts positivity, along with positive affirmations. [Read: When life isn’t all puppies and rainbows what are you thankful for?

8. Take opportunities and open your life

When you learn how to manifest love into your life, you’ll soon realize that it’s not going to be delivered to your doorstep. It could come at any time, in any place. 

To take advantage of that, help yourself out by opening your life up and taking invitations and opportunities that you might normally side-step. Start saying “yes” when you’re asked to go to parties, agreeing to new opportunities rather than fearing them. [Read: How to find love and learn to be open to all that life has to offer you]

9. Surround yourself with all kinds of love

If you want to attract love, then you need to be in a love vibration as often as possible. Love is love. Whether it’s love for your parents, friends, family, or significant other, love is the same vibration regardless of who you love.

So, make sure that you are surrounded by loving people who love you. Distance yourself or completely cut off negative people in your life. Their energy will only bring yours down and put you in a lower vibrational energy state. That will deter you from manifesting love in your life.

10. Shift out of energy habits that don’t serve your goals

Maybe you were raised by parents who are pessimists and generally negative. As a result, you have adopted their negative mindset and complained a lot about your life.

Well, you need to stop doing that because it will act as an obstacle to attracting love. [Read: 11 Bad social habits that make you undatable]

So, think about similar negative habits that you have that could be holding you back. Once you identify what they are, then you need to take specific steps to stop doing those things. Then, develop new positive habits to replace them.

Tips for using the Law of Attraction for your relationships

We can’t swear on our childhood pets’ graves that the Law of Attraction works, because each and every one of us has a firm stance on what is true and not true in terms of science, the paranormal, and religious beliefs. But here are some things to consider before using the Law of Attraction.

1. There’s no assurance that you can get exactly what you want

Just because the Law of Attraction worked for some, that doesn’t mean you’ll get exactly what you want. There isn’t a guarantee that things will pan toward your favor with every precise detail. [Read: Love sucks! 36 reasons why we hate it and yet crave for it]

So, if you manifest to find your soulmate and the love of your life, it might not happen exactly the way you imagine. The Law of Attraction isn’t magic, you know?

2. It probably won’t work if you’re skeptical about it

Again, your energy is an important aspect when using the Law of Attraction. If you don’t believe that it will work, then it really won’t work in your life. 

The Universe can feel your doubt and lack of trust so if you don’t believe you’ll achieve your greatest goals and dreams, that’s precisely what will happen. [Read: Giving up on life – 25 ways to find strength and change your attitude]

Like attracts like, remember? If you doubt it will work in your dating life, then nothing good will come out of it.

3. Ignore what skeptics are saying because practicing LOA can also be good for you

Just because the Law of Attraction didn’t work for some, it doesn’t mean you should heed their advice and way. Whether it works in your dating life or not, it can still be good for you.

The Law of Attraction is all about positivity and maintaining good energy to manifest what you want, even in your dating life. So, practicing this can have so many benefits in your life, even if you don’t achieve your end goal. [Read: How to find love – The Law of Attraction]

4. Don’t be a skeptic, but also don’t invest too much into LOA

You have to find the balance between being cynical about the Law of Attraction and obsessing over it. You can’t revolve your entire life around it, but you can’t be apathetic either. Balance it out, or you’ll lose your mind. Seriously.

5. Be secure with yourself first

Being secure with yourself is part of the package if you want to manifest love through LOA. This means you need to work on yourself first if you have any issues, baggage, or problems that need improvement.

If you have low confidence or if you have any limiting beliefs you’re holding on to, it’s best to work on them first before expecting the Law of Attraction to work in your life. [Read: How to focus on yourself in a relationship & avoid losing yourself]

6. Be ready for a partner

The Law of Attraction won’t work if you’re not ready for a relationship in the first place. Why would the Universe give you something you’re clearly not prepared for? 

Act as if you already have what you’re looking for by setting your life up to be ready for a partner. To help you understand this better, we’ve come up with a few examples:

a. If you’re too busy to date, make some time for yourself so that you can be ready when a partner comes. While your partner’s not there yet, use it to do something you’ve always wanted, like a cooking class or a drive in the countryside.

Use this time productively to focus on yourself and do what you’ve always wanted to do. [Read: 10 ways the perpetually busy can still find love]

b. Save some empty space in your closet for your future partner’s stuff. Don’t renovate your walk-in. Just get rid of the things you don’t need and throw them away or give them to charity.

c. Clean your place up. If you want a partner, your home should be ready to welcome any and all suitors. You’re manifesting the reality you want, so this includes even your space. How can you manifest your soulmate when your personal space says otherwise?

d. Set a time for some self-introspection. Change your bad habits and assess yourself if you’re the type of person who is ready for love. Are you messy? That’s always a deal-breaker. [Read: Love at first sight – The real truth behind it]

Are you insecure? Those types of people find it difficult to find love. Ask yourself if you’re the best person you can be, but always remember not to change yourself for anyone else but yourself.

7. Be open

Stop setting unbreakable limitations on yourself or saying that you’re not attractive enough. And stop saying that there aren’t enough men or women around. 

Don’t say to yourself that you’re not in a position to find love. How can love find you when you’ve set yourself up to fail without knowing if what you’re thinking is true or not? [Read: 18 bad habits that can make any partner leave you for good]

Get out there, get rid of all these limitations, and start opening up to the world. This is one of the most important things to remember if you’re serious about manifesting love and attracting new things into your life. 

Stop the negative walk you talk to yourself. Remember that like attracts like, so you won’t find love with that attitude or mindset.

8. Get rid of limiting beliefs

Speaking of limiting beliefs, this is such an important yet overlooked aspect in getting the Law of Attraction to work in your love life. When we say limiting beliefs, this means negative thinking and beliefs about yourself that are holding you back. [Read: How to be emotionally available: 17 ways to open up to love & life]

Maybe it’s the belief you don’t deserve love or that every person you date will see you as worthless and unlovable. These are examples of limiting beliefs that will sabotage your manifestation process. 

It’s essential that you maintain high energy if you’re serious about LOA working in your life.

9. Don’t obsess over your expectations

Your expectations will destroy your faith and belief in the Law of Attraction, so it’s better to drop your expectations if you can. Otherwise, you’ll keep on asking whether it’s working or not. [Read: Best lesson to live by: Surround yourself with positive people]

The more you expect and obsess, the more LOA will not work in your life. This is because it incorporates a lot of fear and doubt in your life, which are negative feelings. So just stop obsessing over your expectations and have faith in the Universe.

Exercises that can improve your LOA game

Applying the Law of Attraction to your life can benefit you, but only if you take action. Not because of the power it yields, but because of the positive effects of the exercises that are being taught. 

It only takes a few minutes to perform these exercises, and we’re pretty sure that you can get the most out of them, even if you don’t get exactly what you’re looking for. [Read: How to get a boyfriend – a no-nonsense guide to find a great guy]

1. Write down everything you want in a partner

As we’ve said before, write down traits that exist in the world. So please don’t ask for a prince with vampiric powers. Don’t be unrealistic with your list, but list down practical traits in someone you want.

Maybe you want someone patient and kind, slow to anger, or chivalrous. These are all practical traits rather than wanting a perfect prince charming to come to rescue you in his white horse. [Read: 19 unrealistic expectations in love we want to believe but shouldn’t]

2. Write down the kind of dates you want

Imagining what types of dates you’ll be having is a good way to give you a positive outlook on what you want to happen in your relationship. 

Remember, make sure you believe that it’s possible. Don’t ask for a ride on a dragon if you don’t think that it’s possible.

Visualize the kind of dates you want to have for yourself and what you see happening. Do you see yourself on a candle-lit dinner date, or maybe a coffee date where you talk about anything and everything? Then write it all down. [Read: 20 personality traits that make the ideal type of guy]

3. Write down everything good about yourself

Aside from knowing what kind of partner you want to be, you also have to think about what kind of person you are and whether you need to make some changes. Are you a good person? Are your personality flaws hurting other people?

Check to see if you’re good enough for yourself before deciding that you’re good enough for anyone else. Most importantly, be honest with yourself. This isn’t the time to be lying because, in the end, you’re only lying to yourself.

So focus on the best aspects of yourself and be real with the quirks you need to work on. Everyone has one, so we’re sure you have some too. [Read: 15 things that make you a nice person who’s loved by everyone]

4. Internalize everything

Do not just write it all down and put it in a wish jar. Continue to check your list and see if things change from time to time. The purpose of this is to learn what works and what doesn’t.

The Law of Attraction is helping you get what you want, but things can change, so make sure that you’re updating your list regularly. If there’s something you don’t want anymore, feel free to change that list and keep going back every now and then.

How to manifest love with a specific person

Maybe you are secretly in love with someone you already know, but you aren’t in a relationship with them yet. So, you might want to know how to manifest love with a specific person. Here are some steps you can follow. [Read: How to get your crush to ask you out by making them fall for you]

Step 1: Clarify why you want to be in love

Get a manifestation journal, and then write your lover’s name in it and why you want to be in a relationship with them.

It’s important to get very clear on your intentions because you might think you want to be in a relationship, but you might not have thought about the disadvantages that might come along with it. Think about all the pros and cons you can.

Step 2: Visualize how it feels to be in love

As we’ve discussed, the Law of Attraction is all about feeling. You need to have your emotions and frequency high and on their level. So, visualize how it would feel to be in love with this person and be in a relationship with them.

Your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between fantasy and reality, so visualizing it “tricks” your unconscious to bring it into your reality by thinking that you already have it. 

Step 3: Recite affirmations for love

Positive affirmations are very powerful. So, write down a specific affirmations and recite them on a regular basis. You can also write the down and tape them in places around your house or in your car.

That way, you will constantly be reminded of how it would feel to be in a relationship with this person. [Read: 36 Secrets to motivate yourself to achieve anything your heart desires]

Step 4: Let the Universe lead the way

You can only do so much. At some point, you need to just let go and let the Universe work its magic.

You have done your part by defining who you want, visualizing it, and raising your vibration so it can come into your life. Now, just sit back and let the love of your life manifest.

Change yourself so the Law of Attraction in love works for you

You might’ve heard the saying – be the type of person you want to attract. This saying can also be applied to the Law of Attraction. You can’t manifest meeting the love of your life if you’re not the type of person you want to be with initially.

Like attracts like, so if you’re the exact opposite of the kind of person you want to be with, you’re never going to get the person of your dreams. It just doesn’t work that way. [Read: How to be happy and live your life to the fullest]

Even if you send a message to the Universe that this is the type of person you want, you’ll receive differently if you’re not the right person yourself.

See your checklist and ask yourself if you fit into all those requirements too. And if you’re flawed somewhere, then try and improve it.

Basically, you can’t meet the right person without being the right person first. Imagine what you would do for your partner in order to make them happy, without compromising your own needs. No matter what you think is the best way to approach a relationship, stick to it and write it down. [Read: Dating facts]

What are some signs that love manifestation is coming through? 

Now that you know all the steps, tips, and tricks to make the Law of Attraction work for you in love, how can you know it’s working? Here are some signs that the love manifestation is coming through.

1. You start to notice synchronicities

Synchronicities are meaningful coincidences that happen. For example, if you notice that after you tell a friend the type of person you’re looking for, they say, “Oh my gosh! That sounds just like my friend Jane/John! I don’t know why I didn’t think about introducing the two of you before. Let me set up a blind date!”

Jane/John was always there, but because you weren’t on the right vibrational level to attract them before, it didn’t happen. But now that you’ve raised your frequency to be in line with the right person, these types of synchronicities will start to happen. [Read: What are twin souls? 20 signs to know if you’ve found yours]

2. You’re able to become your authentic self to the other person

Let’s say a person does come into your life. If they are the right one for you, then they will allow you to be your true, authentic self. The wrong people make us feel uncomfortable on some level. 

So, if you find that the person or people you are attracting are letting you become the best version of yourself, then you know that you are on the right track with using the Law of Attraction to your advantage in love.

3. You don’t feel the need to ask yourself if that person is right for you

Almost everyone has dated someone and then asked if they should stay in the relationship. There are always pros and cons to almost everyone and every relationship.

And we have just come to expect that. [Read: 20 Very real soulmate signs you’ve met the one destined for you]

But when you are with the right person that you have manifested by using the Law of Attraction, then you will never have to wonder if the person is right for you.

You just know that they are. Your intuition, heart, and soul are telling you that you are with your perfect match.

The downsides to the Law of Attraction

Just like with anything in life, the Law of Attraction has some downsides if you don’t use it properly and to your advantage. But the good news is that you are in control of it all.

But that’s also the bad news – you are in control of it all. Whatever you manifest into your life is a direct result of what kind of thoughts, emotions, and vibrational energy you are putting out to the Universe. [Read: How to control your emotions and become the pinnacle of restraint]

For example, if you say you want to get married, but you really enjoy your alone time and having your bed all to yourself, you might be accidentally and subconsciously sabotaging yourself. Sure, you want to be married. But at what cost? 

You see, you think you have positive thinking and emotions surrounding marriage. But maybe you don’t. Maybe your parents weren’t happily married and so you don’t want to repeat their marriage. That can bring your energy and vibration down.

That’s why it’s so important to dig deep and be completely, 100% honest with yourself. Don’t lie to yourself. Think about what you feel about everything – both for and against your desire. [Read: Overcoming self-doubt – 26 signs and best ways to stop doubting yourself]

The bottom line is that you will manifest someone in your life. However, you will only attract your exact vibrational match. So, if you’re depressed and negative, then you will attract only depressed and negative people.

So, be careful. Tread carefully through the journey with the Law of Attraction. It can be your best friend, or it can work against you if you aren’t completely mindful of how you are using it.

The last and most important step

After all is said and done, you have to note the most critical step when practicing the Law of Attraction: live your life. [Read: Emotional wellness – the road map to live your life with intention]

If anything, this is the step most people get wrong when manifesting love and relationships into their life. The more you obsess if the Law of Attraction is working and when it will occur, the more likely it won’t happen.

This is because when you obsess, you’re also incorporating a lot of negative energy into your life, such as doubt and fear. There’s no point in focusing all your energy on thinking about something when you fail to catch the opportunities that would have led you to your desire.

The Law of Attraction is designed to give you what you want, but it’s up to you to take it. Don’t just sit there and imagine having good things or having the perfect partner. Continue to live your life and wait for your destiny to arrive. [Read: The true meaning of YOLO – 15 secrets to live your life to the fullest]

The Law of Attraction is working to make that happen, so your only job is to live day to day, knowing that good things are coming your way. 

It’s easier said than done but after doing all the things above, just let it go and have faith that the Universe is eventually giving you what you want. Just continue living your life and don’t obsess, even if it’s easy to do so.

Final thoughts

As you get acquainted with using the Law of Attraction, you will also need to revisit your manifestations to make sure they are right for you.

You might have thought they were, but maybe when you get them, you find out that you were wrong. [Read: Relationship rules – 30 must-know tips to live your best love life]

That’s why you need to be careful using the Law of Attraction when attracting people into your life. You don’t want to accidentally draw toxic people to you. That would definitely be something that would not make your life better.

The Law of Attraction isn’t magic and even if you do everything right, it’s possible you won’t manifest love. However, you can try by simply maintaining positive energy and mindset in your life. Like attracts like, so there’s no room for any negative energy if you want to live the life you really want.

Once you understand the real way in which the Law of Attraction in your life and love works, you won’t have to wonder about how to find love. The ball will roll, and before you know it, you’ll find yourself in situations where the odds of love will be high, and you’ll be bumping into perfect partners all the time. 

But you need to keep your eyes open too, and look out for opportunities when you’re out with friends, or at your workplace.

[Read: How to get a guy to like you]

If you think the Law of Attraction can work in your favor, try these tips and see if you can attract the person of your dreams and the life that you’ve always wished for. You never know, this could work in your favor! 

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Tactics Tuesdays: The "Prove It" Frame Buster

TEXTYou’re talking to a girl and she says “I’m boring” or “I don’t date.” That’s the kiss of death, right? Well, not so long as you can get her to PROVE IT!

When you talk to a girl and she starts throwing out claims about herself, these can seem like real obstacles if they don’t cooperate with the overall seduction.

Anti-seductive claims include women saying things like:

  • “I’m boring”
  • “I’m not adventurous”
  • “I’m not spontaneous”
  • “I don’t like excitement”
  • “I don’t think about sex”
  • “I don’t really date”

… and so on. Running into these can feel like a conversation death sentence if you don’t have a good response to reframe with.

After all, what hope is there really for a boring girl… a girl who doesn’t like excitement… a girl who doesn’t think about sex or go out on dates? None, right?

Au contraire, for in this article I’ll give you a simple little tactic you can use to turn these claims women make right on their head.

With this in-hand, instead of looking at women’s anti-seductive claims as if they are agile seduction killers, you will start to view women’s claims as clumsy fumbles that have led them right into your web.



What Is Lust? 25 Typical Signs to Look For & Ways to Turn It into Love

What is lust? Is it sexual desire, or something deeper? Here’s the real definition of lust, and how it relates to love.

what is lust

Lust is an important element in any romantic relationship. This strong sexual desire may sometimes fool us into believing it can be something more. But when the flame is finally put out, we’re left to face the cold truth that things are not as magical as they seemed.

Let’s take a moment to look back at some of your past relationships. Can you tell which ones were true love and which ones just gave great orgasms?

[Read: Are you in love? The clear signs you’re past lust & really in love]

People make lists comparing love and lust and tell you how to distinguish what kind of relationship you’re in. What they don’t tell you is whether you can turn a lusty tryst into a meaningful relationship. So let’s delve into the truth, define what lust is, and find out if it’s even possible to turn your FWB situation into a relationship.

What is the meaning of lust?

Lust, as defined in the dictionary, is an intense or unrestrained sexual craving. It is a feeling of strong sexual desire for another person, which acts as the initial driving force that attracts us to a potential partner. In theory, it’s so easy to tell the difference – but not in real life, love can feel pretty similar.

Love is a state of strong desire to be with another person, which often leads to emotional arousal and sexual passion. When a person feels love towards another person, the brain produces chemicals like dopamine that affect the person in the same way as addictive behavior. This phenomenon is usually seen in the early stages of romantic relationships.

[Read: Am I in love? 30 signs to read the fuzzy flutters after infatuation]

How is lust different from love?

So now that you know the definitions of lust and love, what are the differences?

Well, the main difference between love and lust is that lust is nothing more than a physical action that comes from sexual attraction. It includes spending most of your time being physically intimate with a partner and having little interest in their life outside the bedroom.

When you’re in love, however, you share the same values, you want to be emotionally vulnerable and have shared interests and expectations for the future.

[Read: Love sucks! 36 reasons why we hate it and yet crave for it]

The clear signs you’re in lust, not in love

When you’re in the moment, it can be hard to see past her long blonde hair, his 6-pack, or how horny you are— But the truth is, there are some obvious telltale signs of lust. Take off the rose-tinted glasses and take a look at these 11 signs you’re in lust and not love.

[Read: 13 signs to help you recognize true love when it comes into your life]

1. You overlook bad personality traits

She is dating other people, and you’re okay with that. He makes dumb comments about your weight or your attitude. She’s an absolute liar. He openly hates your friends.

All of these are completely unacceptable personality traits for boyfriend/girlfriend material – yet you overlook it all just for another chance to see them naked. Oops, you’re in lust. [Read: What are you feeling? Is it love or lust?]

2. Their quirks turn you off

In an episode of ‘How I Met Your Mother’, there’s a famous quote: “Shouldn’t we hold out for the person who doesn’t just tolerate our little quirks but actually loves them?”

And this is completely true when it comes to love. If you’re really in love with a person, you’ll fall in love with their quirks, too.

So take a moment to think about your partner. Is there something that you view as a ‘turn off’? If the answer is yes, you’re probably just lusting for that person.

[Read: 15 creepy people types you’ll come across & how to recognize them]

3. You’re all fire and no faith

One of the biggest draws of lust is the passion involved. When you lust after someone there is a fire – an obsession – that can be very addictive.

If your ‘relationship’ feels full of fire, chaos, and gut-wrenching butterflies but lacks any form of stability, consider yourself lustful.

[Read: No strings attached relationships: how to have them, end them & 35 NSA rules]

4. You know nothing substantial about your date and vice-versa

If you’re not comfortable enough to share your life with your partner, that’s a red flag. Furthermore, if you never bother asking your lover about their life, job, or family, then you most certainly are in Lust-Ville.

[Read: How to know if you love someone – Early signs of a new romance]

5. You can’t talk to them

Not small talk, but actual meaningful conversations. Are they one of the first people you run to when everything goes wrong? Can you tell them a secret and trust them with it?

If your answer is no, what are you even doing?

[Read: 50 warm, feel-good questions to ask a girl to get to know her better]

6. You don’t go on dates

Unfortunately, Netflix and chill isn’t considered a real date.

Have you and the person you’re with ever spent time together outside of a sexual context? For example, having a walk in the park, going out for a fancy dinner, going to the museum, or visiting an amusement park?

When you’re in a serious relationship, you should be able to do non-sexual things with each other and enjoy each other’s company.

[Read: Romantic dinner date ideas: 17 fun dates you both will never forget]

7. You don’t see a future together

You don’t have to know if you’re going to marry someone after two months, but you should definitely have a feel for whether you could be in a long-term situation with your current partner. If you don’t see a future with them, then you are definitely in lust. No more wondering what lust is!

[Read: 17 sordid signs you’re just a hook-up and nothing more]

8. You love people seeing you with someone so hot

Showing off your partner is either a great way to show them that you care… or that you’re completely shallow. It’s a slippery slope, isn’t it?

The truth is that those in lusty relationships are extremely keen on showing off how hot their lover is, and they love being seen in public with someone so attractive. This is great for relationships, too, but it turns into a lust-induced problem when *all* you want is to admire their physical appearance instead of getting to know them.

[Read: Healthy relationship: 27 signs, qualities & what it looks like in real life]

9. Silence is the Devil

If a sudden silence sparks terrifying panic, then odds are you are either at the awkward beginning stages of dating, or you’re in lust. When you like someone, you want to get to know them and use quiet opportunities to snuggle or to make conversation.

If being silent in the same room only makes you wonder why you aren’t getting naked right now, then your relationship probably exists purely on a surface level. [Read: 10 booty call moves that may look like true love]

10. You don’t feel the butterflies after sex

Ever feel less attracted to a person after an orgasm? That’s post-nut clarity, defined by Urban Dictionary as “the immediate clear-mindedness or soberness an individual gains after orgasming.” This can happen in both men and women but is more common in men.

So if the passion wears off with the horniness, it’s obvious that you’re not in love with them.

[Read: 30 weird facts about guys, their deviant minds, crushes & love life]

11. Your attraction to the other person is only on a physical level

When someone asks you what you love most about your partner, is the first thing to come up in your mind a physical trait? This may be proof that you’re only attracted to them on a physical level, and it probably won’t last. Remember, sexual lust results in physical actions to fulfill one’s desires, and nothing more than that.

[Read: 13 signs to help you recognize true love when it comes into your life]

Questions to ask yourself if it’s lust

So you’ve noticed the signs, but you’re still not sure. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to be more certain before it gets more serious.

[Read: 20 signs you’re not attracted to your partner & how to spark it up again]

1. What are your intentions toward this relationship?

It’s always a bad idea to jump head-first into a relationship simply because you want someone. Remember that a relationship isn’t just two people having sex all day every day. It’s also about understanding, communication, patience, and respect.

2. Are you willing to endure the hard work?

As mentioned above, a relationship requires more effort than you may think. If you only want your partner when they’re in a good mood and cannot handle their drama, you two shouldn’t be together romantically.

3. What are your feelings toward the person’s imperfections?

Until you accept a person’s flaws and stop seeing them as flaws, it’s only lust.

4. Does the relationship improve as time passes?

So you’ve figured out where you both went wrong and tried to fix it, but it gradually becomes forced or only gets worse. That’s when you know it’s best to go separate ways.

Is it normal to feel lust?

In the bible, lust is defined as sexual immorality, and everyone who acts upon it is sinful.

In reality, as long as you can acknowledge that you are in a lusty dating situation, it may not actually be that bad for you. Just as long as your ‘relationship’ is not harming you or the other person physically or psychologically, we say there are actually some upsides to being in lust.

1. It’s the perfect rebound

Rebounds usually crop up around after a serious, long-term relationship has just ended. This is your way of reminding yourself that someone else is out there and that you’re still able to care about someone else.

A rebound is usually defined as “bouncing back” from a broken relationship and it helps you move on. So why not do it with someone absolutely gorgeous? Just make sure that the person you’re having sexual intercourse with isn’t expecting more from you, so you both can enjoy the experience. [Read: 13 rebound sex questions to know if you’re ready for it]

2. You’ve never looked better

When you’re in lust, you want to look and feel your best so that your partner will be equally as attracted to you as you are to them. You’re plucked, waxed, curled, and always look like a walking temptation.

This usually results in you working out and eating better. Both of these habits can boost your confidence and make you feel like a sexy beast. What’s so bad about that?

[Read: How to dress sexy: 29 subtle & classy ways to make them lust for you]

3. You don’t have to worry about someone else’s drama

Why not admit that you’re in lust and embrace a surface-level relationship for a while? This means you rarely have to deal with someone else’s drama because the truth is… you probably don’t know enough about them to be involved in their problems!

4. It helps you figure out what you want out of a relationship

Being in a bad relationship sucks, but it can help you figure out what you want from a real partner down the road. Take some cues from the lusty relationship you’re in, and put your foot down about what you will and will not accept from a future partner. [Read: Are you sure about what you’re looking for in a relationship?]

Wrong ways of expressing lust

Even though lust is a common thing and is very normal, it’s not always okay to act on it.

1. Showing it non-consensually

When you’re lusting for someone, if the feelings aren’t reciprocated, you must respect the person’s wish to be left alone. It’s unattractive and/or annoying to keep pursuing someone who’s rejected you.

In no circumstance is it okay to be sexual with a person without their consent. No means no.

2. Not respecting their boundaries

Whether you’re in a friends-with-benefits relationship or a committed relationship, boundaries are still important. You need to respect each other’s boundaries and communicate clearly before making your moves.

Can you turn lust into something more?

Lust is a tricky mistress. You may be wondering if you can turn lust into a meaningful relationship, and unfortunately, the answer is usually not. When you are in lust, your brain usually puts your lusty lover in a figurative box somewhere in between friends-with-benefits, boyfriend-material, and friend-zoned.

These three things work together to create a partner you can’t wait to get naked with, but don’t see a future with, nor do you desire to get to know them.

If you’re really set on turning lust into love, here are some tips:

[Read: 47 sweet signs you’re falling in love & slowly moving past the like stage]

1. Create a friendship

Start opening up to your lover and making a diligent effort to share your life with this person.

This means telling them about your life growing up, your dream job, your aspirations, your values, and anything else you would tell your BFF about. The best way to turn lust into love is by creating a friendship with that person. [Read: Love is in the air! 13 signs you’re starting to fall in love]

2. Do things together

If you want to turn your lust into love, try doing things other than having sex. Go out and bond over common interests. Invite your friends over for a mutual hang out, play sports, play video games, or meet each other’s families. Ask get-to-know-you questions and try to care about what the answer is.

3. Take it slowly

If you’re all about the animal magnetism you feel together, try taking a step back. If you’re pounding away like jack-rabbits 24/7, that means you’ve skipped some pretty important ‘relationship’ steps like, you know, dating. [Read: How to fall in love slowly like you’re in a fairy tale]

Slow it down and try to re-establish a traditional approach to relationships. Go out on dates, text each other daily, and take time to make out without it leading to sex so you can build up sexual tension. Building a bond is important for creating a real relationship.

4. Understand it may not happen

Don’t be disappointed if it still doesn’t work out. Odds are, if you’re in lust, so is your partner. When you start opening the ‘relationship’ door, your partner may not be receptive. And no matter how much you try to build an emotional connection, you may end up with a dud.

[Read: The real signs of true love in a relationship]

We can all agree that lust is quite a mess, especially if you’re trying to turn a lusty relationship into a meaningful one. Nevertheless, it can still be done with a lot of determination and effort from both parties. 

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41 Signs She Wants You to Chase Her & Must-Knows to Pursue a Woman

You really like her, but you need to know how to pursue a woman and do it right. If you don’t know how to make the next move, here’s what you need to know.

how to pursue a woman and chase her

Most women are familiar with men pursuing them. Whether at a coffee shop, bar, or dog park, if a man is interested in someone, he needs to know how to pursue a woman.

It takes a lot of courage to go up to someone you don’t know and start a conversation. It’s not an easy move to make. But just because you approach a woman you’re interested in doesn’t mean you’ll get the answer you’re looking for. You have to know how to pursue a woman the right way.

There’s an old joke that rocket science is way easier than trying to figure out what goes on inside a woman’s head. And if you have any experience in dating, chances are that you will definitely agree. Especially when it comes to the signs she wants you to chase her.

In the dating game, men have to make the first move. And if you do, you are faced with two outcomes: come on too strong and she’ll think you’re a creep and run for the hills, come on too gently and she’ll say you lacked effort.

To this, menfolk say, “Make up your mind, ladies!” [Read: Does she like me? 32 subtle signs she sees you as more than a friend]

Do women really want to be chased? 

The easy answer is yes. But to be specific, women want to be chased by a guy that catches their interest.

Women are more likely to get lovers chasing after them than men. As a result, they can afford to wait until they find the right one. Making a guy wait can be a way for them to test his commitment. In short, a woman wants you to chase her, to get to know if you’re a keeper. 

She will test you to see if you’re worth dating in the end. Women won’t directly tell you that they like you, but they will put out subtle cues to keep you hooked on them. [Read: Should you ask her out? 47 subtle clues a girl gives away if she wants you to make a move]

Why pursuing a woman is critical

Sure, it’s easier to just sit back and let the women come to you. At least you wouldn’t have to put in any effort, right? But that doesn’t always happen. Nor should it.

Not to sound old-fashioned, but most women do still want a man to pursue them instead of the other way around. This is for a variety of reasons. 

1. It is the way nature intended it be

Not to sound archaic, but human beings’ brains aren’t really that different than they were in the caveman days. The males pursued the females because they wanted to beat out other males.

You still see this in the animal kingdom too. And humans are animals, so you get the drift. [Read: How to be dominant – 20 calm and firm ways to be the real alpha]

2. It makes her feel special

Who doesn’t want to feel special? Most people do, but especially women! They want to feel attractive and wanted. If given their way, they want you to treat them like a princess. So, when you pursue her, it makes her think that you think she is unique and worthy.

3. It makes you look confident

If you don’t pursue a woman and instead wait until she comes to you, then that makes you look like you have low self-esteem.

It makes you look like you don’t think very much of yourself if you are too shy to put yourself out there. That is not a very attractive quality in a man.

4. She wants a real man

Traditional men are the dominant ones in society and in a relationship. She doesn’t really want to take the dominant role – that’s not to say that she wants to be submissive either. [Read: What is masculinity? 19 really manly traits women hope to see in you]

But she just wants a real man to take the lead. Most women are independent these days, so it’s nice when she doesn’t have to take control of everything.

When to pursue or chase a girl

You might be wondering when you should pursue a girl. Are there any signs? Yes, there can be. But the most important thing to remember is that you should only pursue her if you like her. 

This might sound obvious, but there are a lot of guys who pursue a girl just for the fun of it with no intention of following through once they “catch” her. [Read: What makes someone a player? The 21 sly signs of a player’s mind]

That’s not fair to a woman. Only pursue her if you want to date her and see if there is potential for a relationship. If that is not your intention, at least let her know that it’s not. In other words, just be honest when you pursue a girl.

The biggest signs she wants you to chase her 

For this reason, it is crucial men pay attention to the subtle cues women give that tell you when to stop chasing them, or when to go forth and continue to shower them with affection.

1. She’s hot and cold at the same time

Most guys will be familiar with when a girl blows hot and cold at the same time. It is that semi-annoying thing they do where they act all friendly and flirty at one time of the day. Then when you reciprocate the same affection, they suddenly act cold and avoid you.

When this happens, just go for it. She means no harm, and she merely wants you to chase after her. [Read: What you need to do when a girl plays hard to get]

2. She replies quickly to your messages

When a girl replies quickly to your messages at any point of the day, it is an obvious sign that she’s looking forward to hearing from you. It means she likes you and wants you to keep reaching out to her.

3. She readily says yes to invitations

When a girl wants you to get off her back, she quickly dismisses any coffee or dinner invitations. She’ll probably say her schedule is full. However, if a girl likes you and she wants you to keep pursuing her, she’ll find a way to accept your invitation even if it means canceling previous plans.

4. She pays careful attention to how she looks when you’re together

You’ll notice this if she dresses more plainly when she’s alone, compared to days when she’s expecting to meet you. [Read: How to ask a girl if she likes you *without really asking*]

This doesn’t mean that she’ll dress to the nines on a date, but the difference is noticeable. Obviously, she dresses up because she wants your attention.

5. She makes meaningful conversation when you are alone

Girls who want to be pursued give you a little peek into their personal life through meaningful conversations – not just about superficial things like what’s new on Netflix or random work gossip.

She wants to pique your curiosity by showing you a little of the behind-the-scenes side of her. This is a big sign that a woman puts out if she wants you to pursue her. [Read: How to talk to a girl – 20 secrets that will make you irresistible to women]

6. She teases you

Teasing means a lot of things and is interpreted in a lot of ways. But if you find her teasing you a little bit, it means she’s comfortable around you and has warmed up to your company past the stiff “formal” introduction stage. 

This is considered the next step and is a cue for you to keep moving forward. [Read: How to tease a girl over text and get her to flirt back with you]

7. She reaches out to you incessantly if you stop communicating with her

There are times that the chase gets a bit too tiring and you decide to stop for a while. Lo and behold, a role reversal happens, and she starts initiating communication with you.

What is this sorcery? Well, it’s an obvious sign she’s worried you’ve given up. A subtle hint that she wants you to keep up with the chase.

8. She acts mysterious sometimes

Either by giving you vague responses when confronting her about the possibility of dating, or acting more closed when you find yourself alone with her. [Read: 34 subtle ways to get out of the friend zone and make yourself VERY desirable]

Acting mysterious is a tactic girls use to see if you are persistent enough to dig deeper into their lives. Also, it adds romance to the whole courting affair.

9. She avoids the big question

At some point, you will arrive at a situation where you want to ask her whether you’re ready to be an item after your courtship.

When you do, she tries to avoid the topic or veers off in another direction. It’s not that she doesn’t want to – and eventually, she may say yes – but girls really love to take more time and dangle the carrot a little bit longer. So, have patience. [Read: The clear signs you should back off when pursuing a girl]

10. She doesn’t interact with you much, but she says that she misses you

This is quite mind-boggling. You notice this when she turns down invites, but then she tells you that she misses you. 

If she truly misses you she’ll hang out with you more often. This obvious sign shows that she wants you to keep pursuing her.

11. She asks you if you missed her

She asks this teasingly most of the time. The best way to respond is to say yes and invite her out for a date. That leaves her cornered with little choice but to say yes. [Read: How to know if a girl likes you: 12 signs that won’t let you down]

12. She plays hard to get

Men have a love-hate relationship with girls playing hard to get. It can be confounding as what she says doesn’t correlate to what she does. 

She might say that she’s not interested, but her flirting and touchiness says otherwise. When a girl plays hard to get, it obviously means she wants you to chase her.

13. She tells her friends about you

Women tell their friends everything – the good, the bad, and the ugly. So, if she’s talking about you to her friends and you know it, then that’s a good sign.

She likes you, or else she wouldn’t be talking about you. She’d be talking about someone else. [Read: What girls find attractive – 49 traits that make a guy irresistible to women]

14. She finds a way to be close by

If every time you look up, there she is, then she’s doing that on purpose. She wants to be around you as much as she can and make herself available to you. So, she might even make up excuses to see you and have chances to talk to you. 

15. She isn’t comfortable with you being too close to other women

If you work with her or go to school together, watch how she responds when you talk to other women. Does she become more silent and distant? Or maybe she acts jealous and annoyed? If she does any of these, then she doesn’t like the fact that you aren’t only paying attention to her.

16. She makes you aware of her plans

If the weekend is coming up and she casually asks you what your plans are, then she is hinting around.

Better yet, if she tells you her plans – or that she doesn’t have any – that’s her indirect way of telling you she’s free to go out on a date. All you have to do is step up your game and ask her out. [Read: How to read a girl and recognize the subtle hints she might be dropping your way]

How to pursue a woman in a way that works

In this article, you’ll learn how to pursue a woman. But remember that all women are different, and just because you follow these steps, it may not work. And to be honest, it may take more time than you initially expected.

Every woman is different, and attraction doesn’t necessarily happen right away. Then again, it may not happen at all. But women aren’t always as complicated as you think! So, what are the tips for how to pursue a woman you’re attracted to?

1. What do you want? 

Here’s the thing, think about what you’re looking for. Of course, that can always change. For example, you may be really into a girl, but then you realize you don’t want anything serious with her. [Read: Casual dating vs serious dating – What’s your dating speed for now?]

It happens. But for yourself, it’s important to think about what you want out of your life and the type of person you’d like as a partner.

2. It starts with you

The men that women tend to be attracted to are the ones who don’t look like they’re needing to be with a woman. Why? Because their happiness isn’t defined by a relationship. 

A man who is secure in himself is one who understands that his happiness comes from within. And those men are the sexiest ones. [Read: 18 qualities of a good man that make him better than lesser men]

3. Pursue her to enhance your life, not to give you a life

Many people – men and women – will search for a partner to complete their lives. This is just wrong. You shouldn’t pursue a woman because you think she’s going to give you a better life. You should pursue her because you feel she can enhance your happiness.

4. Be genuine

Women can tell when a man is genuine or not. Trying to impress her by name-dropping isn’t going to work, at least not in the long run. Don’t pretend to be mysterious or play games. 

Playing games can work in the beginning, but then it gets boring. Whatever it is that you’re looking for, be yourself. [Read: How to approach a girl you don’t know and impress her]

5. Be respectful

Listen, the woman you’re pursuing is not an object. She is a person, and she deserves respect. Don’t touch her without permission or push anything on her. 

Let’s say she was rude to you when you approached her. You could act mean out of anger, but it’s not going to get you anywhere. Be respectful and walk away.

6. Be a man

We don’t mean this in the “work out and get a six-pack” sense. What we mean is be real with her. If you’re looking for casual sex, let her know. 

She deserves to know what she’s getting involved in by dating you. As we said, a woman isn’t an object, and she has the right to decide what she wants. [Read: What does it mean to be a man? A definition of true masculinity]

7. Talk to her

But really talk. Some men look like they’ve memorized a script, and honestly, that kind of conversation doesn’t last long.

If you want to gain her interest, start a conversation with her, and not necessarily one that’s sexual. You don’t need to attract a woman by starting off with a sexual topic.

8. Engage in eye contact

If you pursue a woman, you won’t get far if you’re constantly looking at your phone. Put down your phone and look her in the eye. 

Eye contact is something we often overlook, yet it’s an extremely important part of non-verbal communication. [Read: 21 atypical secrets you need to know if you want to impress a girl]

9. Give a genuine compliment

Now, you don’t need to vomit compliments at her. But if there’s something you genuinely want to compliment her on, then do it. 

The worst thing you can do is make something up. We’re women; we can smell a fake compliment from a mile away.

10. Make your intentions clear

If you want her to know you’re interested in her, make it clear. Ask her for her number so you can take her out on a date, or tell her you like her. [Read: How to talk to a girl and impress her in the very first conversation]

She should see that you’re interested in more than a friendship. Once you do that, she’ll decide if it’s right for her or not.

11. Know when to stop

If you’re texting her on Whatsapp or sending her Facebook messages and she’s not replying, take it as a hint. If she often cancels your date, take that as a hint too. 

Know when to stop pursuing a woman who isn’t interested in you. You cannot make someone attracted to you, no matter how hard you try. [Read: How to get over a girl who doesn’t like you back]

12. Don’t forget about yourself

Sometimes guys get a little carried away and jump through hoops to gain the attention of a certain woman. At some point, set boundaries for yourself and decide when enough is enough. Never forget about yourself while pursuing a woman.

13. Learn when to take “no” for an answer

Women don’t like hurting people’s feelings. So, she might be hinting around that she’s not interested in you. Sure, you don’t want to believe it, so you might keep pursuing her just in case she changes her mind. But after a while, you just need to learn to take no for an answer. 

When to stop pursuing a woman

You might be competitive, or kind of man who doesn’t give up easily. Well, in life, that’s a good quality. But in love, maybe it can get you into trouble. [Read: Should I give up on her or keep trying? 20 signs to stop chasing her]

There are times when you should stop pursuing a woman, so let’s take a look at some of them.

1. She doesn’t reply to your texts or calls promptly

Any girl who is interested in a guy can’t wait to hear from him. So, if she’s not replying to your texts in a timely manner or returning your calls, then she isn’t interested. She’s probably too nice to tell you that, so she’s trying to send you a message this way.

2. She doesn’t reply to you at all

This is even worse than taking a long time to reply to you when you contact her. If she just doesn’t reply at all, she’s definitely telling you indirectly that she doesn’t want to talk to you anymore.

So, why would you want to talk to her? This is the biggest sign that you should stop pursuing this woman. [Read: 26 Ways to text a girl who stopped responding and win her interest]

3. She never initiates contact

Sure, this might be part of the playing hard-to-get strategy, but it can only go on for so long.

If you are the only one who initiates talking, then that means you are not on her mind. She has other people who she is talking to and who are a higher priority than you.

4. Her replies are short

Even if she replies in a timely manner, if her replies are dry, short and uninteresting, it’s because she’s not interested.

If all you get is “okay” or “cool” or other short messages, that is very low interest. If she really liked you, she would put in a lot more effort into creating meaningful texts to keep you engaged.

5. Her body language is uninterested

Research shows that 80-90% of human communication is in someone’s body language. That’s why we have the saying, “actions speak louder than words.” [Read: Body language of a girl – 37 signs to instantly tell if she likes you]

So, if her words are telling you that she is interested in you, but she leans back and avoids any physical touch, then she isn’t interested – and you should stop pursuing her.

6. She calls you a “friend”

You probably already know that being called a “friend” by a woman is a bad sign. Whether she says it unconsciously or on purpose, either way, it’s bad. If she does it without thinking, then she only sees you as a friend. If she does it purposely, then she wants to send you a message that you are being friend-zoned.

7. She talks about her ex a lot

Whether she broke up with her ex recently or it was years ago, the fact that she talks about him means she could still be hung up on him. Even if she’s not, she’s probably comparing you to him… perhaps not in a good way.

So, if she can’t stop talking about her ex, it’s time to move on. [Read: Is a girl playing mind games? 20 signs she is and ways to deal with it]

8. She tells you she’s not ready for a relationship

Okay, maybe she really isn’t ready for a relationship. Perhaps she just got divorced or left a serious relationship. But sometimes women use this as a line to let you down easily and not hurt your ego. Instead of telling a man that she doesn’t like him, she tells this little white lie.

How long should a man pursue a woman? 

There is no clear-cut time to stop pursuing a woman. On one hand, if you get her and you both want to start dating, then your pursuit can slow down, but not stop. You might think it can stop there, but women need to have a man continually show them that he thinks she’s special. [Read: Do you lose yourself to impress them when you like someone?]

So, in a sense, you should never really stop pursuing her even if you’ve been married for 50 years. This is what keeps a relationship or a marriage special.

On the other hand, if you have been pursuing a woman for weeks, months, or even years and haven’t gotten anywhere with her, then it’s definitely time to stop. She might just like the attention from you and has no real interest. 

You need to read the signs of when she’s not interested. Once you see enough of them, then it’s time to cut your losses and just move on to someone else who is really interested in dating you.

[Read: How to play hard to get with a girl – and do it just right]

Learning how to pursue a woman takes time and plenty of practice. However, once you become more comfortable and confident within yourself, pursuing a woman will come with much more ease.

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