Is Marriage Worth Doing Anymore If You're a Man?

Modern marriage seems to offer many pitfalls for men. Yet many men still marry anyway. So is marriage worth doing for men today – or not?

Contents

1. My Position

2. Marriage’s Shifting States

1. Original Marriage
2. Marriage: Qui Bono?
3. Shifting Sands
4. Why This Way?

3. Is Marriage Worth It?

1. Who Is It For?
2. 2 Useful Purposes
3. Stability/Legitimacy
4. State Involvement
5. Love Marriages

4. Marriage Hacking

5. Who Should Marry?

6. Unconscious Marriage

7. Conclusion

There’s an ongoing debate on our forum about whether marriage is worth it if you’re a man.

Marriage as an institution has undergone some extremely significant changes in the Western world over the past century. Indeed, it’s been changing for the past three centuries, but in particular over the past 70 years – since the first no-fault divorce law passed in Oklahoma in 1953 – there’s been a complete transformation in what marriage is, what it stands for – and even who marries and why.

In fact, marriage ALWAYS changes… and most of the ‘new’ changes to marriages have happened many times in history before – if not in recent history.

The changes marriage has undergone are argued to have improved it for many parties.

There’s one party marriage has not improved for, however: heterosexual men.

So, today, we’ll take a close look at what the changes to marriage have meant for men… and whether, as a man, marriage is something worth doing anymore.